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    • cats2012
    • By cats2012 2nd May 17, 6:03 PM
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    MSE Newborn to 1 year Club
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    • 2nd May 17, 6:03 PM
    MSE Newborn to 1 year Club 2nd May 17 at 6:03 PM
    Hi everyone!

    After saying it for ages I've finally started a new newborn-1 year thread for us all to share parenting ups and downs, as well as of course money-saving tips, especially once the maternity pay dwindles.

    If you join the thread please introduce yourself with...

    - Baby's name, if you'd like to share, or just gender if you'd prefer
    - Age of baby
    - Whether you have other children too
    - How's it all going?!


    To kick us off... I have a little girl called Clara who is 6 weeks old today and she's our first baby. It's going pretty well although she does cry a fair amount - she seems to have an on/off switch, she's either zonked out asleep or super alert, which means she gets bored very easily and therefore grumpy and crying quite often. She just needs a variety of stimulation though to settle, so it's not like nothing works. She's breastfed so only goes up to 3 hours between feeds day and night, but does settle pretty well after.

    Looking forward to sharing more stories!
    Officially Mrs B as of March 2013
    TTC since Apr 2015, baby B born March 2017
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    • cats2012
    • By cats2012 19th May 17, 3:53 PM
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    Hi all :-) I have a grumpy baby at the moment! ! So not being very MSE as I need to get out the house for my own sanity.

    Considering she's only 8 weeks she needs a LOT of attention - any tips?! I think she needs more naps in the day but she really fights them.
    Officially Mrs B as of March 2013
    TTC since Apr 2015, baby B born March 2017
    • ThinkPink
    • By ThinkPink 12th Jun 17, 4:01 PM
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    Hi, how is everyone and their little ones?

    We are good here. I have finally found something he will eat for breakfast so that's a relief (mini shredded wheats!!), he's also so good at lunches and dinners, it makes life so ugh easier that he eats whatever we are having.

    I handed in forms and paid a deposit for his nursery today which has made it feel more real that I do have to go back to work. Luckily its not til 1st September but I'm still not looking forward to it.

    Does anyone have any tips how to help with what I'm guessing is separation anxiety? For the last week or so he has started to have full on screaming fits which can last for 45 mins and he ends up so hot and sweaty when I leave him with my husband, I really don't know the best way to deal with it.
    • minimuffin12
    • By minimuffin12 12th Jun 17, 11:32 PM
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    hey everyone! cats I think it's normal, does she have a playmat? I had mine on theirs quite young and they would happily lie and kick their wee legs and look around while I hoovered/tided up.

    think- glad you got nursery sorted. the separation is a tough one, I think cos they are so used to mummy being there all day and when daddy or.someone else takes over it can be a shock to them and they fret. my dd is so clingy and cries when.i hand her over at nursery-she's being going for over 6 months!! I know she eventually settles tho. I think with all things baby it's a phase that they grow out of. I think the more you leave him with hubby he will get used to you not being there. its all trial and error with kids!x
    Little man arrived 06/07/13
    • penguingirl
    • By penguingirl 22nd Jun 17, 5:23 PM
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    I thought it was about time I joined this thread having loitered on the pregnancy thread since J was born on 2nd June- and also thought I'd bump it as we've had a baby boom there

    We're gradually adjusting to life with a newborn, he's pretty good but we think he struggles with wind as he can kick his legs a lot and flex after a feed, he also has periods of being very unsettled (normally before bed) so not sure if he's colicky. We've started him on infacol so we shall see if that helps!
    • april87
    • By april87 22nd Jun 17, 6:10 PM
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    Penguin I think we're looking at getting some Infacol as we seem to struggle with wind. Have the HV visiting tomorrow so will get her opinion.

    A very clingy baby today, even the OH struggles to get him settled. I downloaded the wonder weeks app and he's still almost 2 weeks away from his first leap so think it's maybe just the weather and heat.
    • Toots14
    • By Toots14 22nd Jun 17, 8:06 PM
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    Hey, think I'll join in this thread. Recognise so many from the pregnancy threads. My wee girl Catherine was one past at the end of May. She's getting on great and turning into such a wee character.

    I've been back at work 3 weeks now and she's settled into her 3 days at nursery each week so great which I am so glad about as we don't have anyone near us who can look after her. I've settled into the working routine better than I thought too just have to be more organised now!

