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    • hannahroberts1985
    • By hannahroberts1985 1st Jan 18, 7:09 AM
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    Parents seperatibg on bad terms who has the right to stay in the family home.
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    • 1st Jan 18, 7:09 AM
    Parents seperatibg on bad terms who has the right to stay in the family home. 1st Jan 18 at 7:09 AM
    Morning guys,

    After a bit of advice for my sister. Long story short she found out her partner was having an affair, upon telling him the relationship was over he took a knife locked himself in the bathroom. He didn't do anything. He drinks a lot and is quiet emotionally unstable. He moved out after she asked him to a week ago but is not saying he will be moving back in Tuesday. They have a mortgage on the house 50/50. They have two children 1 & 4. Downs she have any rights to stop him moving back in until she has time to rent somewhere and move out?

    Also I read the pinned posts and there were outdated links to websites with money advice etc. Does anyone have a link to an updated version of this.

    Thanks for any advice.
    Hannah
    Deposit £13308 £20,000 66%
    emergency fund:£0/£1000
    Christmas fund £
    B/day £15
    Noodle: me: 614 DP:576 Clear: 499 DP: 414 mse:970/58%
    Family loan £7000/£6375
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    • Comms69
    • By Comms69 5th Jan 18, 12:43 PM
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    Men are more likely to be perpetrators of abuse when the victim is male too.
    Originally posted by Red-Squirrel
    I'm not sure that's true. But happy to be corrected - is there source material?
    • borkid
    • By borkid 6th Jan 18, 8:37 PM
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    True, if it's not included in the stats - im not sure - I suspect it's still a small percentage.
    Originally posted by Comms69
    I would suspect the opposite. If there was a over 16 year old female in a family ( not the mother) I would think it highly likely that a male who abuses his partner(mother) would also abuse the daughter. I've no figures but from people I've met, families where the mother is abused the rest of the family also suffers some form of abuse.
    • Comms69
    • By Comms69 8th Jan 18, 9:46 AM
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    I would suspect the opposite. If there was a over 16 year old female in a family ( not the mother) I would think it highly likely that a male who abuses his partner(mother) would also abuse the daughter. I've no figures but from people I've met, families where the mother is abused the rest of the family also suffers some form of abuse.
    Originally posted by borkid
    I see what you mean. Im not sure if the statistics exist for that.


    It's unclear if the statistic I found includes family member, it simply says women over the age of 16.
    • Red-Squirrel
    • By Red-Squirrel 8th Jan 18, 3:23 PM
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    I'm not sure that's true. But happy to be corrected - is there source material?
    Originally posted by Comms69
    Google it if you're actually interested, its true and very easy to find.
    • Comms69
    • By Comms69 8th Jan 18, 3:31 PM
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    Google it if you're actually interested, its true and very easy to find.
    Originally posted by Red-Squirrel


    The reason I say I struggle with that is this:


    40% of victims are men.
    2% of men are gay.


    doesn't really add up to the main statistics.


    I'm happy to read a link or a document, but without being funny, im not going to google it and pick out the same article you are talking about in the thousands of results.
    • enthusiasticsaver
    • By enthusiasticsaver 8th Jan 18, 9:19 PM
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    Hopefully by now your sister has got some professional legal advice as that would be my suggestion. Unfortunately they have to be homeless to be given council accommodation but she should go down to the housing office and lay it on the line they cannot stay with your mum as if the council think there is alternative accommodation on offer they will not help her.
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