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    • VfM4meplse
    • By VfM4meplse 14th Sep 17, 6:26 PM
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    Please let me hold your hand...roll on 2018!
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    • 14th Sep 17, 6:26 PM
    Please let me hold your hand...roll on 2018! 14th Sep 17 at 6:26 PM
    I've had a bit of (good) news today and am going to need some OS handholding for a few weeks. Quite a few weeks

    In fact I can feel the stress coursing through my body right now - so will go for a brisk walk and then fill in the blanks on this post. I need all the practical OS shortcuts I can get!


    Ok, so I'm exercised and showered and have had a chance to think...life's about to get crazy! I am pleased to say that after a long and picky search, it looks like I'm going to finally move back to the shires! (Well, Essex to be precise). If the sale goes through in 13 weeks as I hope that takes us to the the week before Christmas. With slippage, realistically it wil be in the New Year but there is a stack of stuff to do beforehand. Ironically, the only thing I feel I have a handle on is the finances and paperwork!

    The thought of having to pack up the house filled me with dread, there is just so much stuff, much of which I never use! But having thought about it, I know its possible but would appreciate some guidance. I knew I was going to have to economise for at least 12 of the weeks before 2018 but now I've got no choice. Where do I start?

    Food is probably the easiest: no buying it. 3 months to work my way through the freezer. Which is not so easy given that it takes me a week to get through a take-away sized container of soup. The dried goods I'll probably take with me - plenty of space in my new kitchen . Can't wait to pack up my gadgets and bakeware that never get used but equally I don't want to live amongst cardboard boxes for the next few weeks.

    I've got enough toiletries to last me a lifetime. Books are also relatively straightforward. I've got roughly 1,000 and lately have been adding at the rate of 25-30 a month. I am going to have to get a handle on my chazzer craziness. I'll make an exception for the books I've P'inned, but no more buying stuff. My plans are to furnish my excess space with thrifty "antique" furniture that fits in with the style of my new home, so there will be plenty of time for that in 2018. Which is just as well, as there isn't going to be much cash

    Throwing unwanted stuff is relatively easy. Now for the excess. Most of it is packed away in my loft, and I had the intention of getting rid of it. Every penny counts, so I can't afford to give it to charity / stick it on Freecycle . I always meant to start eBaying, but never quite got there. I know it will be straightforward when you get in the swing of things, but also that it requires organisation so how do people do it when they are working full time, commute and making a conscious effort to take time out to exercise? Especially as so much of it is brand new and unused from my glamorous days: shoes, handbags, lingerie and formal dresses. Pre-Christmas is the time it would sell. If I take it with me, it will just hang around for ages and make my new home look untidy.

    And so much kids stuff. What my niece doesn't need, I should get rid of. And then there is clearing the shed...!

    On top of that there is the day to day stuff, there's so much to think about! haven't submitted my tax return for last year, thats the worst job of the year and I hate it . Plus I was looking for another job and I guess that will have to go on hold for now. I know I'll need to create some sort of schedule as I can't afford to waste a single evening but I don't really know quite how to organise Sorting out post, and that sort of thing. And it sounds really silly, but I've got 12 chunky library books on loan to read before I move out of the borough. That takes time too

    It goes without saying that Christmas is cancelled (for me, anyway). I will get help around moving time but I need to make inroads well before then. How long will it take to pack up my home?

    I need to prioritise, and fast. Tried and tested tips, please? And help in keeping me on track....
    Last edited by VfM4meplse; 14-09-2017 at 9:59 PM.
    Value-for-money-for-me-puhleeze!

    "No man is worth, crawling on the earth"- adapted from Bob Crewe and Bob Gaudio

    Hope is not a strategy ...A child is for life, not just 18 years....Don't get me started on the NHS, because you won't win...If in doubt, don't pull out... I love chaz-ing!
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    • Floss
    • By Floss 16th Nov 17, 7:14 AM
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    Maybe start packing books - after all, you do have one or two don't you?!

