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    • Robin9
    • By Robin9 21st Sep 17, 8:18 AM
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    Do cats miss their deceased companions?
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    • 21st Sep 17, 8:18 AM
    Do cats miss their deceased companions? 21st Sep 17 at 8:18 AM
    We had to have Tasha PTS last week - only 12. We had had her since she was 2 and very much part of the household.

    We have a 4 yo male, Bob, and we are sure that in the fullness of time we will rehome another rescue.

    But does Bob miss Tasha ? Never the closest of friends but she was the boss.
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    • lobbyludd
    • By lobbyludd 22nd Sep 17, 10:37 PM
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    we've always had cats (plural at a time) since I was little, and have experienced a range of reactions to a death: one where a cat died and the companion cat called for them for months, was distressed and lost weight and fur; a couple of times where the surviving cat after a week of looking for the other one came into their own, apparently glad to be free of the dominant cat in the territory, and others between that. I've never experienced a situation where they did not notice, or remained unchanged by a loss of another cat/animal in their environment, at least for a time. That's not anthropomorphizing their apparent behaviour, and change can be a stressor without them necessarily "missing/grieving for" the pet that has died
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    • Robin9
    • By Robin9 27th Oct 17, 9:29 PM
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    Tasha's were buried under a fence where she spent many hours.

    Now Bob has taken over some of her other spots - the neighbour's shed roof, a fence post. He has also become super affectionate.
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    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 28th Oct 17, 9:08 AM
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    I missed your thread when it was first posted but many years ago I had 3 kittens all about the same age (within 4 months).
    The last one wasn't my choice, he was the last of the litter and had less than a week to find a home, my OH simply arrived home with him from work one weekend.

    He was the half brother of the older, first kitten who was alpha male of the neighbourhood.
    They often fought like crazy but always made up, slept together, groomed each other, always together.
    When we lost the eldest cat (aged 8), the one who was left actually bloomed.
    He too became very affectionate, very playful and a real character.
    I think he had just been overshadowed by a stronger cat.
    Last edited by Pollycat; 28-10-2017 at 10:15 AM.
    • seven-day-weekend
    • By seven-day-weekend 28th Oct 17, 10:01 AM
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    We have two cats, full sisters and litter mates. Since they got out of kittenhood they have never done more than tolerate each other. They have carved up the home into individual territories, although each does have 'right of way' over the other one's. . They never groom each other or sleep together, never have, and when Rumple went missing for a couple of days, Mungo's behaviour did not change at all.

    They are nineteen in January, I don't think they will change now.
    Last edited by seven-day-weekend; 28-10-2017 at 10:07 AM.
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    • SensibleSarah
    • By SensibleSarah 30th Oct 17, 1:31 PM
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    I have 4 cats currently (all unrelated) and have absolutely no doubt that they won't miss each other at all. They aren't close and although they don't fight, I always think that they co-exist in the same area rather than live together

    However, I've had a dog in the past that showed some very strange behaviour when a specific foster dog went off to it's new home. She didn't do it with any other foster or dog I minded, just this one - but she seemed almost depressed for a few weeks after he'd gone. She could have been picking up and responding to my own feelings on that particular dog though... who knows?
    • Dollardog
    • By Dollardog 5th Nov 17, 3:24 AM
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    There was a squirrel killed on the road outside my house a couple of years ago and another squirrel, possibly its mate sat on a wall and kept wailing, it was pitiful. A neighbour moved the body in the end so the living squirrel hopefully would get over it better.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 5th Nov 17, 8:56 AM
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    This is really off-topic but....
    I was watching a programme yesterday about Elsa the lioness and the real Joy and George Adamson and their work with lions and the Born Free film.

    Virginia McKenna & Bill Travis found a lion called Christian being kept in a shop on Carnaby Street in London, bought from Harrods in the 1960s.

    The lion was taken to Africa to George Adamson and a year after Adamson released Christian to the wild, his former owners visited George and the lion remembered them.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rqhJuwUukX8
    • calicocat
    • By calicocat 5th Nov 17, 4:43 PM
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    My cat missed my dog for a while searching the house for him for the first few days and was confused........ then totally came out of herself.
    Again a scenario where she wasn’t in charge, the dog was . I thought I had a weird cat that wasn’t keen on the kitchen, turned out that the dog must have been telling her she wasn’t allowed in there......lol. They got on great, cleaned each other, had fights, slept together , ate each others food, stole my food and shared it. But once she clicked he wasn’t coming back, she loved being the new top dog, and became very affectionate for a while....when it was deemed necessary. .

