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    • Hiddenidenity
    • By Hiddenidenity 9th May 17, 12:47 PM
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    When things hit rock bottom the only answer is to fight the way back up...
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    • 9th May 17, 12:47 PM
    When things hit rock bottom the only answer is to fight the way back up... 9th May 17 at 12:47 PM
    I'm back again, worse than ever to be honest. Things all hit a head in March and along with help being needed in other areas than financial I realised that the money side of things are a big issue in fixing things elsewhere.

    Although not posting I have been reading the diaries I have followed, so many who helped along when I first started are happily debt free now. I want to join them one day, both in being debt free and in happiness.

    Our finances on paper while tight look okay. However we both smoke and my OH is not very responsible. At all. I fell into a gambling issue which I've sought help for and not a penny has gone on gambling since March.

    Our household is me (Not working, our youngest has complicated health issues), My OH he works full time with over time, and 3 delightful children

    I will make a seperate post for my debts/goals and then one with our SOA when I've completed it.

    Hope I can stay around to sort myself, the debt and the happiness thing out.
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    • Hiddenidenity
    • By Hiddenidenity 2nd Oct 17, 9:10 AM
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    Morning Missy, thank you hope you have a lovely day too.

    I have DS home from school for the next 24 hours - hope that means he can go tomorrow He seems totally fine in himself so I think it might be the dairy overload he had with a friend He is going to have to come to my appointments with me today so I hope they don't mind.

    Going to make the pie now ready to just put in the oven nearer dinner time, mash and veg is leftovers from yesterday

    I've done the cleaning think I might have used a bit much bleach it's smelling very strong

    Beds are washed and dried I should be making them but having a cuppa first.
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    • missymoo81
    • By missymoo81 2nd Oct 17, 9:52 AM
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    Oh dear re DS! I hope he feels better soon. Well done on all the washing! Your pie sounds lovely. I do like a good pie. Just sat down for a cuppa myself!
    • Hiddenidenity
    • By Hiddenidenity 2nd Oct 17, 10:11 AM
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    DS seems fine Definitely well enough for school.

    I've made the beds and now having another cuppa I'm so tired today I could fall asleep sat here.

    Awful news for LA, we are watching the news channel and it looks awful It makes we scared for what the smalls will grow up into.
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    • Purplemumof2
    • By Purplemumof2 2nd Oct 17, 10:47 AM
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    Morning HI,

    Glad DS is feeling a lot better.

    Horrible situation over there, heard that there was 20 dead

    Have a lovely day xx
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    • Hiddenidenity
    • By Hiddenidenity 2nd Oct 17, 12:18 PM
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    I think the number's still rising Total devastation to so many families

    Just popping on while I drink my cuppa before heading to appointment one, then back to work then pick smalls up and onto appointment number two! I'm ready for bed
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    • abba1772
    • By abba1772 2nd Oct 17, 12:21 PM
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    Hope your wee one is feeling better........good luck with your appointments today xx
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    • EssexHebridean
    • By EssexHebridean 2nd Oct 17, 1:07 PM
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    Horrible news coming out of the US - but of course they'll STILL continue to defend their "rights" for anyone who wants one to have a gun!

    Ugh to the smell of bleach - it's one of just a handful of things that even now can trigger my asthma - horrible stuff. I always have a bottle at home but pretty much never use it.

    Busy week you've got there this week with all those appointments - glad to hear DS is feeling better today though - fingers crossed as you say it doesn't spread!
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    • Hiddenidenity
    • By Hiddenidenity 2nd Oct 17, 3:56 PM
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    Interestingly I wonder if bleach irritates youngests breathing

    Some survey money in, along with some out the bank - moneys outstanding to mum £605. This is the one I am targeting any extras at for now. The bills are understanding she isn't

    Kids home, I'm home! Cancelled this evenings appointment

    Pie in the oven, going to do DD's spellings and then feed and bath them. Going to try and do Ebay listing tonight.

    Bank has around £3 in now Hope we don't need anything
    Last edited by Hiddenidenity; 02-10-2017 at 4:12 PM.
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    • EssexHebridean
    • By EssexHebridean 2nd Oct 17, 4:42 PM
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    Oh now that's a thought Hidden - could well do I'd say - certainly not something I can cope with in much quantity at all and I know chlorine can be an issue - the first I knew of even having asthma was when I had problems while I was swimming and the Dr said right off it was the chlorine in the pool that was the problem. can you maybe try switching to using white vinegar/bicarb/lemon juice etc for cleaning and see if less chemicals makes a difference?

    Eek to money coming in and then going out as fast and leaving everything squeaky!

