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    • SM17
    • By SM17 10th Jul 17, 10:18 AM
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    spousal maintenance
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    spousal maintenance 10th Jul 17 at 10:18 AM
    I'm considering claiming spousal maintenance on amicable divorce. Broadly, partner takes home £4K/mth and I take home £1.8K after tax/NI/pension. We expect each of our living costs to be roughly the same after divorce. We have been married for 25 years. What sort of maintenance should I be looking at and for how long?
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    • Kate/Bob
    • By Kate/Bob 10th Jul 17, 10:21 AM
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    You're posting multiple times under different names, at least have the decency to wait an hour or 2
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    • antrobus
    • By antrobus 10th Jul 17, 10:39 AM
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    I'm considering claiming spousal maintenance on amicable divorce. Broadly, partner takes home £4K/mth and I take home £1.8K after tax/NI/pension. We expect each of our living costs to be roughly the same after divorce. We have been married for 25 years. What sort of maintenance should I be looking at and for how long?
    Originally posted by SM17
    If I had to guess, about £0 for 0 years.

    What is spousal maintenance? This is a regular payment made by a former husband, wife or civil partner to their ex-partner. It’s only paid where one partner can’t support themselves financially without it.

    https://www.moneyadviceservice.org.uk/en/articles/clean-break-or-spousal-maintenance-after-divorce-or-dissolution

    You should be able to support yourself financially on £1800 a month.

    For a definitive answer, ask a divorce lawyer.
    • heartbreak_star
    • By heartbreak_star 10th Jul 17, 10:44 AM
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    If you can't support yourself on £1800 a month something is wrong...

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    • PasturesNew
    • By PasturesNew 10th Jul 17, 10:47 AM
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    I think you're barking up the Tree of Great Hope.

    £1800/month is a lot of money, plenty to live on. Yes, his £4k/month is more, but that's his money and you've said nothing in your post that indicates you're "owed" any of that.
    • Mojisola
    • By Mojisola 10th Jul 17, 10:53 AM
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    If the split is very amicable and you have joint savings, he might agree to let you have more than 50% but there's no justification for wanting a share of his salary after you divorce.
    • maman
    • By maman 10th Jul 17, 11:18 AM
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    I think you're barking up the Tree of Great Hope.

    £1800/month is a lot of money, plenty to live on. Yes, his £4k/month is more, but that's his money and you've said nothing in your post that indicates you're "owed" any of that.
    Originally posted by PasturesNew

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    • gettingtheresometime
    • By gettingtheresometime 10th Jul 17, 11:33 AM
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    Maybe OP thinks they've found the Magic Money Tree!
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    • Ozzuk
    • By Ozzuk 10th Jul 17, 12:37 PM
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    • 10th Jul 17, 12:37 PM
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    • 10th Jul 17, 12:37 PM
    You and your ex can come up with pretty much any agreement, but as others have said based on what you have said there are no grounds to force them to pay anything. I paid my ex for a while because I earnt a lot and they didn't, I was happy to.

    You may however be entitled to part of his pension (and him yours). You've also not mentioned what else is in the pot (savings/bills etc).

    You could for instance agree a greater share in any assets in return for giving up claim to pension.

    Both of you list all assets and liabilities, including pensions and then agree the split - far better to do this between you than involve courts.
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