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    • Suffolk lass
    • By Suffolk lass 28th Jan 17, 12:18 PM
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    Suffolk lass
    Get a grip woman!
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    • 28th Jan 17, 12:18 PM
    Get a grip woman! 28th Jan 17 at 12:18 PM
    Having been reading a number of people's debt-free wannabe diaries for some time now, I have finally decided I will start my own.

    We are less than three years from wanting to stop work, and less than ten years from state retirement age. I manage our household finances and DH lets me get on with it. His attitude is more "live for today" so we are a good balance, I think. We have two holidays each year and sometimes more - and he has some boys toys - 2 Harley Davidson motorcycles in the garage, that seem to always need money spending on them. That said, there is more to be said in favour of a happy and contented DH than against them so I don't resent them in any way.

    So to debts - It seems a good time because I have recently finished the finance on my car, and as of yesterday, paid off the finance for DS's car (I borrowed from him 18 months ago and paid back by buying his car on finance and paying his insurance). I was paying 4.7% on that debt so it was my highest priority. I paid it off 10 months early using most of my HSBC Regular Saver that matured this week.

    The debts I have currently are:

    £110,621 - Mortgage - interest rate of 0.74% (0.5 above the BoEBR)
    £3,476 - DH's car - 0% credit card until Sept 17 - a £4000 cash advance with a £76 fee
    £8,755.54 - Barclays Finance for double glazing 0% over 2 years 2/24 paid

    Total £122,852.54

    It isn't that I can't afford to keep up payments, it is more that I want us to start our non-work phase without them hanging over us, if you know what I mean.

    I think that will do for a scene setter.

    SL
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    • Hiddenidenity
    • By Hiddenidenity 15th Jul 17, 11:19 AM
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    Hiddenidenity
    Don't be too harsh on yourself. Take some time, sit and work out how you'll turn things around then smash on with it with a smile and maybe a the odd bar of chocolate or slice of cake for good measure.

    You've made some amazing progress. Don't forget that x

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    • Suffolk lass
    • By Suffolk lass 16th Jul 17, 7:34 AM
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    Thanks UncannyScot and Hidden, It really does help to have a bit of encouragement.

    We went to a barn dance with two friends last night and had a really good laugh (although the food has been repeating on me ever since). It is good to laugh. While I was in the queue for the loo, one of the women I work with on the lunches came and asked me about the For Sale board and said how upset people who she had spoken to are, that we are moving. And then my Husband's Beekeeping mentor (yes, really) came and sat with me and said he wished me luck with the sale but he hoped we would not leave. It is amazing how many people have told us they don't want us to move.

    It's fate really isn't it. Maybe there is something much more serious wrong with the house we want to buy than we can see, and this is life's way of saying we don't have enough money to do it. I have no intention of being one of Gorgeous George's precarious projects, or giving Kevin McCloud the opportunity to talk earnestly to camera about the demerits of someone's (my) project.

    All the media reports are that Estate Agents have fewer houses on their books than ever before. Perhaps I am in a mini housing crash

    I am up and doing the washing early this morning because my cat fell off the pile of duvet, cover and blanket on the narrow table under the window in our bedroom. She had been sleeping on it in "Princess and the Pea" mode and it all went wrong. The thud woke me and I leapt out of bed. She was standing there looking dazed and confused next to the pile of bedding. Well that's it, I'm awake now! so much for my Sunday morning lay-in!
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    • trix-a-belle
    • By trix-a-belle 16th Jul 17, 8:16 AM
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    lol i can just imagine the look on the cats face SL!

    It does sound like the universe is trying to tell you something regarding the possible move. fingers crossed you are happy with the outcome either way. do get the agent to earn their money and prod the ones who were so keen though (is that the ones who werent on the market yet?)

    do you have a contract in place with your sons lodgers? there seem to be far too many doing flits and leaving you out of pocket, perhaps its time to make it more formal and you choose the person rather than him just getting any old mate in, I don't mean to sound harsh but i'm sad your son isn't making an effort to stand on his own two feet more and be an adult you can't be there to protect him all his life & you really don't need the stress when you are looking after DH, your mum and yourself
    Last edited by trix-a-belle; 16-07-2017 at 8:19 AM.
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    • Suffolk lass
    • By Suffolk lass 16th Jul 17, 8:38 AM
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    Thanks Trix - It's not really a case of him standing on his own feet financially. I refer to it as my Son's house because he owns 25% of it (we gifted him some when we bought it) and he lives there. The other 75% is ours and DH runs it and the finances.

    The lodger did have a contract - and doesn't owe us anything - one month's notice on either side. We have been fleeced once, by a so-called friend of our Son's. I still find it completely appalling that a "friend" should think it is acceptable to steal from a friend's parents. Because of the house move prospect I think we are going to suggest no new lodger for a while. It might be fate.

    We could sell that house first and top up the proceeds with additional borrowing on this house to secure the dream derelict so having no tenant to worry about would make that more straightforward. It is under consideration but I don't think we will put it on the market until Autumn at the earliest so we will cover the expenses (we elected to double glaze it a year ago - our Son would never have had the surplus funds to do that). He covers the bills though.
    Last edited by Suffolk lass; 16-07-2017 at 8:42 AM.
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    • Suffolk lass
    • By Suffolk lass 21st Jul 17, 9:17 AM
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    Well, this month is rather squeaky for finances - for me both June and July are five week shopping months. Not good.

    While we are eating loads of veg from the garden, I confess that courgettes are losing their appeal - I just pick them smaller so we can keep on top of the glut! and I still seem to be spending more (I suspect alcohol - it's so easy to pick up a pack of beers and a couple of bottles of wine or Pimms as I stroll around the sm).

    Anyway, today is our wedding anniversary and we have a lovely surprise cheque from my lovely Mum. So appreciated.
    MFiT T4 #2 update 25.95% after Q5
    Save £12k in 2017 #64 - £5617.21/£5500 (51.64%/50%) after June - my annual target is £11,000 (Save £12k in 2016 thread £10,488.04/£10,000)
    OS Grocery Challenge 2017 budget of £3,600 £3000 (reduced from Apr) - 50.68/50% including stores after June
    • Hiddenidenity
    • By Hiddenidenity 21st Jul 17, 9:20 AM
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    Hiddenidenity
    Happy Anniversary

    Have a lovely day x

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    • JoJoC
    • By JoJoC 21st Jul 17, 9:28 AM
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    Happy Anniversary to you and your other half! I hope you enjoy some courgettes and wine to celebrate
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    • Karmacat
    • By Karmacat 25th Jul 17, 1:28 PM
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    Happy Anniversary for last week

    Have you made courgette pickle and whatnot, to help cope with the glut?
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