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Funeral costs

schoolrunmum
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A friend has asked me to lend them £1800 to pay for her fathers funeral. She says this is the absolute cheapest funeral she could get. Is this cheap (as funerals go) as I don't expect to see any of the cash back..???
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Yes it is pretty cheap as things go nowadays.
Is your friend on any means tested benefits as if she is she can apply for a funeral grant?
You must be an exceedingly good friend to be willing to loan her this amount of money with no real hope of being repaid. Are there no other relatives who can help with the cost? It seems unfair that you are in effect gong to be paying for a funeral that you're not responsible for. Friends like you are very rare.
If people have no money & can't get a grant via the benefit system, it is possible to have the council meet the cost of a very basic funeral when there really are no relatives willing to assume responsibility for the cost.The bigger the bargain, the better I feel.
I should mention that there's only one of me, don't confuse me with others of the same name.0 -
If her father was under 60 (i think it is) then shell be entitled to some money from the social regardless of her benefits position/job position etc
Plus funeral directors do not ask for the money upfront I think the one we dealt with sent us a bill a month later and didnt press us to pay them.
£1800 is plenty.
My dad died in 2004 and we paid less than that including hiring the hearse and funeral cars, the vicar and renting a room in a local social club and the food there.
And ours wasnt a lets pick the cheapest options! but £1800 was plenty for thatLove is the answer. At least for most of the questions in my heart,
Like why are we here? And where do we go?And how come it's so hard?
It's not always easy,And sometimes life can be deceiving,
I'll tell you one thing, its always better when we're together0 -
No funeral cars involved-just a basic funeral. They both work full time, so no help with costs...they say they earn too much. Father was over 60. I think it might just be a con job, funeral has already taken place, does anyone think funeral company may take payment in installments?Debt-free...and staying that way...0
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The funeral has already taken place, so they must have known how they were going to pay the funeral director when they booked him. I think they saw you coming.
I wouldn't lend them all of it. I would lend them a portion - say £1000 or even £800 - then if they don't pay it back, it won't hurt so much.0 -
The funeral directors will take payment in installments. And they do mention the cost of it before it happens so they were aware of it.
Would they lend you the money? I doubt it - it screams con job at me sorry.
Please dont give them the money would be my advice -Love is the answer. At least for most of the questions in my heart,
Like why are we here? And where do we go?And how come it's so hard?
It's not always easy,And sometimes life can be deceiving,
I'll tell you one thing, its always better when we're together0 -
We just paid for a funeral last week , basic, no cars, I flowers, already owned grave. Yes £1800 is cheap.schoolrunmum wrote: ») as I don't expect to see any of the cash back..???
Can I ask if friend has asked for a "loan" and you do not expect to get it back why give them it. The fuenral directors will let them come to an arrnagement to pay it if they have not already. I find it hard to believe they arranged the fuenral without discussing with funeral director how they were going to pay.TOTAL 44 weeks lose. 6st 9.5lb :T0 -
Yes,you are all right-they asked for a loan, but their "previous" means I don't really expect to see it back. I did ask if they had asked about paying in installments but they avoided answering. Considering we already have a huge amount out on loan to other friends at the mo, I think it'll have to be a no.........thanks all........Debt-free...and staying that way...0
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schoolrunmum wrote: »Yes,you are all right-they asked for a loan, but their "previous" means I don't really expect to see it back. I did ask if they had asked about paying in installments but they avoided answering. Considering we already have a huge amount out on loan to other friends at the mo, I think it'll have to be a no.........thanks all........
Good decissionTOTAL 44 weeks lose. 6st 9.5lb :T0 -
Was it Groucho Marx who said " If you lend someone $20 and never see them again, it was probably worth it"
£1800 is a bit much though!How to find a dentist.
1. Get recommendations from friends/family/neighbours/etc.
2. Once you have a short-list, VISIT the practices - dont just phone. Go on the pretext of getting a Practice Leaflet.
3. Assess the helpfulness of the staff and the level of the facilities.
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i wouldnt give them this money either. stick to your guns and tell them to get lost.0
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