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    • 117pauline
    • By 117pauline 4th Dec 17, 4:00 PM
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    Mindful or Mind full?
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    • 4th Dec 17, 4:00 PM
    Mindful or Mind full? 4th Dec 17 at 4:00 PM
    So....... life appears to have changed today!

    I came downstairs to a letter from my partner saying he needed time away. After 11 plus years. Not sure how I feel.

    At the moment I need to get a job. Not as easy as that sounds as I have quite a problem leaving the house at all. I am waiting to get to the top of the list for some CBT help. I also have some chronic conditions too which have hindered our relationship.

    As you can imagine, I am not sure what will happen. My plan is to do nothing rash but try to pay down my loan as much as possible. Then I am going to have to find somewhere to live etc.

    I did say I was going to start a diary so I think this is one hell of a way to get started!

    Pauline
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    • Seasidegal58
    • By Seasidegal58 13th Jan 18, 7:55 PM
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    So sorry to hear you’ve been poorly Pauline, what with your painful hips and the cold. I hope you’re now on the way to feeling better.

    You’ve had a productive time at home at least and well done on the food! And there’s no rush with volunteering if you don’t feel the time is yet right.

    Perhaps you could google the net to see if there is any help on there in composing your CV?

    Have a peaceful evening.
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    • Sun Addict
    • By Sun Addict 13th Jan 18, 7:57 PM
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    You sound more positive than you used to. There was a cheeky squirrel in our garden in the spring sitting under the table while I had coffee and biscuits, waiting for crumbs.

    Could it be the cold making your hips hurt?

    Hope you have a good weekend xx
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    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 13th Jan 18, 8:09 PM
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    Feeding birds and squirrels is never a waste of time Pauline, especially if it gives you pleasure .

    Sorry you've got a cold, I had a horrible one a week before Christmas and it really saps your energy.

    With regard to your CV, could you say you just wanted some time out? or a career break? or time to do a bit of voluntary work? (you said you used to volunteer at a food bank).

    Maybe a different type of voluntary work would be less challenging than the food bank. DS1 did some conservation voluntary work once. There are lots of different kinds and it would ease you in more gently than going straight into a paid job.

    Have a good evening .
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 13th Jan 18, 8:11 PM
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    Sorry to hear about your hip.
    Being in pain all the time is not the best.
    Take care.
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    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 13th Jan 18, 8:13 PM
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    Maybe not conservation work with your painful hip but that was just an example.
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    • Cherryfudge
    • By Cherryfudge 14th Jan 18, 1:31 AM
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    Hope you're soon feeling better.

    I have eaten properly for the last two days. My halo is very tight.
    Originally posted by 117pauline
    • 117pauline
    • By 117pauline 14th Jan 18, 9:34 PM
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    Spent most of the day listening to BBC iPlayer. I find it very soothing when I am not feeling well.

    Again, I have eaten well. Didn't manage to get outside though.

    Need to make my list

    Pauline
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 14th Jan 18, 9:37 PM
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    You have managed something & thats great.
    Take care of you.
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    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 14th Jan 18, 9:42 PM
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    You have managed something & thats great.
    Take care of you.
    Originally posted by beanielou
    Totally agree, hope you're feeling better soon x
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    • Cumbria lass
    • By Cumbria lass 14th Jan 18, 9:43 PM
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    Hope you are on the mend soon x
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    • jwil
    • By jwil 15th Jan 18, 4:28 PM
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    Hope you feel better soon Pauline xx
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    • Sun Addict
    • By Sun Addict 15th Jan 18, 9:02 PM
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    Get well soon xx
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    • Shelbi
    • By Shelbi 15th Jan 18, 10:47 PM
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    Hi hun ...just delurking to wish you better..hope you feel better soon xX
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    • 117pauline
    • By 117pauline 16th Jan 18, 12:54 PM
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    Well, I had to go out as I had finished the milk. After all, a woman can not live without a mug of tea.

    I thought I was a bit better but whilst out I couldn't decide on passing out or being sick. Then of course I started panicking which made it even worse.

    However now home and tucked up with mugs of tea. Feeling much more in control but whatever I've got, it is really rather annoying.

    I have a problem in the garden and I think its down to the squirrels. I noticed that there were no fat balls in the feeder for the second time in two days so I refilled it. This morning, empty again. How the hell are they emptying it without knocking it off the tree? A squirrel conundrum.

    At least I have already achieved 11 NSDs in January.

    I'm waiting for a delivery of magnesium flakes. I read somewhere they can be used in baths to give some relief to aches and pains. I am willing to try anything to get me back on the road to recovery.

    Take care everyone, thanks for popping by
    Pauline
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    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 16th Jan 18, 9:19 PM
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    Oh no poor you . Is it flu you've got? Could you have ordered an online delivery?

    I hope you feel better soon.
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    • Cherryfudge
    • By Cherryfudge 16th Jan 18, 11:03 PM
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    Sending get well wishes. Well done for getting out for the essential stuff but I'm sorry you felt so ill.

    I have Epsom salts for the bath, which I think are essentially magnesium. I only tried them the other day for the first time and didn't get too achy after going running, but I'm still new to them. Hope it helps you! I believe magnesium deficiency is quite common.
    • fay66
    • By fay66 17th Jan 18, 6:44 PM
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    get well soon, there are alot of bugs around, plenty of toast and butter and tea is good )
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    • Cumbria lass
    • By Cumbria lass 17th Jan 18, 7:19 PM
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    Get better soon Pauline . Maybe get some long life milk in for emergencies. X
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 17th Jan 18, 8:16 PM
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    Take care of you xx
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    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
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    • Seasidegal58
    • By Seasidegal58 18th Jan 18, 8:39 PM
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    Take it nice and easy Pauline. Well done on the NSDs
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