    Seriously though, start to sort stuff like summer clothes, bedding & towels, cupboards under stairs & under kitchen sink...also, shed, garage, garden etc. It all takes longer than you think it will.
    • jackyann
    • By jackyann 16th Nov 17, 8:04 AM
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    It is worth remembering that family relationships can not only survive separations, but actually thrive on them.
    My own adult children remain very close to their uncle and aunt, who have always lived about 3 hours drive away. We visited, of course, and they did special, slightly different things there that they remember fondly. So I think you will be able to forge a different bond with your niece - especially if she can come to stay over sometimes - and you can do 'treat' things together.
    It will be different, but can be no less dear, especially if she can share some of your excitement at making your new home.
    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 16th Nov 17, 4:03 PM
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    I agree with Floss; there's no reason not to start packing up things that are for summertime use only, and stuff like books that you know you won't need for a couple of months at least - just leave yourself one or two to hand to read.

    The light has finally appeared at the end of the tunnel, then.
    LameWolf
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    • VfM4meplse
    • By VfM4meplse 16th Nov 17, 6:33 PM
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    I agree with Floss; there's no reason not to start packing up things that are for summertime use only, and stuff like books that you know you won't need for a couple of months at least
    Originally posted by LameWolf
    Its quick enough to pack these things, but the problem is storing it out of cupboards. It will just be clogging up my hallways and living room instead, which will just make me feel stressed and uncomfortable in my last few weeks here

    At least itís safe and sound where it is at the moment!
    Value-for-money-for-me-puhleeze!

    "No man is worth, crawling on the earth"- adapted from Bob Crewe and Bob Gaudio

    Hope is not a strategy ...A child is for life, not just 18 years....Don't get me started on the NHS, because you won't win...If in doubt, don't pull out... I love chaz-ing!
    • VfM4meplse
    • By VfM4meplse 20th Nov 17, 10:34 PM
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    Well Iíve made a start on the packing and feel like Iím living in chaos

    Driving home this evening I felt so D-mob. Am thinking: no more cars parked left right and centre, no more cr*p drivers to contend with...

    I also felt very sad that I wonít need my nieceís car seat any more. I shall leave it with her uncle, as he is the one who will be driving her round now
    Value-for-money-for-me-puhleeze!

    "No man is worth, crawling on the earth"- adapted from Bob Crewe and Bob Gaudio

    Hope is not a strategy ...A child is for life, not just 18 years....Don't get me started on the NHS, because you won't win...If in doubt, don't pull out... I love chaz-ing!
    • greenbee
    • By greenbee 20th Nov 17, 10:50 PM
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    You might find you still need the car seat - when she comes to visit you for example. I don't need car seats as often now my niece and nephew are at school, as they don't spend as much time here. But I still need them for the trip to/from my mum (I do one way, my brother does the other) 3 or 4 times a year, plus odd days out. And they're handy for putting the shopping in too...

    I'm living in chaos at the moment, but that's mostly because I've packed up half the house to get the next phase of work done. My survey pretty much said 'roof, walls and foundations appear to be OK, everything else needs work'. And actually, it was wrong about the roof as the lead needed redoing. I moved in just over 4 years ago, although I have done a huge amount of work, I've been without a proper kitchen since I moved in and will be for at least another 6 months. The survey actually made me feel that I was justified in pulling the house apart and redoing it how I wanted it. And I've taken the time to make it how I want it rather than living with how it was because there was nothing wrong with it so no reason to change it. Try to see your survey as an opportunity.
    • VfM4meplse
    • By VfM4meplse 21st Nov 17, 5:04 AM
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    I'm living in chaos at the moment, but that's mostly because I've packed up half the house to get the next phase of work done. My survey pretty much said 'roof, walls and foundations appear to be OK, everything else needs work'. And actually, it was wrong about the roof as the lead needed redoing. I moved in just over 4 years ago, although I have done a huge amount of work, I've been without a proper kitchen since I moved in and will be for at least another 6 months. The survey actually made me feel that I was justified in pulling the house apart and redoing it how I wanted it. And I've taken the time to make it how I want it rather than living with how it was because there was nothing wrong with it so no reason to change it. Try to see your survey as an opportunity.
    Originally posted by greenbee
    Well you have certainly put my chaos into context! Just reading about your situation makes me feel stressed out, I couldnít imagine being in the same position. Kudos to you for perseverance

