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    • mothernerd
    • By mothernerd 29th Jan 18, 8:24 PM
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    NST February A FOREST ADVENTURE
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    • 29th Jan 18, 8:24 PM
    NST February A FOREST ADVENTURE 29th Jan 18 at 8:24 PM
    NST February

    A FOREST ADVENTURE

    For February, I want to take you on a trip to the Fantasy Forest. This is no domestic wood. The Fantasy Forest is packed with dense green foliage and bright flowers. It is dense and humid. (You may want to retreat there for a few minutes each evening).

    The forest is wild and dangerous. There may be traps (broken boiler/ burglary). The animals may not all be friendly. We may encounter snakes, monkeys or polar bears (salesmen, procrastination, totally unexpected) to slow our journey or force us from the path to debt freedom.

    The insects will undoubtably bite. We may succumb to lurgy or delirium (getting am*z0n to send a drone won't really hurt, will it?). Youngsters and young adults will be joining us during half term and we must make provision for them.

    How will we survive. We will prepare and plan thoroughly. We will think what we need (not want) and stick to our goals, find solutions when set backs occur. We need to be as fit as possible (physically, mentally, spiritually and financially). If we are under par, we must take steps to right this.

    When it's hard, we will just keep plodding. We will help and encourage those who are struggling or suffering and celebrate any and all success. No turtle gets left behind.

    The forest is beautiful and magical. Enjoy the journey.

    THE RULES

    Always pay to debts or savings first, live on what is left.

    First of February until the 28th, inclusive. All turtles commit to following the rules.

    Organise your budgets before the start of the month and stick to them.

    Reserve a small portion of your budget (cash or goods) for the food bank or charity of your choice.

    Environment Be aware of your surroundings and use all your senses. Be alert to danger but also to beauty.

    Stock take your cupboards, fridge and freezer. Base your meal plan upon them and your shopping list on what is needed. Stick to your list.

    Takeaways are forbidden (unless as part of family entertainment night/ birthday choice). Coffee shops, vending machines, works canteens etc are also banned (pastoral exceptions).

    Always take your lunch to work and snacks and drinks for outings or appointments (may excuse one trip with children or allow ice creams etc if part of the experience).

    Do something different. If nothing changes, nothing changes. We want to see small positive changes which become habits and then just part of who you are. Pick 2 or 3 things you want to change. Start with one small change and after five successful days, add another.

    Valentine Who? We will not be celebrating commercialism or bad taste. Do your own thing. Practice kindness to all and don't forget yourself. Treat yourself kindly, like a friend or someone you love and care about. Smile, hug, say hello (I understand these things are culturally unacceptable in London and some southern regions - try to change it but don't get arrested or committed). Small gestures of kindness may make someone else's day.

    Exercise 5 times a week please. It should be commensurate with your abilities and current state of health (be careful after flu/ viruses). Getting outside helps with mantal health too.

    NSDs are staying at 18 this month. that is still 10 days available for necessary shopping. There would be far fewer opportunities in the forest. Exceptions for medical care, petrol (should be within budget), bus fares, ys bargains and milk for greent.

    Throw
    it away. We should all be aware that there is no such place as 'away' and recycle or donate appropriately but we all have too much stuff and even if you are ill, getting the rubbish and recycling helps slow the descent into chaos.

    Use what you have. Fix something (for free if possible). Make something from a cardboard box (ideas for half term). If you have time, it may be useful to go round your house making a list of things that need fixing. Some may need to wait for better weather but when you are repaying debt and the focus is on that, you may find your house looking rather shabby. If you have a list of things that can be fixed or improved at little or no cost, it can give you a lift and a sense of progress.

    Refuel properly. You ask a lot of your body, give it the fuel that it needs - healthy food, water, a reasonable amount of sleep. Refuel your mind and spirit by taking time to relax and rewind.

    Elephants and Frogs. We all have them. For newer turtles who have never visited Flylady, a frog is any task you have been putting off - eg a difficult phone call. Over time the small task has become a giant obstacle. Tackle the frog and the rest of your day will be a breeze.
    An elephant is such a huge task that you just do not know where to start. How does one eat an elephant? One bite at a time. elephants need to be broken down into small manageable pieces. i want to hear about lots of frogs being eaten and the odd elephant being cut down to size. (That will leave us with more time to hide from the polar bears).

    Along the way we will have daily inspiration. This challenge is intended to be hard (several turtles were already anticipating a difficult month) so this month's quotes are going to be gentle and nurturing.

