should i invite my sons grandparents to the wedding (previous partner)

prettypoppyknickers

hello

i rang my mother today to talk about the guest list and said that i wouldn't be inviting my sons grandparents as they having nothing to do with me nor his dad but they do see my son.

she was rather shocked and anger that i wouldn't be inviting them thinking that it was a natural thing that i would do.

as my parents are not paying for anything to do with my wedding i feel that spending 200 pounds on people i dont see or talk to is not sensible spending.

i want my wedding to be filled with people who care and will be happy for me not people i haven't seen in 10 years.

is this to much to ask?!

Minxy_Bella

If you love them, invite them.

If not, then stuff 'em!


xxxxx

robpw2

your wedding your choice ..

but sometimes someone has to make the first move and your sons grandparents might appreciate the gesture

lindaatno9

Nope, not at all. Your mothers parents yes as they are your immediate family but not your sons,(Unless you get on with them exceptionally well)

floss2

I will certainly not be inviting my sons' other grandparents to my second wedding.

nat82

Are you marrying your son's Dad or did you have your son with an ex? I'm certainly not inviting my ex's parents to my wedding! If they are your OH's parents then how does he feel about it? What does he think about the situation anyway?


EDIT: Just re-read your title. I would not and am not inviting my previous partners parents. They are my duaghters grandparents but that's as far as it goes. They don't like me and I don't like them.

Debt_Free_Chick

There are all sorts of reasons why you should not invite them, but if you did and they refused to attend, it would be "you" who would look good on that

OTOH, if you invited them and they turned up, you'd have to deal with them on the day. But you could simply "smile through" the whole fiasco, yes?

Good luck whatever you decide to do.

*Louise*

They are linked to your son, not you so you don't need to invite them.

I don't understand why so many parents feel the need to input 'oh you have to invite so-and-so' I decided not to invite any family that I haven't seen in the past 2 years, as I am having a small wedding and am restricted to 40 guests. Which means none of my uncles are invited lol.

bride_on_a_budget

we invited my sons nan to our wedding, i dont get on with my sons dad at all but i still speak to his nan, she also offered to have my son the night before and day after the wedding.

i must admit, if i didnt speak to her as often as i do, i would not have invited her to the wedding .

kazwookie

I suggest you invite who YOU and your H2B wants to the wedding.

I had a small wedding with only 7 there if you count me and exOH!!

Good luck and best wishes for your day.

smartie12

I invited my son's grandparents to our wedding reception (their son is my son's father but doesn't have anything to do with him) because although they don't bother with their grandson as much as I would like they have helped me a lot in the past.

They were really happy to be invited and were no bother;) They approve of their grandson's new step dad as well:D

I did get cross with the grandmother after they looked after DS when we went on mini-moon (1 night honeymoon:rotfl: )but that's another story:mad: :mad: :mad:

I think brides/grooms to be should remember that it's THEIR day and invite whoever they want to the wedding!