a friend of mine is in a couple but the husband

Deals_2

is depressed. they live off tax credits she is aiming to build a business up . should he sign on? would it be better at least until he can sort himself out again?

neneromanova

Instead of signing on, why doesn't he just go look for a job? He's more than likely depressed as he's bored. Sign on to get JSA or make himself feel a lot better by going out there and not going through the job center.

Lotus-eater

Pretty sure you don't get depressed because you are bored.
Even if you do, there are loads of different reasons to be depressed.

The question isn't even serious, how on earth is anyone supposed to answer that?

Indie_Kid

neneromanova wrote: »

Instead of signing on, why doesn't he just go look for a job? He's more than likely depressed as he's bored. Sign on to get JSA or make himself feel a lot better by going out there and not going through the job center.

But going on to JSA will given the help he needs to get back into work.

Gemsgalore

Lotus-eater wrote: »

The question isn't even serious, how on earth is anyone supposed to answer that?

LOL .....so glad someone said that cos I just read it, tried to reply and then thought ....... ''how should I know"

Savvy_Sue

Lotus-eater wrote: »

The question isn't even serious, how on earth is anyone supposed to answer that?

Sadly I think the question is deadly serious, only not having liked what's been said when she's posted similar questions in her own name, Deals is now saying 'my friend'.

Deals, it's your call. But work on the assumption that he's not going to change. How long have you been unhappy with your situation? How long are you going to sit around feeling sorry for yourself without doing anything about the things you can change? What are YOU going to do about it? Have you been to Relate? - they'll see you on your own if he won't come.

But yes, he should sign on, whether or not he's able to work (and they'll soon assess that). He'll get his NI contributions credited, for one thing, and for another he'll get support.

But I'm guessing he won't. So what will YOU do?

McKneff

There is a million miles of difference between being depressed and being a bit down.

People use the word 'depressed' willy nilly these days when they are just feeling a bit down. Depression is an illness that you just dont come out of overnight if you just happen to get a job next day.

I really wish people wouldnt use the word so lightly, its really not fair on the peope who are really depressed.

Lotus-eater

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Sadly I think the question is deadly serious, only not having liked what's been said when she's posted similar questions in her own name, Deals is now saying 'my friend'.

Ahh OK, well without stalking the OP, what I meant was.....

If I said, I like green, should I have my kitchen floor done in green tiles with a gold rim around the edge, do you think that would go with my house?
That's what I mean by not serious, not only would you have to be brilliant at interior design to answer the question, you'd also have to be clairvoyant.

Savvy_Sue

Sorry if it looks like I'm stalking the OP. I'm not, honest. It's just that sometimes a thread reminds me of another one, or a style of posting is fairly distinctive, and occasionally I do just remember a username posting similar threads. Especially if it's more than one similar thread.

System

First things first, if he hasn't so already get him to see his GP. They can decide if he is actually clinically depressed or "just a bit down". With that knowledge depending on the severity he either needs to apply for JSA (if fit for work) or ESA(if signed off as unfit for work).

Lotus-eater

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Sorry if it looks like I'm stalking the OP. I'm not, honest. It's just that sometimes a thread reminds me of another one, or a style of posting is fairly distinctive, and occasionally I do just remember a username posting similar threads. Especially if it's more than one similar thread.

s'alright you don't have to explain, I've always wanted a stalker

I suppose I'm not interesting enough