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Children's Party - Rant!
Good morning all, Not really any point to this thread other than to let off steam and share experiences! My little girl who is 4 had a Halloween party on Saturday night. She's just started school and done so well and the party was a treat. We invited 12 of her classmates/neighbours and the party was Saturday evening, 6…
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Sorting possessions after a break up
My mum and step dad separated in January. They are still married but in the process of getting divorced. My stepdad hasn't made a claim on any items in the house, my mum bought the majority of the items herself anyway. My mum is worried my stepdad is going to wipe the floor with her and take everything on the divorce…
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Sudden personality change
Hi all I'm writing about my wife, who's personality has changed rather drastically in the past couple of weeks. She has attachment issues and always used to be "clingy" - however I am the same (although not to the same extent) so this was, if anything, a good thing. In the past few weeks she has changed completely - she is…
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Need a shoulder to lean on...
I don't really know why I'm posting here. It's not like anyone can change what's happened but maybe writing it down will help me in some way. So I am a 31 year old mummy to a beautiful baby boy who is now 18 weeks old. I didn't have a great childhood for many reasons that I wont get in to but literally getting married and…
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Bathing Baby
Hello all, we've got a 4 and a bit week old baby. We've given him one bath in the first week but haven't done since. I'd read online about the advice on giving baby baths and know that it's best to wash baby with only water in the first week. However water only baths are only particularly recommended if you have soft…
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I'm truly pathetic and just need to off load
So this is more for me to get things off my chest and maybe something in my head or heart will 'click'. I'm the most pathetic person ever. I'm nearly 40 years old and petrified of the dentist. My teeth are now in such a state that i've actually thought i'd be better of gone. It's only because of my amazing, beautiful kids…
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Friendship Advise
I have a best friend that I work with whom over the years I have become close with. We go out for meals just the two of us away from work and have good chats. Recently both of us have got friendly with a third friend who is currently having problems. My best friend is a lovely person and very empathetic and has started…
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Am I being selfish???
I have been with my partner for around nine years. I have children living away from home but with todays pricing with rents etc they could have to move back home at any time. My partner has younger children that live with their mum in a house they jointly own and he pays the mortgage as she does not work. Also CSA which…
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Full time father/CSA advice
Hi Folks, OK. Here is the problem to start with... I have been full time carer of my now 11yr old daughter since she was 2 and 1/2, moved from Leeds (where she was born and raised initially) in 2010 when my daughter was 5. Her mum has NEVER given me a single penny towards the maintenance of our daughter despite seeing her…
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Upfront childminder costs & protection
The child minder I have been talking to about taking care of my 8 year old is just starting up and I will be her first main client. I've been friends with her while she has been getting registered. She is now twisted and wants to start paid childminding for me from Monday. However she has just given me details of her…
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Is it possible to overcome rejection?
Hi all, I rarely post, but am an avid reader of these boards. Just after other people's thoughts really, am I being childish and inconsiderate about others. Very long story so I will try to condense it down so you don't get bored. I was adopted at birth and have had a fantastic upbringing and are extremely close to my…
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A tricky situation
I live with my parents-in-law and it’s driving me insane to the point where I feel like a prisoner and have confined myself to my bedroom as it is the only safe zone. What’s the problem? My MIL smells of urine. Firstly I’m not trying to be insensitive, she had a hysterectomy many years ago, has type 2 diabetes and was…
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Designer retail outlets – are they worth the schlep?
'If you live near Bicester, Gretna, York or any of the UK’s other outlet villages and have a penchant for designer goods, it’s likely I’m preaching to the choir. If you can’t resist a bargain, maybe it’s time you planned a trip to one...' Read MSE Weleid's full blog: 'Designer retail outlets – are they worth the…
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How stupid are the Child Maintenance Team?
I started a new job on 5th September so I called the CM team in mid September to inform them of my new income details. They said 'Please call us at the end of the month with your new payslip details' So on the 30th I called them to give them my details & informed them it was a part month payslip as I didnt start until the…
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Contact transport arrangements
Well the age old arguement has once again popped up by my ex , apparently hes doing me a favour and has been for the past 3 years dropping the kids home from his contact . Can I have oppinions please, he lives 8 miles away ( his choice ) works from home and collects and drops the kids off from mid week contact and weekend…
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shocked, ney, stunned
no real advise needed in this post, just thought i would post this as i am really happy. so what am i happy about....... well around 3 months ago i went to buy myself some new trousers and shirts for work, and got really down because i had to get a 38 inch waist trousers and XL shirts, as i am only 5 foot 9 that isnt good…
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How to pay divorce costs?
My divorce has gone through and the courts have decided that I should pay the divorce costs but they have currently been paid by my ex-wife. I'm happy to reimburse her for the cost but I want to do it in a way that I have my back covered in case she says in future that I haven't paid the cost. I will of course do an online…
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Wife refusing to divorce.
My wife and I have been separated for nearly 3 years, I want to divorce her but she's refusing . The reason being nothing apart from being bitter and difficult. She had multiple affairs and left me to move in with another man. I have since moved on and met someone else. We have sold our house and split the equity and we no…
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Compensating attorneys (as in power of attorney)
I am making a lasting power of attorney, appointing each and every one of my sons and daughters as attorneys. In case the LPA is ever used, I want to ensure that each one of them is suitably compensated for performing this duty. I want to enter this wish of mine in the section of must do for attorneys. Is this arrangement…
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Financially stuck in relationship
I've removed my post as its clearly not the best place for it.