    So my answer would be yes, they miss them, but for how long is debatable.
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    • Mandy53
    • By Mandy53 5th Nov 17, 8:09 PM
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    I agree that it depends on the cat and the relationship they had with the deceased cat. I have 2 male rescue cats,brothers, one of whom has medical problems recently requiring a stay for a few nights at a specialist vet hospital. His brother, cat K didn,t seem to miss him at all and was much more affectionate with me , wanting and enjoying all the attention and having the house to himself while cat M was away. When i got cat M back ,cat K was initially intrigued and grooming cat M but then things went back to" normal." Both cats do get very jealous of one another and cat M steals Cat K,s food,nudging him out the way at feeding times yet both are fed the same food. Because Cat M often pushes cat K out the way at feeding time, cat K "attacks" cat M when he is sleeping as if he is getting his own back! They do groom each other though. I give cat K Zyklene to keep him calm(on advice of my vet) when he tries to attack cat M and also use Feliway plug in :cat M has to be kept as stress free as possible due to his illness which is easier said than done at times.
    • littleangelisme
    • By littleangelisme 10th Nov 17, 7:56 AM
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    Some cats are just like human, like mine. They thought they were one of us.
    • tesuhoha
    • By tesuhoha 20th Nov 17, 6:43 PM
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    My Bengal cat was run over and killed by a car two years ago. She was very close to my other cat. They grew up together. My other cat witnessed it and she came crawling into the house on her haunches. She spent the whole evening as in shock, lying with her eyes wide open, staring. Then she was trying desperately to see the body before it was buried. After that she was very clingy for a week and the whole atmosphere in the house was weird. We got another Bengal to bring things back to normal but the other cat went awol for a couple of days.

    Eventually, they made friends but they scrap and are not soulmates like she used to be with the first bengal. I still talk to her about Mia and she seems to know what I am saying.
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    • wymondham
    • By wymondham 20th Nov 17, 6:48 PM
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    We had two rescue cats - I think they were brothers. They slept together and played together and seemed to get on fine. One died on the road one day and the other was and still is completely oblivious and still happy - even enjoying the greater amount of fuss!
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 20th Nov 17, 7:03 PM
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    My Bengal cat was run over and killed by a car two years ago. She was very close to my other cat. They grew up together. My other cat witnessed it and she came crawling into the house on her haunches. She spent the whole evening as in shock, lying with her eyes wide open, staring. Then she was trying desperately to see the body before it was buried. After that she was very clingy for a week and the whole atmosphere in the house was weird. We got another Bengal to bring things back to normal but the other cat went awol for a couple of days.

    Eventually, they made friends but they scrap and are not soulmates like she used to be with the first bengal. I still talk to her about Mia and she seems to know what I am saying.
    Originally posted by tesuhoha
    That's so sad.
    I think I remember photos of your first 2 Bengals.
    • Jojo the Tightfisted
    • By Jojo the Tightfisted 28th Nov 17, 8:11 PM
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    Which is fine if the cat dies at home, some cats and other pets are in the vets when they die or have to be PTS.
    Originally posted by annandale

    I brought mine home from the vet's each time. The others got to see them, sniff them, watch me bury them and then sat out in the garden together for a long time afterwards, looking at the grave(s), but were then OK. Made me even worse at the time, as it felt like they were almost holding a funeral service (none of them spent any significant time outside and certainly not together, so all coming out and watching/staying after I'd gone in was something they had never done before or since), but I think it was the right decision for their understanding.
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    • tesuhoha
    • By tesuhoha 7th Dec 17, 9:40 PM
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    That's so sad.
    I think I remember photos of your first 2 Bengals.
    Originally posted by Pollycat
    It might sound daft but I still haven't got over it. I am not tearful or anything any more but it makes me feel terribly sad when I think about it. I think its because she was so young and beautiful and it feels like a wasted life.
    The forest would be very silent if no birds sang except for the birds that sang the best

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    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 8th Dec 17, 7:27 AM
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    It might sound daft but I still haven't got over it. I am not tearful or anything any more but it makes me feel terribly sad when I think about it. I think its because she was so young and beautiful and it feels like a wasted life.
    Originally posted by tesuhoha
    Not daft at all, it's made me feel sad.
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