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    • tanyab
    • By tanyab 6th Jun 17, 6:35 PM
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    Finding weight loss very hard :(
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    • 6th Jun 17, 6:35 PM
    Finding weight loss very hard :( 6th Jun 17 at 6:35 PM
    Please help
    Is there somewhere where you can meet people but can weigh yourself privately?
    I hate this public weighing obsession even if it is just in front of the Group Leader!!
    I am too ashamed to weigh myself currently, never mind have a stranger be involved!!!
    Since the Menopause I have gone up 3 to 4 clothes sizes and would like to get to grips with it now I am 50.
    It is very depressing.
    I started peri menopausal when I was 41 but I have been properly post menopausal for 3 years now.
    I am very depressed about this.
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    • springdreams
    • By springdreams 6th Jun 17, 8:10 PM
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    I am not aware of anywhere that offers the type of service you are looking for.

    Have you spoken to your GP? Sometimes GP surgeries offer weight loss clinics. But you wouldn't get the support of a group through a clinic. They would simply weigh you and perhaps provide guidance on diet.

    Another alternative would be to join one of the usual groups - Weight Watchers or Slimming World, and just go for the group support but tell the leader you are not comfortable yet with being weighed.

    Note that when you are weighed in these type of groups your weight stays between you and the group leader. Others cannot see the scales, and you are not obliged to share your weight with others within the group.
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    • Hermia
    • By Hermia 6th Jun 17, 8:36 PM
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    Note that when you are weighed in these type of groups your weight stays between you and the group leader. Others cannot see the scales, and you are not obliged to share your weight with others within the group.
    Originally posted by springdreams
    Exactly. I think all the mainstream slimming companies know public weigh-ins freak people out. I used to go to WeightWatchers and if you reached a milestone the leader would always ask if you wanted it to be mentioned to the class or not.
    • emilybc
    • By emilybc 7th Jun 17, 3:10 PM
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    Hi Tanyab,

    Sorry to hear you are feeling depressed. Although I can't be much help regarding a group, there is a website called Minimins which is a big community of people trying to lose weight, with advice on different diets and methods.

    Everyone there is very supportive and it might be a good place for you to go for help and somewhere to chat about weight loss. There might even be advice about weight around the menopause, specifically.

    Take care and hope you feel better soon
    • fairy lights
    • By fairy lights 7th Jun 17, 4:35 PM
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    • 7th Jun 17, 4:35 PM
    Have you tried myfitnesspal? you can weigh yourself privately but there is a large support community if you do want to talk about it.
    • tanyab
    • By tanyab 7th Jun 17, 5:50 PM
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    I will look into that thanks
    • pollypenny
    • By pollypenny 7th Jun 17, 6:28 PM
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    I started Michael Mosley's Intermittent Fasting, the 5:2 Diet in April 2016.

    DD had bought me the book, so we both used the recipes to follow it. There is also a website with forums and people who are very helpful and encouraging.

    It took me until September to reach target, with a holiday in the middle. I've since lost another 1/2 st, 2 st in total. OH has list 3 st.
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    • Dizzy Ditzy
    • By Dizzy Ditzy 7th Jun 17, 7:07 PM
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    I used to do the weighing at a slimming club and we had several people who didn't want to know what their actual weight was. They just wanted to know how many pounds up or down they were.

    Suggestions above are very good. Good luck
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    • IAmWales
    • By IAmWales 7th Jun 17, 7:15 PM
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    Could you separate the meeting people and weight loss parts? Weigh yourself at home, and meet people through a walking group or a low impact exercise class? Aquarobics is popular amongst ladies on a weight loss journey.

    For the weight loss, set yourself small targets. I had a lot to lose when I started out and it was overwhelming. Breaking it down to half a stone at a time makes it far less daunting, and even after your first half stone you'll see quite a difference.

    Good luck!
    • JeromeMarquez
    • By JeromeMarquez 9th Jun 17, 2:42 AM
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    Let's go to basic doing proper diet and exercise.
    • tanyab
    • By tanyab 9th Jun 17, 9:33 AM
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    Thanks
    Anything to do with water is out but I might try a low impact class
    • pmduk
    • By pmduk 11th Jun 17, 7:13 PM
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    For the weight loss, set yourself small targets. I had a lot to lose when I started out and it was overwhelming. Breaking it down to half a stone at a time makes it far less daunting, and even after your first half stone you'll see quite a difference.

    Good luck!
    Originally posted by IAmWales

    You could take this further and just aim for the pounds at first. Have a non-weight goal to minimise emphasis on the weight numbers; eg lose a dress size in say x months.
    • Ben84
    • By Ben84 12th Jun 17, 11:03 PM
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    If you want to take part in the group, but have uncertainties about the weighing part, or really any of it, I don't think you'd be the first person to wonder about these things. It could help to contact the group leaders of some local groups, just talk it through with them and see where you end up. They may have some ideas that work for you.
    • Carmk2008
    • By Carmk2008 16th Jun 17, 10:19 AM
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    I find the best way to drop weight is to limit the amount of carbs I eat and when I do eat them its when I'm most active. Started two months ago on a fairly low carb diet coupled with running, starting weight was 17 1/2 st now sitting at 15st 9 granted this is mostly water weight but the difference is huge. Will take another few weeks before I start to see a reduction in fat.
    • Clowns and Jugglers
    • By Clowns and Jugglers 16th Jun 17, 10:23 AM
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    Probably best to try and do it privately, via an app.

    No idea why slimming clubs (and hospitals) have public weighing sessions. I can see why it would put people off.
    • whiteguineapig
    • By whiteguineapig 16th Jun 17, 10:13 PM
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    the mse old style board have a weightloss thread, they are very supportive, maybe you could join in with them?
    • TiredTrophy
    • By TiredTrophy 28th Jun 17, 4:36 PM
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    Hey come and join us..on the old style thread....very inclusive. .no admitting your start weight...a few jokes..come and lurk for a while
    • Afternoonnapper
    • By Afternoonnapper 3rd Jul 17, 2:35 PM
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    How do you get to the old style?
    • Ilona
    • By Ilona 3rd Jul 17, 2:59 PM
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    How do you get to the old style?
    Originally posted by Afternoonnapper
    You look down the list of forums for Old Style,

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/forumdisplay.php?f=33

    This is the thread you want.

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5143191

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    • MallyGirl
    • By MallyGirl 3rd Jul 17, 5:42 PM
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    Come and join us - we are very friendly

    People have different goals and struggles - we just support each other.
    An alternative to weighing is to measure yourself instead. This can be done in the privacy of your own home and many people find that if the scales don't change much sometimes the shape and measurements do.

    I just turned 50 and am peri or actually menopausal so weight loss has seemed more of a struggle this time - I have been lucky that my symptoms have been mild but I know that they are not for many people.
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