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    • SimpleLiving
    • By SimpleLiving 30th Nov 17, 11:27 AM
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    A Simpler Life 2018
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    • 30th Nov 17, 11:27 AM
    A Simpler Life 2018 30th Nov 17 at 11:27 AM
    Every year at about this time, I get a yearning for a more simple way of life. A life that doesn't involve being bombarded with endless ads for x% off or buy a new sofa/kitchen/table/bed/car or your Christmas holiday will become a fate worse than death It really does get to me. I hate consumerism in general. It annoys me intensely that we waste so many resources making cheap non-essential rubbish that will end up in landfill a few months later. I think I must be some kind of grumpy, odd ball though as despite all the headlines about the economy and stagnant pay rises, the shops always seem to be rammed.
    Anyhow, I am planning to step back from it all in 2018:
    - no spending on unnecessary stuff. For example, I have enough clothes to last for years in one wardrobe and one chest of drawers. Books will come from the library. No fripperies!!
    - replace essential items where possible with good quality items preferably second hand, or british made or local where applicable
    - increase cooking from scratch. I buy too many things like biscuits etc that are far nicer and healthier homemade
    - make full use of garden and allotment for fruit, veg, preserves and wine.
    - forage for fruit, fungi, wood ....
    - spend more time outside, gardening, walking, enjoying nature to improve mental and physical well being
    - spend more time with my mum who is 76 and beginning to need me more
    - avoid pressure to conform!
    Anyone got any further ideas in how I could simplify life?
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    • Nargleblast
    • By Nargleblast 3rd Dec 17, 7:23 PM
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    How does one start to declutter when about 75% of the stuff which needs to be disposed of belongs to your other half and any attempt to get rid of it brings the exclamation of “This stuff represents my life. You might as well put me in a black bin bag and get rid of me as well!”

    The fact that most of it hasn,t been used or looked at for years is completely irrelevant. Most of the time he,s probably even forgotten he’s got it until I bring it to the light of day and ask “do you really need to keep this?” when all of a sudden it has become a long lost cherishshed item and he can’t bear to be parted from it. Put it back in the cupboard and it will be forgotten about again about for another ten years!
    Originally posted by Primrose
    And what, may I ask, are you doing with my husband???
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    • Primrose
    • By Primrose 3rd Dec 17, 8:22 PM
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    And what, may I ask, are you doing with my husband???
    Originally posted by Nargleblast
    Oh don’t tell me he’s storing all his surplus stuff over in my house !
    • Nargleblast
    • By Nargleblast 3rd Dec 17, 9:32 PM
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    Our bedroom wardrobe has all his trousers in one half - and the spare room wardrobe houses all his shirts and coats. My entire clothing collection fits in the remaining half of our bedroom wardrobe.
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    • AuntyCat
    • By AuntyCat 3rd Dec 17, 10:15 PM
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    Wow, what a great thread. I've just read through 6 pages and have got some great ideas.

    OH & I have tried for the last few years to live a simple life, but this last week or so has driven me mad and made me more determined to live more simply. I had to go into the city centre (We live in a small rural town) and the bags and bags of stuff that people were carrying around drove me crazy.

    We haven't bought each other Christmas presents for years and have no kids. All our brothers agreed a few years ago not to swap bottles of random wine etc. As presents and the nieces and nephew all stopped at 16 (I am certain we are known as tight). We both have our mums so we exchange gifts with them as it makes them happy. But that's it!!
    We usually look after mum on Christmas day, but this year we have booked a few days at the seaside on our own. Lots of walking, home made food and yes a few too many bottles of wine, but music, games and chatting. I suggested as it's a complete change for us that we spend £20 each on a few presents for each other or to share. Today after a few weeks of thinking about it we have decided not to bother as neither of us has thought of anything the other needs or wants.

    Generally we are very frugal, cook from scratch, walk, garden and grow at our allotment, but I will follow this thread and try to think of other things I can do. There is still a lot of old clutter to get rid of.

    Thanks OP for starting it off
    • Judi
    • By Judi 3rd Dec 17, 10:46 PM
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    I also reduce “white noise” to a minimum. The washing machine and dishwasher are used at night.......on the economy tariff of course.....the kitchen is far enough away from bedroom not to disturb me.
    Being part of a church community for many years i sat in on many 'ladies meetings', taught many things about how to be a good wife/mother and how to keep the home running smoothly and pleasantly. Although a lot of it was just poppyc0ck, certain things stick and even now apart from emergencies, i still choose to keep white noise at a minimum when the family is at home.
    'Holy crap on a cracker!'
    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 3rd Dec 17, 10:57 PM
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    lessonlearned
    Being part of a church community for many years i sat in on many 'ladies meetings', taught many things about how to be a good wife/mother and how to keep the home running smoothly and pleasantly. Although a lot of it was just poppyc0ck, certain things stick and even now apart from emergencies, i still choose to keep white noise at a minimum when the family is at home.
    Originally posted by Judi
    Yes I was taught this too, especially when you have children. It just makes for a more peaceful atmosphere. A washing machine on spin cycle can be very noisy and you end up having to shout over it to be heard.....
    • Kantankrus Mare
    • By Kantankrus Mare 3rd Dec 17, 11:04 PM
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    Wow, what a great thread. I've just read through 6 pages and have got some great ideas.