    Absolutely love being a mum we are already trying for number 2
    • Toots14
    • By Toots14 22nd Jun 17, 8:12 PM
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    Whoops just realised it was for up until 1 year. I'll still post a wee bit since I feel like the year went far too quick and I should really only have a 6 month old
    • minimuffin12
    • By minimuffin12 23rd Jun 17, 12:00 AM
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    hey toots! don't worry about the thread only being up to age one, don't think anyone will kick us off 😁 hope work going ok, great that lo has settled into nursery! my dd didn't for a while but she is fine now. older boy loves it. congrats on trying for 2, I found it easy with one but love having 2 altho it's tough working (35hrs) and sorting the house and kids. most days I'm ready for a nap by lunch time!

    congrats on the new bundles x
    Little man arrived 06/07/13
    • penguingirl
    • By penguingirl 23rd Jun 17, 11:53 AM
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    April- I think we have hit the first leap! Seems early, but they reckon it is based on due dates which would put J at the 5 week point. J is feeding every hour and super clingy. Plus we've had lots of screaming this morning. Thankfully we've not had any in the middle of the night since the first week- so much easier to manage it during the day! I'm currently still in bed in my nightie with him snoozing on me. I don't want him to be any bigger, but also really looking forward to hitting the 6 week mark when everyone says things get easier! Also I fantasise about getting more than 2 hours sleep in a stretch.. We've found our sling has helped, might be worth a try?
    • euronorris
    • By euronorris 23rd Jun 17, 12:33 PM
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    Hi ladies


    In less than 2 weeks Mia will turn 1! Eek! Where has the time gone? Proper little character coming out and she's walking confidently now, so had to get her some shoes. Got a clarks home measurer thingy, and then bought some second hand ones from eBay. Going to sterilise them first. She'll probably try to eat them though! lol


    Separation anxiety is tough. She's getting better, but if either one of us is away for a day, she becomes very, very clingy. I tend to stick her in the high chair in the kitchen with some sliced grapes, or other snack, whilst I get on with things there when she's being clingy. Other than that, I don't have much wisdom to offer. I just had to let her cry sometimes, so we could get out the door (for example).


    So glad the weather has cooled down. Found it unbearable!


    Congrats to the newbies! Fantasising about longer stretches of sleep is completely normal, and they will come in time, I promise. In the meantime, maybe Daddy can take over for a night (if bottle fed), so you can catch up a bit?
    • penguingirl
    • By penguingirl 23rd Jun 17, 1:44 PM
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    Congrats to the newbies! Fantasising about longer stretches of sleep is completely normal, and they will come in time, I promise. In the meantime, maybe Daddy can take over for a night (if bottle fed), so you can catch up a bit?
    Originally posted by euronorris
    We're bf-ing so unfortunately can't do that just yet- we've had some latch difficulties so keen to wait a few more weeks before trying expressed milk in a bottle, although I have just ordered a haakaa pump and some storage bags to start building up a stash. I think OH finds it frustrating too as he doesn't feel he can help. My parents have come over a fair bit too to 'help' but other than take him out in the pram or something to allow me to sleep for an hour or so there's a limited amount they can do. Ah well, we will get there! Nearly weekend so OH can pop him in the sling or pram and let me have a snooze (currently J is snoring in the sling, but I know if I take him out he will wake up and scream!)
    Last edited by penguingirl; 23-06-2017 at 1:54 PM.
    • cats2012
    • By cats2012 23rd Jun 17, 3:25 PM
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    Hi all! I promise it does get better! Clara goes down about 8pm now and wakes up once about 1/2am then down again til about 6. So not perfect but I get some evening time with OH then sleep from c.10pm-1am then again 1.45-6am or what ever it works out as. So usually two stretches of at least 3 hours. I could get more by going to bed earlier if needed. We've just had our first family holiday of 5 days away at the seaside :-)

    Don't worry about it being up to 1 year - that was sort of just because I thought the things to dicuss would change a bit at that point but I'm not actually fussed at all!!
    Officially Mrs B as of March 2013
    TTC since Apr 2015, baby B born March 2017
    • euronorris
    • By euronorris 23rd Jun 17, 3:37 PM
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    We're bf-ing so unfortunately can't do that just yet- we've had some latch difficulties so keen to wait a few more weeks before trying expressed milk in a bottle, although I have just ordered a haakaa pump and some storage bags to start building up a stash. I think OH finds it frustrating too as he doesn't feel he can help. My parents have come over a fair bit too to 'help' but other than take him out in the pram or something to allow me to sleep for an hour or so there's a limited amount they can do. Ah well, we will get there! Nearly weekend so OH can pop him in the sling or pram and let me have a snooze (currently J is snoring in the sling, but I know if I take him out he will wake up and scream!)
    Originally posted by penguingirl


    I feel you! We did the same, and it is very rewarding, but very difficult/tiring in the early days as it's pretty much all on you with regards to feeding. It does get better. I promise. I remember some days feeling like they went on forever, because I was so tired, and I was always either feeding, or comforting her, or changing her etc, but, simultaneously, they whizzed by! Strange things happen to time when you have a baby.