    Good call to cancel the appointment this evening if you could get away with it too. Wish I was all snuggled up at home already!
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    • jwil
    • By jwil 2nd Oct 17, 5:10 PM
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    I can't believe that your Mum is charging you!

    Well done on smashing September, and good luck for October's targets!

    I agree about using ebay's postage. If you print your postage from there, you get delivery confirmation with Royal Mail added to the listing. It's really reduced the numbers of people claiming they haven't received stuff. Also those who do try it on, a simple point out that it shows it was delivered results in the item 'mysteriously' turning up.
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    • Hiddenidenity
    • By Hiddenidenity 2nd Oct 17, 7:17 PM
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    Wouldn't be hidden land if it wasn't squeaky

    I think I'd got into the habit of leaving a bit in the bank 'just in case' then using it to treat the kids to a sweet or similar.

    School photos are in and for once all of them are amazing! Eye watering expensive though Might see if mum and sister will buy their own

    Smalls are all in bed. I am so tempted to join them Some dramas are going on outside with next door so a bit on edge and definitely won't settle if I went to bed.
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    • missymoo81
    • By missymoo81 2nd Oct 17, 8:25 PM
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    Ah Hidden did next doors drama quieten down? I hate things like that, I sit on the edge of my seat listening!
    Just waiting for my washing to finish! I desperately want to go to bed too!
    • Hiddenidenity
    • By Hiddenidenity 2nd Oct 17, 9:06 PM
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    No they are still at war I've locked up and come up to bed with a brew.

    My diet has gone upside down! I had coffee last night and I had bread today!

    I was anxious over my appointment that I changed Glad I changed it There's been an incident in the local paper today that opened some boxes and has caused a bit of a rift between me and my mum I know I have to leave past as past but sometimes I just wish she could answer questions. She obviously doesn't want too or feel the need to. Meh!

    Wish I could erase my memory of the past Forgive, forget and move on.

    Youngest has come and joined me in bed I would never allow it normally but I feel lonely so she can stay x
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    • missymoo81
    • By missymoo81 2nd Oct 17, 9:10 PM
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    Bless you, sometimes a hug from a little person is just what you need. May gives the biggest squishiest hugs! Sorry the past is difficult for you. It's hard when things are left unanswered. I hope you get a good nights sleep.

    Don't worry about the diet, I too have had coffee (lots) and bread and biscuits (lots) and cake (lots). Tomorrow is a new day!

    Chin up lovely.
    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 2nd Oct 17, 9:13 PM
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    I wouldn't pay for your mum and sister's school photos HI. Make them pay if they want one, or give them the pics as a Christmas present

    The bleach could be an irritate for your little one's breathing, gloss paint sets me off.
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    • Cumbria lass
    • By Cumbria lass 2nd Oct 17, 9:17 PM
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    Hidden have read local paper today and there have been a few sad things gone on. Hope you get a good nights sleep and that your neighbours quieten down .
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    • cocalls
    • By cocalls 3rd Oct 17, 12:06 PM
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    hidden i love reading your diary and you come across as a lovely mum.

    i hope you dont think im speaking out of turn but you mention you use bleach a lot, i think you said you used too much because there was a powerful smell etc a few posts ago. Im wondering if you're aware of the effects of bleach on the lung & respiratory problems especially in children. Here's one study about it https://universityhealthnews.com/daily/eyes-ears-nose-throat/are-bleach-fumes-dangerous-bleach-exposure-increases-risk-of-infection-in-kids/

    but if you google it there's lots of articles about bleach, and id hate for it to effect your little one as you mentioned she has breathing probs. I understand you need to clean to keep in control but maybe its worth using something else.
    • EssexHebridean
    • By EssexHebridean 3rd Oct 17, 12:46 PM
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    Mmmmm..bread! There is no way on this planet I'd ever give house-room to any form of "diet" that told me I needed to cut out bread. If I absolutely had to due to developing an allergy I would but that's the only chance of it ever! might as well try to tell me that I had to cut out cheese - NEVER. GONNA. HAPPEN!

    School photos - is there one of all three of them together? if so I'd buy a small copy of that, and then tell your Mum & Sister that they are welcome to order but they'll need top pay too as you need to prioritise where your money goes. Either they'll want them - in which case they'll get their money out - or they won't, in which case it's not worth you wasting your cash on buying them for them is it! There are very few school pics of me from when I was little as there was never the money spare for it really.
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    • missymoo81
    • By missymoo81 3rd Oct 17, 1:09 PM
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    Hope you're ok Hidden and just busy with work, I hope DS is better xx
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    • By Sun Addict 3rd Oct 17, 8:05 PM
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    Sorry to hear something has happened to stir unpleasant memories. Big hugs xx
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