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    • cats2012
    • By cats2012 2nd May 17, 7:03 PM
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    MSE Newborn to 1 year Club
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    • 2nd May 17, 7:03 PM
    MSE Newborn to 1 year Club 2nd May 17 at 7:03 PM
    Hi everyone!

    After saying it for ages I've finally started a new newborn-1 year thread for us all to share parenting ups and downs, as well as of course money-saving tips, especially once the maternity pay dwindles.

    If you join the thread please introduce yourself with...

    - Baby's name, if you'd like to share, or just gender if you'd prefer
    - Age of baby
    - Whether you have other children too
    - How's it all going?!


    To kick us off... I have a little girl called Clara who is 6 weeks old today and she's our first baby. It's going pretty well although she does cry a fair amount - she seems to have an on/off switch, she's either zonked out asleep or super alert, which means she gets bored very easily and therefore grumpy and crying quite often. She just needs a variety of stimulation though to settle, so it's not like nothing works. She's breastfed so only goes up to 3 hours between feeds day and night, but does settle pretty well after.

    Looking forward to sharing more stories!
    Officially Mrs B as of March 2013
    TTC since Apr 2015, baby B born March 2017
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    • Beckyy
    • By Beckyy 28th Sep 17, 10:02 AM
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    How does anybody with a baby get spare time anymore? I never seem to get half way down my to do list, let alone finish it now a days!

    Thank you for the reply re: carrier Freddie - really, really helpful! Who would have thought this last year would go by so quickly!?
    • FreddieFrugal
    • By FreddieFrugal 29th Sep 17, 7:44 PM
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    One year old today!

    He's opened a few presents today and we made him a big birthday card with a duck on it. He loves ducks it's one of his recognisable sounds when he sees one- although he makes the same sound for penguins too!

    Tomorrow we'll be taking him to a nearby hall/estate that has a mini zoo - he loves it there. Then on Sunday his grandparents are coming around to have cake etc.

    I feel really rubbish - caught the bad cold/fever that OH had last week.

    But OH has finally been paid - 2 1/2 months since returning to work. So that's a big relief!



    Beckky - I'm working part time, but when I am at work were both out of the house by 7am and back only an hour or so before his bedtime.

    So on the days I'm at home, I spend the time while he's napping trying to do house jobs - mainly cooking a big batch of something so we have some easy meals ready for the days we're both at work. Then obviously while he's awake it's full on looking after him.

    On my Friday off I try to do as many jobs as possible - food shopping, clothes washing etc. So that we can have time at the weekend all together doing fun stuff.

    OH is a teacher, so she's got a lot of work during the week, including bringing lots home and has to work on at least one day at the weekend. So we have to try and make the most of what free time we are able to get.


    If you mean free time as in time to do stuff without the LO. Ha! No it doesn't exist. It takes at least an hour just to clean up after dinner!
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    • ThinkPink
    • By ThinkPink 30th Sep 17, 11:15 AM
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    I feel so behind on housework, like I haven't ironed for months!! When little one naps I either nap myself if we haven't had a good night or I cook dinner or do things like Catching up on making phone calls etc. Luckily oh starts a new job soon that means he has Friday afternoons off. I did look at reducing hid time at nursery that day but it doesn't work out much different money wise so I've decided oh can blitz the house so there's no housework to do at the weekend and cook dinner then he can have an hour or two of me time!!

    We actually went out yesterday for the day just the two of us (went to the England cricket odi) and both agreed it's so weird going out now without him!!

    He's had his dressing off and catheter removed now, all looking good so far so fingers crossed no further surgery is needed.

    Happy 1st birthday Fred. It's crazy how quickly the first year has gone isn't it!!
    • penguingirl
    • By penguingirl 30th Sep 17, 4:13 PM
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    Happy birthday Freddie, hope you have a lovely weekend

    I have come to the conclusion that when I go back to work we will need a cleaner. And I don't believe in ironing. Most housework gets done when J is in the sling
    • Beckyy
    • By Beckyy 1st Oct 17, 9:48 AM
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    I hope Freddie had a brillliant 1st birthday!


    I'm glad everything is looking good ThinkPink!

    I'm reassured I'm not alone with the housework/chores. Naps are less frequent for us now, or usually happen when we're out in the car so time at home to get things done is limited. By the time I've done 1 job, 3 more have appeared. Ahh well, there'll be plenty of time to clean once they're at school - it will be here before we know it!

