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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 29th Jul 17, 2:06 PM
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    The Cutting Down / Giving Up Booze Thread (Part 14)
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    • 29th Jul 17, 2:06 PM
    The Cutting Down / Giving Up Booze Thread (Part 14) 29th Jul 17 at 2:06 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 13 is Here

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • takingonedayatatime
    • By takingonedayatatime 6th Oct 17, 11:38 AM
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    Thanks maman. Still trying to get my head round the 'forever' thing but will get there. x
    • ElusiveLucy
    • By ElusiveLucy 6th Oct 17, 12:51 PM
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    Up to 4/14 for me for last night please Shaggy. Had an unplanned AFD on sunday but then had a drink on weds night, so still done OK this week
    What goes around comes around.....I hope!
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 6th Oct 17, 9:20 PM
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    Poor_Single_lady
    5/24
    On track for target but would liked to have managed a week.
    Thank you all. xxx
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • maggiem
    • By maggiem 7th Oct 17, 8:09 AM
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    Welcome takingonedayatatime and well done on your progress.

    5/15 please achieved on Thursday night. I had a couple of glasses of wine last night and will have a drink tonight but intending to be AF on Sunday again.

    Hope everyone has a good weekend
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 7th Oct 17, 8:18 AM
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    So much for saying I post every day! Yesterday ran away with me and I realised at 1.05 am this morning that I'd missed a day but was too tired to post then to make up for it. Bad me.

    I'm still on the 'I'm going to miss out on things...' phase rather than 'I want to do this for me, my health, my children and my husband.. (and to a lesser extent my wallet)' phase.

    In the early days it does feel as though you'll miss out on things, and that's one of the reasons people keep drinking for a while after they realise that it's getting a bit problematic. I found that drinking something else I liked instead of alcohol helped with that feeling, because as long as I was enjoying myself with the people I was with, I didn't feel as though I was missing something. Your name, One Day, is exactly about this issue, but at that part of the evening in the early days, it's about One Minute At A Time. It won't take long for you to realise that while everyone else is slowly getting pickled, louder and repeating themselves, that you're still sober. It's a rather liberating thought and feeling and I still enjoy it (it happened to me again last night). The second freedom that you have is waking up without a headache, and all of the attendent ca*p that goes with the morning after feeling - I don't miss that one bit.

    You're comments on sleeping lots has struck a chord.. last night I went to bed at 8.30 and woke at 7.00 this morning. Right now I am sitting with a mild headache which has been there on and off since last Thursday.. Both of these things can be attributed to less sugar so I'm trying to bear with it for a while. I'd love to eat more chocolate but I have gone up 2 dress sizes in a year so really need to reign the chocolate in a bit!!

    I totally get where you're coming from on the sleep, energy and sugar front, and you will be able to lose weight relatively easily, but later on. The trick with trying to spring clean our lives is to start with one area and work on that until it's straightened out, and then move on to the next bit. Trying to do everything at once becomes overwhelming because everything's a struggle. I'd seriously suggest not worrying about your weight while you're in the early days of kicking the booze into touch. Belle says it can wait until the six month mark, and I agree with her on that. The trick is to get to the six month mark!

    I think you're doing something I found really, really helpful in the early days - go to bed early, read whatever helps whether it's novels, books about stopping drinking, or magazines, anything that helps you relax, and switch the light out as early as you can reliably fall asleep. It'll make everything ten times easier,


    The only concern I have in the immediate future is that I am out with a friend on the 14th October and historically, these days out are always focused on alcohol. I am still looking forward to going out as we have planned charity book shopping and a coffee but I know that when these activities are done it would be normal to go to a bar and drink and when I say thanks by no thanks - there will be raised eyebrows.... So, do I mention it beforehand to give her a chance to cancel or just go and be strong?
    Originally posted by takingonedayatatime
    It depends on how close you are, what kind of a person she is, and how confident you are of your resolve. (I wasn't, for quite a while - it had let me down so often I knew not to trust it.) I told some people, I didn't tell a lot of others and each situation is different. I'd be tempted to warn her early on that after you've done the shopping and the coffee bit you'd rather not do the bar bit today so that she doesn't get disappointed at the last moment, but that's my stuff and each situation is entirely different. Only you know your friend well enough to know when the right moment arrives. The one thing I absolutely wouldn't do is end up in the bar afterwards and expect my resolve to be enough to stop me drinking. I avoided bars like the plague for at least a month if not two, when I'd got enough days racked up to mean that I was spoiling something important to me if I had one.

