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    • frannyj543
    • By frannyj543 3rd Dec 17, 7:57 PM
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    Developing a drink problem
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    Developing a drink problem 3rd Dec 17 at 7:57 PM
    Hey folks.

    I'm not someone who goes out every weekend or parties too hard. Yes maybe 7/8 years ago I did. However now when I go out I often drink to I almost cant stand. I dont feel it coming on its like I go from tipsey to full drunk at the flick of a switch.

    When I go out it tends to be all or nothing so I often end up drunk and can hardly remember things. My legs also seem to give up on me.

    Anyone else decide to give up alcohol cause of these things. It's happening more regularly when I was younger I went out didn't feel I drank anymore than now but I was ok. Now I'm falling.

    Im starting to get worried that I may be developing a drink problem. This looks like a sign?
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    Hey folks.

    I'm not someone who goes out every weekend or parties too hard. Yes maybe 7/8 years ago I did. However now when I go out I often drink to I almost cant stand. I dont feel it coming on its like I go from tipsey to full drunk at the flick of a switch.

    When I go out it tends to be all or nothing so I often end up drunk and can hardly remember things. My legs also seem to give up on me.

    Anyone else decide to give up alcohol cause of these things. It's happening more regularly when I was younger I went out didn't feel I drank anymore than now but I was ok. Now I'm falling.

    Im starting to get worried that I may be developing a drink problem. This looks like a sign?
    Originally posted by frannyj543
    If you drink until you fall down and can't remember things, I'd say you already have a drink problem.
    • Sephs
    • By Sephs 4th Dec 17, 12:39 PM
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    I have experienced this a few times and it's been enough to really frighten me into rethinking my actions.

    I have considered going teetotal but instead I'm going to try to slow down on my drinks and drink plenty of water in between alcoholic drinks. Certain conditions can make you more sensitive to alcohol and I've found that's the case with me. I just can't drink like I used to! Plus I have multiple chronic conditions and a hangover only exacerbates my symptoms.

    Are you on any medications or do you have any health conditions that could be to blame for the sudden drunkenness?
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    • By Soph1988 4th Dec 17, 9:51 PM
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    As I've got older my tolerance for drinking has lowered. I'm not sure if its age or just because it happens less often now, but if I haven't had a big meal midday and have a pint, half way through the pint I'll be tipsy.

    I would suggest you maybe go for far weaker drinks if you HAVE to drink - spritzers? Shandy?
    If you really feel you need to get so drunk you can't keep yourself safe and don't remember what you did, I'd suggest you get some help as to why you feel the need to do this. Talk to your GP.
    • frannyj543
    • By frannyj543 5th Dec 17, 1:54 PM
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    Thanks for the replies. No not on any medication. I would classify myself as a fit young male. Run 5km in around 20 mins.

    It seems more frequently now. It's probably a combination of factors.

    I dont drink anywhere near the amount I used to when early 20s. So my body isnt used to the volumes anymore.

    I live abroad so the measures are bigger here.

    I also live in a country where a speak a little of the language so when everyone's talking I'm drinking.

    However I do believe I use alcohol to feel happier in my surroundings and I dont seem to have a warning sign limit. I remember being tipsey during the night but the rest after tipsey is a blackout. It's worrying.

    I'm going to give drink this Christmas a wide berth as I'm worried I may blackout after 5-6 beers. My problem is I can have 3 beer and stop and go home however if it passes 4 or 5 that's me wanting to stay out for the night

    It's a sad way to be with alcohol. I also have family that had drink problems and depression issues so I fear i could be next.
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    Thanks for the replies. No not on any medication. I would classify myself as a fit young male. Run 5km in around 20 mins.
    Originally posted by frannyj543
    Are you working out and exercising more than you used to? This might also play a factor.
    • Sephs
    • By Sephs 5th Dec 17, 2:01 PM
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    I think moderation is key, so why not have a soft drink between each alcoholic drink and see how you go? I've found this works really well for me. I drink brandy and coke so nobody is aware that I'm drinking a soft drink in between, and it stops any awkward pressure.
    • jenniewb
    • By jenniewb 5th Dec 17, 2:07 PM
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    OP it's only you that will be able to tell if you've got a problem with alcohol, weather it's depending on it to get through the day or not knowing how to stop (it should just be reducing your intake but if you are struggling to do this because you feel compelled to drink or you "forget" to cut back or whatever) or if it's not being able to stop once you start...if it feels like more of the alcohol than you in your actions to drink/cut back then you know that alcohol is a problem.


    If you need support, it is there- various charities and also via your GP (though the latter will have a waiting list), if you've tried to stop, cut back or deal with the side effects of having too much to drink repeatedly, I'd strongly advise you get help and also get support, weather that be via a support group or alcohol support counsellor, I head too much about people who think they've got things under control but on the outside it looks like anything but. Help is available, if you need it, get it whilst it is still available.
    • frannyj543
    • By frannyj543 5th Dec 17, 7:16 PM
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    No I'm not working out anymore. I have no urges to drink mid week and it wouldn't bother me to go a month without it.

    My problem is the 4th or 5th beer I want more. I want to stay out and nothing triggers to say.... wow your drunk here get a shandy instead or a vodka.

    I'm going to just give it a miss for a while. I'm starting to not trust myself with it. I dont fight or act bad I just end up staggering home and the odd time falling and waking up with a bump or bruise.
    • jenniewb
    • By jenniewb 6th Dec 17, 3:57 AM
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    No I'm not working out anymore. I have no urges to drink mid week and it wouldn't bother me to go a month without it.

    My problem is the 4th or 5th beer I want more. I want to stay out and nothing triggers to say.... wow your drunk here get a shandy instead or a vodka.

    I'm going to just give it a miss for a while. I'm starting to not trust myself with it. I dont fight or act bad I just end up staggering home and the odd time falling and waking up with a bump or bruise.
    Originally posted by frannyj543
    I hope you're right and you got this, but I worry that it may feel harder than you think, but it's good that you can recognise something isn't quite right.


    Maybe cut back/cut out for a few weeks, see how it feels. But don't expect it to have made you good as new- IME of others, you can stop but once you start again, even if it's been years, it can feel like you've just picked up where you stopped before so bare it in mind it may be something you always need to watch.


    It can feel harder when there is an emotional need to escape or forget about things. If you think this is happening, look at what you are otherwise struggling with so it doesn't pose a risk in the future.
    • frannyj543
    • By frannyj543 6th Dec 17, 1:11 PM
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    Yeah emotional wise this 2 years has been a rollercoaster which probably hasn't helped matters.

    -I had some financial difficulties
    -I became financially well after 1 year of saving
    -I moved abroad with partner and opened a business
    -I struggled with identity here was uncertain if this is were I want to be.
    -my mother passed away suddenly. It happened to be around a time when we had had a stupid falling out for a couple of weeks and both too stubborn to say sorry.
    -then returned couldn't sleep, used drinking as an outlet at weekends had difficulties with my relationship and frustrations that I was somewhere I didn't see I wanted to spend my future.
    To date I am still worried about what to do with my mother's house that still has a mortgage I need to decide very soon and also I am at an age where really my next move whether that is to stay here in my new country and buy or to buy at home is making my life abit difficult.

    It's nothing more than the average person has to face but most of them probably think drink wouldn't be the best route. As i say I certainly have no cravings for drink. There's times I don't drink for 5-6 weeks. But when I decide to go out I usually go out with the intention to get drunk and it ends up worse than 5-6 years ago. Like a trigger hits self explode after 6 beers.
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