    We did a cake smash photo shoot this week, it was such good fun. We all really enjoying it!
    • FreddieFrugal
    • By FreddieFrugal 1st Oct 17, 10:43 PM
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    He's funny with naps. He dropped his afternoon nap a long while ago. Despite us trying our best to make sure he had the opportunity to take one if he needed.

    So for weeks he had one long nap each day, about 2 hours, near midday.

    Then all of a sudden last week he decided to start having one short nap in the morning and one long one in the afternoon. He did that like clockwork for 4 or 5 days then suddenly stopped and switched back to single 2 hour nap again.


    With sleep he had done about 2 weeks solid of sleeping through every night. Then starting last Wednesday - he's been going to sleep fine, but then waking up 3 hours later and refusing to settle. The normal sleep stuff we do doesn't help him, he only goes back to sleep if brought into bed with us, then put back when he's drifted off. Once he is back to sleep he then sleeps through the reminder of the night.
    If we do our usual thing of rocking, then putting down and leaving for a couple minutes he just stays awake crying for over an hour.

    That's come out of nowhere.


    Baby sleep is so weird
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    • ThinkPink
    • By ThinkPink 2nd Oct 17, 8:59 AM
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    I tried getting my lo to self settle last night, but he soon started to get upset so I gave in and cuddled and rocked him to sleep. He's actually slept really well the last couple of nights, I'm not sure if it is coincidence but for the last two nights I have warmed his milk up so I'm going to carry on doing that in the hope it is helping. I also think we have a break from teething at the moment as it's usually teething that makes him terrible.

    We have two naps here, apart from on the odd occasion when he refuses and just has one!!
    • FreddieFrugal
    • By FreddieFrugal 2nd Oct 17, 1:31 PM
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    He slept through again last night so maybe he's over that waking up at 10pm thing already. Fingers crossed!

    We'd got used to sleeping again, the last few weeks - silly us!

    Hey! Until you just said about warming milk up ThinkPink I'd forgotten that he doesn't need formula anymore. That'll be a saving. Although i can't remember the last time we actually bought a carton of formula as it lasts him ages only having one bottle a day.

    Are you giving your son his milk in a bottle?
    Last edited by FreddieFrugal; 02-10-2017 at 1:39 PM.
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    • ThinkPink
    • By ThinkPink 2nd Oct 17, 2:42 PM
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    We gave our little boy cow's milk, we had a couple of days of explosive nappies so we are back to formula for now. Once he is fully recovered I will then gradually introduce cow's milk (so start of 25% cows milk the rest formula) and build up. He does have a bottle at the moment, I think it's quite comforting for him. We opened a big carton of formula so I was heating it up to take the chill off but he seems to like it warmer.
    • Beckyy
    • By Beckyy 3rd Oct 17, 8:22 PM
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    We usually get one 30/45 minute nap, sometimes two. Sometimes it's longer if we're out in the car or similar. Today was one 20 minute nap at childcare! I'm at peace with the broken nights. If he sleeps, great... if not tomorrow's another night

    I've borrowed a friend's Osprey carrier, it's great to try it out! I'm really impressed with it.
    Last edited by Beckyy; 03-10-2017 at 8:25 PM.
    • Beckyy
    • By Beckyy 4th Dec 17, 7:44 PM
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    How is everyone getting on?
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    • FreddieFrugal
    • By FreddieFrugal 4th Dec 17, 9:23 PM
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    He's doing great. Sleeping well. He's really developing a personality and it's brilliant. He's so funny and really cuddly too. Really playing with sounds and so clever you can properly talk to him now and he gets it and answers/does what you ask.

    Very close to walking but not quite yet.

    Got another on the way!

    Hows you Beckyy?
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    • ThinkPink
    • By ThinkPink 5th Dec 17, 8:49 AM
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    We are all good here. Have been properly walking for ages now, he's so quick too you have to really watch him at times like when popping to the car as he tries to escape out the front door!! Sleep has also improved, now has his bottle in his cot at bedtime and usually dozes off fairly quickly and apart from last night has been sleeping through- and this was all achieved without controlled crying, I think it was just a case of waiting until he was ready!! Naptime I just usually have to rock his mattress a bit if he won't settle.