    In amongst my posts you'll find some tactics for being around people who are planning on drinking and not having to deal with telling them you've gone alcohol-free for a while, but it's so much easier if you can be up front about it with people who matter to you. It also speaks volume about who you can trust.

    I did a lot of avoiding for quite a while, until I knew I could trust myself and a large part of that was finding a drink I could enjoy instead of alcohol, and often phoning the bar first to see if they stocked it, or something similar. If they didn't, sometimes I didn't go at all, and on one occasion a restaurant told me I was free to bring my own and they wouldn't charge me for opening them! I love that restaurant!

    We're all rooting for you and getting to Day 8 is fantastic!

    Haven't been here for a while (but I do read the thread every now and then), but I seem to have cracked the drinking (for now anyways).

    September was 20 days AF (unheard of for me) and I'm up to 3 this month already. I haven't set myself any targets as such, but I just go with the flow and try not to think about it.

    I'm still on the 5:2 and so I don't drink on fast days and try not to the day before a fast.

    Usually I would drink on a Thursday to celebrate no work on Friday, but I still have to get up with the kids, so fast on a Thursday to take away the temptation.

    I'm getting there. I treat myself to a bottle of cava on a Friday and Saturday as something to look forward to.
    Originally posted by pollyanna24
    Lovely to hear from you, Pollyanna. It's brilliant when people who have posted for quite a while come back and say they're doing okay. Every so often I go back a read a bit and realise there are people we haven't heard from for a while and I can't help wondering if they're okay. 20 is brilliant, and good on you for sticking to the 5:2 diet - Max Moseley's a big believer and it seems to suit some people really well.

    Gotta dash. Still struggling to catch up with myself.

    7/31 please, Shaggy.
    Last edited by Honey Bear; 08-10-2017 at 12:02 AM.
    Keeping it AF
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 7th Oct 17, 9:06 AM
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    Good morning all. I am hangover free. just saying.

    6/24 please.Thank you. xxx
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • takingonedayatatime
    • By takingonedayatatime 7th Oct 17, 9:24 AM
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    Honey Bear - thank you so much for taking the time to comment.. I can't tell you how much I appreciate it.

    I will try my best to forget about the weight issue and concentrate on the alcohol issue for now.. that is more important for me and my family. My friend is a long standing one and I am hopeful she will be supportive. If not - well there isn't much I can do about it as I WILL NOT drink.

    I am blown away with the amount of spare money I have in my housekeeping budget over the last 9 days.. (about £50).. oh my word! A combination of no alcohol for me or my husband and the food that I used to eat after a few glasses of wine... So am treating my 3 year old to some winter clothes today.

    Money has always been a little tight (hence the reason for me being on this sight in the first place) so its great that I have extra money for the kids without having to budget for them...

    7/31 for me please Shaggy
    • maman
    • By maman 7th Oct 17, 11:38 AM
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    5/24
    On track for target but would liked to have managed a week.
    Thank you all. xxx
    Originally posted by Poor_Single_lady

    I've always found that planning my drinking days helps. As a cutter down I don't think trying not to drink at all and then having some s*d it days would work for me. It may sound odd but if I've given myself 'permission' I enjoy the AF days as much as the drinking days. I suppose it's about being in control.

    I will try my best to forget about the weight issue and concentrate on the alcohol issue for now.. that is more important for me and my family.
    Originally posted by takingonedayatatime

    I was overweight when I first joined and I knew that no amount of dieting/healthy eating/exercise would help if I carried on drinking the way I was. So I came on here, used the site to get the drinking under control and then tackled the healthy eating. I've been at the weight I want to be for more than 6 years now. Just like you are finding the money saving is helping I'm not ashamed to admit that not having empty calories motivates me massively.