    They are not a get out of jail free card, but when you are having a difficult day, just focus on the quote of the day, take comfort from it.

    There may also be mini challenges, but these are optional.

    So who is tough enough for the turtle challenge.











    This year I will be fierce
    NST Feb #1 SFD 11/18 Food £68.14/£120 Travel £4.40/£20 DIY £0/£30 Ent £2.05/£20 (+ £20 membership fee)
    No Debt No mortgage
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    • Fmess
    • By Fmess 8th Feb 18, 6:14 AM
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    Fmess
    Still on 3 SFDs, I!!!8217;ve been buying chocolate each day and this needs to stop. Work is busy as ever and people are off most days, today may be the first day that everyone is not sick, but I won!!!8217;t know until 8am. Dog walking going well for exercise but achieving almost 10,000 steps a day just being at work.
    LBM = 07/09/13 Debt = £13339 (100% cleared)
    New Car and Roof Debt £0/£19033
    DecNST #2 SFD 13/15 Food 105/120 Personal 380/350 Petrol 80.01/80
    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 8th Feb 18, 7:26 AM
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    ARGH! I think I will have two off school down with the cold today, school finishes tomorrow, why could they not have waited? Of course it is one from each school, so I will still have to take the remaining child to each school. Boo! And I have just had a parcel delivery notification that 'something' is to be delivered today.

    Bet it comes when I am out .


    So, off to swing through the branches a la Tarzan and drop off a couple of kids, then home to rock the hammocks of the coughing kids. Hot baths, hot chocolate and I might have made a tray of chocolate and salted caramel iced buns to tempt the ones with no appetite. They are soft and cocoa is medicinal.
    MFW START DATE May 16 £118,340 :
    October 17 - £109,495.00
    December 17 £108,800

    Jan 18 £108,392.98
    NEXT GOAL is sub £105k
    Mortgage-free wannabe 2018 #161
    • laurenh1
    • By laurenh1 8th Feb 18, 9:05 AM
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    Morning turtles-

    Today is NSD #6 - so far I am on track to be on 8 by Sunday, however something has gone in hubs car, so that could spoil my big plans a little.hub thinks no big deal with the car but I am a massive panicker, I guess this is why I have an emergency fund but I still do not like the idea of dipping into it!

    Looks like my Tax free Childcare is up & running, which is nothing short of a miracle considering it has been broken since April last year. This has been a massive headache for us and, so long as it is now working as they say, will be a huge relief.

    My frogs for this weekend are- sort my recipe folder out, clean my little boys electric car (and take him out on it) . I also need to deep clean my house, which I will hopefully start tonight.

    Budgets are as follows-
    1000 emergency fund
    700 Paris fund
    100 xmas 18 fund
    97 spends
    • dolly84
    • By dolly84 8th Feb 18, 9:25 AM
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    dolly84
    I did a grocery shop last night, I have decided to do an online one next week as taking DH with me is costing way more than it should. Still within budgets though.

    I told the kids we were cutting down on puddings and chocolate/crisps etc, we are eating too much and creating too much waste at the weekends. As a compromise I said I would do homemade popcorn on Friday night and they could have the other stuff Saturday - DS was fine but DD on principal argues with everything I say so she was not happy.

    Sold an item on ebay last night so will post that today, that gives me £7.50 in the holiday pot plus £4 from an item I sold at the weekend. My other buyer didn't pay and is just ignoring all communication so I have cancelled that one and re-listed.
    Total Debt 01/14 £13043.00, now £0 debt free date Dec 2016, actually July 2016.
    • NinjaSavingKat
    • By NinjaSavingKat 8th Feb 18, 9:33 AM
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    GOOD MORNING!!!!

    What a glorious MORNING it is! Wow nearly the end of another week!! Managed to pot 5 NSD's in a row however today is a "purchase" lunch out-of-necessity day. However it will be minimal spends as I have as work canteen which is subsidized. £3 maximum sponsored by Mumsy. ...(Does it help that I found 2 x £1 coins at different times in the gym...finders keepers and all that??...)

    Gym yesterday twice, morning for self imposed HIIT (only 20 minutes) and evening for a leg workout. Tis good fun feeling the burn the next day. Bride-To-Be has been in contact - happy with me locating my own dress here in the UK and not paying $200 for her ideal number.... PHEW! She's cool!

