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    • Bath cube
    • By Bath cube 10th Jan 18, 8:18 PM
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    Bath cube
    Concerns About Friends Behaviour
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    • 10th Jan 18, 8:18 PM
    Concerns About Friends Behaviour 10th Jan 18 at 8:18 PM
    I'm sorry if this post might sound offensive on here but I do require some advice asap. My OH goes out on Fridays by himself (which is fine by me no problem). He doesnt go to meet anyone specifically he just chats to most people he knows in a local public house. Since last summer a man has sort of latched on to my OH and is showing some strange behaviour. He has told my OH he is bisexual but prefers men and that he thinks my OH is hiding his true feelings towards him this was before Christmas. This man seems peculiar he lives round the corner from this public house but insisted on getting in a taxi home with my OH and watched my OH going into our house. When my OH told him no I'm not interested in you sexually he appeared very upset and my OH told him it was best he didn't contact or see him again given his feelings. Since this happened my OH has gone somewhere different and last Saturday we went out together as normal in a quiet nice bar. This man came in and stared right at me then went to the bar and stormed up to my OH. He asked my OH why was he ignoring him and asked out loud if it was because of me. When I went over to see what was wrong this man got really annoyed and was fuming under his breath. I told him to go and he stormed off. He rang my OH the following evening and told him not to ignore him. I was coming home from work yesterday and he approache'd me as I was getting my keys out of my bag. He told me he had had sex with my OH and he isnt happy with you. I told him to go or I will call the police and he put his face next to mine. When my OH got home I asked him about this and he said it's all lies and this bloke has become obsessed with him. He phoned him in front of me and told him not to bother either of us. What can I do if he approaches me again or follows us into the bar we go to?. It looks like he wants to stir it out of jealousy.
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    • cjdavies
    • By cjdavies 11th Jan 18, 2:55 PM
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    I remember a post a few months ago from a bloke saying the woman who worked for the housing association he was living in, he built up a friendship, but she was moved by the employer as it was not wanted and wanted advice should he make contact.

    Most of the replies if I remember were roughly "No, you are scaring her".
    Makes me wonder now after seeing replies here if something did happen or did she encourage it in the first place.
    • annandale
    • By annandale 11th Jan 18, 3:27 PM
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    It's bluelass, it's a wind up.
    • Pixie5740
    • By Pixie5740 11th Jan 18, 3:29 PM
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    Does your husband resemble Prince William or Prince Harry?
    Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen pounds nineteen and six, result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds nought and six, result misery.
    • bertiewhite
    • By bertiewhite 11th Jan 18, 3:42 PM
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    I really can't see why some of you think that it's weird for a man to give his phone number to another man who he met in a pub.

    I got talking a bloke who I'd never met before in our local - it turns out we both play guitar and are looking to start a band up.

    As we usually go to the pub at different times we exchange phone numbers - really suspicious, eh?
    • elsien
    • By elsien 11th Jan 18, 3:52 PM
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    It's bluelass, it's a wind up.
    Originally posted by annandale
    I did wonder that as well. Except bluelass would keep returning to ramp it up a bit more and bath cube doesn't and the posting style isn't quite the same. I'm not so sure that it is.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

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    • Money maker
    • By Money maker 11th Jan 18, 4:04 PM
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    Money maker
    I remember a post a few months ago from a bloke saying the woman who worked for the housing association he was living in, he built up a friendship, but she was moved by the employer as it was not wanted and wanted advice should he make contact.

    Most of the replies if I remember were roughly "No, you are scaring her".
    Makes me wonder now after seeing replies here if something did happen or did she encourage it in the first place.
    Originally posted by cjdavies
    No, the friendship was all in his mind. The woman did not give him any reason to think there was any form of friendship at all, let alone relationship. She was trying to avoid him but he wasn't listening to the 99% posters who tried to show him this. That was really creepy.
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    • suki1964
    • By suki1964 11th Jan 18, 4:11 PM
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    I did wonder that as well. Except bluelass would keep returning to ramp it up a bit more and bath cube doesn't and the posting style isn't quite the same. I'm not so sure that it is.
    Originally posted by elsien

    Let's look at the evidence shall we?

