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    • don9999
    • By don9999 14th Jul 17, 11:01 AM
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    Ideas on what to buy wife for Silver Wedding anniversary?
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    • 14th Jul 17, 11:01 AM
    Ideas on what to buy wife for Silver Wedding anniversary? 14th Jul 17 at 11:01 AM
    Am a bit stumped for something special.

    Unfortunately we will be away on holiday with kids on the actual date, so is a matter of giving her 'something' on the day, or giving her a 'promise' for a gift/experience at a later date.

    Obvious solution is silver jewellery - but if I went that route I'd want to get something special (probably more expensive) and hence would probably prefer us 'both' to choose something. In any case, with regards to rings, she prefers gold. But 'maybe' there is some 'other' jewellery that I could get. In which case I might prefer 'taking' her somewhere special, even abroad, where we choose a special silver jewellery item together. Is that a daft idea? Is there somewhere specally connected with 'silver'?

    Alternative is the common (though something we've never done due to young kids until recently) weekend abroad. Maybe somewhere like New York. At Christmas? (Is it special at Christmas? Have never been there) Or even Rome/Paris/etc though we have been around Europe already. I could book a weekend trip now and present tickets to her on our Anniversary.

    Am not really into 'things'. Trinkets etc. I suspect we will receive our fair share, say how lovely they are, and then put them away in cupboards not to be seen again.....

    Whatever my 'main' present is, I will probably also go with some 'thing' too, that is cheap yet poignant. Have seen some lovely plaques (in terms of what they say) with words along the lines of:

    "Jane and John Doe. Established 16/08/1992. 25 years of marriage. Over 9,125 days together. 3 Wonderful children - Mary, Mungo and Midge. 2 Adorable dogs. 1 Blessed family. The Best Is Yet To Come."

    Am sure there are plenty of ideas out there, and that many would be better than I could come up with.
    I'd love to make it something special, and don't want to overlook something just because I didn't think of it in time.

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    • gonzo127
    • By gonzo127 14th Jul 17, 11:22 AM
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    maybe something like a silver multi photo frame, in which you have carefully selected some of the photos of your life together, key moments/timeline etc, so wedding day, kids first pictures etc - if you have the pictures of course

    not too expensive, but can be very personal, and shows your wife you have properly thought about your life together and what it means to you

    - on the flip side, she might see it as a cop out and cheap, depends on the sort of person she is and if she will see the thought that would have gone into it and appreciate that value
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    • Slinky
    • By Slinky 14th Jul 17, 11:28 AM
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    How about a trip to the Silver Coast in Portugal?

    I'm not a huge wearer of silver either, so a present of silver jewellery wouldn't really get worn much.
    • tealady
    • By tealady 14th Jul 17, 11:31 AM
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    How about a trip to the Silver Coast in Portugal?

    I'm not a huge wearer of silver either, so a present of silver jewellery wouldn't really get worn much.
    Originally posted by Slinky
    What a great idea!
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    • fairy lights
    • By fairy lights 14th Jul 17, 11:48 AM
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    You don't necessarily have to get something silver related, and if she prefers gold jewellery it might be best to steer clear of silver anyway.
    I think the idea of a weekend away is good, you could put the tickets/itinerary in a silver envelope.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 14th Jul 17, 12:09 PM
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    I love silver and wear it a lot
    (I love gold too ).

    As it is the silver anniversary for both of you, why don't you discuss what would be a good way to mark the occasion?

    Perhaps she would like a piece of silver jewellery or would prefer to go on a holiday chosen jointly.

    I say this because my tastes are eclectic and my OH would struggle to find a surprise for me.
    • olgadapolga
    • By olgadapolga 14th Jul 17, 1:25 PM
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    You know, it doesn't have to be the traditional silver. DH and I just celebrated our 20th Wedding Anniversary and I'd have been seriously annoyed if he had presented me with some china ornament/similar. And DH knows me well enough to realise this.

