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    • yvonne13
    • By yvonne13 11th Jun 17, 2:48 PM
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    Loverboy proposed to me last night
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    • 11th Jun 17, 2:48 PM
    Loverboy proposed to me last night 11th Jun 17 at 2:48 PM
    Basically loverboy proposed to me via text message and I only saw it this morning.
    I don't know how to feel as I thought doing it the traditional way (face to face, eyes to eyes, breath to breath)was the only way for it to be done.
    Is proposal via text the new thing now?
    How was yours done?
    It's better to regret something I did do than to regret something that I didn’t.
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    • Tinker bells
    • By Tinker bells 11th Jun 17, 2:54 PM
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    • #2
    • 11th Jun 17, 2:54 PM
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    • 11th Jun 17, 2:54 PM
    Congratulations!

    I've never been proposed to but I personally would be slightly upset if I was... and I don't think its the "new thing" though. Maybe speak to him about it? Face to face.
    • badmemory
    • By badmemory 11th Jun 17, 3:11 PM
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    • #3
    • 11th Jun 17, 3:11 PM
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    • 11th Jun 17, 3:11 PM
    I would be wondering one of two things. How drunk was he or which of his friends had got hold of his phone & done it for a laugh. To avoid embarrassment all round I would just forget it happened until he brings it up.
    • getmore4less
    • By getmore4less 11th Jun 17, 3:12 PM
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    • #4
    • 11th Jun 17, 3:12 PM
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    • 11th Jun 17, 3:12 PM
    delete the text and don't even mention it.

    why on earth would you consider someone with no balls.
    • cjdavies
    • By cjdavies 11th Jun 17, 4:27 PM
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    • #5
    • 11th Jun 17, 4:27 PM
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    • 11th Jun 17, 4:27 PM
    It's just a question and if you want too then reply yes, no big deal.
    • Mr.Generous
    • By Mr.Generous 11th Jun 17, 4:35 PM
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    • #6
    • 11th Jun 17, 4:35 PM
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    • 11th Jun 17, 4:35 PM
    wil u mary me?
    • onomatopoeia99
    • By onomatopoeia99 11th Jun 17, 4:54 PM
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    • 11th Jun 17, 4:54 PM
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    • 11th Jun 17, 4:54 PM
    Since dumping by text is a thing, I don't see why a proposal by text shouldn't be. It's a simple question that can be framed within the character limit of a text message, after all.

    I suppose that asking in person is more likely to be successful with some women, but then you need to consider, do you want a marriage or do you want a Proposal and a Wedding?
    INTP, nerd, libertarian and scifi geek.
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    • AylesburyDuck
    • By AylesburyDuck 11th Jun 17, 5:03 PM
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    • #8
    • 11th Jun 17, 5:03 PM
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    • 11th Jun 17, 5:03 PM
    Who the hell proposes by text? Really doesnt sound much of a catch, sorry.
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    • Judi
    • By Judi 11th Jun 17, 7:37 PM
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    • #9
    • 11th Jun 17, 7:37 PM
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    • 11th Jun 17, 7:37 PM
    I'd just say "ask me to my face".

    If he was drunk, i'd say "ask me when your sober".....not as though that matters in your case.
    'Holy crap on a cracker!'
    • moneyistooshorttomention
    • By moneyistooshorttomention 11th Jun 17, 7:38 PM
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    Well I guess there are two probable explanations for that way of doing things:

    a. He was too drunk to think straight.
    b. He wasn't drunk - but had had just enough to get up a bit of "dutch courage" to say what he feels nervous about saying in person.

    Either way - if I wanted a proposal from him - then I'd probably drop into conversation (ie next time I see him) a semi-jokey comment with a smile on my face about "How much had you had to drink last night? #grin/wink# Don't suppose you remember what you said in a text to me#grinwink#"

    .....and wait and see what the reaction is.

    If it's sheer blank/"what is she on about?" type reaction - yep...he had had rather a lot to drink.

    If it's studying your face closely/looking a bit nervous/grinning a bit - then come up with another semi-jokey comment to effect of "I don't bite you know - if there's anything you want to say to me......" and wait and see whether he then proposes again. Only this time in person...
    ploughing my own furrow...

    They have lessons in schools these days on resisting peer pressure
    • onomatopoeia99
    • By onomatopoeia99 11th Jun 17, 9:30 PM
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    Or, just ask him if you want to be married. Women are allowed to work and vote and everything these days.
    INTP, nerd, libertarian and scifi geek.
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    • frugalmacdugal
    • By frugalmacdugal 12th Jun 17, 4:48 AM
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    Hi,

    maybe the message wasn't meant for you.
    Y'all take care now.
    • Sicard
    • By Sicard 12th Jun 17, 8:51 AM
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    I got mine in a bottle washed up on a beach.
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    • Judi
    • By Judi 12th Jun 17, 9:21 AM
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    I got mine in a bottle washed up on a beach.
    Originally posted by Sicard
    Lucky you.
    'Holy crap on a cracker!'
    • takman
    • By takman 12th Jun 17, 11:25 AM
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    Well if your not happy with the way he proposed then tell him that!. If you feel you can't be honest with him and say how you feel then your relationship isn't at a stage where you are ready for marriage!.

    But you must know whether you want to get married or not . if you only want to get married if you are asked in person then you can't be that committed to the idea and shouldn't do it.
    • makingplans4nigel
    • By makingplans4nigel 12th Jun 17, 5:08 PM
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    Where was he and what was he supposed to be doing when he sent the text? Could've been at the pub, moaning about you. Left the phone on the table when he popped to the gents and one of his mates decided to play a prank.

    Explains why I've been engaged 6 times...
    Come on sucker lick my battery
    • yvonne13
    • By yvonne13 12th Jun 17, 6:33 PM
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    Where was he and what was he supposed to be doing when he sent the text? Could've been at the pub, moaning about you. Left the phone on the table when he popped to the gents and one of his mates decided to play a prank.

    Explains why I've been engaged 6 times...
    Originally posted by makingplans4nigel
    We spend the day together and when he left he said he was going home. He called me on my lunch break today and he never brought it up so I just kept quiet. I'll wait until Friday and see if he says anything.
    It's better to regret something I did do than to regret something that I didn’t.
    • thorsoak
    • By thorsoak 12th Jun 17, 7:28 PM
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    http://www.soundboard.com/sb/KennyEllaway :-D :-D :-D
    • lika_86
    • By lika_86 12th Jun 17, 8:40 PM
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    We spend the day together and when he left he said he was going home. He called me on my lunch break today and he never brought it up so I just kept quiet. I'll wait until Friday and see if he says anything.
    Originally posted by yvonne13
    Has he text you yet? It should still there for him to see when he texts you, then he has to address it.
    • takman
    • By takman 12th Jun 17, 9:06 PM
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    We spend the day together and when he left he said he was going home. He called me on my lunch break today and he never brought it up so I just kept quiet. I'll wait until Friday and see if he says anything.
    Originally posted by yvonne13
    So this is the guy who you are considering making a huge commitment to and getting married yet you can't even ask him about a text he sent you?

    This is clearly bothering you and if you can't even talk to him about it then marriage is definetly not a good idea!.
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