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    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 1st Jan 18, 11:51 AM
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    Frump to Fab 2018 - Fabulous Dahhhhlings
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    • 1st Jan 18, 11:51 AM
    Frump to Fab 2018 - Fabulous Dahhhhlings 1st Jan 18 at 11:51 AM
    Good Morning my Lovelies.

    And welcome to the new bright and shiny Frump to Fab Thread.

    First of all a very big hello and welcome to everyone, newbies, lurkers and returners....and those undecided.

    Second let me wish you all “Happy New Year”.

    Let’s rock this one!!!!

    Well now where do we start this year. We have quite a history here now don’t we. I was thinking this morning about how the thread has developed so for the newbies......a brief potted history.

    A few years ago my son took a photo of me. I was horrified. I burst into tears. I could hardly believe my eyes at the image before me. But.......as we know the camera doesn’t lie and I couldn’t argue with what That image revealed.

    I went upstairs and stood in front of a full mirror and allowed the awful truth to sink in........never mind frump, I looked like a bag lady.

    In my defence.......it was not down to laziness, far from it. I was caring for my semi Paralysed terminally ill husband. My days were full on with caring duties. I scarcely had a spare minute, it was all I could do to shower and brush my teeth sometimes.

    All very noble of course but I had completely neglected myself in the process. I had forgotten the simple golden rule........we cannot care for others if we don’t care for ourselves. We cannot give love, if we don’t treat ourselves with love.

    How many women forget this simple fact. In our busy lives as mothers, daughters, sisters how often to we put ourselves last on that never ending “to do list”.

    As I stood and looked in that mirror I realised the folly of my ways and I resolved to “do something”. I wasn’t sure what exactly but I knew I had to make a start somewhere.

    So I started the first Frump to Fab Thread and, as they say, the rest is history. What started as a simple diary to help me make the necessary changes to get me out of “Frumpdom” has become a wonderful friendship group of likeminded women.

    Yes some of us are of a certain age but not all. Frumpdom is not the preserve of the middle aged woman who has “let herself go”. Becoming a frump can happen to anyone, young women, even teenagers.

    But here’s the good news .......it’s never too late to reverse the process, never too late to ditch the frump, never too late for the caterpillar to turn into a beautiful butterfly or for the ugly duckling to turn into a graceful and elegant swan.

    There are no rules to this thread except one.

    Kindness please........we don’t judge anyone here, we don’t get into futile pointless arguments, we don’t make nasty comments, we don’t indulge in sarcasm, we don’t bully others, we don’t play mind games and we don’t try to score points by making others feel small.

    So all that being said .....if you are ready to change your stars and become that alluring goddess you always longed to be, if you want to reclaim the energy and vitality that was once yours but has somehow disappeared then this is place for you.

    Let’s all get fabulous.

    Lesson no 1.

    Wear perfume, every day. Don’t save it for best. Get out all those unused smellies lurking in the back of the bathroom cabinet or bedside drawer and start using them.

    Smell divine......and fabulousity will follow. That’s a promise.

    A women who smells gorgeous is gorgeous. It’s the first step on your journey.

    Right I’m off to bathe in a sea of perfumed bubbles but first ..........
    Last edited by lessonlearned; 01-01-2018 at 12:06 PM.
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    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 5th Jan 18, 4:08 PM
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    LL hope you feel better very soon and that it doesn't affect you on your trip too much.

    Maman - how exciting - I am sure you will look fabulous . I haven't used Groupon for my Spa days as I like to go to the Balmer Lawn in Brockenhurst and have never seen any offers for it

    LuxuryWoman - prawn sandwich for breakfast . Like LL, I have vertical ridges down my nails but am lucky not to have any splitting - hope yours grows out soon. Speaking of nails, I think I will give mine a good pamper tonight and paint them with a nice bright polish

    Sashy - I have exactly the same problems with skinny jeans & also knee length boots - they are always much too tight over my calves - I am relatively slim (size 8 to 10) but cannot shift my chunky calves Someone once told me many years ago that my calf muscles were compressed due to wearing very high heels when I was in my teens/early twenties - maybe they were right

    mrsmotivated - sounds like you are doing well on the 'fabbing' front - I would be interested to hear how you get on with your eyebrows as I plucked mine to death when I was young and they are very sparse

    Have a great weekend all
    • Floss
    • By Floss 5th Jan 18, 4:45 PM
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    sneaks into the back of the room

    LL I second Maddie's advice re probiotics for your trip. Hope your nethers start to feel a bit more comfy soon

    Sukey baby steps to improve your life are definitely the way forward I'm another with that particular t-shirt from my first marriage, ŗs has DH from his previous relationship. Great spa plans - I tend to get one a year if lucky!

