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    • cats2012
    • By cats2012 2nd May 17, 6:03 PM
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    MSE Newborn to 1 year Club
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    MSE Newborn to 1 year Club 2nd May 17 at 6:03 PM
    Hi everyone!

    After saying it for ages I've finally started a new newborn-1 year thread for us all to share parenting ups and downs, as well as of course money-saving tips, especially once the maternity pay dwindles.

    If you join the thread please introduce yourself with...

    - Baby's name, if you'd like to share, or just gender if you'd prefer
    - Age of baby
    - Whether you have other children too
    - How's it all going?!


    To kick us off... I have a little girl called Clara who is 6 weeks old today and she's our first baby. It's going pretty well although she does cry a fair amount - she seems to have an on/off switch, she's either zonked out asleep or super alert, which means she gets bored very easily and therefore grumpy and crying quite often. She just needs a variety of stimulation though to settle, so it's not like nothing works. She's breastfed so only goes up to 3 hours between feeds day and night, but does settle pretty well after.

    Looking forward to sharing more stories!
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    • crazy-cat-lady
    • By crazy-cat-lady 24th Aug 17, 4:04 PM
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    Mia is cutting canines at the moment. Never any break with the teeth for her. I'm convinced that by the time she has her first proper dental check up in November, she'll have them all! Little nasher!


    Otherwise she's fine. Didn't much enjoy the 13 month jabs though! Felt sooooo mean! She was very clingy for that day and the next two, but fine after that.


    She don't half cry at the most random things though - certain episodes of duggee, the hoover, the blender, the thermometer.....can't fathom why!
    Originally posted by euronorris

    Zoe is the same with teeth and crying at random things. Had a hard time with the last of the molars coming. Was off food and only wanting milk for 4 days. She's off formula and on cow's milk now and thankfully taken to it ok. She really made up for it when she wanted food again though. So we are 12/20 and can see the bubbles showing the first two of the canines starting. Dreading those ones. Looked at the chart and she isn't due them for a good while so maybe they will just sit there and not com yet. It would be nice to have a break. The last 4 were one after another.

    At the moment she is terrified and cries at the roomba. Every time he starts up his rounds doing the hoovering she freezes and looks st me, I know she will start. Funny because two weeks ago she would follow him everywhere.

    She's a lot steadier on her feet now. Glad the walking wasn't a one off. She does not stay still. It'll be good excercise for me! Her party went well but my house was a mess after. Ended up with 13 one and unders, 6 slightly bigger plus mums. I was shattered. Thankfully it's a once a year thing. The mums got her a lovely little wooden chair with her name engraved in it, books and clothes and the usual. But she loves the little chair. Think it makes her feel like a big girl sitting in her own special place.

    Holiday to look forward to now. 9 days and counting. Her first cruise. Didn't want to fly with her yet. Got stuck behind a howling baby coming home from Hawaii last year and we decided to wait til she was 4 or 5 to fly after that. There's a baby pool and a big nursery and soft play room onboard. Hoping she will take to it.
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    • euronorris
    • By euronorris 24th Aug 17, 4:59 PM
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    Yeah, the last of Mia's molars cut through last month. They were already ahead of schedule, so I was hoping for a month or two break, but nope, I can see and feel those canines coming through, and sure enough the fingers are permanently in the mouth again and the drooling has begun.


    Once they're walking, they get really good, really fast. She runs now. When I turn around to put a dirty nappy in the nappy bin in her room, I turn back and she's already at the kitchen entrance!!! Giggling, of course!


    Hoovering is a nightmare. We're trying to desensitise her, so we're going through a process of putting her in a carrier, facing me/him, and then do the hoovering.
    • FreddieFrugal
    • By FreddieFrugal 24th Aug 17, 8:36 PM
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    He's just everywhere now. So quick with his crawling.

    We went to buy a carrier today. Drove 1 1/2 hours to a place that actually has all the major ones in a showroom to try.