    I couldn't get on to my library account yesterday ... NEARLY BOUGHT ANOTHER BOOK ON AMAZON! But I resisted. It felt good to resist. All monies still in tact so there will be a little more to play with tomorrow albeit not a lot.

    Payslip will arrive in my email today so I can start mentally breaking down the funds and seeing how little I can live on. Haha!

    I joined my local Mountain Rescue Team last year. My probationary assessment is in a few weeks so we have training on Sunday - the meet-ups and training costs more in petrol so I know there will be more to give Mumsy this week. .. Needs must..

    So there we go - back to the gym tonight (which was paid for upfront for 3 months)...

    Onwards and Upwards!

    “Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent".
    • Calling14
    • By Calling14 8th Feb 18, 11:25 AM
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    Thanks Mothernerd, could be right feel more weepy after nasty viruses that are about.

    Yesterday a SFD.

    Walk done 15k and 60 flights of stairs in that. Panic set in as it was getting dark and wasn't sure how to get down hill I was up. Luckily met a guy looking for his dog, who gave me directions. I found his dog as well.

    Collecting grandson today after work so may treat him to a cake so may spend a small amount.

    Had £5 in from surveys today and £100 from cleaning job. Saved £100 towards my new blinds, increased my dd to £200 for cc and paid another £7 off another card. Debt paid off now 23%

    NSD - 6
    Food £18.81/£80
    Petrol 0/40
    ME upkeep(hair/make up)- 3/10
    Clothing 0/20
    Social - 0/50
    Money gained surveys/extra income this month - £124.81
    Credit card payments this mth - £273
    New Blinds to pay for £124/£224 in a few weeks time.
    LBM 13039 1.1.13 Start 2018 £5552 NOW £4108
    EEK house repairs pushed it back up end of last yr

    PAYDBX 2018 #16 1444/£5552 DFD 12/18
    E
    Fund #9 £220/£1,000
    1 x 100 days challenge
    £1279/£2000

    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 8th Feb 18, 11:51 AM
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    f0xh0les
    I told the kids we were cutting down on puddings and chocolate/crisps etc, we are eating too much and creating too much waste at the weekends. As a compromise I said I would do homemade popcorn on Friday night and they could have the other stuff Saturday - DS was fine but DD on principal argues with everything I say so she was not happy.
    Originally posted by dolly84
    Do you give them pocket money? I told mine I would happily buy them the drinks, crisps, snacky bits they want in their lunchboxes, but come the weekend/evening, if they want snacks then they are to use their money. Otherwise they would eat their way through the pantry and I would be shopping every day. Not sure how old yours are. Their money does not go far in the corner shop.
    MFW START DATE May 16 £118,340 :
    October 17 - £109,495.00
    December 17 £108,800

    Jan 18 £108,392.98
    NEXT GOAL is sub £105k
    Mortgage-free wannabe 2018 #161
    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 8th Feb 18, 11:56 AM
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    Looks like my Tax free Childcare is up & running, which is nothing short of a miracle considering it has been broken since April last year.
    :
    Originally posted by laurenh1
    Hope it is backdated and there is loads of it.
    MFW START DATE May 16 £118,340 :
    October 17 - £109,495.00
    December 17 £108,800

    Jan 18 £108,392.98
    NEXT GOAL is sub £105k
    Mortgage-free wannabe 2018 #161
    • mothernerd
    • By mothernerd 8th Feb 18, 12:01 PM
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    Day 8 Inspiration
    Don't sacrifice yourself too much because if you sacrifice too much there is nothing left to give and no-one to care for you.

    The problem is not the problem. The problem is the incredible amount of overthinking you are doing with the problem. Let it go and be free.

    HOPE begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work; you don't give up.
    Anne LaMott



    Sorry for the delay, pinterest and the laptop were not talking last night, don't know which one was sulking (both have had their moments this week).

    First quote seemed a little bleak when I had set it down, so I tried again.

    I have been thinking about a mini-challenge but I have given you a lot to do this month - may add some wit and wisdom (my years must account for something) or advice on what to do when things are bad. Hope none of you need it but some things could be helpful when you are ill or overloaded.
    This year I will be fierce
    NST Feb #1 SFD 11/18 Food £68.14/£120 Travel £4.40/£20 DIY £0/£30 Ent £2.05/£20 (+ £20 membership fee)
    No Debt No mortgage
    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 8th Feb 18, 12:10 PM
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    f0xh0les
    Today will be unexpected NSD 6 he he.