    Iím no super-cook but I canít imagine living without a proper kitchen for 5 minutes, let alone 4 years. In fact I am looking forward to hosting my family in my new home at Christmas, so perhaps 6 weeks to straighten my environment out will not be so difficult
    Value-for-money-for-me-puhleeze!

    "No man is worth, crawling on the earth"- adapted from Bob Crewe and Bob Gaudio

    Hope is not a strategy ...A child is for life, not just 18 years....Don't get me started on the NHS, because you won't win...If in doubt, don't pull out... I love chaz-ing!
    • VfM4meplse
    • By VfM4meplse 3rd Dec 17, 9:10 AM
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    Well, I’m finally past the point of no return and the packing has now started. Yesterday involved shifting furniture around to accommodate mass stacked boxes and going through my wardrobes; this morning we’ll start on my study and then I’ll pack my books on my own. The baking stuff I’ll leave to next week.

    My mum is staying over this weekend to help. She got very upset when I was packing away my niece’s stuff to make room for the boxes. Not at me, but the reality of the ending of a very close relationship and seeing far less of her from a fortnight’s time finally hit home. She also had a sob that I don’t have children of my own.

    On the plus side, I converted her to my kind of Saturday evening dinner: we shared a bottle of Baileys over ice, which took the edge off the pain of packing.
    Value-for-money-for-me-puhleeze!

    "No man is worth, crawling on the earth"- adapted from Bob Crewe and Bob Gaudio

    Hope is not a strategy ...A child is for life, not just 18 years....Don't get me started on the NHS, because you won't win...If in doubt, don't pull out... I love chaz-ing!
    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 3rd Dec 17, 4:53 PM
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    Onwards and upwards, VfM; onwards and upwards.
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    • VfM4meplse
    • By VfM4meplse 3rd Dec 17, 6:41 PM
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    Day 2 of packing, and Iím thoroughly fed up of it.

    Am now tackling my books (I have been known to buy one or two in my time ) and itís taking forever it seems.
    Value-for-money-for-me-puhleeze!

    "No man is worth, crawling on the earth"- adapted from Bob Crewe and Bob Gaudio

    Hope is not a strategy ...A child is for life, not just 18 years....Don't get me started on the NHS, because you won't win...If in doubt, don't pull out... I love chaz-ing!
    • short_bird
    • By short_bird 3rd Dec 17, 7:14 PM
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    At some point in book packing I curse publishers who change book size in the middle of a series by the same author...
    Cancel the kitchen scraps for lepers and orphans, no more merciful beheadings, and call off Christmas.
    • Floss
    • By Floss 3rd Dec 17, 7:46 PM
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    I 'm not one to say "we told you so..." but...
    • Floss
    • By Floss 3rd Dec 17, 7:48 PM
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    Seroliously though, packing is a means to an end and is best tackled in short doses, as is the unpacking in your new home (apart from essentials like kitchen bedroom & bathroom stuff).
    • thorsoak
    • By thorsoak 3rd Dec 17, 9:29 PM
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    I agree with monnagran, prioritise the most important stuff first and your tax return is very important set aside a block of time and a large pot of coffee and tackle that first and foremost.Once thats done and off your back you can begin to organise a little When I first got married I moved 9 times in 3 years ,the last time was with a 4 & 2 year old in tow.Its doable and adds grey hairs but think of the end result.Fodd obviously is the first priority after the tax man as you certainly don't want to try and move with a full freezer.List all of the contents and stuff to eat and work your way through them.I shall be moving in around three years time and I have started to organise books cds etc already.Once read I pass them on to CS or friends,unless they are precious and I'm not able to get rid of them They will get boxed up in crates and labelled to what room they will be going into .re the library books read an hour at a time and if after two or three hours the books don't grab you then return them to the library Don't waste precious time reading something you aren't keen on or because you think you have to.A lot of kitchen gadgets can also be boxed up and put away for a few months Work out whats the minimum you can manage with including cutlery and cups plates etc and box the rest up if you are keeping them.Its amazing how little you really need.If you were camping you wouldn't need a butter knife would you ,bit of an allegory but you see what I mean.
    I wish you the best of luck with your coming move and I'm sure it will go well. Where in Essex are you hoping to move to ,out in the sticks or Colchester way.I lived on Mersea Island in the mid 1960s and loved it
    Good Luck and keep us all in the loop at how you are getting on.

