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    • claireodonnell1989
    • By claireodonnell1989 11th Jul 17, 2:18 PM
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    Can anyone help?
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    • 11th Jul 17, 2:18 PM
    Can anyone help? 11th Jul 17 at 2:18 PM
    Hi, can someone please help me with any advice... good or bad I'll take it!
    I did post an earlier post but since then I have been sent home from work with stress because of how this move is going. Second week in a row I have ended up crying in front of my MD's because of this and I am being overdramatic, I know I am so maybe that's why I've come here so someone can talk some sense into me.

    Long story short -
    My partner's parents were moving to the Isle of Wight so we looked to buy a house and I had an offer accepted on a house 10th April 2017, solicitors were instructed 11th April and everything started moving.
    Two weeks after offer was accepted Connells contacted me to say the vendors were moving in with parents so there was now no chain (we are first time buyers) Connells even said "we should get you in for the end of May"

    Today is 11th July and we still don't have a date!There have been a few delays, Property Information Form and Fittings and Contents Form taking weeks to be sent. Enquiries on the contract which took 4 weeks to finally resolve and now we are waiting the vendors to get a redemption figure on their help to buy (the survey was carried out 19/06/2017!)

    My partners parents moved 25th June, which I know is no-ones fault, essentially leaving my partner homeless. We have now incurred extra costs (catteries and storage) and my partner is currently sleeping on a blow up bed in my parents 2 bedroom bungalow (again no-ones fault!)

    I am at a loss now of what to do. We don't want to pull out as we don't want to lose the property. The cattery have given us a deadline of 23rd July which has given us more uneeded pressure. I have chased everyone I possibly can (including the vendors) and I just feel like nothing is going right or moving forward.

    What do you guys recommend or think?
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    • gettingtheresometime
    • By gettingtheresometime 11th Jul 17, 2:22 PM
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    do things you have control over - ie look for another cattery.
    Lloyds OD / Natwest OD / PO CC / Wescott / Argos Card cleared thanks to the 1 debt v 100 day challenge


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    • Guest101
    • By Guest101 11th Jul 17, 2:23 PM
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    House purchases can take upto 12 months - so why on earth haven't you rented in the meantime?
    • claireodonnell1989
    • By claireodonnell1989 11th Jul 17, 2:26 PM
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    House purchases can take upto 12 months - so why on earth haven't you rented in the meantime?
    Originally posted by Guest101
    We can't afford to rent in the meantime
    • Pixie5740
    • By Pixie5740 11th Jul 17, 2:27 PM
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    Take up yoga.

    Until you exchange all bets are off and there is very little you can do about the hold-ups.

    Why have the cattery given you a deadline of 23rd July? Are there any other catteries near by you could use instead? No friends or family able to take the cats in for a few weeks?
    Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen pounds nineteen and six, result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds nought and six, result misery.
    • claireodonnell1989
    • By claireodonnell1989 11th Jul 17, 2:27 PM
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    do things you have control over - ie look for another cattery.
    Originally posted by gettingtheresometime
    I can't find another cattery who can have him on such short notice and we don't have a family member for friend who can have him =(
    • claireodonnell1989
    • By claireodonnell1989 11th Jul 17, 2:28 PM
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    • 11th Jul 17, 2:28 PM
    Take up yoga.

    Until you exchange all bets are off and there is very little you can do about the hold-ups.

    Why have the cattery given you a deadline of 23rd July? Are there any other catteries near by you could use instead? No friends or family able to take the cats in for a few weeks?
    Originally posted by Pixie5740
    I think I'm more likely to take up drinking than yoga!!

    They are fully booked come that date, we booked him last minute as it was.
    I have phone local catteries and they are fully booked and we don't have anyone that can take him in
    • Guest101
    • By Guest101 11th Jul 17, 2:33 PM
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    We can't afford to rent in the meantime
    Originally posted by claireodonnell1989
    How is that possible? You can afford to buy but not to rent?


    How will you afford repairs and replacements e.g. boiler packs in 1 week after you complete?
    • SuboJvR
    • By SuboJvR 11th Jul 17, 2:38 PM
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    I can't find another cattery who can have him on such short notice and we don't have a family member for friend who can have him =(
    Originally posted by claireodonnell1989
    Would Cats Protection be able to help in the short term, especially if you offered to pay to support him?