    So, instead, he got me a pair of tyres for my bike. Not just any old tyres but some that would enable me to go faster on the roads (I love cycling and I'm a long-distance road cyclist). I was completely made up and over the moon with them (especially as he fitted them for me as well). DH couldn't have found or thought of a better gift for me. Every bike ride, I think of him whenever I look at the tyres.

    Does your wife have any hobbies or interests that she'd appreciate an item for? You could always wrap it in silver paper.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 14th Jul 17, 1:33 PM
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    I'd have been seriously annoyed if he had presented me with some china ornament/similar.
    Originally posted by olgadapolga
    We've been married just over 25 years and it would have made me heave if my OH had bought me this as a gift:
    Have seen some lovely plaques (in terms of what they say) with words along the lines of:

    "Jane and John Doe. Established 16/08/1992. 25 years of marriage. Over 9,125 days together. 3 Wonderful children - Mary, Mungo and Midge. 2 Adorable dogs. 1 Blessed family. The Best Is Yet To Come."
    Originally posted by don9999
    Maybe it's just that I'm not that sentimental.
    If you're sure she'll like it.......
    • Malthusian
    • By Malthusian 14th Jul 17, 2:10 PM
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    How about a trip to the Silver Coast in Portugal?
    Originally posted by Slinky
    Or Argentina for something slightly more exotic...

    IMO the "colours" of wedding anniversaries are to make it easier for relatives and friends to pick something, and the husband and wife should buy each other whatever they want. But I don't know if that's general practice or just me.
    • maman
    • By maman 14th Jul 17, 3:54 PM
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    Personally I wouldn't want silver jewellery and definitely not a plaque.

    I'd far prefer an experience. NYC has plenty to offer although you'd have to wrap up warm at Christmas! Then you could take her to Tiffany and choose some jewellery together. Seriously, that's what happened for DDs 18th.

    Although that would be true of most places at that time of the year. If the weather is a problem then perhaps a long weekend somewhere in the Autumn. Where did you go on your honeymoon?
    • DigForVictory
    • By DigForVictory 14th Jul 17, 4:13 PM
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    Silver jewellery is both (a) a bit unimaginative & (b) risks being Wrong.

    Go for a (turn-your-hair) Silver Experience every time - whether that be travel or ziplining in Wales or visiting Barry Island during school holidays or getting your hearing tested (mostly ironic). Above all, do it together, in consultation!

    Congratulations in advance & hoping you have a great day & more amazing times ahead.
    • don9999
    • By don9999 16th Jul 17, 11:36 AM
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    Thanks for all the advice. Much to think about.

    I 'will' probably go with the plaque. Not necessarily as a present for her, but something for us both, to commemorate the ocassion and display on a wall (probably kitchen).

    Liked the ideal of Silver coast in Portugal :-)

    I appreciate that everyone is different, so what suits one person won't suit another. For example, personally I hate with a passion people asking what they want for a present eg. for birthdays, Christmas etc. I DO appreciate those who do, and their logic that it is better to buy something that is wanted. But for 'me' I would rather be given a £1 joke present that had been thought about and was appropriate, than being bought a £50 present that I had to say I wanted. To 'me' is all about the effort and though that went into the present, rather than the present itself and how much it cost. But that's just me.

    I DO suppose that it is different for an anniversary rather than a birthday. Is something for us both together, rather than it being just for one of us. So I agree that we should probably agree a trip away together. Whether it is to the Silver coast, or NY or somewhere else :-)

    But I 'would' also like to give a small surprise. Doesn't 'have' to be Silver, as some people have said. But I guess I like the idea of tradition for the 'BIG' numbers. 25, 50, 60. But I liked the idea of presenting the 'gift' in a Silver envelope which would satisfy my need for tradition :-)

    So.......my plans so far, are.....plaque for the house to commemorate the ocassion, trip away (I will discuss with her and make a joint decision), and then..... a small personal gift from me to her. Yet to be decided....

