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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 29th Jul 17, 2:06 PM
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    The Cutting Down / Giving Up Booze Thread (Part 14)
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    • 29th Jul 17, 2:06 PM
    The Cutting Down / Giving Up Booze Thread (Part 14) 29th Jul 17 at 2:06 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 13 is Here

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 4th Jan 18, 12:39 PM
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    Monthly Challenge : January 2018
    January 2018

    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF

    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = Target Achieved

    = Target Beaten



    Alcohol Free Days

    Arkers 4/15


    BackFrmTheEdge 3/31

    BaileysOnIce 3/19

    Barny1979 /26

    BeardedDez 2/16

    Castri09 /20

    CathyBird 4/21

    CuppaTea

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    ElusiveLucy /25

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    MaggieM 1/15

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    Poor Single Lady 3/21

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    Shaggy 3/17

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    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

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    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 4th Jan 18, 12:41 PM
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    2018 Annual Challenge TARGETS
    2018 Targets
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    = 200 days AF

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    = 300 days AF

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    Arkers
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    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • ElusiveLucy
    • By ElusiveLucy 4th Jan 18, 1:24 PM
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    3/25 for me so far. Will be AF until 26th of the month.....that's the plan anyway
    What goes around comes around.....I hope!
    • pollyanna24
    • By pollyanna24 4th Jan 18, 2:24 PM
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    I am up to 3/19.

    I'm fasting today, but don't like declaring until it is definitely in the bag!
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    • Nicnak
    • By Nicnak 4th Jan 18, 3:45 PM
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    3 for me for today, please
    September 6th 2017 - Updated 3rd January 2018
    Credit Card £0 now: £1796 Tesco Loan £7500 = £773 Consolidation £15,000 = £14,725 Total = £25,330 £17,294 EMF #252 = £500/£1000
    Sealed pot challenge #589
    Pay off all your debts by Christmas #170
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 4th Jan 18, 4:25 PM
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    Oh my days OVER £2000 pa on alcohol way back in 2010 - that to me is a problem even if she doesn't think so! That is £167 per MONTH. That's 33 plus bottles of wine at £5 (per month). Or 11 plus bottles of spirits at £15 per bottle (per month). Nuts imho.

    In 2010 I spent the grand total of £74 on alcohol ALL YEAR - £6 per month - that was also for 2 of us. That was my lowest ever amount however..... That year I has 273 AFDs.

    Originally posted by shaggydoo
    Shaggy, she might maybe be buying very expensive wine - as a newspaper columnist she was probably paid loads - I know that's not your point, it's just what occurred to me thinking about the amount. It's a lot of cash, that's for sure.
    No. 15 in Save 12K in 2018. £0/£12,000
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    Jan AFDs: 18/21. 2018 AFDs: 18/260. 2017: 306/252
    • maman
    • By maman 4th Jan 18, 4:35 PM
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    Quite a stressful evening last night, definitely wanted a drink. Reminded myself it doesn't actually reduce stress or solve the issue, just numb me and make the next day worse. The craving passed pretty quickly, so another day AF. No intentions of drinking today, think I'll do a list of things I can do in the evening now I don't have a regular appointment with the wine.

    +2 for last night and tonight please Shaggy, takes me to 4/31
    Originally posted by New Me

    Well done New Me. That's a really good sign.


    I think I'd feel miffed about the 'hidden' booze too scatterbrain. I'm assuming they were full bottles not empties of course. The only explanation I can think of is that they were outside keeping cool rather than hidden but I'm sure I'd have remembered about them if a guest came to stay.


    No drinking for me today.


    3 AFDs please Shaggy.
    • Baileysonice
    • By Baileysonice 4th Jan 18, 5:52 PM
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    Not drinking today so its a 4/19

    Still not sleeping well atm hoping that sorts out soon. Not really craving exactly but I do feel like somethings missing which of course it is. Remember feeling like that when I gave up smoking so i know it will lessen

