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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 29th Jul 17, 2:06 PM
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    The Cutting Down / Giving Up Booze Thread (Part 14)
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    • 29th Jul 17, 2:06 PM
    The Cutting Down / Giving Up Booze Thread (Part 14) 29th Jul 17 at 2:06 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 13 is Here

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • BACKFRMTHEEDGE
    • By BACKFRMTHEEDGE 6th Dec 17, 4:28 PM
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    BACKFRMTHEEDGE
    I know that when I did it, the advice was that although I was still coping relatively well with the amount I was drinking, within a couple of years I would be at a stage when dealing with it, ie stopping, would be a lot, lot harder.
    Originally posted by Honey Bear
    Thank you for your post Honey Bear. This struck a chord with me. It made me realise I must quit now while I still can. I've given up many times - once for four months- each time quitting has been harder than the previous times.

    Thanks.


    A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 6th Dec 17, 5:47 PM
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    Welcome BackfromtheEdge

    3/14

    1x small glass at home
    1x small glass out
    1x pub Saturday

    None today.
    Hoping none tommorow or Friday, Planned pub visit Saturday.
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 6th Dec 17, 6:46 PM
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    5/21 AFDs today
    • Nicnak
    • By Nicnak 6th Dec 17, 8:19 PM
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    5/15 please xxx
    September 6th 2017 start Updated 25th NOV 17
    Credit Card £430 now: £1181 Tesco Loan £7500 = £6700 Car loan £17,500 = £9,875 Total = £25,330 £17,756 EMF #252
    Sealed pot challenge #589
    Pay off all your debts by Christmas #170
    • Paspatur
    • By Paspatur 6th Dec 17, 9:08 PM
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    Paspatur
    4/24 for tonight please - Masterchef, hot bath and early night for me
    • Green Karen
    • By Green Karen 6th Dec 17, 11:23 PM
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    Green Karen
    Shaggy - I have had the exact same experience when withdrawing from caffeine, day 1 usually ok and not too bad day 2 then day 3 feel sick, headachey, not in my own body. I gave up caffeine years ago then drank it for a week on a business trip in Germany last year where I couldn't get decaff tea and was back to the beginning withdrawing again. Awful but worth it.

    6/5 AF days thanks.
    • Mudbath
    • By Mudbath 6th Dec 17, 11:39 PM
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    6/20 please.

    Had lunch and dinner out today but was driving so although I was encouraged, a lot, to have a glass of fizz I declined. Driving is definitely helping. It's very interesting how many people don't like the fact that I'm happy to not have a drink. People aren't liking it at all!
    • maggiem
    • By maggiem 7th Dec 17, 5:42 AM
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    Well managed 1/15 AFDs for last night and feeling pleased as just too easy to think s*d it given my start to the month. Hoping and intending another AFD today but rather more temptation as I will be wandering around a Christmas market tonight -and I love a gluhwein.

    Interesting discussion about caffeine and effects of withdrawal, I tried this a while ago and had truly terrible headaches but went back to drinking caffeine when I did not notice any real effects. Hope you are feeling better now Shaggy.

    I think a lot of people notice negative effects from others when they stop drinking Mudbath - many of us find it easier not to say anything directly but to have a good excuse like drinking, antibiotics etc. Really very anti social to encourage a driver to have a drink, even just one!
    • Slowdown
    • By Slowdown 7th Dec 17, 6:46 AM
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    4/10please.

    I know I haven't gone for a high target this month but it's helping. I really wanted a glass of wine from the half finished bottle in the fridge last night. But I didn't because I am convinced I can hit this target. If I'd set it higher I would have just given in telling myself I won't make it anyway.

    BACKFROMTHEEDGE Good luck with the 3 month stint.

    I will be having a glass tonight and I know it will be stress related. My son is waiting for some medical test results tomorrow morning and we don't know what to expect. It's very worrying and I know I'll have to calm my nerves. I know it's wrong but it will relax me while I distract myself. DH is out tonight so I won't have him to take my mind off things.

    Happy Thursday to everyone.
    • Mudbath
    • By Mudbath 7th Dec 17, 7:18 AM
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    Slowdown - fingers crossed for the results for your son.
    Maggiem - I was a bit shocked at how many times I was told 'you'll be fine having one drink'. If I'm driving I don't have so much as a sip so I didn't feel pressured at all but it's naughty as you say!

    I will be having a glass of wine tonight as I'm going out with my oldest friend who I've not seen for about 6 months. I'm seeing it as a challenge though as normally we'd sink quite a few drinks between us and this time I want to stick to one drink. I don't want to not drink at all but I want to drink less and less often so I'm hoping to meet the challenge head on.