    I suppose that will be the hard bit. The small gift......
    Probably not jewellery. I don't like trinkets.
    Hmmmm.... Have done photo frames before - went for it big for her 40th birthday party.
    Thinking hat still firmly on for this one.....
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    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 16th Jul 17, 11:43 AM
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    I suppose that will be the hard bit. The small gift......
    Probably not jewellery. I don't like trinkets.
    Hmmmm.... Have done photo frames before - went for it big for her 40th birthday party.
    Thinking hat still firmly on for this one.....
    Originally posted by don9999
    But......does your wife like trinkets?
    After all, the gift is for her.

    If you are still thinking about something you mentioned earlier:

    Obvious solution is silver jewellery - but if I went that route I'd want to get something special (probably more expensive) and hence would probably prefer us 'both' to choose something. In any case, with regards to rings, she prefers gold. But 'maybe' there is some 'other' jewellery that I could get. In which case I might prefer 'taking' her somewhere special, even abroad, where we choose a special silver jewellery item together. Is that a daft idea? Is there somewhere specally connected with 'silver'?
    Originally posted by don9999
    I'd forget the 'trinket' and put the money towards something that you choose together.
    • frugalmacdugal
    • By frugalmacdugal 16th Jul 17, 11:50 AM
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    Hi,

    well here you go, a classic,

    Y'all take care now.
    • Callie22
    • By Callie22 16th Jul 17, 5:11 PM
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    Does your wife like gardening? There is a 'Silver Anniversary' rose, or a 'Silver Anniversary' camellia, or a 'Silver Anniversary' buddleia. If you've got the space you could even get a Silver Birch.
    • Primrose
    • By Primrose 16th Jul 17, 9:29 PM
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    A plain solid silver ingot on a silver chain with the anniversary date engraved on the back of the ingot?
    • provista
    • By provista 16th Jul 17, 9:58 PM
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    It was our silver wedding a couple of years ago and we went for the memories and did Route 66. On the actual date we stayed in an original Route 66 hotel and had a very 'special' meal of salten crackers and Philly cheese washed down with a couple of bud lights ;p
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    • hazyjo
    • By hazyjo 17th Jul 17, 9:29 AM
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    Not trying to rain on your parade, but don't you think a plaque is a bit 'who died'? If I saw one in a house, garden, bench (wherever), my first thought would be that it was marking the death of someone.


    Maybe you could have a room decorated in grey/silver which is still popular. I have a silver/teal bedroom which is very nice. It'll be there for 5-10 years (maybe until the next big milestone)


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    • LEJC
    • By LEJC 17th Jul 17, 9:57 AM
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    I quite like the idea of something worded....but I think I would prefer it in the form of a picture rather than a plaque....same reasons as above...but a picture might make it a little less "clinical" sounding.

    Places like not on the high street do personalised gifts thing like a mapping of the stars which is a little different ....

    tbh....you know your wife and her tastes but if it were me I think I'd like a well thought out piece of jewellery...a necklace with a few personalised rings representing the children,a tag representing the pets and a third component for your grandchildren....I would be heading off to a silversmith or working jeweller to design something that she can wear everyday....with the added bonus that you have given her something unique and personal to the family and years you celebrate....or if not a necklace a bracelet

    I'm somewhere near the 25 year mark with my OH but would really hate the idea of a plaque.... sorry
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    • TBagpuss
    • By TBagpuss 17th Jul 17, 3:35 PM
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    You know your wife best, so you know what she's likely to like.

    Maybe use photobox or a similar site and make up a photo book, charting the last 25 years? You can include your own captions and text so can add in comments and memories about the photos, and if you have time, you can ask family and friends for photos so it includes some that are not already in your own collections.

    My sister made one for me for my 40th, she also gave me a usb stick with all the photos on , including those she had got but hadn't included in the book.

    You could include a bit of background - e.g. baby photos / school photos of each of you, to build up to when you first met.

    It's something permanent and physical, but doesn't need to be 'on show', and I'm sure you could pick a silver/grey cover and/or pages if you want to go with the theme!

    Personally I would not want a plaque and it would be awkward as it is something which is designed to be on display, but of course that's a matter of personal taste. If you would like it and know she would too then that's a good idea for you!

    Other smaller things - flowers (based on what she had in her wedding bouquet) or maybe a tree you can plant in your garden (or via the Woodland Trust) as a memento.
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