advice on maintenence

jockettuk

the obvious solution would be to mention the csa in passing or to tell your mum that your brother will miss out on trips if she doesnt help.. your dad could also go to a solicitor and get a court order for her to pay something each week/ month, im sorry to say that staying on friendly terms isnt allways the best were the childrens needs arnt met. if she isnt willing to participate in her sons upkeep then mabey she needs a swift kick up the backside by involving a third party.. i would suggest your dad gets legal advice, he doenst have to take up the advice but its handy to have the knowledge

hilstep2000

Tell your dad to explain to your mum that if she was looking after your brother, she would expect HIM to contribute, so it works both ways. If she still refuses, he'll have to take advice, the CSA are okay, but they take ages. Your brother could try blackmail! refusing to see his mum unless she helps out, but I don't really recommend it (although that's what my kids threatened to do!)
Hopefully your mum and dad will be able to sort things out between them, you sound a lovely person, I'm sure it'll trun out okay.

macchicken

Unfortunately you are now going to have to take on the role of the adult in the family. Tell your mother that you only have your brothers best interests at heart and you want whats right and fair. Tell her that the csa will sort it out if they cant do it between them.
You have to be firm to be fair.