    Poor boy was mighty fed up of being put in and out of them by the end of it! Took a lot longer than we thought it would, hard to choose.

    Bought the Osprey Poco premium. It's great but bloomin heavy carrying him on my back. I'm sure I'll get used to it with time! He was happy in it anyway with his hood view. Much more chatty and interactive than when he's in his pushchair.

    Planning just to use it if we're doing more serious walking in North Yorkshire or on holiday. We used to do hiking really regularly. We missed out on a lot of the good walking nearby while on holiday in Scotland because we were tied to the pushchair.



    He's really improving with his standing the last few days. Just holding on with one hand or freestanding for a few seconds. He takes confident steps if I hold his hands and walk with him.
    Last edited by FreddieFrugal; 24-08-2017 at 8:44 PM.
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    • Beckyy
    • By Beckyy 29th Aug 17, 10:39 PM
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    I'm glad the scan went well, Freddie! The Osprey carrier looks like it's fit for some good hiking. We have the ergo 360 and it's great on your back but I'm not sure how it will fair when he is much older.

    april87, we've just done our first flights (internal) and they were totally fine. The waiting around the board and for our car seat from the hold were the worst bits. I fed our LO on taking off and he fell asleep on landing, we took quite a few toys and rotated them. Space to play was limited on our plane so was glad I wasn't on my own. We took our car seat as I won't hire one. We kept the box it came in originally, and got a travel bag then put it inside the box in that (along with nappies, wipes and a lot of clothes haha) It was a bit bulky to carry but worked great as I really do think they get bashed around lots. Do you have any local pram shops that might have a spare box you could use for it?
    • FreddieFrugal
    • By FreddieFrugal 3rd Sep 17, 8:14 AM
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    Hi all, I'm a bit confused as to what to do.

    DS is now 11 months old

    He has been eating really well the last few months. Then a couple weeks ago he started throwing his food and refusing to eat it after the first few mouthfuls.

    We decided to just not make a fuss about it, take the food away. Looking online it seemed to be a common thing with children around 10/11 months.

    Anyway he gradually started having two good meals a day and one fussy, then the last couple if days he's gone back to normal and just wants to devour everything on his plate and then some of ours.


    But my confusion is around the milk feeds. Over the past few months his milk intake has gone down a lot - which you'd expect surely of a baby that was eating an increasing amount of food during the day.

    He was occasionally having a small 4oz feed in the afternoon, then a 5 or 6 oz (from a 7oz bottle) feed just before bed. Occasionally waking for another feed in the middle of the night, but usually only having a VERY small amount like 1-2 oz.

    Eventually he stopped needing an afternoon feed a few weeks ago.

    Then two days ago, he only had 3oz at bed time and that was it for the whole day.

    Yesterday he had 1 oz at bedtime.

    So he's basically not having milk anymore.

    All of this has been baby-led. We offered milk to him for a while after he seemed to stop wanting it - just in case. But we've always just gone with what he was telling us.

    The one exception is that we decided that he seemed to not really want a feed when he was waking up in the night. It was just a comfort thing - it also seemed to be messing up his eating along with all our sleep! We were staying up for 2 hours with him - and even us being there wasn't really settling him.

    So we decided to try controlled crying - he went from 2 hours, to 1 1/2, to 40 minutes yesterday - with lots of sleepy bits where he was settling himself during that time. So that certainly seems to be working - he didn't get as upset last night as he had previous nights. I also decided just to try settling him straight away without a bottle the last two nights and he didn't seem to miss it at all, in fact he slept better.


    Reading online though apparently they should still be having a pint of milk! Well he has whole milk on his cereal, yoghurt for one of his snacks and his one tiny formula feed but that's nowhere near a pint.

    We don't get what you're supposed to do - If we start adding milk feeds back in then that'll mess up his eating pattern and go against what he's just naturally been doing himself.

