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    • Knit Witch
    • By Knit Witch 18th Jul 17, 8:29 PM
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    The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!
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    • 18th Jul 17, 8:29 PM
    The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat! 18th Jul 17 at 8:29 PM
    As threads are going walkabout I thought I would start the next stage of this off - I will try and do the links later!
    OS Weight Loss 5.26/10

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    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 12th Sep 17, 2:57 PM
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    I haven't caught up properly yet . Busier than a busy bee .
    Just want to send love and light to Karcher.. One step at a time love , I hope you begin to sort through your stressful time and know others are thinking of you x

    Take care everyone and hope the tail end of Storm Aileen avoids your areas . Battening down the hatches again here , so same old , same old .
    burtha you sound like a different woman . Go you !!! 3MW really sums him up - although he doesn't sound wonderful at all . Possibly just in his head .

    pollyx
    • CRANKY40
    • By CRANKY40 13th Sep 17, 7:52 AM
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    Karcher have a hug.

    I picked 5.5lbs of rhubarb yesterday before the weather became bad enough to stop me wanting to go down to the bottom of the garden. I brought the unripe/starting to ripen tomatoes in too - they can sit on the windowsill and ripen (they're in a cardboard box). The grass needs cutting but I'm beginning to think it's never going to stop raining for long enough for it to dry out a bit so I can do it.

    The house troll is doing some youth award thing at school so he's offered to call on some of our elderly neighbours tonight after school and see if they want a share of our rhubarb. I like his school, I really do. They teach the kids a lot of things other than just the standard lessons and they have teachers patrolling through our estate after school finishes to make sure the pupils behave on the way home too (no smoking/bullying etc). The best of it is that the children are all so proud of their school when you talk to them.

    I have a busy morning today with friends who usually make me laugh until I can't breathe. Food for the soul and so much fun into the bargain

    Take care all of you.
    • ivyleaf
    • By ivyleaf 13th Sep 17, 8:16 AM
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    Wishing you a very happy morning, CRANKY. Really glad the house troll has such a great school
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 13th Sep 17, 12:08 PM
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    Well Aileen came and went . Not as fierce as predicted but very strong winds and torrents of rain with much crashing and banging outside .
    We had a power cut in the early hours but it wasn't long lasting . I spent my night reading in bed and was eating a very welcome bowl of porridge at 6am this morning .
    A quick inspection shows some broken terracotta pots . I had moved them to a more sheltered position yesterday but it didn't save them . The roof which is always the biggest concern looks ok .
    I hope all here were spared any damage .

    Cranky Enjoy you're day it should do you the world of good . I'm so pleased the HT has such a wonderful school . Good schools make such a difference .

    Have a good day all . Gentle hugs to those who'd like one x
    polly
    • burtha
    • By burtha 13th Sep 17, 11:21 PM
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    Karcher , sending hugs ,hope you have had a better day today .

    Busy as normal here , work , kids sorted ,washing done , dogs walked about 3 mile, 2 mile run and boot camp .... and quick shop ...
    All by 9 ... about to chill when 3mw turned up ... !!! ... apparently he's coming tomorrow to move some stuff ... yippee .... asked if he will be here to see the kids ..... no , plans on being here in the morning because , guess what ... he's going away till Sunday ..... then sometime in Oct ....and Nov ....
    Told him what needs removed from the house and could he do it , reply was , what n my car ??? Words fail me .....
    Didn't bother to tell him , we need wood cut , money for food , ( not desperate yet due to large stores ) ,kids want to do stuff at the weekend that needs cash .... I could go on .... but little point .
    Think I have everything sorted to get the house on the market , then he can do one ....
    Kids are better now than they can see what he's doing , and they know that them and I are ok ,.... dispite how he obviously doesn't care about any of us ,... just need to move on ...
    absolute pratt

    So now chilled out , quick bath , dogs flat out next to me on the sofa .... Music on .... cheese and nice olive bread ( both ys ) .... roll on tomorrow ....

    X
    • Floss
    • By Floss 14th Sep 17, 7:59 AM
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    Burtha is he not giving you any money towards the bills and the kids upkeep?? What has your solicitor said?
    • monnagran
    • By monnagran 14th Sep 17, 8:36 AM
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    burtha: words don't fail me! I would have said, "Move your stuff any way you wish, honey. Car, lorry, van, pantechnicon, container ship, wheelbarrow, Any jolly way you choose, but GET IT OUT."

    Floss is right, your solicitor should be on his case getting some temporary financial provision made. If he doesn't come up with something reasonable the courts will do it for him.
    Of course, this is where the fun begins, ask Hester. If he is like absolutely every errant husband I know he will suddenly be completely poverty stricken. He will have only one bank account which is overdrawn, no savings, no property, nothing to sell, he relies on food stamps to eat, his seemingly healthy appearance is only due to the help given him by charity. Weekends away? Holidays? Haven't had one of those for months, guv. The expensive car in the car park? Borrowed from a friend, honestly.

