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    • jenniewb
    • By jenniewb 15th Jul 17, 12:36 PM
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    Skincare for a teenager with oily skin and spots- but that are "fun"
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    • 15th Jul 17, 12:36 PM
    Skincare for a teenager with oily skin and spots- but that are "fun" 15th Jul 17 at 12:36 PM
    OK so cutting a long story short; I've got a neice who is nearly 13, in fact so near that it's her birthday this weekend. It's a sensitive area but I want to help her out with her skin.

    What I have noticed- and I feel bad about saying this, is that her skin is not looking great....I can see she has a lot of spots and I wanted to try to help with that. I've a feeling that skincare isn't something she does. It's a sensitive area. I do not want to offend her or make her think it's a problem which is so obvious that she ends up with issues. But I know she hasn't fully hit puberty yet and can only see this becoming more of a problem for her knowing how much it affected friends I had growing up.

    Now I have to be honest here- I don't know a lot about having huge issues with spots to the degree she has them. I also don't know anything about oily skin types (mine is super dry and very sensitive/fussy and though I have big issues and skin problems, we don't share them and I know her mum has my skin type too).
    I don't think she has properly medical acne or requires a Doctors help, I get the feeling it's down to having oily skin-type and maybe using her mums products (for dry sensitive adult skin) if she uses any at all. I think (or know from speaking to her) that a cleanser isn't something she buys so imagine the spots are from not keeping her skin clean or cleaning properly.

    I have thought about getting her some products which are fun but will just keep her face clean- but wont be gimmicks that wear off after a week. I know she loved the Konak sponge I bought her mum a year ago, I want to get her more than a sponge though and I want to get her something that helps her out here.

    I recon I can get around the offence thing by buying something that is interesting and fun rather than serious I think I can sneak through the sensitivity thing, but what I need is something that works. I know she likes Lush if this is any help.
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    • theoretica
    • By theoretica 15th Jul 17, 6:25 PM
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    I think (or know from speaking to her) that a cleanser isn't something she buys so imagine the spots are from not keeping her skin clean or cleaning properly.
    Originally posted by jenniewb
    The NHS lists poor hygene causing acne as a myth. See:
    But a banker, engaged at enormous expense,
    Had the whole of their cash in his care.
    Lewis Carroll
    • olgadapolga
    • By olgadapolga 15th Jul 17, 6:32 PM
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    I'm sorry to say that if one of my aunts had made comments about my skin when I was a teenager then I'd have been deeply offended and would not have ever spoken to her again.
    • cassieclaire
    • By cassieclaire 15th Jul 17, 7:45 PM
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    I ve bought my daughter the skin genius range and it is working wonders. Being how body aware girls are i am sure she will appreciate your help.
    • Fen1
    • By Fen1 15th Jul 17, 8:34 PM
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    Could you afford an auntie/ niece beauty day and get a manicure and facials together? Some beauty salons do 'couples' rooms; having you with her, getting the same treatment at the same time, would be more fun and less intimidating.

    Having her skin professionally cleaned might enthuse her. It would also mean she got appropriate products. A lot of 'teenage oily spot' products are incredibly harsh and actually exacerbate the problem.
    • cherylsurrey
    • By cherylsurrey 15th Jul 17, 9:24 PM
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    I was the same at her age, and skin care made no difference. I was extreamly clean with my skin which was very oily, so it could make people think I didnt wash my face, but I did. When people told me to wash my face twice a day, or use Clearasil, or a face mask I got very upset as I did all that, probably more than they ever did, and it did make me feel that everyone thought I was dirty with poor hygiene.

    I had to have proper medical treatment for my acne, and thats what I would advise any young person who is getting more than just the odd spot to do before it gets out of control.
    • Geoff1963
    • By Geoff1963 15th Jul 17, 10:29 PM
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    Get her gift card from her favourite clothes shop.
    Talk to her Mum about her skin.
    • avogadro
    • By avogadro 16th Jul 17, 12:00 PM
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    Get her gift card from her favourite clothes shop.
    Talk to her Mum about her skin.
    Originally posted by Geoff1963
    Agreed. I don't think a teenage girl would appreciate getting acne products for her birthday, however well-intentioned.
    • OneYorkshireLass
    • By OneYorkshireLass 16th Jul 17, 3:48 PM
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    If you feel bad about saying it, think how awful she'll feel if you do say it.