    He seemed a little hungry still after breakfast so I tried giving him some more whole milk from a cup, but he only had a few sips. Trying to do that with formula would be an expensive waste.


    What have your experiences been with this?
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    • Toots14
    • By Toots14 3rd Sep 17, 3:27 PM
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    Hi Freddie,

    C completely refused to take her bottles at 11 months. Even the sight of them put her in hysterics. Up until this point she was still having about 7oz in the morning and 7oz at bed time. I was freaking out about dairy but she really does get an awful lot in good which the health visitor said was perfectly fine. Only now will she take a cup of cows milk after her afternoon nap and she's 15 months so don't worry about it!

    As an example she has 150ml in her porridge in the morning, usually some sort of cheese at lunch, yoghurt at some point in the day and most dinners we make have some sort of milk/cheese in it.

    She got weighed last week and is 24lbs and 7oz so doing great!
    • ThinkPink
    • By ThinkPink 3rd Sep 17, 8:35 PM
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    No advice here as we are still on 3 bottles a day. I need to look into when I should cut out another bottle, I think we could probably cut out the day time bottle soon.

    I need to work on self settling but know I'm going to struggle with controlled crying so decided I will do it once he is one, but as he has his operation two weeks after his birthday I'll wait till he all recovered then I will do it. Okay he coming back for tips.
    • Beckyy
    • By Beckyy 4th Sep 17, 7:44 PM
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    I'm not on board with CC/sleep training, there's too many mixed messages IMO. I have friends who are big fans and I can understand why people choose to do it but it doesn't have to be done to make them self settle, it'll come with time. Each to their own though.

    There's very little around on cutting back/stopping milk feeds as they get older. Babies I know who are formula fed have cut back drastically a few months into weaning. I think most of them have a bottle before breakfast, at bed and one or two have in the afternoon.
    • april87
    • By april87 5th Sep 17, 8:19 AM
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    Thanks for the advice on flights. We are going to take our own car seat and buy a travel bag for it. Didn't even realise these things existed. Still trying to figure out the buggy situation, but that's about it.

    12 week injections tomorrow for us eek. No husband with us tomorrow which I'm not keen on. I hate needles and didn't cope too well last time 😂

    Has anyone's baby suffered from colic/reflux? We were using infacol for a good while but we were finding it was blocking him up inside. We stopped using it a few weeks ago and his bowel movements became a bit more regular and wasn't causing him any where near the amount of pain it was previously. However, he now fights his feeds, has stopped sleeping through the night and spitting up his feed. He passes a lot more wind but we struggle to get burps out of him when he feeds. Before we took him off the infacol we were starting on bottle of 180ml and now we feed anywhere between 50ml-120ml with maybe a single feed of 150ml a day. I will mention it tomorrow but does it sound like reflux?
    • crazy-cat-lady
    • By crazy-cat-lady 11th Sep 17, 2:41 PM
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    Zoe had bad colic from 6 weeks old to around 6 months old. It was horrible and nothing helped her. We were at the doctors quite regularly and they swapped formulas and made suggestions. They basically said anything with simethicone (sorry can't spell it off the top of my head) i.e. Infacol, dentinox, coilief.. don't actually work and nothing useful will come of them. We tried them all for months and all the doctors said we were wasting our time. Matched what we read online ourselves but we still tried anyway. She had never had a dummy til she got bad with it but we gave her one then and when it all passed took it away again. It's the only thing that helped her settle at night.
    Have you looked into lactose free formula? The comfort one is a bit of a help but made her very runny bum and chapped. It was a horrible few months. Worse because nothing we could try was helping her and I hated seeing her so sore.