    I've heard great things about the Haakaa! I never got one as I already had a medela swing already, and the haakaa was out of stock when I was looking at it, but the ladies on the fb page raved about it! And I do think you're right, too early to introduce a bottle, particularly if his latch isn't great.


    You could always get OH to do the housework, so you can nap, if he isn't already doing that. I know it's not the same as a long stretch, but it all helps until you can get a longer stretch.


    The nap thing is very common/normal, though I appreciate that doesn't help and can be very frustrating, but just know that you're not alone. I had people telling me it wasn't normal etc, which just made me feel like cr*p to be honest, but it is normal. Of course babies want to be in our arms, it's safe, and warm and secure and cosy. You're doing great!


    You all are!
    • penguingirl
    • By penguingirl 23rd Jun 17, 5:29 PM
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    Aw thanks for the lovely messages. OH is being fab doing all the cooking, shopping etc so I'm not feeling too stressed out, J just clearly seems to need lots of cuddles at the moment.

    Cats- hope you had a good holiday. We're thinking of booking a few days in Wales in September- it's only a couple of hours drive, we know the area etc so shouldn't be too stressful
    • cats2012
    • By cats2012 23rd Jun 17, 5:51 PM
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    It was actually really fine - really glad we took the plunge. We're going to do a full week in Wales in September.

    Tiny tip - I know you've had latch issues so.probably now isn't right but don't wait too long to try a bottle. Advice says 8 weeks ish but a couple of friends of mine waited that long and baby was too used to boob and wouldn't take it. We started doing once a week from 4 weeks and she's been fine. Having said that, when you try it do also keep it up. We didn't do one for 2.5 weeks at one point and she got out of practice so we had to "retrain".

    Re naps - enjoy the cuddles definitely, but try to start putting down when you can even just for a few mins. It's the one thing I wish I'd done a little early as it's been harder to get Clara going down now that she needs longer naps. But baby steps is absolutely fine of course! And feel free to ignore me it's just a thought based on my experience :-)
    Officially Mrs B as of March 2013
    TTC since Apr 2015, baby B born March 2017
    • sweetbabu
    • By sweetbabu 23rd Jun 17, 8:22 PM
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    Hi all

    Jack is now 9 days old and, so far - we've been very lucky. He's such a contented little baby. He does like a snuggle with me though - we've eeked time out for me to have a shower with giving him the t-shirt I was just wearing.

    Agree with the tip RE giving a bottle. DD was around 4 months before she had a bottle and she then wouldn't take one from me until she'd had a bottle maybe a dozen or so times. She wanted me to feed her, herself.
    • Toots14
    • By Toots14 23rd Jun 17, 8:32 PM
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    We had a bad time with Catherine sleeping on anything but me or her dad until, and I know it's against guidelines, we put her on her tummy at about 4 months and she slept great.

    She had such a massive startle reflex so every time she was put on her back and she drifted off the reflex woke her up.

    She still sleeps on her tummy now.
    • penguingirl
    • By penguingirl 24th Jun 17, 12:02 AM
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    Toots- J has a big startle reflex, I really feel for him sometimes.

    Cats- I am trying to make the effort to put him down. He's not normally too bad with it, it's just when he's grizzly it's harder. Today has been a particularly bad day for it and we've had an awful bedtime with full on rage which we've not had since about day 5/6. Poor thing. He'd been down half an hour and woke up for a feed- fingers crossed I'll get him back down, but he seems more chilled now.

    I think we'll do a bottle at 5/6 weeks, and find a regular time to do it. A few people have had the same experience so I think we'll try and do a couple a week. Funny I don't know anyone whose baby has rejected boob for a bottle despite all the stories of nipple confusion, but know lots who won't take bottles
    • Beckyy
    • By Beckyy 24th Jun 17, 5:56 PM
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    I recognise a few names here! My LB is just over 8 months now, and it's flying by. He's still BFing well and we've been doing BLW. He's enjoying trying things but definitely eats less than the babies I know who were traditionally weaned with purees then finger foods.

    penguingirl, I think a lot of people who end up with a bottle preference ultimately switch to formula soon after but tend to blame an issue with their supply or thinking their baby is not getting enough because a bottle preference can make them very fussy at the breast, or refuse it until they get a bottle.
    • Toots14
    • By Toots14 24th Jun 17, 7:19 PM
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    We did BLW Beckyy and up until I'd say 10 months C ate very littles. She's nearly 13 months and it's hard keeping up with her now. She's eating me out the house

    I've loved BLW as DH and I are big eaters and love trying new things so C has had to go along with it and she's loved it. Broccoli the only thing she won't touch so far. Sardines possibly her favourite.
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