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    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 21st Nov 17, 11:04 AM
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    ôRock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.ö
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    • 21st Nov 17, 11:04 AM
    ôRock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.ö 21st Nov 17 at 11:04 AM
    Back in May this year I decided things had to change. I turned to here and received an amazing amount of help and advice. Here I am making a fresh start.

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    • EssexHebridean
    • By EssexHebridean 28th Nov 17, 4:12 PM
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    Nothing unhealthy about that WF - protein, carbs, and you stuffed some veg in there too - nice one!

    So - now to turn your attention to feeding yourself. Any of the chicken left? Otherwise veggies in to make soup as Toni'sfriend suggests? If you DO have chicken then definitely chop up some of that to put in the soup too - home made chicken soup must surely be one of the most tempting foods imagineable? seriously - if you want your injuries etc to heal properly you MUST eat - how do you expect your body to put itself right without any of the foundations to do so? It's like telling someone to build a brick wall but giving them no bricks, and no mortar. If nothing else - remind yourself, if you make yourself ill to the point at which you end up in hospital, where do the smalls end up? Back with your Mum? I'd suggest that's an incentive to NOT risk that happening?
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    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 28th Nov 17, 4:59 PM
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    I do actually have loads of soup in the freezer I really don't have a valid excuse for not getting anything I will this evening though. I think I need someone to keep in my ear about it Force feeding me

    I still feel really rough smalls are finally fed, we've read books and they're in the bath. I feel awful like I'm not making enough effort with them
    Last edited by WannabeFree; 28-11-2017 at 5:02 PM.
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    • Toni'sfriend
    • By Toni'sfriend 28th Nov 17, 5:04 PM
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    Of course you are. You do an enormous amount with your little ones. Nothing at all to feel guilty about. In fact, you're to be congratulated. Now promise me you'll go have something to eat and start taking care of yourself - for their sakes if nothing else. xx
    • natsplatnat
    • By natsplatnat 28th Nov 17, 5:22 PM
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    Hi WF, I found you again only a few days ago, but been too busy to post.
    The way I see it, you have fed your children, spent time with them reading books and they are bathing. Please don't feel that this is not enough... there are many children (in even just this country) who won't be getting anything like this tonight... all whilst not feeling tip-top yourself! You are amazing!!
    And I echo "being kind to yourself" - we are not designed to run on nothing... well, I'm not especially! lol
    *hugs*
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    • Sun Addict
    • By Sun Addict 28th Nov 17, 7:06 PM
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    You're a fantastic mum to your kiddies, never think that you're short changing them you're most definitely not xx
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 28th Nov 17, 7:11 PM
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    Dont be so hard on yourself.
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    • pennywisepoundstupid
    • By pennywisepoundstupid 28th Nov 17, 7:17 PM
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    Your doing a brilliant job as a mum, never think otherwise.

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    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 28th Nov 17, 7:45 PM
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    Smalls all tucked up and sleeping (I wish I was )

    Just going to finish the cleaning and iron the uniforms/polish the shoes.

    I haven't eaten yet BUT I am feeding their dad so will grab some toast why I'm in the kitchen anyway No excuse not too considering I'll be stood in their either way!

    Need to remember to go in and book smalls Xmas dinner at school tomorrow and pay! Very last minute They also want money to see Santa at school (ú9 ) I can't say no though.
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 28th Nov 17, 8:02 PM
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    9 quid to see Santa.
    What a blooming rip off.
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    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 28th Nov 17, 8:05 PM
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    9 quid to see Santa.
    What a blooming rip off.
    Originally posted by beanielou
    I know But I feel bad saying no. But then the Xmas dinner (ú2.50) We have the Christmas Fayre which will no doubt cost. Non uniform day Friday ú1, They will all have a nativity I'll need to buy a ticket for I can't miss them and I can't go to one and not the others They will do the pantomime it's a fortune! Especially now there's three of them needing it
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    • helsbell
    • By helsbell 28th Nov 17, 8:20 PM
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    I haven't eaten yet BUT I am feeding their dad so will grab some toast why I'm in the kitchen anyway No excuse not too considering I'll be stood in their either way!
    Originally posted by WannabeFree
    Why are you feeding their dad?

    Need to remember to go in and book smalls Xmas dinner at school tomorrow and pay! Very last minute They also want money to see Santa at school (ú9 ) I can't say no though.
    ú9 to see Santa at school?! This should be funded by the PTA, that's ridiculous!
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    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 28th Nov 17, 8:27 PM
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    ú9 to see Santa at school?! This should be funded by the PTA, that's ridiculous!
    Originally posted by helsbell
    It's been taken over in the last 2 years and gone to an academy and the cost is extortionate since! Every week its at least ú10 between the 3 of them just to send them to school

    Like the nativity is ú5 each adult and ú3 each child to go and watch before the switch it was ú2 an adult and the kids didn't need tickets.

    Friday's non-uniform is ú1 each along with an item from a list for the Xmas Fayre.

    There's more that's just what I can remember
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    • helsbell
    • By helsbell 28th Nov 17, 8:44 PM
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    When you said you would need to buy tickets for the nativity I assumed it would be ú1 each. Robbing b*****ds!!
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    • EssexHebridean
    • By EssexHebridean 28th Nov 17, 8:48 PM
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    I'm genuinely horrified to find out all the things you get charged for WF - that's downright appalling. It is simply not a school's place to arrange events like the santa thing that costs the parents that amount of money - that's just horrible!
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    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 28th Nov 17, 8:53 PM
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    I haven't paid or 'booked' places for Santa yet. I'm hoping hardly anyone returns the letter and money so they cancel I can take them to see Santa for Free I might actually speak to the smalls and see if they'd rather see Santa out of school. I'm sure I can do the whole day cheaper then ú27
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    • Sun Addict
    • By Sun Addict 28th Nov 17, 9:07 PM
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    And I thought schools were always after money when my kids were little! This really takes the biscuit! Can't believe they are charging for the nativity - for what?

    And why are you feeding their dad? I don't see why you should.
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    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 28th Nov 17, 9:11 PM
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    And I thought schools were always after money when my kids were little! This really takes the biscuit! Can't believe they are charging for the nativity - for what?

    And why are you feeding their dad? I don't see why you should.
    Originally posted by Sun Addict
    To watch my kids do not much That sounds awful but DS point blank refused to do any part other than stand at the back and sing. He HATES it and would rather not do it at all.

    DD is a donkey I think she said although it could change.

    But yeah it's expensive

    I don't know why I added on here I was feeding him It's not a problem I said I would although I'm still sat on here Better get up x
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    • EssexHebridean
    • By EssexHebridean 28th Nov 17, 9:21 PM
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    You mentioned it because you know nobody would judge you for it - which we won't. Don't let him loose near any leftovers that you want for another meal though will you!

    Oh - and TOAST!!!!!
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    • pennywisepoundstupid
    • By pennywisepoundstupid 28th Nov 17, 9:31 PM
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    Eat woman eat!!!!!!!!!
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    • shariann
    • By shariann 28th Nov 17, 11:04 PM
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    Eat woman eat!!!!!!!!!
    Originally posted by pennywisepoundstupid
    Just catching up with your diary and it struck me that if you are taking painkillers then you have even more reason to make sure you eat properly or you could give yourself serious stomach problems on top of your other injuries.

    Sorry to nag ... actually I'm not sorry

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