Playing xbox and missed shift at work

vastsarah_2

:mad: my son was playing his xbox last night and missed a shift for work at local supermarket.
ive just woke up thinking about it ,cant go to sleep because of worrie about it and his job ,so went and woke him up to let him know!
He is nearly 17
He did say a few swear words when asked ,not about beening woken, but just about missing the shift.
He only been working there for 5 weeks.
What can i do,im fed up with remimding them about things,all 4 sons are dislexic and i dont know if this affects their organization skills or lack of them.
Im going to leave it to him to deal with as im fed right up with it all
OR should i take the xbox away ,tell him to go to work and sort it out
OR let his dad deal with him as he is on a weeks hoilday still!!
Sorry couldnt sleep and rant over till the morning

mrs_mix

HI vats sarah
I would make him face his resposibility(sp) and sort work out but I would also take the x-box away to let him know you mean it even if you only take it away for a short time and when you give it back to him make it on the understanding that he only goes on it at certain times and stick to it
It will be hard but it's the only way that he learns he has responsibilities to take care of
try explaining to him that if he loses his job he won't be able to have any new games for it as he will have no money to get them or anything else as you won't be subsidising him for things like that hth

pam
p.s I'm a bit hard when it comes to people honouring their resposibilities

ailuro2

If it's the first time then let him phone in sick on the agreement he programmes reminders into his mobile for when he has to go to work??

mrcow

vastsarah wrote:

What can i do,im fed up with remimding them about things,all 4 sons are dislexic and i dont know if this affects their organization skills or lack of them.

This isn't an organisational problem. It's an attitude problem.

Hugs to you from another insomniac (I've been awake for hours too).

He needs to go into work this morning and face up to however they are going to deal with it. He won't like it, but it's an important lesson to learn. He may just get away with a warning. They are not going to be happy.

With regards to the Xbox. I don't know. He's seventeen. Isn't he a little old for confiscating stuff (my eldest is only five so I don't know lol ). I think if you do this then you are only going to make him resentful towards you and it's not going to change what's happened.

Does he pay rent? If so, then you can always take the Xbox in lieu of rent if he loses his job? If he doesn't pay rent, then maybe it's time he started. Perhaps he'd value his job a little more then?

Mrs_pbradley936

I have the same problem - mine is 23 and a Mathematics graduate so it is nothing to do with being dyslexic. He has a really good job but can rarely get up on his own, although he is getting better. I think he has a hard time adjusting from life as a student to life as a young professional. In his case he needs a certain amount of sleep or else he just sleeps through the alarm. When he has had enough sleep he can wake up. His social life needs to be curtailed but he is reluctant to do that.

seven-day-weekend

My son is not very good at getting to places on time, partly because he has mild Aspergers Syndrome (lacks organizational skills), but also partly because he's one of these people who never starts getting ready until the last minute (his Dad and I are totally the opposite).

He's 26 and 1500 miles away and I still ring him to remind him of important appointments (although he does use the alarm on his mobile). Because of his AS and disorganisation we always ring him the night before to make sure he has all his clothes ready etc etc. He's unemployed at the moment, but when he was working, ususally managed to get to work on time because he'd set his alarm.

hobo28

ailuro2 wrote:

If it's the first time then let him phone in sick on the agreement he programmes reminders into his mobile for when he has to go to work??

I disagree. That's teaching your son its ok to lie.

Whats needed is to make him responsible. The best way is to let him face the consequences alone. Its HIS job, HE didn't turn up. If he loses HIS job then its no-one's fault but his own. The trick is to make sure you don't start giving him spending money if he loses his job. Otherwise he has no concept of consequences if his parents are there to bail him out each time he messes up.

hjb123

Did your son definately have work last night? He wasnt just on a night off or swapped shifts etc? Is it his only job or is he still at school/in education?

I would tell him that you arent willing to support him if he doesnt starting acting his age and being responsible.

To be honest I dont know whether taking the X BOX away will do any good - it might just inflame the situation and he will probably find it hidden somewhere - unless you find a really good place to put it.

nearlyrich

I think you have to give young adults the space to make their mistakes, if they know you are going to look after all the difficult things in life they won't bother to take responsibilty.

Smashing

Let him sort it out. If he continues, he'll lose his job. No job, no money. Say hello to the real world.

everythingblogcast

vastsarahall wrote:

4 sons are dislexic and i dont know if this affects their organization skills or lack of them.

Dyslexic have a lack of organization skills on paper its just because the way the brain is made up. But they can milk the dyslexic and if they get sacked due to forgetting since they have dyslexia its unfair firing and they can sue. Under the = rights act.