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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 29th Jul 17, 2:06 PM
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    The Cutting Down / Giving Up Booze Thread (Part 14)
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    • 29th Jul 17, 2:06 PM
    The Cutting Down / Giving Up Booze Thread (Part 14) 29th Jul 17 at 2:06 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 13 is Here

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 11th Sep 17, 11:35 AM
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    hello sukey. Hope you had a good time.
    I had a short break last week too so we've got catching up to do!
    Originally posted by maman
    Hi Maman

    It is hard when you are away at the start of the month isn't it? We certainly have got some catching up to do - some big totals appearing already - well done everyone

    Congratulations on the 2lb loss Shaggy - I have returned from holiday with a few extra lbs so I need to keep an eye on things before it gets out-of-hand

    Welcome stepuptothepl8 & good luck with the cutting down - I find this thread has definitely helped me to do this
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 11th Sep 17, 5:48 PM
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    8/18 for me please shaggy.

    Thank you HB and Maman for your more in depth welcomes and explanations. I didn't have the time.
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 11th Sep 17, 9:52 PM
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    Barny I think anyone who does the GBR is really amazing. I couldn't do that. Whether you feel it or not it really is brilliant.


    Hello and welcome Stepup.

    7/24. Please

    Thank you all. xx
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    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

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    • Wanna Bee Free
    • By Wanna Bee Free 11th Sep 17, 10:11 PM
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    6/21 for me today. Sleep well everyone.
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    • stepuptothepl8
    • By stepuptothepl8 11th Sep 17, 10:34 PM
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    Thank you for the warm welcome.. ok then, I'm going to try for 5 AF days.. I know it's not a lot, but it would be a big step for me. Not today though
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    • Purplemumof2
    • By Purplemumof2 12th Sep 17, 5:16 AM
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    Morning,

    3/10 AFD for me please Shaggy.

    Getting there slowly, slept like a log last night.
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    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 12th Sep 17, 7:45 AM
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    Morning, 12/21 for me thanks.
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    • ElusiveLucy
    • By ElusiveLucy 12th Sep 17, 9:52 AM
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    Up to 4/10 for last night and no doubt will do another one tonight, but I am not going to forward book it since that has been my downfall int he past.

    Hoping to do Mon-Thur in a row this week ahead of a trip on Saturday which will no doubt mean no more AFDs until 25-Sep
    What goes around comes around.....I hope!
    • maman
    • By maman 12th Sep 17, 10:12 AM
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    Thank you for the warm welcome.. ok then, I'm going to try for 5 AF days.. I know it's not a lot, but it would be a big step for me. Not today though
    Originally posted by stepuptothepl8

    Baby steps is good. Good Luck!

    Up to 4/10 for last night and no doubt will do another one tonight, but I am not going to forward book it since that has been my downfall int he past.
    Originally posted by ElusiveLucy

    Whatever works best for you lucy. Conversely for me I find if I commit early in the day I'm more likely to keep to it. Its as if the decision is made I don't think about it after that or when (occasionally) I get cravings I feel a stronger sense of accountability. That's one of the good things about the thread though. we all throw in tips and ideas and can pick and choose what works for each of us.


    My dance class starts up tonight after the summer break so no drinking for me. It's perfect distraction.


    4 AFDs please Shaggy.
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 12th Sep 17, 10:49 AM
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    Declaring early for tonight on 2/10 please Shaggy
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 12th Sep 17, 12:25 PM
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    I can't lecture anyone about cutting down or giving up Maman after my decade of drinking more than I should. Everyone was very forgiving of my excess over the years. I'm also acutely conscious that I'm one mistake away from going back to old behaviours and I'd hope that if I did, people would be tolerant.

    And, being honest, let's not pretend that single cause fanatics that impose their wearing and wearying views on the unfortunate people around them actually make a difference to the way people think and behave! I can't stand being lectured, and while new information about breaking bad habits is always interesting and welcome, being told that what we're doing is harmful is actively unhelpful.

    I know exactly what helped me give up smoking and booze, and it wasn't people telling me from their lofty sanctified heights that I was being foolish!

    Anyone who realises they've got a bad habit, that it's up to them to get to grips with it and does something, anything at all about it, is a hero in my eyes. Posting on this thread counts as 'doing something about it.' It may be a small step, but every journey starts with just that one small step.

    I've never found a soft drink that I can say I really enjoy as much as an alcoholic drink.
    Originally posted by maman
    Neither have I! But what I have found is a drink that I can drink for the whole evening without feeling as though I've overdosed on sugar and that has the slightly sour taste of satisfying booziness without the alcohol. It's not an improvement but it's a fair stand in.