    Hope everyone enjoys their day x
    • BACKFRMTHEEDGE
    • By BACKFRMTHEEDGE 7th Dec 17, 8:15 AM
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    BACKFROMTHEEDGE Good luck with the 3 month stint.

    I will be having a glass tonight and I know it will be stress related. My son is waiting for some medical test results tomorrow morning and we don't know what to expect. It's very worrying and I know I'll have to calm my nerves. I know it's wrong but it will relax me while I distract myself. DH is out tonight so I won't have him to take my mind off things.

    Happy Thursday to everyone.
    Originally posted by Slowdown
    Thanks and tons of Good Luck with your son.
    Last edited by BACKFRMTHEEDGE; 07-12-2017 at 8:18 AM.


    A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step
    • BACKFRMTHEEDGE
    • By BACKFRMTHEEDGE 7th Dec 17, 8:17 AM
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    Well I made it through the first night/day. Slept ok. I have a quiet day planned, write a few xmas cards, think about xmas presents.

    Thanks for listening/reading and the good wishes.

    1/26 Shaggy


    A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step
    • ElusiveLucy
    • By ElusiveLucy 7th Dec 17, 9:42 AM
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    3/10 for me up to last night. Whilst I was really tempted on Tuesday night to have a a drink, I didn't fancy one at all last night, which made it easy. No idea behind the reasoning!
    What goes around comes around.....I hope!
    • ElusiveLucy
    • By ElusiveLucy 7th Dec 17, 9:46 AM
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    Hi Shaggy, I think my post regarding my total for November got missed - I finished the month at 14/14. Thanks
    What goes around comes around.....I hope!
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 7th Dec 17, 10:41 AM
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    So Shaggy 26 for December please.

    I'll be back tomorrow to tell you what my first night was like. Not expecting much sleep.
    Originally posted by BACKFRMTHEEDGE
    Welcome and Good Luck!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 7th Dec 17, 10:44 AM
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    My son is waiting for some medical test results tomorrow morning and we don't know what to expect. It's very worrying and I know I'll have to calm my nerves. I know it's wrong but it will relax me while I distract myself. DH is out tonight so I won't have him to take my mind off things.
    Originally posted by Slowdown
    Good Luck, so stressful.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 7th Dec 17, 10:46 AM
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    Monthly Challenge : November 2017
    November 2017

    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF

    = 28 days AF

    = 30 days AF

    = Target Achieved

    = Target Beaten



    Alcohol Free Days

    AlexLK 1/12
    Arkers 17/10
    Barny1979 28/26
    CathyBird 28/21
    CuppaTea 17/18
    Eltee 15 /18
    ElusiveLucy 14/14
    GreenKaren 7/5
    Honey Bear 30/30
    MaggieM 16/15
    Maman 16/10
    Nicnak 17/20
    Paspatur 7/24


    Penelopedee /20
    Poor Single Lady 21/24
    Pricey 19/22

    PurpleMumof2 /10
    Shaggy 19/13
    SlowDown 13/20
    SukeyBoo 16/14

    Stepuptotheplate 3/10
    TakingOneDay 30/30
    Tallyhoh 30/30

    WBF 5/7


    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 7th Dec 17, 10:51 AM
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    Monthly Challenge : December 2017
    December 2017

    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF

    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = Target Achieved

    = Target Beaten



    Alcohol Free Days

    AlexLK

    Arkers 4/10

    BackFrmTheEdge 1/26

    Barny1979 5/21

    CathyBird 6/21

    CuppaTea 3/18

    Eltee

    ElusiveLucy 3/10

    GreenKaren 6/5

    Honey Bear 6/31

    MaggieM 1/15

    Maman 3/10

    Mudbath 6/20

    Nicnak 5/15

    Paspatur 4/24


    Penelopedee

    Poor Single Lady 3/14

    Pricey /20

    PurpleMumof2

    Shaggy 1/13

    SlowDown 4/10

    SukeyBoo 2/10

    Stepuptotheplate 2/5

    TakingOneDay /31

    Tallyhoh /31

    WBF 4/10


    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 7th Dec 17, 10:54 AM
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    Quite a lot of people on the list given that it's December!

    Still of the chocolate - lost 4 pounds
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 7th Dec 17, 10:56 AM
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    Monthly Challenge : December 2017 Targets
    Roll up, Roll up. A New Month, A New Challenge.



    SET A



    25 days up for grabs!

    Everyone Welcome!!!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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