    Sashy it won't be the first time if DS did bite the dentist How is he settling at night?

    Maman only 50? What about us lot??

    Well I have a challenging evening ahead - DH has invited an old friend & wife round to eat & watch the FA Cup match on BBC tonight (DH is a Red, his mate is a Toffee). Fine, apart from the facts that I don't really know her, she is head of HR at the council I took VR from after raising a bullying grievance, and I am fairly sure we will struggle to make conversation while the guys are watching the footie. I can only hope she wants to watch it too I had better go & shower and sort out my hair (now short with lowlights alongside my natural highlights to balance it out!) and find something not blue to wear!
    • LaineyT
    • By LaineyT 5th Jan 18, 5:53 PM
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    Ouch LL hope those antibiotics kick in soon and make you more comfortable.

    Another fan here of Pilates, used to do a weekly lesson but that had to go once I got another horse (financially draining for sure ) The Pilates improved my core muscles no end and certainly helped my flexibility.

    Have gone for comfort today as have been visiting yards ahead of moving my girlie so warmth and dry feet was the order of the day! Now relaxing in yoga pants, long sleeved tee and a cosy hoodie, one of those soft cosy ones that get better the more you wash them, hardly glamorous but perfect for an evening in.

    How exciting with the party Maman a perfect excuse for a new outfit and maximum fabbing
    Hope the evening is better than expected Floss you never know you might get on well, if not there is always wine
    • maman
    • By maman 5th Jan 18, 7:13 PM
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    Thanks for good wishes. I'm sure I'll be asking for loads of advice.

    Just had to post quickly to advise floss . I'd be too busy swearing at the television to worry about entertaining the wife. No less than SIX of our players in the starting line ups on both sides. I'd be asking how they'd cope without the supermarket that is Southampton. We're the Waitrose of the Premier league!
    • sugarbaby125
    • By sugarbaby125 5th Jan 18, 9:09 PM
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    LL how annoying to find you are getting an ulcer in such a tender part of your body. Have you tried natural yoghurt? I have never had an ulcer, but remember from female friends and my sisters them swearing by natural yoghurt for healing in that tender area, as a natural, easily accessible effective 'ointment'

    I hope you have a fabulous time on your holiday.

    Maman, your intended party sounds great.
    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 5th Jan 18, 9:34 PM
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    Hi all

    Ouch LL that sounds really painful, hope you're feeling better soon. I had an episiotomy as DS was a forceps birth and the stitches weren't fun as any pain in that area is not pleasant!

    maman yes I think I'll have to do a lot of trying on with jeans, just a pain as I can't do it with DS in tow and don't really want to spend any childfree time shopping but can maybe do it in dribs & drabs.

    Your party sounds like fun, I'm sure you'll find something fabulous to wear.

    sukeyboo I'm exactly the same with knee high boots and I'm a size 12. It seems to be a family thing in my case, all the women on my mum's side have the same "sturdy" calves, even my really small slim sister has them. I always joke that it's from our Irish peasant ancestors so we had nice strong legs for working in the fields.

    Floss I have a friend who is a dentist and she specialises in children and phobics - she's very brave! I wouldn't be putting my hands in small children's mouths!

    DS has settled a lot better the last few nights but still waking up more than usual during the night because of his cold. I've got a wedge now for his cot to keep him at an angle to try and help with the congestion, so fingers crossed that helps him out tonight.

    Hope you have a nice time tonight, I find it really difficult & awkward to make conversation when I don't really know someone and/or we don't have much in common. I've often been accused of being "stuck up" in the past because I'll be quiet and assess the situation before speaking much. This seems to be less of an issue as I'm getting older but I do still feel a bit uneasy inside in these situations so feel your pain. I find gin helps.