    Two poorlies on the sofa, hopefully will get them back to school for the last day of school. All food will be from stores, will shop tomorrow if I am without small people.
    MFW START DATE May 16 £118,340 :
    October 17 - £109,495.00
    December 17 £108,800

    Jan 18 £108,392.98
    NEXT GOAL is sub £105k
    Mortgage-free wannabe 2018 #161
    • mothernerd
    • By mothernerd 8th Feb 18, 12:14 PM
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    mothernerd
    Woke in time to go to the doctor's. Lovely doctor was fully booked but woman doctor was the alternative. Haven't seen her often (she doesn't do many days) but she is good.

    I have arthritis, quite advanced, in my right shoulder. Back on serious painkillers and have an appointment for an injection. Doctor will do it (mum thought I would have to go to the hospital where I had my hip operation, on the opposite side of the borough). She thought doing as much as possible with my left hand was a good idea. I am hoping this will allow me to do some embroidery with my right (I had taken some to show her as seeing how small the stitches are shows more of what is involved - both for movement and eyesight).

    So we have a diagnosis. The pieces of the kaleidoscope have shifted again. I will wait until I have had the injection to see how things are and think about possible ways to carry on my business (any other employment options are reduced still further by the arthritis). Also need to develop and put in place strategies for housework and everyday stuff. I know I have said this before and I have taken some steps eg using smaller boxes to store things as the larger ones are now too heavy to carry when full.

    Today I am grateful for lovely doctors, for smiles from a toddler and the energy of a young boy at the surgery (it was not difficult to guess that it was his mum who was ill).
    This year I will be fierce
    NST Feb #1 SFD 11/18 Food £68.14/£120 Travel £4.40/£20 DIY £0/£30 Ent £2.05/£20 (+ £20 membership fee)
    No Debt No mortgage
    • laurenh1
    • By laurenh1 8th Feb 18, 12:30 PM
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    Foxholes Thank you.

    Unfortunately I have already had my back payment, it is what has paid for Paris pretty much, HOWEVER it does mean I can afford to eat ha. My childcare situation changes is March and my bills is going up to £1120 per month ( I only work 3 days) and this means I get 20% off that.

    I have two help to buys at the mo, one for hub one for me, and I thought i might have to either sack one off or not feed my kids ha ha, it is a HUGE relief!!!!
    • missyv30
    • By missyv30 8th Feb 18, 1:04 PM
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    Sorry to have taken so long to do this just had a lot going on with illness and have a funeral on Monday anyway here goes

    Always pay to debts or savings first, all debt has been paid if anything is left at the end of the month that will be paid to the debt

    Organiseyour budgets and stick to them. done

    Reserve £5 given to charity

    Environment Be aware of your surroundings and use all your senses. Be alert to danger but also to beauty. Will do this during half term

    Stock take done

    Takeaways I have two birthdays my partners and my step daughter but will be doing one takeaway for both since there only one day apart

    Always take snacks and drinks for outings Always do

    Do something different. Trying to but hard with strong anxiety just now.

    Valentine I told my partner to leave it see if he listens


    Exercise 5 times a week please. Will do

    NSDs I will try very hard for 18

    Throw it away. Will be clearing out this next week coming

    Use what you have.I am using up the paint I have already bought and Painting the back Hall

    Frogs and Elephants. I have dealt with one elephant already but still some frogs to deal with

    I have probably missed something so will try my best to do all task on front of the thread wish me luck

    Debt as of Jan 17 £32990.71:
    • dolly84
    • By dolly84 8th Feb 18, 5:22 PM
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    Do you give them pocket money? I told mine I would happily buy them the drinks, crisps, snacky bits they want in their lunchboxes, but come the weekend/evening, if they want snacks then they are to use their money. Otherwise they would eat their way through the pantry and I would be shopping every day. Not sure how old yours are. Their money does not go far in the corner shop.
    Originally posted by f0xh0les
    They do get spending money and they do buy their own snacks but it is the amount we are eating and all the rubbish it is producing which does not sit well with me.
    Total Debt 01/14 £13043.00, now £0 debt free date Dec 2016, actually July 2016.
    • greent
    • By greent 8th Feb 18, 6:24 PM
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    greent
    Day 7 & 8
    Hope your smalls feel better soon, f0xh0les. DS2 was back to school today after a restricted/ light diet yesterday


