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    • northwalesd
    • By northwalesd 23rd Aug 17, 6:55 PM
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    Wedding with no evening function?
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    Wedding with no evening function? 23rd Aug 17 at 6:55 PM
    Was just looking at this thread http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5063009, some good ideas on there. I have another question, which is about having a wedding with afternoon function but then having nothing in the evening. So it would all be done and dusted by about 5 or 6PM.

    Is that an odd thing these days? If your family/friends were getting married would you expect an evening 'do'?
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    • By ERICS MUM 23rd Aug 17, 7:11 PM
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    Was just looking at this thread http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5063009, some good ideas on there. I have another question, which is about having a wedding with afternoon function but then having nothing in the evening. So it would all be done and dusted by about 5 or 6PM.

    Is that an odd thing these days? If your family/friends were getting married would you expect an evening 'do'?
    Originally posted by northwalesd
    I wouldn't find it odd at all. Friends of mine were married in a registry office early on a Weds afternoon then we went on to a hall for the reception and we left about 6pm.

    They had always intended to have a smallish wedding (50-ish guests) so they didn't need to split their guest list into those who were attending the wedding and wedding breakfast and those who were coming only in the evening. I suppose if your guest list runs into hundreds as some do then you would have to differentiate.
    • Mojisola
    • By Mojisola 23rd Aug 17, 7:14 PM
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    Is that an odd thing these days? If your family/friends were getting married would you expect an evening 'do'?
    Originally posted by northwalesd
    Your wedding, your arrangements.

    As long as the invitations make it clear how the day will be laid out, everyone will know what to expect.
    • carlislelass
    • By carlislelass 23rd Aug 17, 7:38 PM
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    • Owain Moneysaver
    • By Owain Moneysaver 23rd Aug 17, 7:58 PM
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    If people are coming a long way they may expect something to do in the evening.

    I think it's okay if you say "anyone staying after 6 pm can join us in the Ferret & Tricycle" and perhaps the best man or someone can organise the group if the married couple and immediate family want to leave early.
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    • Mojisola
    • By Mojisola 23rd Aug 17, 9:26 PM
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    If people are coming a long way they may expect something to do in the evening.
    Originally posted by Owain Moneysaver
    We had an afternoon do so that people could go home - saved them all having to pay for a hotel.
    • skimper
    • By skimper 24th Aug 17, 1:14 PM
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    My friend got married at 4, then had a sit down meal & photos. all done with by about 8pm then people were free to go or stay for a few drinks. It was a lovely chilled out day.
    • Brighton belle
    • By Brighton belle 24th Aug 17, 1:24 PM
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    We also had an afternoon do: all done and dusted in 3 hours from walking in to get married to leaving for our hotel: bliss.

    You can do what ever you like, it's your wedding. We kept it small (40 guests for afternoon tea) and stress free.
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    • Robin9
    • By Robin9 24th Aug 17, 1:34 PM
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    We also had an afternoon do: all done and dusted in 3 hours from walking in to get married to leaving for our hotel: bliss.

    You can do what ever you like, it's your wedding. We kept it small (40 guests for afternoon tea) and stress free.
    Originally posted by Brighton belle
    Likewise - and as someone else said - Perfection.

    Concentrate on the wedding and your commitment to one another.

    Yes to a family afternoon . I don't see the point in paying for an evening party which will be just another party.
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    • MoneySaver82
    • By MoneySaver82 26th Aug 17, 1:03 PM
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    Your wedding so do whatever makes you happiest!

    I would just say, as others have said, to make it clear to people what the plan for the day is. We had a family wedding where many had travelled long distances so had to stay over - after a meal in the early afternoon the bride and groom left an hour or so later and we were all left wondering what to do with ourselves!