    There are parallels with what you've posted HB (missed you yesterday BTW). When I first started cutting down and subsequently healthy eating I used avoidance at first. I'd try very hard not to accept invitations on a school night when I wanted to be AF or going to places where I couldn't control what I'd choose to eat. After that (and even now) it helps that I don't want to spoil what I've achieved by slipping back into bad habits and putting the weight back on. Me vain??
    • Arkers
    • By Arkers 7th Oct 17, 12:39 PM
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    Good morning everyone,
    2 more AFD please Shaggy.
    Arkers x
    • Green Karen
    • By Green Karen 7th Oct 17, 6:26 PM
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    Posting early for 7 AF days please.
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 8th Oct 17, 12:11 PM
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    Good morning all

    Welcome back Green Karen
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 8th Oct 17, 12:13 PM
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    I pressed wrong button- sorry 7/24 please

    First Icon achieved.
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • maman
    • By maman 8th Oct 17, 12:24 PM
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    Posting early for 7 AF days please.
    Originally posted by Green Karen
    I pressed wrong button- sorry 7/24 please

    First Icon achieved.
    Originally posted by Poor_Single_lady

    That's great going to have a week done. I'll jin you later in the week.
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 8th Oct 17, 3:27 PM
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    5/24 AFDs today
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 8th Oct 17, 4:02 PM
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    Good morning all. I am hangover free. just saying.
    Originally posted by Poor_Single_lady
    And doesn't it feel great!

    I will try my best to forget about the weight issue and concentrate on the alcohol issue for now.. that is more important for me and my family. My friend is a long standing one and I am hopeful she will be supportive. If not - well there isn't much I can do about it as I WILL NOT drink.

    I am blown away with the amount of spare money I have in my housekeeping budget over the last 9 days.. (about £50).. oh my word! A combination of no alcohol for me or my husband and the food that I used to eat after a few glasses of wine... So am treating my 3 year old to some winter clothes today.

    Money has always been a little tight (hence the reason for me being on this sight in the first place) so its great that I have extra money for the kids without having to budget for them...
    Originally posted by takingonedayatatime
    The law of unintended consequences, One Day, the money thing. Don't forget to buy something for yourself (and your OH) when you buy the kids what they need. If our lives are all about sacrifice we become insufferable saints - we are allowed to enjoy ourselves!

    If you're anything like me, the weight will stop piling on after you stop drinking, because the amount of sugar you've been taking in with the booze will drop dramatically, and we stop indulging the late night munchies. Been there, done that!

    I don't think it's vain, Maman. I think taking a bit of pride in the way we look isn't a bad thing at all. Sometimes I rather wish a few more people did ....

    8/31 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • takingonedayatatime
    • By takingonedayatatime 8th Oct 17, 5:46 PM
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    Thank you Maman and Honey Bear.

    I am looking forward to a haircut and maybe even a manicure in the near future to help with my motivation. In fact I may just book them now for next week!! Why not eh? ;-)

    Feeling grumpy today but still determined not to drink.

    I hope everyone had a lovely weekend!

    8/31 please Shaggy
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 8th Oct 17, 8:41 PM
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    Hey all, I have had a lovely trip away, back now and back in the saddle tomorrow, looking forward to it!
    No. 38 in Save 12K in 2017. £11,846.85/£12,000
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    Dec AFDs: 13/21 2017 AFDs: 293/252
    • maggiem
    • By maggiem 9th Oct 17, 6:25 AM
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    6/15 please - almost at a smiley! I had an alcohol free beer last night as I was really thirsty, do not like coke etc. I enjoyed it too although not usually a beer / lager drinker. However I suspect still relatively high in calories.
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 9th Oct 17, 8:22 AM
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    Morning all, 5/21 for me please.
    No. 38 in Save 12K in 2017. £11,846.85/£12,000
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    Save 12K in 2015: £25,464.86/£10,000
    Dec AFDs: 13/21 2017 AFDs: 293/252
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 9th Oct 17, 10:46 AM
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    4/14 for today please Shaggy
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