    Blue lass wrote in a complete block - as does Bath Cube

    Blue lass mum died 3 or 4 years ago, as did Bath Cubes

    Blue lass had a brother who didn't work, so does bath cube

    Blue lass had a cat who was ederly and was concerned about it dieing and was looking to get it stuffed. Bath cubes cat recently died


    Blue lass was rather scathing of certain jewellers, as is bath cube

    Blue lass was a vegetarian , as is bath cube

    Blue lass had a variety of nutty relatives who were work shy , dole fiddlers etc etc etc, seems bath cube is a member of the same family

    Blue lass told many stories about the weird and wonderful people her and hubs met in their local pub, from women who were jealous of her stunning good looks, to men who made passes, bath cube is now introducing similar characters



    Just far too many similarities for it to be two different people
    if you lend someone £20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it
    • Bath cube
    • By Bath cube 11th Jan 18, 4:23 PM
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    I'm getting tired of some forum members comparing me to this blue lass person. For one thing Im originally from Sheffield and can't afford designer clothes. I texted my OH on my way home today and told him we must talk about this and if not I will leave. I spoke to a lady at work I have known for many years who is a trusted colleague to many on my break. She said have you not heard of sadie Hartley? And said I must take this seriously. I read about the sadie case on my phone on the train journey home and I see she was killed by a jealous obsessive. When I got home earlier I went to find our wheelie bin to put it back in its normal place and a neighbour who works from home and lives across the road asked if everything was alright. He said a man knocked on a few doors on the road including his and asked when my OH usually gets home. No one said anything to him. It now seems clear this man is going to call at ours and tell me they have been seeing one another. My OH told me the man was never part of the pubs social circle. He just stood on his own drinking and people used to say hi to him but that was all. For some reason my OH got talking to him and this man misinterpreted it as mutual attraction. My OH said because he comes across as a very nice person this man must have wanted to cling to him. My OH is no Brad or Clooney but isn't bug ugly either and this man is pitiful looking. My OH also said the man stared wearing better clothes and aftershave after a few months of meeting him. Also he was using cosmetics to try to cover his rosacea (he told my OH he had rosacea and was embarrassed about it). He also told my other half he had been bullied in child and adulthood because of his skin complaint. I noticed this man also speaks strange. He kicks his lips often whilst speaking and sticks his tongue out too. That does not give him the right to try to infiltrate and disrupt a marriage because of envy though. And I am going to insist on at least logging thsee incidents at our local police station even if OH thinks it's unnecessary. If and when the police speak to this man I think he will try and turn it round on my OH or himself though.
    • SuperPikachu
    • By SuperPikachu 11th Jan 18, 4:29 PM
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    Sorry but you are being so over dramatic that I now doubt the entire situation.

    Either start a novel or sort your life out.
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    • Bath cube
    • By Bath cube 11th Jan 18, 4:34 PM
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    Oops sorry I meant my post with try to turn it round on me also. My OH spoke to me a few minutes and I told him what our neighbour said. OH doesn't think the man is dangerous just jealous. I said I beg to differ and it has to end. OH said before the man revealed his feelings before Christmas he asked my OH if he could start coming to our house for his tea on his days off. OH was going to say yes! I'm know very concerned as we don't invite relatives for tea never mind strange men. I told OH if you need to tell me something do it now before I involve the police and we both get embarrassed.
    • seashore22
    • By seashore22 11th Jan 18, 4:56 PM
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    Here we go again. i wondered how long it would be.
    • thorsoak
    • By thorsoak 11th Jan 18, 4:58 PM
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    Bath Cube: You may protest and protest about not being Bluelass, but as someone who has at times acted as an editor I see far too many similarities in the form of writing, phrases etc to be a coincidence.

    Perhaps you would like to elucidate us as to the results of three of your other threads - those being


    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5665828 - about your father not wanting your brother to get a job - started on 17th June 2017.

