Ideas for daughter to get out of london for the summer

Corelli

Hi, my daughter (17) is trying to get out of a rather abusive relationship. She feels she would do well to distance herself this summer and we are looking for ideas.

She is 17 and all the summer jobs that we have found so far ask for candidates to be 18. We cannot afford for her to holiday for long. The only other idea we have had is for her to spend some time with her grandmother but she wouldn't be happy away from other young people for long.

Any ideas anyone?

Thanks.

balletshoes

how long is "the summer". weeks, months?

Could she go visit other relatives away from London for a few days/a week or so at a time? Any close friends who have any plans she could tag along with?

claire16c

you could have a look on the workaway website, she could do that for as long as she wanted in the school hols.

www.workaway.info

Its jobs but instead of being paid money you get food and accomodation in return, its mostly used by young travellers/backpackers. We did it in Oz, but there are jobs in Europe too if she could get a cheap flight to somewhere. I havent looked but I dont think you have to be 18. Im sure lots of people use it for gap years so they wouldnt be much older than her.

Heres an article on the guardian about it

http://www.guardian.co.uk/travel/2009/oct/17/working-holidays-free-worldwide

Corelli

Thanks for responding Balletshoes. Sadly her only real close friend is off to Spain all summer and we are a bit short of relatives. She has just given me a shock in that her course finishes next month which means we lose her Child Benefit and her part of the Family Tax Credit which makes finances even more difficult. Employment is so hard to find and her confidence has taken quite a blow these last few months.

chloo

working as a holiday rep?

fly to a cheap reosrt (malia, tenerife, zante ect ect) and get a bar job?

apply to work at haven or butlins?

HRV

PGL- kids holidays- i worked there over one summer- was 18 though but might take 17 yr old- poor pay but inc board and lodgings

barbiedoll

Does she really have to go away? What about doing some volunteering over the summer? There must be some charities in your area who will be happy to have some help, even if it is unpaid at least it won't cost anything. And it will get her out of the house and away from her partner (?)

Does she live with you? Why does she have to go away, are you unable to protect her or is she unwilling to let you? Even if she goes away, the problem may still be there when she gets back. I don't suppose you want to discuss the nature of the problem on here but there is lots of help out there for those in abusive relationships, young people included.


Here may be a good place to start.....

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/YoungPeople/HealthAndRelationships/FamilyAndRelationships/DG_10032439

A_Phoenix_of_Tangerine

Have a look here and see if she fancies joining up as a conservation volunteer with the BTCV. They even offer organised holidays, where you get to spend lots of time working in and exploring the great outdoors with other enthusiastic young people. Safe, fun, and educational! Recommended!

http://www2.btcv.org.uk/display/volunteer

Corelli

barbiedoll wrote: »

Does she really have to go away? What about doing some volunteering over the summer? There must be some charities in your area who will be happy to have some help, even if it is unpaid at least it won't cost anything. And it will get her out of the house and away from her partner (?)

Does she live with you? Why does she have to go away, are you unable to protect her or is she unwilling to let you? Even if she goes away, the problem may still be there when she gets back. I don't suppose you want to discuss the nature of the problem on here but there is lots of help out there for those in abusive relationships, young people included.


Here may be a good place to start.....

Gosh thanks. Its more a matter that she feels so deeply involved, and responsible for this young man (he has a lot of problems and they have a long history) that she feels it hard to end the relationship. A bit of physical space and new interests feels a good option. Thanks for that link.

Corelli

Thanks everyone, I won't be answering any more tonight, just looking at links then off to bed. Good night all.

There_Goes_Trouble

When is she 18? There's Camp America, but she's have to be 18 by June 1st to apply.