    What I've also found is that I can, hand on heart, say I enjoy more than an alcoholic drink is what my life has morphed into without it. That's been a revelation to me; I honestly couldn't work out in my drinking days how on earth I could celebrate birthdays, weddings and Christmas without fizz, and dinner, particularly pizza and pasta without wine. It still surprises me, believe it or not. I hope it always does because that's what keeps me on the straight and narrow as much as anything else.

    Morning

    I've lost 2 pounds - only 24 more pounds to go

    Shaggyx
    Originally posted by shaggydoo
    Well done on the 2lbs - you're moving in the right direction which is more than I am. 12/30 please.
    Last edited by Honey Bear; 13-09-2017 at 8:52 AM.
    Keeping it AF
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 12th Sep 17, 12:50 PM
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    Conversely for me I find if I commit early in the day I'm more likely to keep to it. It's as if the decision is made I don't think about it after that or when (occasionally) I get cravings I feel a stronger sense of accountability.
    Originally posted by maman
    Me too maman - I prefer to get the decision over and done with. I have been known to change course later in the day but not recently. The main thing though is to post here and be accountable either way, so if I change my mind and have a drink, it seems better to post here to say so.

    What I have found is a drink that I can drink for the whole evening without feeling as though I've overdosed on sugar and that has the slightly taste of satisfying booziness without the alcohol. It's not an improvement but it's a fair stand in.
    Honey Bear, that's what I think about ginger beer with a few drops of bitters - it makes me feel as though I have had a "real" drink when I have got in the door from work and just a small glass is enough, so even though I'm sure it has sugar in it I don't feel as though I imbibe too much of the sweet stuff. After dinner I have a cup of mint tea (warming in the winter and refreshing in the summer). That's enough for me these days, thanks to this thread.
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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 12th Sep 17, 1:36 PM
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    2lbs is excellent Shaggy. I've only managed to shift a couple of pounds since my holiday in June. I keep trying but life has a habit of getting in the way.
    Originally posted by maman
    Another good reading this morning - nearing 3 pounds. I can't believe how bad I've let things get!!!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 12th Sep 17, 1:40 PM
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    Thank you for the warm welcome.. ok then, I'm going to try for 5 AF days.. I know it's not a lot, but it would be a big step for me. Not today though
    Originally posted by stepuptothepl8
    Good Luck - you're on the list and
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 12th Sep 17, 1:44 PM
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    Monthly Challenge : September 2017
    September 2017

    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF

    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = Target Achieved

    = Target Beaten



    Alcohol Free Days

    Arkers 4/TF
    Barny1979 9/25

    CathyBird 12/21
    CuppaTea 8/18

    Eltee
    /18

    ElusiveLucy
    4/10
    Honey Bear 12/30

    MaggieM 2 /15

    Maman
    4/10
    Poor Single Lady 7/24


    Pricey
    /20

    PurpleMumof2 3/10

    Shaggy 6/21


    StepUpToThePl8 /5

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    SukeyBoo
    2/10

    WBF 6/21



    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • maman
    • By maman 12th Sep 17, 1:53 PM
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    Another good reading this morning - nearing 3 pounds. I can't believe how bad I've let things get!!!
    Originally posted by shaggydoo
    Fantastic!!
    • ElusiveLucy
    • By ElusiveLucy 12th Sep 17, 6:06 PM
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    When I get back from my trip next week I am going back on a diet so that will restrict my drinking on my non-AF days. I am at the stage where I have nothing to wear that I feel comfortable in and I'm at my heaviest ever weight - that is really bad. I am not going to buy larger clothes, so I need to get through the next couple of weeks and I will do it, I am determined. I hope that lasts!
    What goes around comes around.....I hope!
    • maggiem
    • By maggiem 12th Sep 17, 9:17 PM
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    Well declaring early last Thursday didn't work. My plan was to get a take away and have it at the hotel in my room. Thursday was the night the takeaway was shut so ended up in a Greek restaurant and could not resist the free ouzo so carried on to drink a glass of wine too. However was much worse on Friday night, a planned night for drinking when drinking less rather went out of the window. Must get back to trying especially as I have put lots of weight on and feel rather blimp like and uncomfortable too.

    This week have been AF Monday and tonight so now 3/15 please Shaggy
    • Wanna Bee Free
    • By Wanna Bee Free 12th Sep 17, 9:52 PM
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    7/21 for me today. Sleep well everyone.
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    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 12th Sep 17, 9:52 PM
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    I had a serious wobble today between 5-7pm. It was touch and go. I was feeling stressed. A friend offered to bring round wine, but I declined. Put the kettle on instead. That moment of desire was actually short lived but it was really strong.

    So 9/18 please shaggy. Half way! ��
    I'm dealing with stuff.
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