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I find it a bit odd that she doesnt want to take your name? I would worry.

6.76% • 15 votes

Thats fine no reason to.

83.78% • 186 votes

Should take your surname

9.46% • 21 votes

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222 votes in total.

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    • consumers_revenge
    • By consumers_revenge 23rd Dec 17, 11:59 AM
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    Wife taking surname
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    • 23rd Dec 17, 11:59 AM
    Wife taking surname 23rd Dec 17 at 11:59 AM
    Hi,


    We have been talking about marriage recently ( weve been together for a long time and also 2 children )


    Whats come up is she wants to keep her own surname which I find odd and a bit disappointing. Also makes me believe shes not that interested.


    So out to you boys and girls what are your opinions please?
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    • Tabbytabitha
    • By Tabbytabitha 1st Jan 18, 9:09 PM
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    is the independent a US paper then?
    Originally posted by consumers_revenge
    As you couldn't be bothered to attribute your quotation it could've come from anywhere and it certainly talks about American women taking their husbands' name.
    • consumers_revenge
    • By consumers_revenge 1st Jan 18, 10:52 PM
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    happy 2018 tatitha....
    • moneyistooshorttomention
    • By moneyistooshorttomention 3rd Jan 18, 1:26 PM
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    moneyistooshorttomention
    Wondering if there's a reason OP keeps on making a post on here (according to the main board of sub-forums) - but when one looks it up to see what he has said = it's never actually there.

    To my knowledge that's happened twice today.

    If you're gonna make posts - it might help if you stop deleting them shortly afterwards....
    New Year's Resolution already made -

    Don't get mad....get firm ...
    • Ames
    • By Ames 3rd Jan 18, 1:53 PM
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    Ames
    Wondering if there's a reason OP keeps on making a post on here (according to the main board of sub-forums) - but when one looks it up to see what he has said = it's never actually there.

    To my knowledge that's happened twice today.

    If you're gonna make posts - it might help if you stop deleting them shortly afterwards....
    Originally posted by moneyistooshorttomention
    I think it's a forum glitch - I've seen it happen on quite a few threads over the last couple of months. The first was on the benefits board and a very well respected, long standing member.
    Unless I say otherwise 'you' means the general you not you specifically.
    • NeilCr
    • By NeilCr 3rd Jan 18, 1:57 PM
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    I think it's a forum glitch - I've seen it happen on quite a few threads over the last couple of months. The first was on the benefits board and a very well respected, long standing member.
    Originally posted by Ames
    Isnít it to do with the fact that itís a poll.

    Every time someone votes (but doesnít post) the thread gets bumped up. You think there has been a new post and see the name - but, in fact, all it is is the last actual post on the thread. There is no new post
    • LilElvis
    • By LilElvis 3rd Jan 18, 1:58 PM
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    Wondering if there's a reason OP keeps on making a post on here (according to the main board of sub-forums) - but when one looks it up to see what he has said = it's never actually there.

    To my knowledge that's happened twice today.

    If you're gonna make posts - it might help if you stop deleting them shortly afterwards....
    Originally posted by moneyistooshorttomention
    I think when someone votes in the poll it bumps the thread up again.
    • consumers_revenge
    • By consumers_revenge 3rd Jan 18, 10:11 PM
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    Happy for the thread to be locked admins, it's run its course
    • Red-Squirrel
    • By Red-Squirrel 4th Jan 18, 4:11 PM
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    Happy for the thread to be locked admins, it's run its course
    Originally posted by consumers_revenge
    If you want it locked you'll have to message them, they won't read this.
    • consumers_revenge
    • By consumers_revenge 4th Jan 18, 6:17 PM
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    Not really that fussed tbh honest. :-)
    • Janeybee
    • By Janeybee 7th Jan 18, 1:27 AM
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    Janeybee
    I didn't take my husband's surname and we've been married for 10 years and now have a baby. I just wanted to keep the name I was born with as it's part of my identity, there's no need to worry about your partner not taking your name. Some people just like their names!
    • jimbo747
    • By jimbo747 13th Jan 18, 6:19 PM
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    Wife and I double-barreled our names together. What were 2 ordinary names now sound very posh too!
    • kimplus8
    • By kimplus8 13th Jan 18, 10:10 PM
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    I was married (divorced now) and I hated taking his surname, I felt like part of my identity was being wiped away. If I married again I would keep my maiden name.
    Member of £1000 Emergency fund Club Check out my Debt Free Diary
    BR and living with it!
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 14th Jan 18, 8:27 AM
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    Pollycat
    I was married (divorced now) and I hated taking his surname, I felt like part of my identity was being wiped away. If I married again I would keep my maiden name.
    Originally posted by kimplus8
    So why did you?
    • kimplus8
    • By kimplus8 14th Jan 18, 7:38 PM
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    Because I felt I had to, I was in a very toxic relationship and I did as I was told pretty much. Until I woke up! Iím stronger now and would never let that happen again
    Member of £1000 Emergency fund Club Check out my Debt Free Diary
    BR and living with it!
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