    I know this is probably not strictly what they 'do' but I'm sure they would if they could accommodate him rather than see him come in for rehoming.

    Can he not stay wherever you are staying? If allergies or other pets etc a problem, ensure he's confined to one room, with litter box etc, and make sure to clean the room again afterward?
    • gettingtheresometime
    • By gettingtheresometime 11th Jul 17, 2:39 PM
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    I can't find another cattery who can have him on such short notice and we don't have a family member for friend who can have him =(
    Originally posted by claireodonnell1989


    you need to think laterally.


    is there a local cats home that could temporary take him in for a fee / you volunteering your services?


    could he be a house cat and stay at your parents for a while?


    Just remember pulling out now would leave you out of pocket & won't solve the situation
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    • saajan_12
    • By saajan_12 11th Jul 17, 2:41 PM
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    You need to wait for the redemption figure, so there's no point getting yourself worked up before that. Next steps:

    1) Ask your solicitors for a list of what else is outstanding
    2) Extend the cattery or find alternative longer term housing for the cats now rather than at the deadline
    3) If partner's current accommodation is unsustainable, find an alternative (holiday rentals? BnB? lodger?
    3) Get on with life until the redemption figure comes in!
    • Ithaca
    • By Ithaca 11th Jul 17, 2:43 PM
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    You can try to put some pressure on your estate agents to engage with your vendors via their estate agent and at least get a clear summary of where things are. Your solicitor also works for you so don't be afraid to keep pushing.

    Solicitors usually have lots of files open at once, so you might need to keep reminding them to push yours to the top... I used to pop in to our at lunchtime when we were buying, was amazing how often my visits coincided with them "just happening" to be looking at my file...
    • AnotherJoe
    • By AnotherJoe 11th Jul 17, 3:26 PM
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    I think I'm more likely to take up drinking than yoga!!

    They are fully booked come that date, we booked him last minute as it was.
    I have phone local catteries and they are fully booked and we don't have anyone that can take him in
    Originally posted by claireodonnell1989
    Phone ones that are further away until you find one.
    • fairy lights
    • By fairy lights 11th Jul 17, 3:38 PM
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    We have now incurred extra costs (catteries and storage) and my partner is currently sleeping on a blow up bed in my parents 2 bedroom bungalow (again no-ones fault!)
    Originally posted by claireodonnell1989
    I'm confused, where do you live? Why can't your partner and his cats move in with you?
    Lots of people do pet sitting as a job now so maybe expand your search from catteries to at-home pet sitters. If you have any local 'pets for sale etc' type groups on facebook that's a good place to start.
    • claireodonnell1989
    • By claireodonnell1989 11th Jul 17, 3:39 PM
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    I'm confused, where do you live? Why can't your partner and his cats move in with you?
    Lots of people do pet sitting as a job now so maybe expand your search from catteries to at-home pet sitters. If you have any local 'pets for sale etc' type groups on facebook that's a good place to start.
    Originally posted by fairy lights
    Sorry I do live with my parents as well, he is sleeping on my bedroom floor.
    Never though about cat sitters so I'll give that a try thanks =)
    • Guest101
    • By Guest101 11th Jul 17, 3:55 PM
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    Sorry I do live with my parents as well, he is sleeping on my bedroom floor.
    Never though about cat sitters so I'll give that a try thanks =)
    Originally posted by claireodonnell1989
    but you're buying a house together...?
    • Sazzy1980
    • By Sazzy1980 11th Jul 17, 5:30 PM
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    It is a stressful thing to do but my advice would be only worry about the things you can control. The redemption figure might take 10 days to come back or it might be back tomorrow. Nothing you do will change that. In your shoes, I would buy a double bed so your partner isn't sleeping on the floor and find somewhere for the cats to go. Once you've done that, get on with day to day life as usual and wait for the legal stuff to go through. I think when you are given dates (vague or otherwise) it almost puts the pressure on because that's when you think it will all happen and then when it doesn't there is huge disappointment. We are going through the process of buying and selling currently (our house went sstc end of Feb!) but we are just doing what we need to and waiting for it all to pan out.

    You will get there, but stressing and being overly dramatic doesn't help anyone, you included. Put it all in perspective and enjoy the excitement of house buying
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