    OH & I have tried for the last few years to live a simple life, but this last week or so has driven me mad and made me more determined to live more simply. I had to go into the city centre (We live in a small rural town) and the bags and bags of stuff that people were carrying around drove me crazy.

    We haven't bought each other Christmas presents for years and have no kids. All our brothers agreed a few years ago not to swap bottles of random wine etc. As presents and the nieces and nephew all stopped at 16 (I am certain we are known as tight). We both have our mums so we exchange gifts with them as it makes them happy. But that's it!!
    We usually look after mum on Christmas day, but this year we have booked a few days at the seaside on our own. Lots of walking, home made food and yes a few too many bottles of wine, but music, games and chatting. I suggested as it's a complete change for us that we spend £20 each on a few presents for each other or to share. Today after a few weeks of thinking about it we have decided not to bother as neither of us has thought of anything the other needs or wants.

    Generally we are very frugal, cook from scratch, walk, garden and grow at our allotment, but I will follow this thread and try to think of other things I can do. There is still a lot of old clutter to get rid of.

    Thanks OP for starting it off
    Originally posted by AuntyCat
    We have been whittling down Christmas presents for adults for years. I think Christmas is for young children and get more and more "bah humbug" each year.

    I'm sure lots of people think we are tight as well but I'm getting to an age when I don't care. I would rather spend my money on doing things that we really enjoy like good food all year round and travelling.

    Its the commercialism that really grates on me. Its all so predictable. You must have this sofa in time for christmas and you must buy x, y, and z to make your christmas perfect and look at what crap you can spend your hard earned cash on only to recieve another heap of crap in return.

    Then....come January.......half of the crap is trundled off to a charity shop or sold on ebay. Half the country are struggling with debt problems....the other half weight problems or in the divorce courts. Then you get bombarded with holiday adverts and sale promotions.

    And breathe.

    Sorry for the rant.

    Which brings me onto this thread. I'd love to tag along for the ride.

    I hate waste, like to try and cook from scratch, have an allotment and generally like to live a simple life.

    Im trying a new gym on Tues as they do more yoga classes than the one I am at, that fit in with my work hours.

    I've got into yoga the past year and just love it!! Really focuses your mind on the important things in life and somehow this (for me anyway) goes hand in hand with a simpler life.

    Sorry for the ramble and rant but a big thank you for the thread.
    In general life.....I often feel like I am on my own with my views but it's nice to know I'm not.
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    • Judi
    • By Judi 3rd Dec 17, 11:10 PM
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    Even with 5 kids at home it was easy to do, washer went on after the morning school run and would be finished and laundry dried by the time the kids came home.

    However, in this day and age where women have to go to work to keep a roof over their heads, it would just be impossible to do.
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    • Nonnadiluca
    • By Nonnadiluca 3rd Dec 17, 11:31 PM
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    The number of posts on this thread in just a few days goes to show that there are a lot of people out there who have had enough of the rampant consumerism we are surrounded by, and want to tread a different path. Maybe we can start a revolution!
    On a not so different subject, has anyone read Naomi Klein's new book, ' No is not enough'?
    • Pauper1
    • By Pauper1 4th Dec 17, 6:49 AM
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    I've just read all this thread with interest as I am not living a simple life by these standards, but compared to others in my "real" life, I am!

    We don't have Sky, we have second hand phones, our cars are really old, we buy at car boots and charity shops, we followed Kon Mari before we sold our house so drastically cut down on our "stuff" (although I need a second festival I'm starting to think!), I mostly cook from scratch. BUT, we have the TV on a lot, we partake in exchanging Christmas presents for everyone, we failed at growing veg this year, and I often have cravings to buy "nice stuff", so I will be subscribing in the hope that all your more simple ways will rub off on me.

