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    • Fireflyaway
    • By Fireflyaway 15th Apr 17, 4:34 PM
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    Weight getting me down
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    • 15th Apr 17, 4:34 PM
    Weight getting me down 15th Apr 17 at 4:34 PM
    I decided to post on this board rather than health and fitness because my issue is that my weight is now impacting on my family relationships.
    As a child,teenager and young adult I was slim. However at around 27/28 I started putting on weight. I'm now 5 stone heavier than when I met my husband. I always thought I'd deal with it at some point but just never had the drive. I'm not even sure why I gained the weight.
    However I now feel quite down because of the way my mum looks at me and constantly tells me its bad for my health, I need to lose weight, I should eat less etc. I know she is right but feeling that my mum is embarrassed / disappointed in me, really hurts. The photo of me at my parents house is 14 years old. I'm sure its because they are embarrassed to display a recent 'fat' photo.
    I've tried slimming world / NHS plan but my problem is sticking to it. I don't seem to have the willpower. I'm now worried about getting unwell and these years of comments have really knocked my confidence. I feel ugly and as though I haven't achieved anything.
    Has anyone tried counseling? Could my gp help or do I just need to man up?!
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    • meer53
    • By meer53 20th Apr 17, 8:29 AM
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    Can I ask "why is Spray fry bad for you?"

    Thank you
    Originally posted by castleton
    Have you ever smelled it ?! It reeks of chemicals when you use it. Better to use small amounts of non processed fats although i doubt they'd sell it if it was dangerous. Lets face it you're not going to use large amounts of it are you ?
    • Pop Up Pirate
    • By Pop Up Pirate 20th Apr 17, 8:32 AM
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    Can I ask "why is Spray fry bad for you?"

    Thank you
    Originally posted by castleton
    They are made with manufactured cooking oils, all of which are bad for us, and then they add a few more artificial ingredients to make it even more unhealthy.

    Cooking oils are made using hexane, which is a carcinogenic. They are not a natural product.
    Cooking oils are then used to make margarines, spreadable butters, sprays etc.

    Healthy Fat is NOT bad for us. It is the preferred fuel for the body and brain. Being low fat is denying the body the correct fuel and will harm in the long run.

    Only eat healthy fats such as coconut oil, olive oil, butter, lard, tallow etc.
    Eating fat reduces cravings and keeps you full longer. It also helps nutrients to be absorbed properly and cells to function correctly.
    • Malthusian
    • By Malthusian 20th Apr 17, 10:07 AM
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    Why do runners get bent out of shape when somebody dares to suggest that running might not be the perfect, most blissful form of physical activity for everyone?
    Originally posted by Red-Squirrel
    We don't. We do however get bent out of shape when people say that no-one should run because it is boring (which is subjective) and is bad for you (which is objectively wrong).
    • Fireflyaway
    • By Fireflyaway 20th Apr 17, 3:56 PM
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    I know its only few days but I have decided to eat 'normal' foods just less of it and drink more water and i feel happier already. I haven't felt frustrated or limited or constantly hungry or thinking about food. I'd rather enjoy a smaller portion of full fat whatever than loads of stuff I don't really want. I was getting sick of mug shots and mushy peas. Tasty but I never felt full. Thanks again for the support.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 20th Apr 17, 7:39 PM
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    Small steps, Fireflyaway.

    I wish you all the best.
    • Pop Up Pirate
    • By Pop Up Pirate 21st Apr 17, 9:24 AM
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    I know its only few days but I have decided to eat 'normal' foods just less of it and drink more water and i feel happier already. I haven't felt frustrated or limited or constantly hungry or thinking about food. I'd rather enjoy a smaller portion of full fat whatever than loads of stuff I don't really want. I was getting sick of mug shots and mushy peas. Tasty but I never felt full. Thanks again for the support.
    Originally posted by Fireflyaway
    Keep up the good work
    • Angry Bear
    • By Angry Bear 21st Apr 17, 9:45 PM
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    I think they've still got to lose it, not sure they have yet...


    Been looking at the 5:2 today too. I wish someone could just do me a meal plan lol. So much easier! Found a list of nice recipes for under 250 cals, but it didn't say exactly how many so no idea what else I could eat that day... I go a bit number blind when it comes to diets!


    Jx
    Originally posted by hazyjo
    For what it's worth, I have a selection of "go to" recipes that I've worked out with myfitnesspal and I eat on fasting days.
    Typically, I'll skip breakfast (as I don't tend to feel as hungry if I haven't had anything to eat) and have my first food at about 3pm. I usually eat a vegetable soup for about 150 calories (carrot and coriander, mushroom, tomato - hundreds of calorie counted recipes out there and most of them freeze really well).

    For evening in the summer I'll have a salad with either an egg or some chicken with it for about 250 calories. In the winter I like something hot, so might stir fry some broccoli with chicken, garlic and chilly (or something like that). You can get a surprising amount if you choose wisely.

    And the unintended effects for me have been really surprising - I've got used to what it really is to feel hungry again and tend to eat less out of boredom. I've (re-)learned how little you actually need to eat to feel full. I've (re-)learned how long it takes after you've eaten before you feel full - I now never eat dessert or anything "extra" for at least 30 minutes after my meal as I can't really tell if I'm hungry or not. I've learned how often I really do mistake thirst for hunger and now will drink some water then wait 10 minutes before deciding I'm really hungry.

    For me - I find only having to think about what I eat two days a week really freeing and easy to stick with. Everyone is different of course, so you may not have the same feel.
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    ― Sir Terry Pratchett, 1948-2015
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