    How do you know it's even an issue for her?
    I had the usual spots as a teen, it is pretty much inevitable, but I didn't care at all. I used products and tried to eat well, but I didn't spend my time worrying about it.
    I still get the odd one or two in my 30s.
    • ali-t
    • By ali-t 16th Jul 17, 6:03 PM
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    What about a voucher for a facial and she can get skincare advice at the same time.
    If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you always got!
    • peachyprice
    • By peachyprice 16th Jul 17, 6:43 PM
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    I know you mean well, but acne products, for a birthday present? Sorry, that's just cruel.

    If this is acne and not just a few spots she needs to see her GP no waste money on products that may not help.

    Could you really not speak to her mother about this rather than embarrassing the poor child?
    Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence and face your future without fear
    • sstevo19
    • By sstevo19 17th Jul 17, 9:52 AM
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    If you give her acne products for her birthday, she's going to hold a grudge, no matter how well intentioned.

    You say that you have a feeling that skincare isn't something that she does. How do you know? Have you spoke to her about this. Perhaps you could have a chat with her or her mother if your that concerned. If you had a chat with her, she might appreciate it more than being given acne products.
    • tyllwyd
    • By tyllwyd 17th Jul 17, 10:34 AM
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    My teenage daughter has trouble with spots and Lush products are great for her skin - without making a fuss, a Lush facemask etc for her birthday would be a nice present.

    (Having said that, I had spots as a teenager and they only went away when I got older and grew out of that phase not because of any change in my skincare routine.)
    • GlasweJen
    • By GlasweJen 17th Jul 17, 12:13 PM
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    Seriously? I take on a room full of girls aged 10-14 every week and auntie gifting acne cream for a birthday would have most of them either really upset or really angry.

    The vast majority of that age group know how to look after their skin. It's in every teen magazine, all the girly teen vloggers will talk about their favourite products and these are what girls watch and listen to these days.

    Your niece doesn't need you pointing out that she has bad skin, she knows!

    Stick some money in her card and tell her to spend it on what she likes.

    If you happen to win a raffle and get a box of oily skin products that you'd never use in a million years you could casually donate them to your niece but nowhere near her birthday or Christmas
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    • Chlorine7
    • By Chlorine7 17th Jul 17, 4:52 PM
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    Last year I suffered from spots and oily skin and did a lot of research into my skincare routine and have spent a small fortune on finding the right things.

    Do not use foamy washes on oily skin. I use Superdrug B Glycolic Cleansing peel as a daily wash. I have also used the Elemis Cleansing balm, and Liz Earle cleansers but I particularly rate the Superdrug cleanser.

    Facial oils work wonder on oily skin. I have used Pai and Nude Skincare oils.

    I also use Alpha-H Liquid Gold but a much cheaper option would be Pixi Glow Tonic.

    Check out the Caroline Hirons blog for lots of info on skincare and acne too.

    Actually if you want to stick to one brand you could buy Pixi Double Cleanse, with Glow Tonic and the Glow Mud Mask would be a good start and I don't think these are too expensive. I'm sure you can find a nice gift-set, which would be lovely to receive without being insulting.
    • Spendless
    • By Spendless 17th Jul 17, 5:27 PM
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    I've got a teenager daughter (with spots) and she would appreciate skincare products carefully chosen, something from the lush range or something well out of her pocket money range, but has the 'wow' factor to teens. Include it with other items too, so you don't seem so focussed on spot treatment.
    • cashewnut
    • By cashewnut 17th Jul 17, 9:01 PM
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    I'm 33 and still have acne. I currently have spots on my chin and a cystic acne above my eye.

    Over the past 20 years I have tried:
    Oxy on the spot
    Clean and clear
    Benzoyl peroxide
    Salicylic acid regimen
    Agnus castus pills
    Lymecycline antibiotics
    Dianette pill
    Erythromycin antibiotic lotion (stank like vinegar)
    Currently I'm trying dermalex acne (but thinking I want to go back to benzoyl peroxide)

    Please don't think that people (whatever their age) with spots don't care about their skin.
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