    I'm just doing a bit of internet window shopping as DS in bed and DH out at the pub. It's my MIL's birthday at the end of the month and DH's birthday at the start of Feb so need to have a think about presents. DH is useless at suggesting things his mum might like, a lot of the time I have to guess or buy vouchers. My PIL live 300+ miles away from us so we don't tend to buy anything too big or bulky either as have to send it.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

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    • chanie
    • By chanie 5th Jan 18, 9:47 PM
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    I need to find some jeans and or jeggings that fit better, I have a real problem with them sliding down all the time instead of staying at my waist. I also have the added issue of "sturdy" calves so can't really wear skinny jeans at all as they get stuck at the aforementioned calves. I really don't have a pair of jeans/jeggings that fit properly and don't know where to start looking. I have to do a lot of kneeling/bending with DS & don't want the dreaded builder's bum situation.
    Originally posted by sashybo
    I mentioned on 2017 thread that I’d bought some jeggings from Uniqlo in the sale (reduced to £15). My weight goes on at my middle and I have noticed that my tights roll down. Well, the jeggings are high rise and amazing. As they sit over the widest part of my tummy, they don’t roll down. Plus, they won’t give you a builders bum either. I bought the dark denim and black. If you can get to a store in London, they will alter them for you (it’s free on trousers over £20, but as these were £15, it was £3).
    https://www.uniqlo.com/uk/en/product/women-heattech-high-rise-denim-leggings-trousers-401870.html?dwvar_401870_size=SMA003&dwvar_401870_ color=COL68&cgid=IDfull-length1321

    I did an online work out this morning. First one I’ve done in, I don’t know how long. I had a few errands to run in town and picked up some bras from M & S in the sale. The right fitting bra can do wonders for your figure. I’d recommend getting measured if you haven’t done so for a while. M & S use the old fashioned method, which gives women a much bigger back and smaller cup. See this article for advic.
    http://thebetterbracampaign.blogspot.co.uk/p/fitting-advice.html
    Last edited by chanie; 05-01-2018 at 9:53 PM.
    2018 challenge to save £1000
    Spend less - £142.66
    Live more - £1436.05
    My spending diary - Spend Less, Live More
    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5576179
    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 5th Jan 18, 9:58 PM
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    Thanks chanie I'll have a look at those - high rise sounds like a good plan. Unfortunately I'm unlikely to be anywhere near London for a good while, we sometimes travel down there on our way to visit the parents-in-law but that's about it really. It's good that they alter them though, wish I was nearer!

    I'm going to have a look at that bra fitting article too, my bras seem to fit/sit all wrong since having DS.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

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    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 5th Jan 18, 11:39 PM
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    Loving all the chat...

    You are a great bunch of gals. I can see we are going to have a great time on here this year.

    Wow. Maman great to have a party for your birthday, definitely think about a new dress. You have to be the Belle of the Ball.

    Feeling a bit more comfortable, the AB.s seem to be doing their thing, Yes I’ve got probiotics. SUgarbaby I have tried the yoghurt tip but didn’t help me much. Over the years I have tried just about everything. Salt baths help the most and ssssshhhh but when it gets really bad I go commando......My old doctor told me this. When I was shocked at the suggestion, he told me off for being a prude. thing is it works. My midwife friend told me the same thing too.

    I am afraid I am just an odd woman with my female bits. Cystitis, thrush, infected episiotomies, abscesses, ectopic pregnancy, you name it. My husband always used to make jokes about my “plumbing” but he was always very kind and understanding. Always knew when I needed a duvet, hot water bottle, a nice dvd and some tasty eats without me even having to ask. TBH I’ve never been physically strong, mental and emotional strength has always been my forte. We can’t have it all.

    Had a lovely evening with my eldest son. DIL was too poorly to come over. I have to say it is still quite nice to have some mother/son chats at times, he still likes to pick my brains and although I know he loves my DIL to pieces I think he likes to enjoy the “Englishness” of our chats. DIL is learning fast but there is still a huge cultural gulf for her to overcome. It’s such a shame my mum isn’t here to help, because being a non British national herself she would have been a huge help guiding DIL into the British way of life. It can be quite baffling to foreigners at times, especially our humour and funny little quirks, my Belgian friends and cousin often found us incomprehensible. And my mother was quite homesick for a long time. They would have got on like a house on fire.

    I think we Brits are great, much as I loved Spain I was always glad to come home. I missed British humour and culture. My friend has just come back to dear old Blighty after living 9 years in California. She got homesick in the end.

    Obviously we talked about the baby and parenthood etc. I was terribly touched when he said he wanted to give his children the kind of upbringing he had enjoyed, how he had always felt truly loved and cherished and how he had always looked up to us and wanted to emulate us.

    One thing we did chat about tonight was “sistergate” I had deliberately withheld a lot of what really went on because I did not want to colour my sons views or spoil their relationship with their aunt. But kids aren’t daft and he wanted to know. He was terribly shocked and really upset at the way both my father and my sister treated me. I could see the wheels turning in his brain as he took it all in. Its nice to know he still loves and needs his mum.....