    Always pay to debts or savings first, live on what is left. - car & 0% CCs on direct debit. 'Regular' spending CC cards always paid off in full by start of month. Once kitchen/ workmen fully paid for this month we will know what (if any!) we have left and that can go to OH's 0% CC. Any extra monies will also go there - small amount of cashback claimed and added to kitchen fund at mo - as any excess is going to CC anyway

    First of February until the 28th, inclusive.
    Organise your budgets before the start of the month and stick to them.
    * Food 95.98/450 - need to add in receipt for YS items OH bought on way home yesterday.......
    * Diesel (me) - 0/65
    * Toiletries - 0/10
    * Clothing - 0/100 (DS1 desperately in need of new jeans)
    * Social - 0/50
    * Half term - 0/75
    * Money in - 3.40/50

    Reserve a small portion of your budget (cash or goods) for the food bank or charity of your choice. - ok. Monthly DD to WWT. Should be attending a charity coffee/ cake morning mid month. Also £1 in aid of charity for non-school uniform last week + £1.50 for a non-uniform day tomorrow. Also a small bag of toiletries to foodbank

    Environment Be aware of your surroundings and use all your senses. Be alert to danger but also to beauty. -

    Stock take your cupboards, fridge and freezer. Base your meal plan upon them and your shopping list on what is needed. Stick to your list. - desperately in need to top up supplies once kitchen is in! In the meantime we are shopping for little bits 'n pieces and eating stuff up from freezer
    Takeaways are forbidden (unless as part of family entertainment night/ birthday choice). Coffee shops, vending machines, works canteens etc are also banned (pastoral exceptions). may have family takeaway as social if budget unspent elsewhere.

    Always take your lunch to work and snacks and drinks for outings or appointments (may excuse one trip with children or allow ice creams etc if part of the experience). - have half term budget- will take lunches if applicable but something like ice creams may fall into budget here

    Do something different. If nothing changes, nothing changes. We want to see small positive changes which become habits and then just part of who you are. Pick 2 or 3 things you want to change. Start with one small change and after five successful days, add another.

    Valentine Who? after 30+ years together we don't really do Val now (although I may buy some of the flowers for myself afterwards if they have been reduced

    Exercise 5 times a week please. It should be commensurate with your abilities and current state of health (be careful after flu/ viruses). Getting outside helps with mental health too. - 3 weeks into flu/ post flu chesty cough/ fatigue/ poor breathing. Not doing any cv exercise until much better. Feeling better each day, so should have some luck here after half term. Have done between 10 and 14k+ steps every day this week.
    NSDs are staying at 18 this month. that is still 10 days available for necessary shopping. There would be far fewer opportunities in the forest. Exceptions for medical care, petrol (should be within budget), bus fares, ys bargains and milk for [B]greent. 3/18 -
    Throw it away. We should all be aware that there is no such place as 'away' and recycle or donate appropriately but we all have too much stuff and even if you are ill, getting the rubbish and recycling helps slow the descent into chaos. - looking to remove 150 items this month - whether sell/ donate/ recycle/ bin - 9/150

    Use what you have. Fix something (for free if possible). we need to update our house to do list this month - some jobs are being done as we have workmen in for the kitchen so are having them do some other bits whilst here (more cost efficient ) My main focus is a big clean and tidy- lots of dust spread everywhere from the works
    Refuel properly. Feb is a month of re-charging for me

    Elephants and Frogs. .Am sure I can find some frogs. An elephant I need to tackle is getting OH's co accounts for the year ready for the accountant


    Very tired today after 2 (short) shifts at work and then walking home from work in the cold. Also the work going on is getting me down (noise/ dirt/ dust/ people in my house/ snags) - have to focus on the end goal and tell myself it will be worth it!

    ETA: Today I am grateful for:
    feeling better, good workmen, YS doughnuts, hugs from DS3, cups of tea
    Last edited by greent; 08-02-2018 at 8:51 PM.
    I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul
    Repaid mtge early (orig 11/25) Bal 01/09 £124616 01/10 £104927 01/11 £89873 01/12 £76317 01/13 £52546 01/14 £35356 01/15 £12133 07/15 £NIL
    BTL Mtge 12/16 £69786. 2018 OPs (#18) £36.39/£4000
    Net sales 2018 £20.45/£1000 PAYDOX18 £991.65/£18654.16 Decluttered 225/2018 items
    • DawnW
    • By DawnW 8th Feb 18, 7:22 PM
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    DawnW
    Budget update:
    4 NSDs so far
    Donation to foodbank - done
    Groceries - £82.96 / £250.00
    Pet food - £3.00 / £10.00 (he is only little )
    Diesel - 0 / £65
    Presents - 0 / £50
    Toiletries and cleaning supplies - £1.60 / £30

    I have lots in, and don't anticipate spending over the weekend
    NSDs for February 8 / 18
    Decluttering 26 / 28

    • apple muncher
    • By apple muncher 8th Feb 18, 7:33 PM
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    apple muncher
    Your comment in the first post, mothernerd, about houses getting a little shabby when debt-busting rings very true here. But the way you phrased it made me feel like I could actually get some free improvements done (garden bits, painting...). Thank you!

