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Son's birthday on 25th December!!!
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My dad could never be bothered with me or my brother at christmas, to cut a long story short he grew old and died a very lonely man.
I think you are using the 'I don't like shopping' as an excuse for being lazy and don't really care for your son. Your son will think you don't care about him and I think he may be right.0 -
our daughter , who is now a grown woman, was born on the 31 st december. to mark her birthday and to make her feel special we have always taken the xmas decorations down by the 30th . we do this so that her birthday cards can have pride of place. when she was younger some relatives would say this present is for xmas and your birthday. we asked people to buy for her birthday and not for xmas, if they could not run to 2 presents. your little boy must be so sad that he does not recieve a birthday card from you. you could make christmas day last till say 2. 30pm when you pick him up, the rest of the day could be his birthday celebrations doing exactly what he wants to do on his special day . your priority first, second and third is your son, he maybe appearing to, not be bothered . Your son knows he is probably going to be dissapointed by not recieving a birthday card so puts on an act to save face, he never asked to be born, never mind on a on a xmas day to a dad who hates shopping:hello:What goes around - comes around
give lots and you will always recieve lots0 -
Thinking about it, 50 quid stuffed into a birthday/xmas card delivered on the 25th - it wouldn't be the hardest thing to do in the world. Let the kid pick his own present if his dad 'doesn't like shopping'0
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when i was pregnant with ds. my partner at the time TREATED me to a supermarket shop to stock up for when baby came. it was the first time he had ever done a shop in a supermarket in his entire life.
if you cant be !!!!!d its always useful to ask a member of your family to purchase things on your behalf. or buy via the net. so easy. no excuse. there's a poster here today that didnt get diddly squat this morning. imagine the poor kids face.I'm not a "SINGLE" mum, I'm a "DOUBLE" mum!:D0 -
Hiya,
Sorry in advance, but I am agreeing with everyone as above.
Imagine how the child must feel, ok we teach them not to be materialistic etc, but i'm not buying the fact that you dont like shopping as an excuse for not buying him a card or little present.
He's 9 for goodness sake, he must have feelings, and probably wonders why you dont get him a card?
You say you like food shopping, all supermarkets sell cards?????????
Is it not a little touch of the *i can,t be !!!!!d* syndrome you have? - Sounds like it to me?0 -
thesaint wrote:Merry christmas all,
Am I a bad dad? It's my son's 9th birthday today, and I have not bought him a thing for it, no presents, cards, nothing.The problem(with me) is that I HATE shopping with a passion. I am due to pick him up at 2.30p.m. to spend the rest of the day with me and my side of the family. He is presently at his mums where he will be spoilt rotten. He won't want for anything, so that doesn't bother me, He won't be bothered himself(If previous years are an indication). It's not that i'm a scrooge, I have no problem spending the money, it's just choosing things that I hate.
I usually take him into town on Boxing day to get some accessories for his birthday haul. Should I be concerned? I just hate it when my Aunts, Uncles, Cousins e.t.c ask me what i've got him.
Is it only me?0 -
The fact that he gets loads of pressies from other relatives doesn't mean he won't appreciate another one from you: it's the thought that counts. No matter how much others spoil him, none of their gifts are from you. As others have said, if you really don't know what to get, a card with some money in it will show that you care, and he'll be able to choose his own gift and probably get better value for money in the sales than if you'd spent the same amount on a gift before his birthday.
Can you bake cakes? I bet a homemade cake would delight him.0 -
Contains_Mild_Peril wrote:Can you bake cakes? I bet a homemade cake would delight him.
What's the betting he hates cooking as well? :rolleyes:0 -
Don't mean to cause offence but it sounds like you haven't bought your son something because of your selfish attitude so yes that is bad. You can't be bothered to make an effort for your son? :eek:
Your son probably hides his disappointment every year very well.
If you were me I'd be very ashamed of myself if I didn't by something for my son for the reasons you have given. Just my opinion though.0 -
Why, if you hate shopping so much, do you take him out shopping on Boxing Day, possibly one of the worst days of the year when you could be spending quality time with your son. You could have bought him something on the internet for his birthday, a voucher even, without even going out of the door, and spent boxing day playing with him. Or dont you like doing that too.?
But a card not being bought for your own son? that bit I truly truly dont understand..thats lazy in my opinion, sorry.
You do actually sound similar to my kids dad, just take note of what I said earlier, when they get wise to it they make their own decisions based on how much they think you care.0
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