    The old saying “a son is your son until he takes a wife, but your daughter is your daughter all of her life” is so true, the mother of sons has to Learn to let go graciously....and no girl is ever really good enough for our precious boys. But ...I think my DILs are nice girls, they adore my boys and dote on them, I have to smile when I see them all together. I can relax and think “my job is done and I think I did ok”.

    Anyway I’m ready to go.....don’t know how easy it will be to keep in touch but I’ll see what I can do. In the meantime, have fun and don’t forget to give yourself plenty of TLC and keep up the fabbing.

    Sorry I can’t do links (I am going to learn this year). So instead I will quote you a few song lyrics.

    “Wish me luck as you wave me goodbye
    Cheerio, here I go, on my way
    Wish me luck as you wave me goodbye
    Not a tear, but a cheer, make it gay”

    Gracie Fields......a real English gal if ever there was one.

    BTW - I have told the boys I want that song for my funeral......
    Last edited by lessonlearned; 06-01-2018 at 1:59 AM.
    • Floss
    • By Floss 6th Jan 18, 12:02 AM
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    LL not just English- Gracie was a Lancashire lass!!
    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 6th Jan 18, 1:58 AM
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    LL not just English- Gracie was a Lancashire lass!!
    Originally posted by Floss
    I know but I was careful not to appear too northern centric and alienate our southern belles.
    • maman
    • By maman 6th Jan 18, 1:00 PM
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    I know but I was careful not to appear too northern centric and alienate our southern belles.
    Originally posted by lessonlearned

    Not offended at all!

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7EUytEX_XkE


    I'm not really a Southern Belle. I'm an immigrant and I get homesick sometimes.


    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_zVFqKM6ZA
    • queengoth
    • By queengoth 6th Jan 18, 2:35 PM
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    Sashy - I have exactly the same problems with skinny jeans & also knee length boots - they are always much too tight over my calves - I am relatively slim (size 8 to 10) but cannot shift my chunky calves Someone once told me many years ago that my calf muscles were compressed due to wearing very high heels when I was in my teens/early twenties - maybe they were right

    Delurks to say, try Evans or another of the larger ladies stores for boots as they tend to do a wider calf fitting.

    Returns to lurkdom
    Shady pines ma, shady pines
    • BrassicWoman
    • By BrassicWoman 6th Jan 18, 5:55 PM
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    Delurks to say, try Evans or another of the larger ladies stores for boots as they tend to do a wider calf fitting.

    Returns to lurkdom
    Originally posted by queengoth

    DB wider fit shoes also do a range of calf sizes. Not the most glam but they have some longer styles!
    Jan 18 grocery challenge £105.13/ £150
    • maman
    • By maman 6th Jan 18, 6:52 PM
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    DB wider fit shoes also do a range of calf sizes. Not the most glam but they have some longer styles!
    Originally posted by BrassicWoman

    It's a good idea to go to specialists but I think sometimes it's worth trying on as they do vary from one brand to another. I find I don't wear my high boots that often these days as plenty of ankle boots around.


    I'd forgotten that you go to Balmer Lawn sukey. Do you go by yourself? I've never been for a spa day. I generally go to beauticians for massages, facials etc. and almost always from Groupon. I've only got one friend that's into spa days but she goes with her DH for a couples thing. They like Carey's Manor.


    DH has this idea for my birthday lunch party that he wants to put out photos of me over the years which will include most of the guests and ask them (just for a bit of fun, no prizes) where the photos were taken. I've obviously got veto over which photos used so I looked through a few yesterday. They range from child photos with my brothers up to the present day. I'm posting this because the photos taken when I gave up full time work and joined this thread are the most awful. I look knackered, fat and frumpy. BUT... the good news is that since joining in with LL on her brilliant idea I look and feel so much better now.


    What I'm most pleased about is the things I've introduced and over time have become habits. Number one has to be joining Slimming World and losing the weight I'd put on through eating rubbish (mostly in the car on my way to meetings) and rewarding myself with wine every night when I'd got through a long stressful day. Having done that I've done all sorts of other fabbing and now have a good routine.


    So for 2018 I'll be open to new ideas and tips but it's 'achievement' that will be my word theme. I'm not putting the bar too high but I want to end every day feeling I've done something with it and not just drifted through. That being said, the bar is relatively high if I look at it from a different stance as I do so many things as routine that would once have counted as an achievements!


