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    • Jenga12
    • By Jenga12 10th Sep 17, 6:52 PM
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    • 10th Sep 17, 6:52 PM
    Adult Kids 10th Sep 17 at 6:52 PM
    My son is 20 and daughter 22; both at home. I've always bought them what they need rather than
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    • comeandgo
    • By comeandgo 10th Sep 17, 6:58 PM
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    • 10th Sep 17, 6:58 PM
    No he's not a fool. Just a completely selfish human being.
    • candygirl
    • By candygirl 10th Sep 17, 7:04 PM
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    • 10th Sep 17, 7:04 PM
    He's a disrespectful, spoilt brat.Time for the bank of Mum to close , asap! You've gone above n beyond for him, n aren't getting any respect or appreciation
    "You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf"

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    • Mojisola
    • By Mojisola 10th Sep 17, 7:06 PM
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    • 10th Sep 17, 7:06 PM
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    • 10th Sep 17, 7:06 PM
    I've always bought them what they need rather than give them pocket money.

    I've raised an ungrateful fool.
    Originally posted by Jenga12
    You've taught him that you will buy him whatever he wants and that he can swear at you and get away with it.

    He won't change until you change.

    Can you find someone to store the bed and the matching furniture until he learns to appreciate what you do for him and to pay at least a share of the cost?
    • Kayalana99
    • By Kayalana99 10th Sep 17, 9:33 PM
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    • 10th Sep 17, 9:33 PM
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    • 10th Sep 17, 9:33 PM
    It's difficult, I agree that he is being selfish but when you've raised your kids so many years one way then pull the rug out from under their feet what do you expect?

    I would have a sit down and a chat with them about how things will change, not just 'put your foot down' at their next request. I hate to say it, but I personally feel, if you have always bent over backwards and paid everything out for them then it's not their fault they are acting the way they do as they haven't been raised to respect and appreciate what they have. Small steps.
    People don't know what they want until you show them.
    • Savvy_Sue
    • By Savvy_Sue 10th Sep 17, 10:03 PM
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    • 10th Sep 17, 10:03 PM
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    • 10th Sep 17, 10:03 PM
    If he wants the makeover, it's definitely up to him to get the rubbish out of his room, I'd start preparing them with the skills they need for leaving home ASAP! Getting them involved with shopping, cooking, laundry and cleaning as a bare minimum.
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    • ska lover
    • By ska lover 15th Sep 17, 4:19 PM
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    • 15th Sep 17, 4:19 PM
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    • 15th Sep 17, 4:19 PM
    Honestly this really makes my blood boil on your behalf


    STOP doing this kind of stuff for both of them, they are well past the age where you should be doing this kind of stuff for them! He should get a job if he wants special treats!


    He's a man child - and by keeping him a child, he will never grow up, paying for him to have a nice bedroom, cleaning the rubbish out of his room etc = yet he wants to be a man when it suits him to be out with his mates drinking


    As Savvy sue says, I would start prepping him for leaving home rather than making him even more comfy to live there, as it isn't going to help him any, to keep pampering him whilst putting up with abuse
    The opposite of what you know...is also true
    • spadoosh
    • By spadoosh 15th Sep 17, 4:30 PM
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    • 15th Sep 17, 4:30 PM
    I'd text him saying 'this b***h just revoked youre right to live in her house.... see ya!!!'

    And if you can find the middle finger emjoi give him a couple of them too!
    Don't be angry!
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