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    • iammumtoone
    • By iammumtoone 3rd Dec 17, 5:55 PM
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    gift for someone you don't know
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    gift for someone you don't know 3rd Dec 17 at 5:55 PM
    I want to give someone a gift who I pay for a service, they provide a good service so want to get a small gift this at christmas.

    Trouble is I don't know them so no idea what to get. Even wine or chocolates I don't know if they drink or could be on a diet!

    Any suggestions budget £10 max

    Thanks
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    • lika_86
    • By lika_86 3rd Dec 17, 5:55 PM
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    Amazon giftcard
    • iammumtoone
    • By iammumtoone 3rd Dec 17, 6:01 PM
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    Amazon giftcard
    Originally posted by lika_86
    I am not sure if I feel comfortable with this as its then clear how much I have spent

    Is it generally acceptable to give money/gift cards to someone you don't know?

    I do see the point as then they can get what they like so that avoids that complication. But on the otherhand it doesn't feel like I have put much thought into it.
    • chesky
    • By chesky 3rd Dec 17, 6:11 PM
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    There are hundreds of shops like Oliver Bonas who only seem to sell gifts - so much so that I wonder how they survive from one Christmas to the next!
    • jackyann
    • By jackyann 3rd Dec 17, 6:31 PM
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    You're taking a chance, so the thing is is to maximise them being likley to enjoy it themselves, or find it easy, or even enjoyable to pass on / share. So your best bet is some nice food (even home made if you have the time/ skills / inclination).
    Yes, it is possible that you will give them something they can't eat for some reason. But, if say, you buy some nice biscuits and they can't have gluten or nuts, they will appreciate the thought anyway, and at this time of year, it is easy to pass it on, take it to a family 'do', hand round at the office, or something like that.
    • keepcalmandstayoutofdebt
    • By keepcalmandstayoutofdebt 3rd Dec 17, 6:46 PM
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    Man or woman?

    Beanies coffee does good packaged gifts
    One of their mugs plus 12 different flavoured coffee sachets to try at only £4.50 plus delivery.

    Nice hat and scarf set? Sainsbo Tu has 25% of until 04/12 tomorrow
    If they haven't sold out they also did a nicely presented 'time to sparkle' set which contained a plastic travel mug and set of mits in a box - always handy to have.

    Wh-smith do tinned sets from mindful colouring to learning about world inspired craft beers.

    Chutney sets from a pub company like Greene King shop gift page.
    Again well presented

    A nice brooch? Scented candle set? to a Christmas flower arrangement?
    M&S had hand cream in small jug sets I noticed yesterday - signs up for up to 50% of but I don't know how long that was lasting.
    "If you are caught in a rainstorm, once you accept that you'll receive a soaking, the only thing left to do is enjoy the walk"
    • Ms Chocaholic
    • By Ms Chocaholic 3rd Dec 17, 6:48 PM
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    The thing is as you don't know them, there is a high chance that they won't like what you buy them. Other than stalking their FB page to see if they like a drink and buying them a bottle, I'd give them the cash.

    I always give our postie £10 at Christmas and never think twice whether I should buy him a gift.
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    • unholyangel
    • By unholyangel 3rd Dec 17, 6:48 PM
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    I am not sure if I feel comfortable with this as its then clear how much I have spent

    Is it generally acceptable to give money/gift cards to someone you don't know?

    I do see the point as then they can get what they like so that avoids that complication. But on the otherhand it doesn't feel like I have put much thought into it.
    Originally posted by iammumtoone
    I hate that some people have that viewpoint around cash gifts (and to a lesser extent, gift cards).

    I rarely ever give gift cards - I prefer cash as then I don't feel like I'm dictating where they spend it. But when I do give cash gifts, its usually because I've spent at least a few weeks searching for ideas on what to get them and have been unable to find anything that I think they'll like/doesn't seem like a waste of money. I also don't like when people try to tell others "I got you a gift card as I wanted you to have something to show for it and not just spend the money on bills". Some people get into heavy debt over the holidays. Or struggle more than they usually would. Having extra cash to offset the cost of christmas can be a weight off their mind so I'm happy for them to spend it on whatever they so choose.

    Meanwhile, other people get gifts they hate/will never use. The "novelty" gifts are a pet hate of mine - they appear nice to start but when you think about it, they'll maybe be used once or twice before being sent to the landfill.

    But it annoys me every time I hear someone suggesting that giving money/gift cards isn't thoughtful but if they get them a crappy gift they'll hate & never use, then they have been thoughtful. It just feeds into commercialism.