    Those of us who have been through it could write the script.

    Cranky. All schools should be like the HT's. The school phobics would be cured overnight.

    Jolly chilly here today, but the heating WILL NOT GO ON.

    Loving thoughts, karcher.
    • ivyleaf
    • By ivyleaf 14th Sep 17, 9:08 AM
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    Sending (((HUGS))) to burtha, karcher and anyone else in need of some xx
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 14th Sep 17, 9:42 AM
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    Monna If it's cold and warm layers don't help please put the heating on for a while . Breathing cold air isn't good . I know you're squeezing the pennies but just getting the chill off helps x

    burtha Please get on to your solicitor about the financial situation . Some interim arrangement should be in place until things are settled . I'm wondering if it's a power thing to make you grovel for the money his own flesh and blood need .x

    Karcher Keep on keeping on love , you know where we are . Big hug to you and any who'd like one too .x

    polly
    • CRANKY40
    • By CRANKY40 14th Sep 17, 4:25 PM
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    Burtha he's definitely in the same category as my sister's ex husband. I've said before we have a special word for him as one bad word isn't enough. It's the first two letters of twit and the last three letters of runt. It describes him perfectly (his children have never been allowed in his new house with his new woman) and I think your ex is shaping up to be another one.

    Yesterday was great, today not so good....I fell from halfway down the stairs this morning and headbutted the wall at the bottom too. House Troll brought me an ice pack for my head, plaster for my bleeding finger and a dressing for my scraped leg in the correct order without any panic so he's in the good books. The washing basket that I was carrying (and subsequently landed in) is beyond redemption - happily I'm not although I am very sore.

    On the plus side, the house troll appeared with food this evening so that's my dinner sorted. Some days I love that school and some days I love it even more (it's veg chow mein in case any of you were wondering). Monna it's a Church of England High school and I have explained that be you a believer or a non-believer, Christian ethics are still the way forward and will guide the troll and his friends well for the rest of their lives.

    Take care all of you and hugs for Karcher.
    • monnagran
    • By monnagran 14th Sep 17, 5:37 PM
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    Cranky. I'm so glad that you said 'Christian ethics' rather than 'Religious ethics,' the two are poles apart.

    Now stop the theatrical plunges off stairs. Think of the poor washing basket and take things slowly and carefully. Thank goodness the house troll was there to administer first aid and to bring sustenance to his stricken mother.

    My Karcher candle is alight as I type.
    I believe that friends are quiet angels
    Who lift us to our feet when our wings
    Have trouble remembering how to fly.
    • ivyleaf
    • By ivyleaf 14th Sep 17, 6:01 PM
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    Ouch CRANKY, get well soon! The house troll is a star
    • nursemaggie
    • By nursemaggie 14th Sep 17, 8:51 PM
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    ouch Cranky I hope you are a bit better now.

    I believe Polly calls them oilcloth bags, The extra strong big supermarket bags that fold flat and last for years, if you have one you have been using give it a wash out and use that for carrying downstairs, much lighter will, not break and you still have a hand left for the banister. Leave your new basket downstairs, when you get one, and just use to take it out to the line or you could use the supermarket bag for taking your washing out.

    The last time I fell down stairs it was a lucky accident. I felt faint grabbed for the banister, this black shutter came down, when I came round, I was upside down legs up the stairs and head against the wall were the stairs turned the corner. I could not get up.

    I had to shout and shout for DS as he was not up. He rang for an ambulance. It was a good job he had finished at collage the day before or I may have had to stay there all day and would have bled to death. It turned out I had internal bleeding. so off to hospital I went and ended up having an operation to find out where the bleeding was. That was how they found my cancer and it was huge. I had no symptoms. It could have been too late if the bleeding had not happened.

    Just got back from Manchester, a fruitless journey considering what I went for. I had an appointment at 2.30 pm at the dental hospital. I was given directions buy the person who made my appointment but she did not tell me to cross the road so I walked about 2 miles in the opposite direction. The address was the Central Manchester University Hospitals so I went to them and wandered about until well past my appointment, having asked directions that sent me to turn right into a brick wall. When I ran out of hospitals, I went back to the biggest one and asked for directions again. No one sent me a map. Apparently I got off the bus at the right place but I should have been told to cross the road and go in an entirely different direction.

    I have an appointment on 5th October because by the time I would have got there they would have closed.

    Had a look in TK max on my way back. Been looking for a thin cotton dressing gown for years and I found a really nice one, I know it is a bit late in the year but we could still get some warm weather. It's original price was 55, who pays that price?

