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    • paulfoel
    • By paulfoel 7th Jul 17, 10:31 AM
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    Getting "shorted" when someone owes you money!
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    • 7th Jul 17, 10:31 AM
    Getting "shorted" when someone owes you money! 7th Jul 17 at 10:31 AM
    Recently paid for something with friend. At the time we agreed I'd pay on credit card and then we'd sort out bank transfer when credit card bill came. Talking about few hundred quid here. Total was something like £716.

    So out of the blue friend turns up with £350 cash in an envelope. Says sorry I'll have to owe you the £8.

    PITA getting cash because I've got to physically pay it into the bank now and surely if you owed someone you'd round it up and they'd owe you (especially if its £8!) i.e £ Heres £360.

    Of course, if they'd done a bank transfer you can't do this. Which makes me think!

    I know its only £8 but I found this a bit rude. I knew at the time I'd never get that £8 and they've never mentioned it again. Bit annoyed.
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    • DoaM
    • By DoaM 7th Jul 17, 10:53 AM
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    • 7th Jul 17, 10:53 AM
    Surely everyone knows you never lend money to a friend? But if you do, you do it on the basis that anything can happen and not to expect the exact (or even any) amount back?
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    • AylesburyDuck
    • By AylesburyDuck 7th Jul 17, 11:32 AM
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    • 7th Jul 17, 11:32 AM
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    • 7th Jul 17, 11:32 AM
    Recently paid for something with friend. At the time we agreed I'd pay on credit card and then we'd sort out bank transfer when credit card bill came. Talking about few hundred quid here. Total was something like £716.

    So out of the blue friend turns up with £350 cash in an envelope. Says sorry I'll have to owe you the £8.

    PITA getting cash because I've got to physically pay it into the bank now and surely if you owed someone you'd round it up and they'd owe you (especially if its £8!) i.e £ Heres £360.

    Of course, if they'd done a bank transfer you can't do this. Which makes me think!

    I know its only £8 but I found this a bit rude. I knew at the time I'd never get that £8 and they've never mentioned it again. Bit annoyed.
    Originally posted by paulfoel
    Would getting cash bother me, hell no, use it to pay for petrol, shopping, whatever, and then the money is still in the bank when you need it.
    As for £8 quid, if it bothers you that much get said friend to stand you a few coffees and jobs a goodun.
    Friend paid you back quite promptly (you said recently paid for) so frankly you've have a good outcome, find it very strange you should moan about it.
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    • DoaM
    • By DoaM 7th Jul 17, 11:37 AM
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    • 7th Jul 17, 11:37 AM
    find it very strange you should moan about it.
    Originally posted by AylesburyDuck
    If you check some of OP's other threads, your opinion may change.
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    • JReacher1
    • By JReacher1 7th Jul 17, 11:48 AM
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    • 7th Jul 17, 11:48 AM
    I agree about the cash. It is very annoying when you pay with a debit card but someone then gives you a large wad of cash! Often means a trip to the bank which is a pain
    • coffeehound
    • By coffeehound 7th Jul 17, 12:08 PM
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    • 7th Jul 17, 12:08 PM
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    • 7th Jul 17, 12:08 PM
    I tend to keep a float of cash at home in case of emergencies like perhaps the debit card stopping working. Doesn't everyone keep some folding on-hand at home?

    But yes friends who take financial advantage of a situation like that probably aren't true friends.
    • Blackbeard of Perranporth
    • By Blackbeard of Perranporth 7th Jul 17, 12:19 PM
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    • 7th Jul 17, 12:19 PM
    Its eight quid! I normally pass that inn my water Saturday morning after a night on the lash!
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    • paulfoel
    • By paulfoel 7th Jul 17, 12:25 PM
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    • 7th Jul 17, 12:25 PM
    If you check some of OP's other threads, your opinion may change.
    Originally posted by DoaM
    Ho hum :-)
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    • paddyrg
    • By paddyrg 7th Jul 17, 2:10 PM
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    • 7th Jul 17, 2:10 PM
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    • 7th Jul 17, 2:10 PM
    An irritation, but TBH you're lucky to get back 98% of the cash. No good deed goes unpunished, and you were only stiffed for the cost of a couple of pints - that's a HUGE result lending money to a friend.
    • missile
    • By missile 7th Jul 17, 2:24 PM
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    ... and they've never mentioned it again. Bit annoyed.
    Originally posted by paulfoel
    Why don't you????????
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    • DoaM
    • By DoaM 7th Jul 17, 2:44 PM
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    Why don't you????????
    Originally posted by missile
    I remember that TV show as a kid too.
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    • McKneff
    • By McKneff 7th Jul 17, 2:55 PM
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    My opinion is that it's not the money, its being taken for amug by a so called 'friend'

    Go out with them, leave your wallet at home, get them yo pay, knock ogg your £8 when you pAy them back.
    Job done
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    • warehouse
    • By warehouse 7th Jul 17, 2:59 PM
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    You live and you learn. Friends that have ever "shorted" me never get loans off me ever again.
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    • Geoff1963
    • By Geoff1963 7th Jul 17, 3:10 PM
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    Recently paid for something with an ex-friend.
    Open a Tesco bank account. Many of their large stores accept deposits up to £500 / day ; not from doors open to doors close, but well outside normal banking hours.
    Last edited by Geoff1963; 07-07-2017 at 3:12 PM. Reason: Typo
    • NBLondon
    • By NBLondon 7th Jul 17, 4:36 PM
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    Well - it depends how well you know your friends... In this case - the friend paid £350 quickly and agreed that another £8 was still owing. How did you know ,Paul, that you were never going to see the £8? If you think he's that dodgy - why were you going halves with him on a £700+ purchase?


    Recently, I bought something on eBay for a friend (who didn't have an account) and said we'll sort it out when we got the item. The day I handed over the package - he had the cash put aside - to the pound. The credit card bill hadn't yet come in (and it's a cashback one so I'm technically up a couple of quid on the deal.)
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    • pollypenny
    • By pollypenny 7th Jul 17, 6:36 PM
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    I agree, it's a bit off not to round it up. You could have given him £2 change, anyway.
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    • coffeehound
    • By coffeehound 8th Jul 17, 8:46 AM
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    .. you were only stiffed for the cost of a couple of pints
    Originally posted by paddyrg
    £8 is very nearly four pints up here!

    Its eight quid! I normally pass that inn my water Saturday morning after a night on the lash!
    Originally posted by Blackbeard of Perranporth
    Bung us eight quid then, you won't miss it
    • hollydays
    • By hollydays 8th Jul 17, 9:45 AM
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    Why not ask him for it.
    • photome
    • By photome 8th Jul 17, 9:59 AM
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    I agree about the cash. It is very annoying when you pay with a debit card but someone then gives you a large wad of cash! Often means a trip to the bank which is a pain
    Originally posted by JReacher1
    Has happened to me and while it may be a little frustratng, I wouldnt say very annoying.

    I have just kept the cash and used as spending money...you know, like the old days and no trip to the bank
    • Geoff1963
    • By Geoff1963 8th Jul 17, 2:40 PM
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    I have just kept the cash and used as spending money...you know, like the old days and no trip to the bank
    For some people, cash is better than money in a bank ; but for others, the reverse is true. The payer should have chosen whatever method the OP would have preferred.
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