    JackieO xxx
    Originally posted by JackieO
    I live on Mersea Island now (have done so since 2008) and it hasn't changed that much since we first visited Mersea in the 1970s. You'd still recognise most of it x
    • VfM4meplse
    • By VfM4meplse 4th Dec 17, 10:57 AM
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    Seroliously though, packing is a means to an end and is best tackled in short doses, as is the unpacking in your new home (apart from essentials like kitchen bedroom & bathroom stuff).
    Originally posted by Floss
    I think youíre spot on. I shall limit it to a concentrated 2 or 3 hours a night with a radio programme on in the background. If Iím not done by mid-December, Iíll have to devote that weekend to the rest. The professionals can deal with the big items.
    Value-for-money-for-me-puhleeze!

    "No man is worth, crawling on the earth"- adapted from Bob Crewe and Bob Gaudio

    Hope is not a strategy ...A child is for life, not just 18 years....Don't get me started on the NHS, because you won't win...If in doubt, don't pull out... I love chaz-ing!
    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 4th Dec 17, 2:37 PM
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    VfM, did your tax return ever get done?
    LameWolf
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    • VfM4meplse
    • By VfM4meplse 4th Dec 17, 4:38 PM
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    VfM, did your tax return ever get done?
    Originally posted by LameWolf
    No, but I'm happy to leave it to January, as I usuallly do. (I do my annual financial review at the same time, and cut expediture back radically during January-March. This time round I shall be feeling particularly broke!). I will inform HMRC of my change of address beforehand, though.
    Value-for-money-for-me-puhleeze!

    "No man is worth, crawling on the earth"- adapted from Bob Crewe and Bob Gaudio

    Hope is not a strategy ...A child is for life, not just 18 years....Don't get me started on the NHS, because you won't win...If in doubt, don't pull out... I love chaz-ing!
    • VfM4meplse
    • By VfM4meplse 5th Dec 17, 12:11 AM
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    Well I put in nearly 4 hours this evening and have made some good progress

    I also feel very much awake so will now reward myself with some rubbish catch-up TV.
    Value-for-money-for-me-puhleeze!

    "No man is worth, crawling on the earth"- adapted from Bob Crewe and Bob Gaudio

    Hope is not a strategy ...A child is for life, not just 18 years....Don't get me started on the NHS, because you won't win...If in doubt, don't pull out... I love chaz-ing!
    • greenbee
    • By greenbee 5th Dec 17, 8:04 AM
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    No, but I'm happy to leave it to January, as I usuallly do. (I do my annual financial review at the same time, and cut expediture back radically during January-March. This time round I shall be feeling particularly broke!). I will inform HMRC of my change of address beforehand, though.
    Originally posted by VfM4meplse
    Just make sure the paperwork is unpacked by then!

    I used to do mine in January - then in dawned on me that as I usually get a rebate I should deal with it earlier, so now try to get it done in August/Sept. This year I got about £600 back and I've just done my mum's and got £550 back for her. Given your moving costs it might be useful to deal with it earlier...
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