    I've subscribed to your diaries sugarbaby and chanie. I'm impressed. I don't plan to quantify but looking at money saving that way has made me feel pleased with myself. Just on the food shopping, I know I save a load going to Aldi compared with doing all my shopping in Sainsbury's.
    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 6th Jan 18, 7:59 PM
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    Hi all,

    LL glad youíre feeling better & hope you have a brilliant holiday. Talking about mother-son time I always like to give my DH & his mum some alone time when she visits, especially as my PIL live so far away. DH is an only child and his mum really misses him although they chat on the phone quite often. I must admit I use their alone time to get my own alone time as can be hard staying in the same house as MIL & FIL for days at a time. I like my own space & they think itís a bit weird.

    Itís been 15 years & theyíre still not my biggest fans but we rub along well enough most of the time & they seem to have warmed to me more since DS was born. However there was a bit of baby stealing going on the first time they came to visit after he was born & I was in a rage because of the hormones and in the possessive state of ďHeís MY babyĒ. So I wasnít too happy, especially when DH let my MIL take the baby out in his pram without asking me & before we had even taken him out in the pram. I was crying tears of rage - definitely hormonal! Weíve all calmed down now & Iím quite happy to hand DS over when she visits as it means I can do other things.

    chanie I have ordered two pairs of the uniqlo jeggings in two different sizes as not sure what the fit is like but as they do free returns I thought I might as well give it a go. Thanks for the recommendation.

    I also had a read of the bra fitting link & according to the measuring method on there I should be a 32E! I usually wear a 36B so time to go & try some bras on I think.

    Thanks for the boot recs queengoth & BrassicWoman I think the ones I have now are from Marks, they have the elasticated panel for a bit more stretch but can still be a struggle. I also have calf length Doc Martens & they are ok, again still a struggle but I find if I buy real leather it stretches to accommodate my sturdy calves eventually. As maman says, worth trying different brands.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

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    Loan £3334.75, CC 0% BT £832, Car loans £22,879.88

    Have a Debt Free Diary to try & keep spending in check.
    • BrassicWoman
    • By BrassicWoman 7th Jan 18, 9:26 AM
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    Thanks for the boot recs queengoth & BrassicWoman I think the ones I have now are from Marks, they have the elasticated panel for a bit more stretch but can still be a struggle.
    Originally posted by sashybo
    If you are feeling brave you can hold the leather over steam from a hot kettle and then stretch it out a bit round a chair leg... friend of mine used to do that in a shoe shop (many years ago!)
    Jan 18 grocery challenge £105.13/ £150
    • Ellsbel
    • By Ellsbel 7th Jan 18, 10:13 AM
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    Hello lovely ladies, and a belated Happy New Year to all of you
    Iím about to catch up properly on the new thread and Iíll be back later to post properly and set some goals for the year ahead - top of the list will be to post more regularly!
    Back soon x
    • Ellsbel
    • By Ellsbel 7th Jan 18, 11:32 AM
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    Phew!! All caught up on the thread now. Lovely to read everyone’s goals and see some new posters - hello to you all
    LL enjoy your trip - hope the antibiotics get you better quickly.
    Maman the party sounds fab - what a great idea of your DH’s and a good excuse to get really glammed up
    Chanie and sugar - I’ll subscribe to your threads and look forward to following them.
    Sorry not to respond to every post but I have read and enjoyed them all.
    I’ve made great progress with the weight loss and am already feeling so much better but still have a way to go do that will be an ongoing goal this year.
    I’ll commit to doing a course this year too, on something completely ne to me.
    Like Chanie, I’ll read more books - my reading has fallen by the wayside these past months - and also watch more films ( going to get hold of Fried Green Tomatoes... as I’ve never got round to watching it and am keen to see it now)
    I’ve a phrase, rather than a word for 2018 - “I’m good enough” - good enough to wear that expensive perfume just”because” and not save it for “best” , to get regular manicures even when I’m not going anywhere special - just basically to treat myself as though I’m as important as everyone else, if you see what I mean?
    Here’s to a great 2018
    • indiepanda
    • By indiepanda 7th Jan 18, 3:38 PM
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    I have put this book into a virtual shopping basket, after reading your post I think I will check out, I have seen his TV programmes and have been so impressed with his way of treating people, also his compassion and understanding.
    Originally posted by maddiemay
    I haven't seen him (Dr Chatterjee) on the TV but he seemed really down to earth and sensible when I saw him interviewed by the couple that put together the plan I followed and his TED talk is really worth watching.