    W ended up having to pay for a pretty expensive and not particularly great meal in the hotel where the wedding had been as we were sort of in the middle of nowhere. It wasn't a problem that they did this, just if we had known the arrangements we might have planned something else for all the family and friends who were staying up.
    • northwalesd
    • By northwalesd 26th Aug 17, 6:10 PM
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    Thanks for all the replies. Would definitely be clear about 'running order' so all the guests would know exactly what was planned. If people did want to stay nearby, we do live in a large town so there'd be things for them to do. It's just an idea at the moment and wanted to see if it was a daft one . And yes, I totally get the 'our wedding, do what WE want' thing.
    • VintageHistorian
    • By VintageHistorian 27th Aug 17, 10:16 PM
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    We had an afternoon tea for our reception and no evening party. Only 40 guests for the whole thing (including several friends babies), did it on a Sunday with the ceremony starting at 1pm. I think it worked really well as it meant no one had to organise accommodation over night, allowing babies meant that our friends could join in without forking out for babysitters (plus they were all very well behaved given their ages varied from 6 weeks through to 7 months!), and no one had to try and get Monday off work so they could stay a bit longer!

    Like people have said above, you do need to let people know there's no evening party, we put "Followed by afternoon tea reception" on our invitations, and since we were talking to people face to face or over the phone we were able to check that they understood there was no later event.
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    • webcrest043
    • By webcrest043 30th Aug 17, 10:19 AM
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    Hi, I want to tell my friend wedding function.It was 2016 September my friend got married at 5pm, After wedding ceremony, they've just had a sit down meal & photos session everything done near about 8:30pm then everyone is free to go or stay for chit chat. It was a really amazing, and memorable day for me because he's my special friend and we spent so much time together.
    Last edited by webcrest043; 30-08-2017 at 10:22 AM.
    • inkie
    • By inkie 16th Sep 17, 8:05 PM
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    Our daughter married last year. They married at 3pm and then had a vintage afternoon tea at 5pm and that was it. All done and dusted by 7.30pm. Everyone had a 6 hour journey each way to the wedding (apart from the bride and groom). People had the opportunity to drive how that evening if they noted. We were just clear in the invites that it would be an afternoon tea at 5pm and so folk knew they weren't going to be entertained all night !
    • katiepants
    • By katiepants 6th Oct 17, 1:42 PM
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    As a guest, I'd be a bit disappointed with no evening do - I find the ceremonies a bit boring and look forward to the party afterwards!!

    Having said that, I'd not judge a couple for doing things as they want it. Your wedding should be exactly what you want, and if that means no evening do then so be it.
    • Gloomendoom
    • By Gloomendoom 6th Oct 17, 3:25 PM
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    My sister had no evening do and, to be honest, it all fell a bit flat at the end of the afternoon. People wanted to party and there was nowhere to go.

    I made a mental note to ensure that I had a evening do should I marry in the future.... and I did.
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    • frugalmacdugal
    • By frugalmacdugal 6th Oct 17, 3:32 PM
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    Hi,

    seems a bit mean, I've been at funerals and not got home until the next day.

    I like to enjoy it as the deceased would've enjoyed being at mine.
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    • warby68
    • By warby68 6th Oct 17, 3:53 PM
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    We did it but it was a small wedding - about 40

    Sunday afternoon

    Ceremony 12.30ish
    Canapes and Cocktails until 2pm
    Sit down long lunch - several courses/choices with speeches
    Private bar afterwards.
    Newlyweds left around 7.30
    We arranged for the private bar to stay open and a taxi account to get people home if they wanted to stay later.

    For the time, it was a bit 'different' and the guests were relatively spoilt The timings suited the very elderly, the pregnant ladies, the ones catching a long distance flight on the same night and those who couldn't take Monday off work!

    Not so sure it works easily with large numbers though - different kind of atmosphere
    • VintageHistorian
    • By VintageHistorian 8th Oct 17, 3:07 PM
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    Not so sure it works easily with large numbers though - different kind of atmosphere
    Originally posted by warby68
    I think this is the key thing to keep in mind, I've just noticed that a lot of us saying "I did it" on this thread are also including "we had around 40 guests".

    If you've invited lots of people then I think turning it in to larger event is the better way to go. A friend of mine got married two years ago, had 50 people to the wedding itself and the dinner, but a further 60 or so people (mostly work colleagues and old friends from school) were invited to the evening bash. She and her partner are very social and enjoy big get-togethers. Me and my OH could only think of around 40 people we liked enough to spend an afternoon with
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    • northwalesd
    • By northwalesd 9th Oct 17, 8:29 PM
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    Hi,

    seems a bit mean, I've been at funerals and not got home until the next day.

    I like to enjoy it as the deceased would've enjoyed being at mine.
    Originally posted by frugalmacdugal
    I'm fortunate it's not a funeral then
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