    I think once my uni assignment is out of the way I will re-do Kon Mari as a start.
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    • kittie
    • By kittie 4th Dec 17, 7:55 AM
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    I have a silent house for much of the day, I love being with my own thoughts and try and live in the moment. I am not afraid of thinking and of random thoughts. I do turn the tv on when I have my lunch and then listen to the archers but then again it is silence, until the evening, when the radio might come on or tv if there is anything appealing

    My simple life today will involve a nice cycle ride along silent open sided lanes, just me and some swans and maybe a heron, nature
    • PollyWollyDoodle
    • By PollyWollyDoodle 4th Dec 17, 2:55 PM
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    Pauper, I don't think there's a single definition of 'simple' - it's more about moving towards a simpler way of living. The definition is very different for each of us, depending on whether you live somewhere urban or rural, work outside the home or not, who you live with - for me it's about consuming a bit less in the way of material goods and creating a bit more myself (whether that's baking, sewing or gardening).
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    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 4th Dec 17, 3:28 PM
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    White Noise vs Silence
    Am I alone in actually welcoming the sound of a spin cycle, or the breadmaker doing it's stuff?

    I have chronic tinnitus, which is so loud in my head that sometimes I think the neighbours ought to be able to hear it and the sound of household appliances working actually mitigates it somewhat.

    I have what Mr LW calls my "noise generator" in the bedroom; it's a little gadget that you can set to produce a selection of sounds - waves on the seashore, birdsong, a heartbeat (that one creeps me out!) or actual white noise; my own preference is for a babbling brook. Without this, I'd go mad lying in bed at night with just the tinnitus to listen to.
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    • Pauper1
    • By Pauper1 4th Dec 17, 4:17 PM
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    LameWolf, I've got the washing machine on at the moment and it's such a relaxing noise for me. "They" recommend white noise for babies, so I now seem to have associated being absolutely knackered with the sound of white noise and fall asleep very quickly haha
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    • Floss
    • By Floss 4th Dec 17, 5:17 PM
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    One of my offspring used to fall asleep in his bouncy chair in front of the washer... then again, he could fall asleep in our old Mini with Rainbow or Black Sabbath on the cassette player!
    • kayjay1809
    • By kayjay1809 4th Dec 17, 7:36 PM
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    Subscribing to this thead - I intend to continue my decluttering and simplifying of life next year.

    One thing I won't be getting rid of, unless I get to the stage where we really can't afford it, is my Kindle Unlimited Subscription. I'm an avid reader - several books a week - and my unlimited subscription costs £7.99 a month and you can borrow up to ten books at a time (they are from a library, not all books are available but I find many that I would have previously bought are). I definitely get my money's worth! I could use the local library, but it is a very small one, so I have to pay 50p an item to request it, and the local council are threatening to close it altogether.
    2018 - The Year I Will Declutter!
    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 4th Dec 17, 8:07 PM
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    Pauper I didn't know that about "them" recommending white noise for babies (but then, I'm not a mother, so not something I'd have researched) - interesting info!

    Kayjay hi and welcome -imho, if you're using and getting pleasure from something, then it's worthwhile, it's only "stuff" that's sitting around using space/costing money without "paying it's way" that needs to go; what I love about my Kindle is that I can set the text size so that I can read it when I can't sleep at night, without putting the main bedroom light on and disturbing Mr LW. I went to pick up a "real" book a few nights back, and the text was too small for me to read. Recently a friend upgraded to a backlit Kindle, and gave me his old cover, which has a little light you pull out to illuminate the page. He was no longer using it, but it's doing me a grand service.
    LameWolf
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    • amber03
    • By amber03 4th Dec 17, 9:45 PM
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    Subscribing to this thread. For the last couple of years I have thought of having a "simple life". OH has plans to take early retirement this time next year and I will see how things go in my job, which I still enjoy. I have a problem with storing food for that "just in case" moment. Sometimes I forget where I have put it. More walking and reading on the agenda I think. Recently it was my birthday and with Xmas around the corner I am lucky to receive money off a few people. With this money I buy yearly subscriptions for a couple of magazines I enjoy. Also my OH buys me membership for our local zoo( which is currently on TVs), so if I want a cheap day out it's sorted. Only going to buy clothes when I need them and will have a takeaway once a month as a treat.

    Will enjoy this thread and hopefully pick up a few tips.x
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    • amber03
    • By amber03 4th Dec 17, 9:49 PM
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    Forgot to add on my previous post , as mentioned in somebody else's post that I am going to concentrate on making me and OH a priority. Instead of running around and being worried what others think, we will spend more time on 'us'.
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    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 4th Dec 17, 10:01 PM
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    One of my offspring used to fall asleep in his bouncy chair in front of the washer... then again, he could fall asleep in our old Mini with Rainbow or Black Sabbath on the cassette player!
    Originally posted by Floss
    My youngest son did this. He used to have a “whingey” period around 8 am. Popped him by the washer and he loved it......he fell asleep within minutes.
    Last edited by lessonlearned; 04-12-2017 at 10:25 PM.
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