Letting go of a child

chriszzz

ajmoney.

I feel the same way as you do, I just wish for the kids sake they were left alone to develop a natural relationship with their dad.

Were hoping that because he has not done anything wrong it will come good in the end....hopefully!!

Mupette

A friend of mine divorced his wife.

Through her nasty campaign of hate mail, rumours which were all lies, basically ran him out of town, he was distraught as he has 2 lovely daughters and i think they were 8 and 10 at the time, all his friends tried to support him, and i remember telling him that one day the girls will be fed up with the nasty things their mum would continue to say about him and they will find him.

Just before Christmas last year he came down from up north to visit me, and i introduced him to face book, he found both his daughters, i encouraged him to leave them both a little message to say he was on face book and they could speak to him any time.

The relationship they have isn't great, but i did tell him that over time it would get better, they have had 10 years of hearing nothing but bad things about their dad, and it would take time for them to find out the real dad.

The mother isn't happy that they have contact with him, she even changed their surnames without his permission, and still continues a hate campaign against him, but his daughters are young women now, and have a mind of their own, which their mother really hates.

OrP your husband will get his son back, fortunately to as long to wait as my friend but you've told this lad that you are always there for him etc, he will know that if he ever needs you. Good luck

chriszzz

Mupette,

Thank you so much for sharing that with me, it gives us hope that one day this could turn around for both their benefits.

Am so sorry to hear what your friend had to go through and hope for him and his daughters that they can find peace with each other and build a good relationship.