    Just to let you know.......two programmes which might interest you.

    Tomorrow night, bbc 2. Tom Kerridge: Lose Weight for Good. Followed by Trust Me Iím a Doctor, Michael Moseley. I think they are a new series so I will set up them up to record whilst Iím away.

    Another one I watched recently is Sabrina. I watched both versions. Itís about a shy gawky girl who has a crush on her fathers employers playboy son. Her dad sends her to Paris. She comes back as a beautiful soign! Paris chic woman and creates mayhem with both brothers running after her. Itís great fun.
    Originally posted by lessonlearned
    Thanks for the programme recommendation. I have set my Sky box to record, although I will miss some of it when I have to unplug in a couple of weeks to get the cupboard repainted. Probably find on iPlayer though.

    I adore Audrey Hepburn, she was just so elegant. Couldn't persuade myself to watch the remake, for me nothing could live up to Audrey! She came across as being beautiful inside and out.

    Iíve made great progress with the weight loss and am already feeling so much better but still have a way to go do that will be an ongoing goal this year.

    Iíve a phrase, rather than a word for 2018 - ďIím good enoughĒ - good enough to wear that expensive perfume justĒbecauseĒ and not save it for ďbestĒ , to get regular manicures even when Iím not going anywhere special - just basically to treat myself as though Iím as important as everyone else, if you see what I mean?
    Hereís to a great 2018
    Originally posted by Ellsbel
    Good to hear you are making progress with the weight loss, it really does make such a difference to how one feels, both physically and mentally. Like you I have got part way to where I want to be but 2018's goal will be to finish the job off.

    I like your phrase, think it's a good one. I can't recall quite which book it was in but the author was talking about how we often try to fill a hole in ourselves caused by telling ourselves we are not enough and that might be with food, or with over-shopping or any number of other self destructive habits. It's also linked to a tendency to say "I will be happy when..." (I've got the promotion, the new house, lost the weight, found a new boyfriend etc.) The view is that most westerners are taught to chase success as a route to happiness but actually it should be the other way round - being happy is the route to success. Easier said than done of course, but I am getting better at focusing on the positives - e.g. being proud that I have largely kept off the weight I lost last year rather than being annoyed with myself for having paused part way through and not having finished the job off in 2017 when I could have done.

    I have largely been back on phase 1 of Fitter 16 this week (barring new year's day). They've set up a Facebook support group and allowed those of us who bought the plan last year to re-set our stats on the monitoring site and start again if we want to, so I am going to set my stats tomorrow and start the plan officially. I am already feeling better for eating more home cooked food and cutting down on wheat / cutting out dairy.

    Broke dry January on the first day of the year by having the free post curry drink I was offered when our for lunch with my friends but am now planning to stay off the drink for the time period of the plan - I think it's the first 3 months at least! I didn't actually miss it much last year so I don't think it will be too much of hardship.

    Decided to give the internet dating another go. I hadn't intended to but on Wednesday I was listening to something on the radio saying that this time was the busiest time of the year for internet dating and it occurred to me if I am going to do it at any time this year, this is the best time to find someone decent. I swear the best men get snapped up quickly. There are so many guys my age who look way older. Anyway, I have one date lined up for Tuesday evening and another hopeful for Thursday (depends on his work).

    Been busy this weekend clearing the lounge ready for the renovations. I've remembered this time to take some before photos so I can compare and contrast afterwards. Just got to get the bigger / heavier bits of furniture into the dining room with the help of my friends who are coming over soon and then will be ready for the plasterer to start tomorrow morning. It's interesting seeing the room with less stuff in... making me think hard about what I put back in post renovations. I've whittled my CDs and DVDs down already but I want to give it another go before I put the stuff back, bit like I did with my bedroom when that was renovated.

    Am going to be having to juggle my money around over the coming months. I don't want to take more out of my savings than I have to as I struggle to get round to putting it back again but I do have more than enough to pay for all the work so I don't really want to pay lots of interest on an overdraft just to not touch my savings.

    It won't hurt for me to reign my horns in a bit while I try to replace the savings. I managed to resist the sales and don't feel at all hard done by, I still have lots of nice things to enjoy and in my new much tidier bedroom it's a lot easier to find them and appreciate them. Am changing my mind set for possessions to focus more on need than want, which is novel for me. Not saying there won't be a few frivolous/fun purchases in there, but a few less than before.

    Anyway, better sign off before my doorbell goes. Enjoy the rest of your weekend fabbers. x
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