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    • henry24
    • By henry24 1st Dec 17, 11:21 AM
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    Advice needed
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    • 1st Dec 17, 11:21 AM
    Advice needed 1st Dec 17 at 11:21 AM
    Along the road from us is a single female who we have know for 10 years who I have done little jobs for and who comes for a meal maybe once a month with no problems, two years ago she had a baby who we have both looked after and enjoyed time with. My wife has now decided that I'm getting to involved with the child and mother and that I will not visit again, this is something I cant agree with so is causing a lot of arguments between us.
    Who's right what do other females think?
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    • Tabbytabitha
    • By Tabbytabitha 3rd Dec 17, 12:13 PM
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    I suspect he knows yes, but she won't say, which is exactly the same thing as not knowing.
    Originally posted by -taff
    Is it?.....
    • -taff
    • By -taff 3rd Dec 17, 6:38 PM
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    Yep.

    I could surmise that my other half was annoyed with me for laughing and having a good time and not including him in a conversation when he had made no effort at all, then he had got jealous and decided I wasn't to speak to the other person at all ever again, but not actually told me that he was jealous, so all I could do was ask and keep asking what was wrong.

    So yes, I would know, yet not know definitively. It's possible.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 3rd Dec 17, 7:04 PM
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    Yep.

    I could surmise that my other half was annoyed with me for laughing and having a good time and not including him in a conversation when he had made no effort at all, then he had got jealous and decided I wasn't to speak to the other person at all ever again, but not actually told me that he was jealous, so all I could do was ask and keep asking what was wrong.

    So yes, I would know, yet not know definitively. It's possible.
    Originally posted by -taff
    I suspect something much more obvious happened between Henry & this woman than the convoluted story you suggest above.
    • -taff
    • By -taff 3rd Dec 17, 8:44 PM
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    Well, we don't know and I'm not jumping to the worst conclusion.

    It doesn't sound like they're having an affair, or that he wants one. Sounds like something happened on the day out. But we don't know what because he hasn't ome back to say what did.
    • Tabbytabitha
    • By Tabbytabitha 3rd Dec 17, 9:16 PM
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    I suspect something much more obvious happened between Henry & this woman than the convoluted story you suggest above.
    Originally posted by Pollycat
    Maybe the toddler's beginning to look like Henry?
    • -taff
    • By -taff 3rd Dec 17, 9:49 PM
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    -taff
    I suspect something much more obvious happened between Henry & this woman than the convoluted story you suggest above.
    Originally posted by Pollycat

    Not that convoluted, it happened to me, and I had done nothing apart from chat to a group of people that he knew and had invited, that he was too shy/childish/grumpy to talk to as well.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 3rd Dec 17, 10:15 PM
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    Not that convoluted, it happened to me, and I had done nothing apart from chat to a group of people that he knew and had invited, that he was too shy/childish/grumpy to talk to as well.
    Originally posted by -taff
    Maybe so.
    But as I posted earlier, I still think Henry knows exactly what's wrong with Mrs Henry.
    • -taff
    • By -taff 3rd Dec 17, 11:30 PM
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    One mystery that may never be solved
    • ska lover
    • By ska lover 4th Dec 17, 9:31 AM
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    ....and looks like the OP has slunk off, now the tide of opinion has not gone the way he wanted.
    Blah blah blah.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 4th Dec 17, 9:31 AM
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    One mystery that may never be solved
    Originally posted by -taff
    I think Henry probably expected to get more support than he has.
    • henry24
    • By henry24 4th Dec 17, 1:15 PM
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    Just to answer some points, I have no idea what happened on that day and have no idea what is up with her, we have not had an affair and while married I never would and as I said earlier it's very rare for me to even speak to her on my own, I never expected any support just wondered what others opinions where.
    • ska lover
    • By ska lover 4th Dec 17, 1:17 PM
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    Just to answer some points, I have no idea what happened on that day and have no idea what is up with her, we have not had an affair and while married I never would and as I said earlier it's very rare for me to even speak to her on my own, I never expected any support just wondered what others opinions where.
    Originally posted by henry24

    Now you know, what do you plan to do with this information Henry, how are things with your wife?
    Blah blah blah.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 4th Dec 17, 1:40 PM
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    Just to answer some points, I have no idea what happened on that day and have no idea what is up with her, we have not had an affair and while married I never would and as I said earlier it's very rare for me to even speak to her on my own, I never expected any support just wondered what others opinions where.
    Originally posted by henry24
    Henry
    Don't you think it very strange that after 10 years of being friendly with this woman, your wife has suddenly decided that she wants no further contact with her and doesn't want you to have contact with her either?

    Doesn't that tell you that something has happened recently to change your wife's opinion of this friendship?

    I think you really need to try harder to get an answer from your wife what has gone wrong (if you really are totally unaware of why she's changed).
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