    I would have been annoyed too scatterbrain I always have nicer stuff for guests not the cheapo box stuff I have myself
    • scatterbrain109
    • By scatterbrain109 4th Jan 18, 9:03 PM
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    Hi Shaggy
    4/31 tonight
    Thank you
    Jo x
    Sealed pot challenge number - #057 2017 = £172.57 2018 = ????
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    15/1/18 Mortgage £219,596 Secured loan £54,492 Unsecured £64,,459
    • stepuptothepl8
    • By stepuptothepl8 4th Jan 18, 9:13 PM
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    Hi Everyone
    2/8 today
    LBM 1st Feb 2015 £17714 to go
    my diary: time to step up to the plate. SPC#503
    2018 challenges: coming soon!
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 4th Jan 18, 10:23 PM
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    1/26 AFDs today
    • scatterbrain109
    • By scatterbrain109 4th Jan 18, 11:33 PM
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    Been a hard day today.
    On Saturday (30th) we went away for new year.
    On Sunday morning our cat visitor/carer called to say our elderly cat had a seizure and she was taking her to the vet.
    About an hour later the vet called, cat in heart failure and enlarged liver. Immediate treatment and investigation £850 - £900 follow on care for next few days would be £2-3k
    I said I would discuss with OH and call back.
    Even then I knew what we had to do.
    Purdy was put to sleep on Sunday morning, I felt so sad and heartsick that we couldn't be with her.
    We got home yesterday and picked her up today and buried her in the garden when the children came home from school.
    Many tears have flowed today and I've just been out to check her grave.
    I just feel sad and wanted to share. I haven't wanted a drink strangely enough. I'm just about to have my hot milk and go to bed.
    Goodnight all
    Jo x
    Last edited by scatterbrain109; 04-01-2018 at 11:34 PM. Reason: Typo
    Sealed pot challenge number - #057 2017 = £172.57 2018 = ????
    15/12/17 Mortgage £219,902 Secured loan £54,946 Unsecured £66,088
    15/1/18 Mortgage £219,596 Secured loan £54,492 Unsecured £64,,459
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 5th Jan 18, 7:49 AM
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    Morning all, 5/21 for me please.
    No. 15 in Save 12K in 2018. £0/£12,000
    2017: £12,978.51/£12K 2016: £20,880.11/£15K 2015: £25,464.86/£10K
    Jan AFDs: 18/21. 2018 AFDs: 18/260. 2017: 306/252
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 5th Jan 18, 7:52 AM
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    Jo, so very very sorry to hear about Purdy - my heart goes out to you - it's always so sad to lose a pet. I'm sure she had a lovely life and surely if she wasn't in the best of health you did the kind thing xxxx
    No. 15 in Save 12K in 2018. £0/£12,000
    2017: £12,978.51/£12K 2016: £20,880.11/£15K 2015: £25,464.86/£10K
    Jan AFDs: 18/21. 2018 AFDs: 18/260. 2017: 306/252
    • New Me
    • By New Me 5th Jan 18, 8:21 AM
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    Baileysonice I've been having problems with sleep also, had some toast at 8ish last night and slept through. Maybe worth a try, think my body was missing the evening calories!

    5/31 for today please Shaggy
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 5th Jan 18, 9:35 AM
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    Jo, so sorry to hear about Purdy (we had a Purdy as well many years ago) - I know what a hard decision it is to make, even more so when you are away from home and could not be with her I am sure she knew how much you loved her and she will be waiting for you at the Rainbow Bridge
    • Wanna Bee Free
    • By Wanna Bee Free 5th Jan 18, 1:08 PM
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    So very sorry to hear about your sad loss Jo. Sad times but it sounds as if she was lucky to be with you and your family and had a good innings. xx
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    • Arkers
    • By Arkers 5th Jan 18, 3:02 PM
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    Arkers
    JO, sorry to hear about the loss of a beloved pet, it's always hard.
    5 please Shaggy.
    Arkers x
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 5th Jan 18, 3:07 PM
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    Honey Bear
    Oh my days OVER £2000 pa on alcohol way back in 2010 - that to me is a problem even if she doesn't think so! That is £167 per MONTH. That's 33 plus bottles of wine at £5 (per month). Or 11 plus bottles of spirits at £15 per bottle (per month). Nuts imho.

    In 2010 I spent the grand total of £74 on alcohol ALL YEAR - £6 per month - that was also for 2 of us. That was my lowest ever amount however..... That year I has 273 AFDs.
    Originally posted by shaggydoo
    That point had completely passed me by, Shaggy! I'm not sure what OH and I were spending on booze a year back in 2010 but I don't think it was anywhere near that much - and at that point we were both drinking heavily. Good point.

    Been a hard day today.
    On Saturday (30th) we went away for new year.
    On Sunday morning our cat visitor/carer called to say our elderly cat had a seizure and she was taking her to the vet.
    About an hour later the vet called, cat in heart failure and enlarged liver. Immediate treatment and investigation £850 - £900 follow on care for next few days would be £2-3k
    I said I would discuss with OH and call back.
    Even then I knew what we had to do.
    Purdy was put to sleep on Sunday morning, I felt so sad and heartsick that we couldn't be with her.
    We got home yesterday and picked her up today and buried her in the garden when the children came home from school.
    Many tears have flowed today and I've just been out to check her grave.
    I just feel sad and wanted to share. I haven't wanted a drink strangely enough. I'm just about to have my hot milk and go to bed.
    Goodnight all
    Jo x
    Originally posted by scatterbrain109
    I'm so sorry to hear about Purdy, Scatterbrain. I don't think anyone could have been unluckier with all the elements going into losing her. No wonder you were so sad when you posted. She would have known she was absolutely loved all the time she was with you and I've no doubt you gave her a lovely life. The pain of losing them is the price we pay for all the happiness they give us but it is very, very hard when it happens. (((Hugs)))

    Our little Devil Cat is in the very last stages of terminal cancer, and has been for several months but no-one's told him, so every day is a miracle. OH keeps randomly bursting into tears about the thought of having to make the phone call but at least it's not totally unexpected and we've been allowed to spoil him rotten for weeks.

    5/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • Baileysonice
    • By Baileysonice 5th Jan 18, 3:49 PM
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    Baileysonice I've been having problems with sleep also, had some toast at 8ish last night and slept through. Maybe worth a try, think my body was missing the evening calories!

    5/31 for today please Shaggy
    Originally posted by New Me
    Thanks New me Ill try that

    5/19 please
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