The tips for long lasting relationships

Mrs_Pepperpot_2

We go for a walk every day that we can.
It's amazing the things that you talk about along the way!

sarymclary

Realise that as individuals sometimes you'll both have to 'agree to disagree'. It doesn't mean you don't value each other's opinions, but it does mean you value each other enough to respect that you shouldn't expect to change their opinions to suit your own.

Remember the reasons why you fell in love with each other, remember that you love them even more now than then, remember to be grateful for that love, and to tell them whenever you feel it.

Remember those 'Love is...' cartoons? There was always one for everyone, like: 'Love is warming your lover's side of the bed', which is what my lovely man does for me. He also buys me Walnut Whips, Hong Kong Phooey DVD's, and fetches the coal in when it's raining. It doesn't take expensive gifts and gestures to show your love.:smileyhea

shirlgirl2004

I thought I'd look for inspiration but it hasn't worked I still want to kill him:eek:

clipboard2

I'm a freebird - deffo didn't want marriage or LTR, rejected all proposals...so how come I'm happily married soon to be 30 years (no kids - hurrah!) and it just gets better all the time...? Errr dunno...

Ok... separate finances..and we don't keep account of what's a "fair share" of paying bills.. who pays what is just kind of random..

Next...separate bedrooms...ooooh...like the royal family ..( with restricted visiting hours...heh heh heh!)

And last but not least emotional independence....we have never "needed" each other and certainly don't miss each other when we're apart. The happiness my marriage brings is just a luxury, the icing on the cake. So we can both relax and just enjoy life and each other without worrying what might go wrong. We don't keep an emotional scoreboard! This is love...but not as you know it...!!:j

Mics_chick

Thanks Tom Saunders I just knew some man would come up with this one

Also can I assume MonkeySaving is male too as most of them seem to be obsessed with you-know-what...:eek: I don't think I'll ever be able to think the same way about "I can't believe it's not [STRIKE]bottom[/STRIKE] butter" again (Whoops sorry I slipped - no pun intended )

As these fine men have demonstrated :T to be able to have a good laugh with each other is good for any relationship :rotfl:

*Louise*

Mr_Mister wrote:

1 - After a heated argument with the OH, whats the best way to make up?
2 - What little things to do to your OH to make him/her continue to love you?

1 - Don't be too stubborn to apologise if you are in the wrong. Try not to argue about he kids.

2 - Be nice to them, let them know you care. It's the little things that count - a short text during the day, a hug when they get in from work. Saying 'Thank you' and telling them you appreciate them.

Horasio

Empathy for each other if one feels tired or under the weather - unfortunately mine lacks that and starts getting at me for not 'loving him and being rude'

Not taking each others moods to heart - as above

Sharing the good and the bad events - mine is helpful for the bad things that need sorting but goes quiet and withdrawn when I have acheived anything that cheers me up.

Good manners, good table manners and consideration in general - make a person feel valued. Sloppy table manners are repulsive, I don't mean people should be ultra formal but inappropriate noises at the table is a no no.

Men - put the toilet seat down after use, and if you miss the bowl, wipe the wee, else we will pss in your beer.

Spend time together away from the home - home seems to bring up a lot of work which seems to need sorting now and it never gets done. When we go out, it is like dating.

Make sure you lock the doors, check the fridges and freezers are closed properly and shut anything that needs shutting, also check the cooker or oven is off too. My husband used to not properly shut the freezer and we lost our food, we weren't insured either. He used to leave the gas on, on the cooker long after we finished cooking, we were poor and the waste made me so angry. I have to check they are properly closed now and the cooker off, otherwise I can't relax.

If you do argue or say something that accidently upsets the other person, learn from it, so you can avoid it happening again. Marriage is a learning curve, so getting to know each other's limits is vital. It is frustrating when the same issues recur like Groundhog Day.

Having cuddles and not expecting it to lead to sex each time.

Stay faithful. Infidelity rarely strenthens a relationship. You both become two entities in a house living your own lives, you might as well share with nicer people or live alone.

I agree that trust, respect and communication are paramount in any relationship.

Horasio

montycat wrote:

Compliment each other often ,remember to say Thank you .Ask about each others day .
Sometimes just listen when the other is ranting and then offer a huge cuddle .

Don't just buy flowers on HIgh days and holidays -surprise her .

Say I love you -even after a row .

Never give flowers after a row either - it gives bad associations and they get chucked right back at him.

Horasio

newMS wrote:

compromise, seperate finances, seperate houses lol.............. works for me and my significant other and we've been together 6 years

I like the idea of seperate houses - no-one to mess it up and not clean up after - bliss...

Morglin

Best to try and forestall any arguments in the first place.

Shouting and hollaring serves very little purpose and often makes the situation worse.:eek:

We always turn off the TV during dinner and sit at a table to eat - that way we can discuss any problems (without point-scoring), and be aware of any issues the other one may have.

If one of us has a strop on about life, then we let the other one know we just want to be left alone for a few hours, which works better than niggling and !!!!!ing lol;)

And, always end the day with a cuddle in bed, no matter what you're thinking.

Lin