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    • iammumtoone
    • By iammumtoone 3rd Dec 17, 5:55 PM
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    gift for someone you don't know
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    • 3rd Dec 17, 5:55 PM
    gift for someone you don't know 3rd Dec 17 at 5:55 PM
    I want to give someone a gift who I pay for a service, they provide a good service so want to get a small gift this at christmas.

    Trouble is I don't know them so no idea what to get. Even wine or chocolates I don't know if they drink or could be on a diet!

    Any suggestions budget £10 max

    Thanks
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    • Tabbytabitha
    • By Tabbytabitha 3rd Dec 17, 9:32 PM
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    Iíve lost count of the times Iíve been offloaded with somebody elseís unwanted wine. Iím sure you got a thanks whenever youíve given it as a gift - doesnít mean that it hasnít joined the heap of unwanted gifts in the cupboard under the stairs though.
    Originally posted by onlyroz
    Even if people don't enjoy an occasional glass of wine themselves (and it is just before Christmas) they can always take it to a party or when they visit friends for a meal. I wouldn't describe that as "offloading"it.
    • trailingspouse
    • By trailingspouse 3rd Dec 17, 9:33 PM
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    It really is the thought that counts.

    As you don't really know the person, you need to go with the usual mainstream options. Most people would appreciate a bottle of wine, or a box of chocolates, a bunch of flowers or a plant. And even if they don't drink, or whatever, they will still appreciate the thought.
    • NeilCr
    • By NeilCr 3rd Dec 17, 9:53 PM
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    Iíve lost count of the times Iíve been offloaded with somebody elseís unwanted wine. Iím sure you got a thanks whenever youíve given it as a gift - doesnít mean that it hasnít joined the heap of unwanted gifts in the cupboard under the stairs though.
    Originally posted by onlyroz
    Eh

    Iíd never give someone an unwanted bottle of wine. Iíd buy a decent one.

    Of course if your friends/acquaintances take a different approach....
    • Kynthia
    • By Kynthia 4th Dec 17, 12:32 AM
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    I know gift cards and their disadvantages have already been discussed. However I know some people who have been bought a Costa gift card and that seems like an easy gift. Most people will pop into a coffee shop, there are plenty of them around so generally people don't have to go out of their way, and there's no stress about what to buy with the gift card that's the correct value as coffee shops are full of low value items.

    Otherwise a Yankee candle will either be appreciated or easily regifted.
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    • Spendless
    • By Spendless 4th Dec 17, 7:13 AM
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    Iíve lost count of the times Iíve been offloaded with somebody elseís unwanted wine. Iím sure you got a thanks whenever youíve given it as a gift - doesnít mean that it hasnít joined the heap of unwanted gifts in the cupboard under the stairs though.
    Originally posted by onlyroz
    And do you drink it? If you do it means it has been appreciated by someone else. If you don't then why accept it from the off loader 'that's really kind of you, but I've already got loads/don't like that brand'. At the very least it could be donated to some fundraising group for a raffle prize and then at least turns in to raising money.
    • Ms Chocaholic
    • By Ms Chocaholic 4th Dec 17, 8:56 AM
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    Iíve lost count of the times Iíve been offloaded with somebody elseís unwanted wine. Iím sure you got a thanks whenever youíve given it as a gift - doesnít mean that it hasnít joined the heap of unwanted gifts in the cupboard under the stairs though.
    Originally posted by onlyroz

    Sounds like you're complaining
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    • tealady
    • By tealady 4th Dec 17, 6:27 PM
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    Personally if someone gave me a nice card with cash in it I would be delighted.
    It would mean I could do whatever I wanted rather than have to appreciative for something that isn't me.
    Many years ago I was very hard up so cash at Christmas was greatly appreciated, tbh I often ending up regifting or selling stuff to try to keep within my budget,
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    • Spider In The Bath
    • By Spider In The Bath 5th Dec 17, 8:52 AM
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    Eh

    Iíd never give someone an unwanted bottle of wine. Iíd buy a decent one.

    Of course if your friends/acquaintances take a different approach....
    Originally posted by NeilCr
    If you gave me wine it would be unwanted. Cheap, or expensive it does not matter as I do not like wine.

    No matter how much you paid for it I would give it away anyway.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 5th Dec 17, 9:21 AM
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    I know gift cards and their disadvantages have already been discussed. However I know some people who have been bought a Costa gift card and that seems like an easy gift. Most people will pop into a coffee shop, there are plenty of them around so generally people don't have to go out of their way, and there's no stress about what to buy with the gift card that's the correct value as coffee shops are full of low value items.
    Originally posted by Kynthia
    And that's something that for me would be wasted.
    I don't go into any of these coffee shops.

    It just goes to show what a nightmare it is buying gifts for someone you don't know well.
    Last edited by Pollycat; 05-12-2017 at 9:50 AM.
    • Top Girl
    • By Top Girl 5th Dec 17, 9:29 AM
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    On the flip side, if you gave me wine, it would never be unwanted. I'd save it until Top Baby is born now, obviously, but red and white can always be cooked with.


    However, I have sensitive skin and you'd be lucky to stumble across a bath set I could use.
    • NeilCr
    • By NeilCr 5th Dec 17, 11:30 AM
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    If you gave me wine it would be unwanted. Cheap, or expensive it does not matter as I do not like wine.

    No matter how much you paid for it I would give it away anyway.
    Originally posted by Spider In The Bath
    But, of course, youíd appreciate the gesture wouldnít you? The use of the word unwanted in my post was in response to the suggestion that the gift of wine would be a cast off from me.

    If I knew you well then, clearly, I wouldnít give you wine. In the circumstances outlined in the OP where it would appear that the eating/drinking habits of the person they are thinking of giving a present to are unknown then it becomes more difficult to judge.
    • KiKi
    • By KiKi 5th Dec 17, 11:57 AM
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    People have sometimes bought me a bottle of wine as a thank you for things I've volunteered for. I don't drink, but I'm grateful for the thought - and it means I can take it to parties I'm invited to where we're asked to bring a bottle, or I can regift it.
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    • engineer amy
    • By engineer amy 5th Dec 17, 1:43 PM
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    a few of my friends are very involved in a few local charities and organise fundraising nights/quizzes etc during which they hold ballots or tombola style giveaways. They always ask for donations for these and I gladly provide any gifts that I have been given and wont use. Things like bottles of port/sherry that I cant stand, boxed gift sets of toiletries (im quite fussy about scents) etc.
    Im usually able to donate a full shopping bag of stuff and look quite generous in doing so - in my head im clearing out clutter that I wont use, and hopefully raising funds for a worthwhile cause at the same time. So no gift is truly unwanted, it may just be not used by the intended recipient!
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    • Mrs Soup
    • By Mrs Soup 5th Dec 17, 3:30 PM
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    I don't drink alcohol but wouldn't object to being given a bottle of something- my family might drink it, I do cook with wine and I am always having to find donations for school events so having something already in would mean it was a much appreciated gift. Actually I would appreciate the thought behind any gift unless it was horribly expensive in which case it is better to know exactly what the recipient would like.
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