    Today I am grateful for a truly awesome journey home where I walked off one bus onto my next one with nary a pause in between - twice!, for a dry day with sunshine, for getting a 15min workout done before going to get dd, for dh having a good meeting, for dd lurving the HSM production put on by a local secondary sch, for my kettle which shines a blue light when it is switched on.
    NST Feb Forester #5; NSD 9/18 ; Ex 14/20 ; craft 3/20 (21); remove 51
    2018 Pay off: £527; 2
    018 sell

    Mortgage £22,936 (01/14: £78,201; 01/15: £59,629; 01/16: 39,915; 01/17: 27,295; 01/18 23,143) MFWDate Dec 2018
    • mothernerd
    • By mothernerd 8th Feb 18, 7:38 PM
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    Hugs turtles, just keep plodding and hope all the poorlies are better soon.

    Today I am grateful that

    I was awake in time to go to the doctor's

    That I have a diagnosis and can now start to plan around that

    That I sought help before the problem was too bad and have avoided surgery

    For our wonderful NHS with medicine and treatment 'free at the point of need'

    I did not cry - thought about it but decided it would not help (sometimes it does) so I moved to the next stage

    For the painkillers that gave me a restful sleep

    For the music I played which made me get up and dance

    I forgave one of the songs (Why worry by Dire Straits). I had it on drip feed in the week before my wedding (instead of running away as fast as I could). I blamed the song and had forgotten how lovely it was.

    I let the music flow through me, enjoyed all the memories

    I noticed the way my body moved. Probably not how I look from the viewer's point of view but I feel like a ballerina when I dance

    I noticed how all the parts of my body moved, felt all the little bones in my feet, the graceful sweep of my arm, the little wave of my hand

    Made a committment to trying new things. Horse riding is probably out (ouch to the jolting) but there are loads of things I have never done which I can try

    I will never be able to do the cancan again but there are lots of things I can still do - and lots of skills I am going to learn to do with my left hand and arm

    The pain so far has not been unbearable, just slightly disruptive

    I am alive

    I will survive

    I will wear red

    I will enjoy my son's wedding and relish every new experience.

    I am strong and resilient
    Last edited by mothernerd; 08-02-2018 at 7:40 PM.
    This year I will be fierce
    NST Feb #1 SFD 11/18 Food £68.14/£120 Travel £4.40/£20 DIY £0/£30 Ent £2.05/£20 (+ £20 membership fee)
    No Debt No mortgage
    • Kerry Woman
    • By Kerry Woman 8th Feb 18, 7:54 PM
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    NSD today - 6/18
    Brought own lunch to work.
    Exercise - walked. Did not get off a few bus stops before I should get off today as I am tired. Do walk around the school for errands.
    Finally texted someone back after receiving a text from her last month.
    Grateful:
    Something I have to do in work which I hate doing and have issues with it every time went alright today.
    Having a chilled out evening.
    Having a decent night sleep.
    Frugal Living Challenge 2018
    Mortgage free as of 1st August 2013
    NST February A FOREST ADVENTURE NSD 12/18
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    • By Calling14 8th Feb 18, 9:41 PM
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    Calling14
    Have we a naughty step still

    Spent as forecast on some cookies for grandson and I ate two. Diet huh.

    Had a bit of time to kill before school collection so bought a jumper for myself thinking it will be great for work however decided why do I only buy clothes for work. It would look fab with jeans at just £10 hope my stay in the naughty step won't be for long

    Decided bf is in one of his moods really there must be better out there. Just need to find one
    LBM 13039 1.1.13 Start 2018 £5552 NOW £4108
    EEK house repairs pushed it back up end of last yr

    PAYDBX 2018 #16 1444/£5552 DFD 12/18
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    Fund #9 £220/£1,000
    1 x 100 days challenge
    £1279/£2000

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