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Should we arrange a surprise party?

It's my in-laws 40th wedding anniversary this year and we don't know if we should sort out a surprise party for them or not. The date is also their other sons 1st wedding anniversary and i think they feel they can't have a party as their son might want to celebrate his anniversary on there own. Also they live a good 5 hours drive away so would have to come up the day before and stop at in laws house so in laws would know something what happening.

I asked them yesterday if they had any plans and they said no it's just another day but that they may go away some where.

I think it would be too hard to sort out really without them knowing. They had big parties for their 60th birthdays last year that they arranged them sleves. It seems a shame not to do anything Any ideas?
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  • Rachel85
    Rachel85 Posts: 370 Forumite
    I think you should speak to the couple who's 1st Anniversary it is first to see what they think. It may be they have no plans as they're expecting to be celebrating the 40th!

    It sounds as if a big surprise party is out of the question. Could you organise a nice meal out with family for them, or a day out all together? If its not a surprise you can seek their guidance on what they'd like and then do the organising, that way they get the best of both worlds...
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  • laurathree
    laurathree Posts: 121 Forumite
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    I organised a surprise party for my Mum and Dad this year, so I know exactly what a logistical nightmare it can be! I'd say this doesn't sound like a great situation for a complete and utter surprise - but it's a really lovely thought from you!

    The most important thing is as mentioned above - talk to the 1st anniversary couple. If they're agreeable, maybe you could offer to organise a party with them? That means you have a contact in the area who may be able to help.

    If not and you do decide to run with it - double bluff them! Tell them you're organising a surprise party for the 1st anniversary couple, which is why you need to stay with them - pop out and organise it and when they arrive it will actually be their own surprise! Just a thought - you may be able to preserve the shock element by doing that.
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