    No help on the milk problem sorry. She's still a big milk fan. Gone on to one cuo of formula and one cow's milk a day now. And she's getting a lot better at having a sippy cup of water between them when she wants a drink. She didn't want to let her bottle go at first and move on from it, but after a few days she got used to it. Same with letting her 3rd milk if the day. She missed it at first but isn't bothered now.
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    • ThinkPink
    • By ThinkPink 12th Sep 17, 8:41 PM
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    I have a 1 year old!! It just seems crazy!! The last year has gone so fast!! we've had a busy couple of days which included a tea party for just immediate family (was still 17 people though!!), Then we had a trip to the local aquarium yesterday and a trip to a local activity farm today, it's been lovely though.

    My little one is still on three bottles of formula but I'm thinking when the current tin gets low I'm going to try cow's milk and see how he gets on, I think we will probably be dropping the third bottle soon too but I'll see how it goes. Some days he just isn't interested in it and others he will have 7oz!

    Little one is walking quite well now, he's getting so steady on his feet,
    • FreddieFrugal
    • By FreddieFrugal 13th Sep 17, 8:43 PM
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    He's just having the one bottle before bed still. But eating like a pig! I don't get how to make him drink milk anymore. You're meant to stop using bottles around a year old. But he only takes small sips from his cup. So if we put milk in there it would just be going bad and having to be thrown out constantly, would be a right waste.

    Have just been making sure he's having plenty of yoghurt and cheese (low salt like mozzarella or ricotta)

    He's sleeping really well again now. He woke once in the night a few days ago but was back to sleep within a minute of being put back down. Then he's slept through every night since.

    He's got three more front teeth through at the top now - they were all coming at once last week!

    He's dropped his afternoon nap completely...cannot get him to take one, but he's also now been pushing his morning nap later, so he has a two hour nap in the middle of the day - he is getting less grouchy around tea time as a result which is good.

    Also going to be a year old in two weeks time. It's insane!
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    • euronorris
    • By euronorris 14th Sep 17, 4:42 PM
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    Colic - yes, Mia suffered with it in the early days and nothing much helped. It just eased with time until one day, it stopped being a problem.


    We tried infacol, gripe water etc, and all of them just made her projectile vomit up the entire feed!! That was way more distressing than the colic itself, so we just plodded on through. She was breastfed during this time, and I understand now that a bad latch and/or tongue tie can play it's part with that.


    As for milk feeds, I can't offer much help I'm afraid. She still likes to guzzle milk. It has taken us months to get her to drink water from a sippy cup, and even then she will only drink it from a specific munchkin one. The ones that look sort of like a normal cup, but have that 'no spill' rim. We daren't put milk in it though, as when you drop it, liquid does still pop out (not a lot, but enough to cause a problem on a carpet). So, she still has her milk in bottles. It's gradually getting less though.


    All I know, at 14 months, is that everything changes on a pretty regular basis. So, if something isn't working at one point, it doesn't mean it never will and it's worth trying it again in a few weeks time and seeing what response you get then.


    Which is a long winded way of saying, at 14 months, I still don't really know what I'm doing! lol
    • Beckyy
    • By Beckyy 15th Sep 17, 1:25 PM
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    1st birthdays already, it's crazy how quick the last year has felt!

    I hope everyone is doing well.

    Freddie, how are you finding your Osprey carrier (if you've used it yet)? We're probably going to need to look for something more heavy duty for hiking and trips next year and they're rated really highly. We're quite limited on shops which sell a selection nearby so any recommendations for one much appreciated!
    • FreddieFrugal
    • By FreddieFrugal 15th Sep 17, 9:38 PM
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    Hi Beckyy,

    We went to Little Trekkers on the edge of the Peak District to try carriers as it was the only place I could find that had a large stock of those carriers to try (also well priced) - was an hour and a half journey but we combined it with a day out.

    I tried the Thule Sapling, LittleLife Voyager, MacPac Possum, Deuter Kid Comfort 3 and the Osprey Premium.

    It was actually really hard to choose - I like the Deuter one but it didn't have as much space for storage as the Osprey.

    The Littlelife Voyager was actually quite nice, had good features and relatively low price - but it doesn't have a proper stand. It's only stable if you've got your foot down on the back of it - which obviously limits where you can stand when putting child in.