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5657085 - about ex-wife wanting to take control of funeral of your cousin's husband (posted first on 30th June 2017)

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5710681- your workshy relative who is becoming a nuisance - you wrote about him first on 13th September 2017

    These are just three which come up in the past year - posted in your name Bath Cube - and in the same narrative form. I have not included any of the Blue lass threads - interesting as they are!
    • seashore22
    • By seashore22 11th Jan 18, 5:00 PM
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    I'm getting tired of some forum members comparing me to this blue lass person. For one thing Im originally from Sheffield and can't afford designer clothes. I texted my OH on my way home today and told him we must talk about this and if not I will leave. I spoke to a lady at work I have known for many years who is a trusted colleague to many on my break. She said have you not heard of sadie Hartley? And said I must take this seriously. I read about the sadie case on my phone on the train journey home and I see she was killed by a jealous obsessive. When I got home earlier I went to find our wheelie bin to put it back in its normal place and a neighbour who works from home and lives across the road asked if everything was alright. He said a man knocked on a few doors on the road including his and asked when my OH usually gets home. No one said anything to him. It now seems clear this man is going to call at ours and tell me they have been seeing one another. My OH told me the man was never part of the pubs social circle. He just stood on his own drinking and people used to say hi to him but that was all. For some reason my OH got talking to him and this man misinterpreted it as mutual attraction. My OH said because he comes across as a very nice person this man must have wanted to cling to him. My OH is no Brad or Clooney but isn't bug ugly either and this man is pitiful looking. My OH also said the man stared wearing better clothes and aftershave after a few months of meeting him. Also he was using cosmetics to try to cover his rosacea (he told my OH he had rosacea and was embarrassed about it). He also told my other half he had been bullied in child and adulthood because of his skin complaint. I noticed this man also speaks strange. He kicks his lips often whilst speaking and sticks his tongue out too. That does not give him the right to try to infiltrate and disrupt a marriage because of envy though. And I am going to insist on at least logging thsee incidents at our local police station even if OH thinks it's unnecessary. If and when the police speak to this man I think he will try and turn it round on my OH or himself though.
    Originally posted by Bath cube
    You write in exactly the same style and constantly about family members you disapprove of.

    You were a sock puppet on one of blue lasses last threads.

    You both have cats called Tiddles (I think that was the name, but can't be bothered to look).

    We aren't stupid you know.
    • Mr.Generous
    • By Mr.Generous 11th Jan 18, 5:06 PM
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    Its obvious to all of us that your "Other Half" is in fact your "Other Third" and has been playing hide the sausage with this guy.
    • pearl123
    • By pearl123 11th Jan 18, 7:14 PM
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    [QUOTE=Bath cube;73701130]Oops sorry I meant my post with try to turn it round on me also. My OH spoke to me a few minutes and I told him what our neighbour said. OH doesn't think the man is dangerous just jealous. I said I beg to differ and it has to end. OH said before the man revealed his feelings before Christmas he asked my OH if he could start coming to our house for his tea on his days off. OH was going to say yes! I'm know very concerned as we don't invite relatives for tea never mind strange men. I told OH if you need to tell me something do it now before I involve the police and we both get embarrassed

    People get jealous for a reason. They are hurt. There is usually no smoke without fire.

    Plus posters are very observant on here and usually for good reason.
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 11th Jan 18, 8:45 PM
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    This is really weird. I didn't see the Blue Lass lady post, and I'm not sure why but the whole thing made me laugh quite a bit.
    Thought not so unbelievable until he wants to come round for tea and OPs words don't quite fit with the bit that went before.
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    • Bath cube
    • By Bath cube 11th Jan 18, 8:47 PM
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    Spoke to OH when he got home just after 5pm. He told me nothing sexual happened and the man is infatuated because only my other half paid him any attention. Under a hour later and I knew it was coming the man called round. I answered the door and told him I was expecting this visit. He tried to push me aside but I shoved him and he fell over. I called the police and he tried to say I had assaulted him but they believed I acted in self defence. He was shouting and swearing saying my OH had fuxxxx him over. They took him away, I'm told a local station for the night to calm off before being interviewed in the morning. I was told if he tries to approach he can be served with a freedom from harassment court order. Cops said he maintains he has been used.
    • thorsoak
    • By thorsoak 11th Jan 18, 9:07 PM
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    I wonder what the next episode in this saga will reveal .....
    • SuperPikachu
    • By SuperPikachu 11th Jan 18, 9:20 PM
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    I just worry for the mental health of somebody that would post these tall tales and pretend they are real? They clearly need help if this is a regular thing that other forum users recognise
    "Wild Pikachu appeared!"
    • pearl123
    • By pearl123 12th Jan 18, 12:17 AM
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    It’s all rather Jeremy Kyle.
    Your heading is rather weird too. “Concern about a friends behaviour”.

    It really does come across as a tall tale.
    Last edited by pearl123; 12-01-2018 at 12:20 AM.
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