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    • Vault101
    • By Vault101 2nd Mar 17, 11:39 AM
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    Advice needed - House or Wedding?
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    • 2nd Mar 17, 11:39 AM
    Advice needed - House or Wedding? 2nd Mar 17 at 11:39 AM
    Hi - first post - sorry if this is in the wrong place.

    My GF and I are locked in a bit of a dispute at the moment. She wants to get married, and knows exactly what she wants in a wedding (and wants a big-ish wedding and there's little room for negotiation)

    I also want to get married, and make her happy and give her what she wants, but I want us to save for and buy a house first. I think it's sensible to get a permanent roof over our heads and to not be paying rent for longer than we need before spending thousands on a wedding.

    I was just curious as to people's opinions on this? I appreciate that there's no right answer - but I'm always made to feel like I'm in the wrong about it, which has left me wondering perhaps I am.

    Thanks!
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    • happyrose
    • By happyrose 22nd Mar 17, 8:59 AM
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    Interesting attitude from partner - but if I could tell you about a very close friend. Big wedding with all the bells and whistles a few years back, and it really was a lovely day, renting flat with intentions of buying. As family grew they moved into rented house and now been given notice to quit as owner selling up. With less than 3 months to go they are unable to afford anything nearby - school and family for extra childcare essential - not enough for a deposit and renting market prices increased
    They now realise how vulnerable they are, could move into a dearer rented place and find themselves in same situation in 12 months time. If they remain and are evicted they could end up anywhere, not near school, family etc and in a b n b, if they refuse council help they are taken off the list.
    House for me all the way. Weddings can be done on a budget, be creative, most spend because they are materialistic, duped into marketing and want to impress "friends" !!!
    • LKRDN_Morgan
    • By LKRDN_Morgan 22nd Mar 17, 7:40 PM
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    Go for the house first!
    We went down the wedding route first and I really regret it. In the last 2 years since we got married house prices where we live have risen so much we're almost priced it. Thankfully we've just managed to secure a mortgage but I'm not being dramatic when I say another 6 months might have been a different story.
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