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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 29th Jul 17, 2:06 PM
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    The Cutting Down / Giving Up Booze Thread (Part 14)
    • #1
    • 29th Jul 17, 2:06 PM
    The Cutting Down / Giving Up Booze Thread (Part 14) 29th Jul 17 at 2:06 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 13 is Here

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • Wanna Bee Free
    • By Wanna Bee Free 1st Dec 17, 11:00 PM
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    Well done Mudbath!

    Off the starting grid today with an unexpected 1/10 please Shaggy.

    Sleep well everyone.
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    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 2nd Dec 17, 7:59 AM
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    Morning all, 2/21 for me please.
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    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 2nd Dec 17, 8:53 AM
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    the desire to drink is huge so reading your post has helped enormously.

    Off to bed I think
    Originally posted by takingonedayatatime
    Fantastically well done for getting past it, One Day. That's when it's hard work, and that's when real grown up pull up their big knickers and show just how strong we are. We all go through those evenings and the only way to push through is to find something that speaks to us individually in that moment - and it really, really doesn't matter where you take your support from. I absolutely promise you those evenings when it's a toughie to get through occur less and less frequently as time goes on but they are a bu**er when they happen. Going to bed early was exactly the right thing to do. By Day 60 they're pretty much done with, and from then on it'll just be a passing thought that a glass of wine would go well with that pizza or pasta, and that's it - it's resistable because you've come so far you won't want to ruin your run. The good news is that even that stops after a while. I'm so glad you found something I said helpful and thank you for saying so.

    I was nearly de-railed at the first hurdle when my last client of the day gave me a bottle of fizz for Christmas (I won't be seeing her again until January). It was sitting there calling at me and normally I'd have had a glass and, because it's the weekend, then had another. Then, of course, I'd be finishing the bottle tomorrow night.

    I managed to resist by having a gorgeous hot chocolate (mentioned earlier in this thread so thank you). Funnily enough I didn't fancy fizz then . I'm actually thinking of re-gifting the wine so it's not a temptation but that feels a bit mean.
    Originally posted by Mudbath
    Well done for resisting, Mudbath; fizz takes a bit of an extra effort I think. It's lovely to know that your client thinks so much of you they gave you such a generous gift. I'd regift it pretty much immediately to someone who you like who will enjoy it sensibly and be thrilled that you've been generous and kind. I'd skip the bit about they'd be doing you a favour taking it off your hands, too - there's no need to spoil the gesture.

    It's not mean at all to regift things, it's practical, pragmatic and generous. It's not that it wasn't appreciated, was it? It's just that it's an inappropriate gift for you at this particular point in your life. We don't need to tell everyone we know about our relationship with booze, so how was s/he to know?

    2/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • Slowdown
    • By Slowdown 2nd Dec 17, 9:24 AM
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    Ok. So I think I made 13/20 days last month. Not as good as I'd have liked.

    And last night I went to our works do which was abysmal and I was home by 10. Despite that I still managed to drink too much as all we did was sit round a table with terrible food and no atmosphere and then I came home and had one.

    Still, all the positivity I'm reading on this thread has given me more enthusiasm so I'm driving to a party tonight and can't drink.

    Excellent thread and welcome to all those who are new.
    • Green Karen
    • By Green Karen 2nd Dec 17, 10:26 AM
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    Made a start on 1/5 AF days. (Though I have a provisional target of 18 in my head as I wish to hit my annual target, but think it's safer to leave it at 5 just in case I say s*d it and get none if I fail at 18, sorry for the unintelligible ramble!).
    • Mudbath
    • By Mudbath 2nd Dec 17, 11:56 AM
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    Honey Bear - thank you for your wise and kind words. It's made me re-think re-gifting. From now on I'll receive with gratitude and pass on with love. I tend to get quite a lot of bottles of wine through December so I'm going to put aside the money from each bottle I re-gift (as usually i'd have to buy a bottle for a party / a gift for a friend etc) and treat myself in January.

    I'm declaring 2/20 for today as I've offered to pick DS up from his girlfriends at midnight so I'll be driving.

    The week ahead has 2 Christmas outings and 2 birthday outings so I'm going to split them and not drink at 2 and have a glass of wine if I feel like it at the other 2.

    Apologies for the rambling but it's keeping me focused.
    Last edited by Mudbath; 03-12-2017 at 9:59 AM.
    • PriceySOS
    • By PriceySOS 2nd Dec 17, 1:43 PM
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    Total of 19 for November and target of 20 for December, please, Shaggy, thanks
    • Nicnak
    • By Nicnak 2nd Dec 17, 7:13 PM
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    1 so far, please x
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    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 2nd Dec 17, 7:23 PM
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    last night I went to our works do which was abysmal ... all we did was sit round a table with terrible food and no atmosphere
    Originally posted by Slowdown
    Slowdown, are you quite sure you weren't at one of my works do's, it all sounds so familiar Actually we haven't had ours yet but I'm sure it won't be dissimilar!
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    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 3rd Dec 17, 8:23 AM
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    3/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • Green Karen
    • By Green Karen 3rd Dec 17, 9:17 AM
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    2/5 AF for me.
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 3rd Dec 17, 11:38 AM
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    Hello everyone

    1/14

    Should do today, Monday, and wed-fri.
    Aiming for this.
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • Nicnak
    • By Nicnak 3rd Dec 17, 3:11 PM
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    2 for me, please x
    September 6th 2017 start Updated 25th NOV 17
    Credit Card £430 now: £1181 Tesco Loan £7500 = £6700 Car loan £17,500 = £9,875 Total = £25,330 £17,756 EMF #252
    Sealed pot challenge #589
    Pay off all your debts by Christmas #170
    • tallyhoh
    • By tallyhoh 3rd Dec 17, 3:15 PM
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    Well, I managed not to drink at all in November (dry now since 12th September) I'm in hospital soon for a fairly major op so can't drink for the foreseeable future.

    A/F free for all of December please
    Tallyhoh!

    Stopped Smoking October 2000. Saved £21,840 so far!
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 3rd Dec 17, 3:32 PM
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    Afternoon all, 3/21 for me please.
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    • Mudbath
    • By Mudbath 3rd Dec 17, 3:58 PM
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    Hello

    3/20 for me please.

    I'm planning on staying AF until Friday when my plan changes to moderation.

    Have a good week
    • Wanna Bee Free
    • By Wanna Bee Free 3rd Dec 17, 4:13 PM
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    2/10 for me please Shaggy
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    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 3rd Dec 17, 5:09 PM
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    2/21 AFDs today
    • Wanna Bee Free
    • By Wanna Bee Free 4th Dec 17, 7:46 AM
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    Planning another one today so 3/10 for me please Shaggy.

    I slept really well last night. Bit of a revolutionary idea but I wonder if drinking less alcohol and coffee might be a good way to improve how I sleep. Shhh, don't tell anyone my secret new discovery!
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    • maggiem
    • By maggiem 4th Dec 17, 8:01 AM
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    Had a busy weekend - and just lost post as using my phone! Meeting with friend Monday and Tuesday so whilst will not be drinking lots will have some and a gluhwein at the Christmas market. Might have to - shock horror have an AF Friday! I wanted to post though as it is a slippery slope when not staying the month well.

    Have a good week all
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