    I also got a huge tablet of soap Lilly of the valley. Smells gorgeous so I will put it in my underwear draw for a few months then everything will smell of it. It was 1.50 and it is so huge I am sure it will last me a couple of years. They put lots of lovely smelly things and little trinkets where you wait to pay, noticed nearly everyone bought something while in the queue. It's as bad a sweets in the supermarket.
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 14th Sep 17, 9:16 PM
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    NM Although that fall must have been dreadful , how amazing it led to the discovery of your Cancer . That's one of those wonderous ways indeed . So sorry you had such a pointless journey you must be exhausted now . The one thing the trusts we use do get right are proper maps enclosed with the appt letter . Is your son finding the journey any easier now transport is back to normal?
    My oilcloth bags are the Cath Kidston version bought over the years from the outlets from Scotland to Bicester and much reduced in price .
    My mum had a couple of maroon oilcloth bags - everything seemed dark coloured back in the 50s .
    Some of the long life supermarket bags are ideal for lots of things and that's a good idea for Cranky.She is no doubt feeling very sore now and falls can be such a shock . I think we all need a House Troll he sounds a lovely lad who's obviously learned well from his lovely mum .
    It is really quiet on the threads at the moment so I'm sending good vibes to all .
    Is it just me or did anyone else picture Monnas karcher candle as yellow and black ?
    polly x
    • Floss
    • By Floss 14th Sep 17, 9:44 PM
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    NM I once went for an interview in a certain building, only to find that when I got to the site there was no building with that name and it wasn't mentioned on any sign... luckily I was able to ask someone in the car park who said "yes, it doesn't say that anywhere"
    • nursemaggie
    • By nursemaggie 14th Sep 17, 10:23 PM
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    Floss DS got sent to one like that by the job centre. It was an ordinary urban street with three story houses on either street. Most of them were flat and a few of them had names of small businesses but no name of the one he wanted and no number 22 which was its address. He said he walked up and down the street for two hours looking for the right number, he looked down gardens for alleys somewhere, nothing. He had no phone number so he went back to the job centre and they suspended him for a year for not phoning them! At the time he was only getting 30 a week JSA. How did they think I could feed and clothe him on that and pay for a mobile phone?

    Did you find the interview you went to?

    I meant the big rectangular bags That have a flat bottom when you fold them out and promptly fold up again when you try to put something in them. I have a net bag for carrying dirty laundry in as the baskets are so heavy.
    • nursemaggie
    • By nursemaggie 14th Sep 17, 10:32 PM
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    I forgot again big Hugs to everyone as there may be more needing them.

    I arrived home about 7.30 pm to the sound of thump thump, thump thump. They all sound the same. After an our and a half the thumps were joined buy a child screaming mummy mummy. Not the child above who cannot speak English this was definitely a middle class English child. Don't know where we would find one of those around here. Even the Asians have broad Bolton accents.
    • pollyanna 26
    • By pollyanna 26 14th Sep 17, 10:51 PM
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    NM Hopefully all is quiet now . The sanction system doesn't seem to make sense at times . It isn't right to expect people to have the means to meet all the terms and conditions in place now . Many are without any support and cannot afford a basic mobile or internet access at times it seems set up to fail . I don't like abuse of the system but statistics prove that is a tiny minority compared to genuine claimants .

    I wander into TK from time to time and can usually find something at a bargain price . As for the who can afford those original prices , it tends to be the more money than sense brigade and the fact those items are heavily reduced in TKs shows they are originally over priced .
    Enjoy your scented clothes . I love the smell of Liy of the valley . My mum always used to put soap in the drawers and airing cupboard for a while , she reckoned it lasted longer in use . I do the same too .
    Hope you get some sleep .
    polly x
    • camelot1001
    • By camelot1001 15th Sep 17, 6:26 AM
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    Hope you're ok cranky, well done to the HT.

    DS2 arrived from The Netherlands yesterday for the weekend, good to see him, DD picked him up from the airport and dropped him here so got to see her too.

    I had to cook a dinner! I usually eat from the lunch hall at work so I don't need to cook in the evenings but felt I should make the effort yesterday. I really enjoyed it but it made me very sleepy and I went to bed at 9.30!

    Hope you're all well, burtha - you're doing a fantastic job, just remember to look after yourself.
    • burtha
    • By burtha 15th Sep 17, 7:29 AM
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    Morning all ,
    Shattered last night with a annoying headache, that's left me a bit wiped out this morning .... so on here instead of walking dogs ...
    Money is in hand , it's just sorting out and time ... and because of his new lifestyle choice money will be down anyway ....
    I have never wanted anything more than this place sold , large morgage,high maintenance house, never mind the other stuff ....
    So coffee ... before the normal Friday running around starts..

    Have fun everyone xx
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