    The Osprey one is good - there's a few things I really like about it:

    It's very stable when on the ground (so long as you remember to put the stand out BEFORE you take it off your back which I still occasionally forget!) that makes it easy to put him in, and we can give him his lunch sat in it - obviously with hand ready to steady it if he decided to do a major wiggle. But it is very steady on flat or slightly uneven ground.

    The sun shade is integrated - you can't put it up with it on your back, but it's easy to get out on the ground - there's a zip just behind the child's head - the sun shade pulls out of its own pocket and then you attach the front hooks at either side. It's really quick and it works well.

    It includes a rain cover - haven't had to use it yet, but good to have!

    Large storage space - the bottom pocket is big, however it does compress when you close the kick stand, it works fine for carrying the raincover and our coats. If you wanted to really fill it - or have things that weren't squashable you'd have to leave the stand out.
    The removable pack is actually really handy - we use it to carry what would have been in the changing bag on the pram. So we can just carry son and the small zip-off pack into changing room without having to take the whole carrier in.

    The Mesh system works really well to keep back cool.

    Weight is well balanced and it's very easy to adjust- I've managed several full days now and although obviously it does get very tiring especially on hills! I haven't had any actual discomfort or pain. That said, the first couple of times I tried it - I was finding that the hip belt was digging into me a bit on one side. With a bit of adjustment and probably just a bit of breaking in - I don't seem to be having that problem anymore.


    Very easy to put child in - the seat adjust up and down really easily - the harness is brilliant because it goes over each arm and then fastens at the top of the chest - so it's really easy to access. The other ones we tried were faffy because they fastened in multiple places including low down in front of the child's tummy which was awkward to reach.


    Negatives:

    Bulky - it is a bit heavier than some of the others were.

    The hip belt pockets are a bit too small to really fit anything of use in. Maybe a packet of hula hoops.

    It's quite tricky to reach the mesh pockets at the side while carrying. So you can't reach a bottle easily - although it does have space for a water bladder - or there are loops that you could hang one from if it had a hook of some kind.. It's not a problem anyway as OH just carries the bottles in her small rucksack.

    The sun shade is good, but it sits quite high, so depending on the Suns position - child's face can still be exposed - that's hard to avoid though really, just have to make sure they've got sun cream on their face.



    Anyway I like it, it's comfy, son is happy up there and he's slept in it happily. It's feels good quality and well put together and it's easy to use.

    If you're able to though it's worth trying them in person - I know Go Outdoors stock a few different types if you have any of those shops near you. Some seem to be better for different people as obviously we're all different shapes! The Osprey was the most comfortable feeling in the shop. But that hip problem I mentioned is apparently quite a well known issue for many people - I think they altered it from 2017 with a different type of foam to try and sort out whatever was causing the digging.
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    • crazy-cat-lady
    • By crazy-cat-lady 16th Sep 17, 9:06 PM
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    Argh. Shoot me. The canine teeth are here and ALL 4 AT ONCE! This is going to be a horrible few weeks til they're through. Her poor little cheeks are red and on fire. One top cutting through now and other close and can just see the start of the bottom two coming through. At least after these are through there's only 4 to go and she has them all. She's not quite 13 months. I didn't think these were due for ages.
    Should be glad they waited til we were home from the cruise. Wouldn't have been a good holiday with teeth coming.
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    • euronorris
    • By euronorris 18th Sep 17, 9:34 AM
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    Feel your pain crazy cat lady. Well, Mia does. The top two canines have broken through now, but they seemed to take ages!


    Bottom two still pushing, but not yet broken through.


    Don't know why they have guides for the timelines. I've decided that babies simply laugh at them and do whatever the frick they want!


    Mia not enjoying the swimming at the moment. Has suddenly become very clingy in the pool. I'm told it is fairly typical for her age to go through a clingy stage at this point. Hope it doesn't last long!
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