    Sorry, bit of a rant there. Bah humbug
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    • iammumtoone
    • By iammumtoone 3rd Dec 17, 6:50 PM
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    Woman which makes it easier.

    I think the suggestion by jacyann is a good one. Whatever I get I will buy thinking if they don't like it/can't use it then how useful it will be to re-gift/give away.

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    • Ms Chocaholic
    • By Ms Chocaholic 3rd Dec 17, 6:52 PM
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    Whatever you do get, whether that be chocolates/wine or anything else, if they have the inclination they could find out how much it costs anyway.

    Let us know what you do in the end.
    Thrifty Till 50 Then Spend Till The End

    You can please some of the people some of the time, all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time but you can never please all of the people all of the time
    • iammumtoone
    • By iammumtoone 3rd Dec 17, 6:58 PM
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    I hate that some people have that viewpoint around cash gifts (and to a lesser extent, gift cards).
    Originally posted by unholyangel
    I don't normally mind giving cash or gift cards (as long as I have been told where to get the gift card from) and am more than happy to receive cash myself.

    But I am aware as you say alot of people don't like it so I don't want to risk it in this situaion where I have no idea how the recipient feels about it, and I dont want to be perceived as I haven't thought about it.
    • onlyroz
    • By onlyroz 3rd Dec 17, 7:06 PM
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    If it’s something like tipping a hair dresser i’d Just give them some cash in a card. Far too many Christmas gifts go to waste. Eg my parents don’t drink much so they have absolutely no use for wine, beer etc. And chocolates, biscuits, cake etc just add to the general Christmas gluttony. Giving bath stuff is a minefield - some people have sensitive skin or aversion to particular smells. Clothing might not fit. Hats and scarves? Who doesn’t have those already? And general tat will just end up in the bin.
    • Primrose
    • By Primrose 3rd Dec 17, 7:22 PM
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    I’d steer well clear of any gift card with a value on it and opt for really expensive biscuits or perhaps some epicure tinned coffee if you know them to be a coffee drinker.
    • iammumtoone
    • By iammumtoone 3rd Dec 17, 7:34 PM
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    Thanks for your thoughts everyone some interesting points of view.

    I wanted to get a gift to show my appreciation As my reasons above I don't want to give money/vouchers if I was to do that I could just tip everytime I pay her. However onlyroz makes some very valid points. Maybe I should just leave it and not bother, just get a nice card.
    • NeilCr
    • By NeilCr 3rd Dec 17, 7:45 PM
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    Bottle of wine has always worked for me..

    But it does depend what/who you are talking about
    • Ms Chocaholic
    • By Ms Chocaholic 3rd Dec 17, 7:52 PM
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    What about a plant or a bunch of flowers.
    Thrifty Till 50 Then Spend Till The End

    You can please some of the people some of the time, all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time but you can never please all of the people all of the time
    • cjdavies
    • By cjdavies 3rd Dec 17, 7:59 PM
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    I am not sure if I feel comfortable with this as its then clear how much I have spent

    Is it generally acceptable to give money/gift cards to someone you don't know?

    I do see the point as then they can get what they like so that avoids that complication. But on the otherhand it doesn't feel like I have put much thought into it.
    Originally posted by iammumtoone
    Easier than buying something they didn't want and won't use.
    • pollypenny
    • By pollypenny 3rd Dec 17, 8:21 PM
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    I usually buy a plant or wine for the woman in the library who gets our book group books, then a box of biscuits for the rest of the staff.
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    • Spendless
    • By Spendless 3rd Dec 17, 8:29 PM
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    Could you be guided by the service they provide for you? Eg if they walk your dog, a hat and glove set might be appreciated. If they cut your grass, one of those garden mugs that has a lid so bugs don't fly into it or some handcream for weathered hands that comes in a nice set.

    But I wouldn't worry too much. This is the first Christmas my parents have been retired, but my Mum was a hairdresser and my Dad a bus driver for a special needs school. Both were given plenty of chocs, biscuits, booze at Christmastime. All was appreciated even if not all used and would be passed to the rest of the family, who also appreciated it.
    • onlyroz
    • By onlyroz 3rd Dec 17, 8:39 PM
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    Bottle of wine has always worked for me..

    But it does depend what/who you are talking about
    Originally posted by NeilCr
    Iíve lost count of the times Iíve been offloaded with somebody elseís unwanted wine. Iím sure you got a thanks whenever youíve given it as a gift - doesnít mean that it hasnít joined the heap of unwanted gifts in the cupboard under the stairs though.
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