    He is very cheeky, very mischievous and very impressionable at the moment and copies everything, especially everything that daddy does!! He is so funny to watch. I'm so excited for Christmas this year and looking forward to having our first Chris dinner together. Has everyone done most their Christmas shopping for their little ones?

    Congratulations Freddie. When is baby due?
    • FreddieFrugal
    • By FreddieFrugal 5th Dec 17, 7:07 PM
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    I've got him saying "Ho, Ho, Ho" he's so cute.

    We've got the 12 week scan in 2 weeks and 2 days. Baby due 3rd July.

    We weren't expecting it to happen so quickly, we had made the decision to properly start TTC but with the assumption that it could take a while, so no point aiming for a particular time. I was hoping they'd be born in September or later - but not going to complain!

    Although we both had a "WE'RE NOT READY!!" Type reaction at first
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    • Beckyy
    • By Beckyy 5th Dec 17, 11:39 PM
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    I'm glad you're both doing well That's brilliant on the nights ThinkPink!

    Oh wow, congratulations Freddie. At least it will all be fresh in your mind! Honestly, I don't think anyone would ever feel 100% ready again anyway haha

    I think I'm enjoying each stage better than the last. His personally is coming out more and more each day, walking well now but only gone from preferring crawling to walking in the last couple of weeks. Still only 6 teeth! I'm really looking forward to Christmas this year, as last year he was just too young to enjoy any of it.
    • FreddieFrugal
    • By FreddieFrugal 6th Dec 17, 7:29 AM
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    Still only 6 teeth! I'm really looking forward to Christmas this year, as last year he was just too young to enjoy any of it.
    Originally posted by Beckyy
    Same here top 4 and bottom 2 front teeth. But he's got a canine starting to come through.

    Also excited about Christmas although we've done no shopping yet!

    He loves the Christmas tree, helped decorate it. He's been really good so far and just looks at it, points at baubles but hasn't been going to touch it pull at it.

    He did to start with - you could see the turmoil inside him as he wobbled back and forth - knowing he wasn't supposed to touch it, but so captivated by something so big and shiny and colourful! It was so funny seeing him obviously having a battle of will power against himself
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    • ThinkPink
    • By ThinkPink 7th Dec 17, 10:04 PM
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    We are not brave enough to have a tree this year, our little one definitely cannot be trusted!! Oh took him round his dad's the other day and it just confirmed he would be a nightmare!!

    We have 12 teeth, but haven't had any come through for 3 months so definitely due some!!

    We have got all of little ones presents, we don't tend to get him much as we buy him bits through the year as and when we think of things that he will like/ needs. I'm dreading finding homes for all the presents he will get from family!!
    • FreddieFrugal
    • By FreddieFrugal 7th Dec 17, 10:09 PM
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    I don't think we'll be putting presents underneath it until the day!
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    • Toots14
    • By Toots14 7th Dec 17, 10:38 PM
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    Our wee one is 18 months now

    A wee chatterbox. Today's word was "tick tock". It was constant. Yesterday was "apple". She's picked up so much from nursery, it's amazing!

    I am away on Saturday until Thursday. The longest time I've been without her. Not sure how I'll cope.

    Our Xmas tree isn't going up until at least the 16th but there is absolutely no chance she won't touch it. She is into everything.
    • Tinks05
    • By Tinks05 9th Dec 17, 7:15 PM
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    Hi everyone. Just had the first chance in month to catch up with this thread. Love hearing about all the babies are doing, especially love the updates from the names I recognise from pregnancy threads - my gosh that feels like a long time ago now. Congrats on the pregnancy news Freddie!

    Isla is 11 months old now. She started walking about 6 weeks ago and is all over the place! We went down the BLW weaning route and she's a fab eater, we've not come across anything she won't eat and we all have the same meals every meal time which is great. I'm still breastfeeding and hoping to make it to a year.

    Sleep is not something she has got the hang of just yet, in fact she seems to be getting worse. At the moment she's not falling asleep until 10pm at the earliest, and is doing one or two hours max in her cot and then refusing to go back. I generally give in because I'm so tired myself and end up taking her into our bed, where she wakes up every 5-10 mins crying or wriggling like something is waking her up. It's killing me! Hoping it's just a phase.
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