Are you happy saving money?

amalis

richardw wrote: »

Seems like you are reassessing your life a bit.

I do. I am just 27 and I have a feeling that life is not so long as you would expect it to be.

MrsTinks

When you say you are helping your mum out... how much and why? Don't get me wrong I have lent my dad money in the past and we have financially supported DHs mum and sister because... well I shan't start a moan here
The question really is - is giving her money actually the best help? Why are you needing to help her out financially?

amalis

MrsTine wrote: »

When you say you are helping your mum out... how much and why? Don't get me wrong I have lent my dad money in the past and we have financially supported DHs mum and sister because... well I shan't start a moan here
The question really is - is giving her money actually the best help? Why are you needing to help her out financially?

coz she lost her job and her pension is not enough to have normal life. Its not a loan, I am just giving her money every month. It is stable 300 pounds I promised her. She lives in another country and this is the only help I can offer her.

Pee

No wonder you are feeling the strain when you are sending money to your mother. As she is living in another country, perhaps it is essential.

Is this supposed to be temporary and is she looking for or likely to find another job?

Big hugs. I do feel for you.

Georgie4

amalis wrote: »

i guess it will help me not to feel deprived from good things in life. Isnt it normal to be more happy when you buy clothes in Armani rather than in Next?

To a point yes ! I feel the same and no matter how much I save there always seems to be something else to save for:eek:

KellyWelly

With all due respect to your mum, her pension isn't enough because she made the decision to spend her money rather than save when she was younger. Can't she find another job and is this giving her money a short term thing or a long term thing? She shouldn't be expecting you to do it indefinitely.

amalis

Pee wrote: »

No wonder you are feeling the strain when you are sending money to your mother. As she is living in another country, perhaps it is essential.

Is this supposed to be temporary and is she looking for or likely to find another job?

Big hugs. I do feel for you.

thx.
no, it is till the end... she is 64 y.o. and her chances to find another job are very low.

Pee

And does the £300 a month mean that she is also having to be careful?

It's a horrid situation. I'm so sorry.

amalis

Pee wrote: »

And does the £300 a month mean that she is also having to be careful?

It's a horrid situation. I'm so sorry.

yes, i am unlucky to come from the country where costs of life is higher than in UK. Especially with pound being so low now, after exchanging money there is about 80 pounds vanishing!
More than that, my husband is also helping his parents every month. And the amount is higher than what I send home. He is from middle East and there is no pension at all, it is expected that children help their parents.
Sometimes it seems too much for me..

Pee

It's not very helpful for me to say, no wonder it's bothering you and long term it can't be good for your mental health.

At least the pound should recover soon / in time, and that would make things easier.

And there is no money saving that she could do, and noone else that could help you with her?