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    • caronc
    • By caronc 13th Jan 17, 7:32 PM
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    Cooking for one
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    • 13th Jan 17, 7:32 PM
    Cooking for one 13th Jan 17 at 7:32 PM
    Hi, newbie poster though long time lurker trying to adjust to being an empty-nester and due to some substantial changes income-wise in the next couple of months trying to cut my costs and adjust my shopping to mainly solo dining. I abhor waste so good that way and do cook from scratch/batch cook the vast majority of the time. I do "sort of" meal plan but it can be a bit hit or miss depending on my health is on any given day. I'm reliant on on-line shopping so can't take advanage of aldi/Lidl etc. What (if any) changes did you make when changing to a single-person household?



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    • moneyistooshorttomention
    • By moneyistooshorttomention 18th Mar 17, 3:14 PM
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    Im in the "shouldn't have stuck with the married one for so long" camp lol oh well prefer being single any day to be honest when I look at some of the relationships my friends have.
    Originally posted by Nelski
    Ohmegawd - amen to that one.

    I see very few relationships where I think "That is what I would like too please" about them. Right now - the first thought that came to mind is one where she tries to "persuade" him that her opinions are his too and he thought of them in the first place or just "tells him what to do" in effect.

    Frankly - just how do you find someone that thinks very much along the same lines as oneself? I've never figured that one out. I'm certain there has to be similar values - a conclusion I've come to over the years and gawdknows that's imo distinctly difficult to find on its own.

    Visions of sitting there with the mantra of "Do your bit/pay what you are due to pay - but no more and have that 'set of manners' " in your head in my case
    - only to find I'd chosen someone that was useless with money/distinctly dishonest/no manners to speak of/etc/etc - because I "fell in love " with him or "settled". If someone had turned out to be dishonest or a lout - then I think I would have glued my lips shut the first few times - and then let 'em have it full force if they carried on being that way...

    Visions coming to mind of the exact moment I realised it was going nowhere with one of my last boyfriends being when we were on holiday/having a good time (well...sorta) and he picked up his pint of beer and literally threw it over his head. To this day I've not figured out just why he did that - as I'd never heard of anyone doing that. Add the fact I realised I wasnt going to be able to remove the "chip on his shoulder" from the fact that he didnt own his own home and I did and the relationship was a gonner. If he'd "caught up with me" (same as my father did as regards my mother) then I could have understood it - but to stay as he was and throw "chips on the shoulder" at me puzzled me greatly. You can imagine the sort of thing - he spent his money on booze and running a car and complained he didnt have a house. He thinks it's okay for people to lose a house they've spent a lifetime getting (errr - he hasnt got one) and I don't agree (I have spent years getting one) and so it went on....

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    Anyways;

    lunch today was CBA and I hauled a UFO out of the freezer. It turned out to be a sort of tomato and lentil thing that I grated some cheese over and had some fresh tomatoes with. That was followed by a banana that was going past its best/some homegrown berries of the exotic sort I'd hauled out of my freezer months later (honeyberries?/chuckleberries?) and some Oatly "cream" over it and sorta healthy chocolate sauce. I'm trying to draw a discreet veil over the fact that said frozen berries had a green thick-ish squiggly shape 2" or so long thing of unknown origin in with them - which I strongly suspect is a garden worm of some description that had crawled in with them and emerged when the temperature started dropping in my freezer
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    • mcculloch29
    • By mcculloch29 18th Mar 17, 3:24 PM
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    I married a very good looking older man. It ensured two very good looking children, snag was, he played on his looks and wasn't faithful.
    I never played the field.

    When my Mum died he replaced me with a very plain looking, motherly woman.
    He didn't want a wife, he wanted to play the field, and when he was finally ready to settle down he looked for a mother.
    Facially, I look quite a lot like his mother did, so I am sure that's why he married me.

    We divorced almost 25 years ago, I've had some lovely bf's since but nobody to settle down with. I'm still good friends with two of them.
    DS only moved out 20 months ago, and the novelty of being on my own hasn't worn off yet.
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    • moneyistooshorttomention
    • By moneyistooshorttomention 18th Mar 17, 3:51 PM
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    Sympathies McCulloch.

    I've had summat along those lines - in a very different connection. I had a (very nice actually) boyfriend for some time. It struck me quite some time later that I am very much like his mother mentally. Her and I share a lot of the same way of looking at things/values/etc/etc - and thus she and I are still very good friends to this day. So I took it as a compliment actually for him to choose me in those circumstances- and I think she did too

    It took me years to realise I was on a rather difficult quest to find a man like my father as a partner - tall/good-looking/very intelligent/faithful/basically a nice person/etc. At some point it struck me there aren't many like that around....darn it...
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    • Farway
    • By Farway 18th Mar 17, 4:02 PM
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    Hmmn, food for thought on here about parental advice. The only marrying advice I gave my daughter [i'm a bloke in case anyone did not know] was to either marry someone who could do jobs or someone rich who could pay someone else to do jobs

    She opted for the middle, rich enough to pay but handy enough to do it himself if he wants

    Now onto grub, zero breakfast, never fancied it this morning

    Lunch was a bit of a look in fridge sort of meal, opted for BIY part baked baguette, plus Linda Mcartney veggie sausages that have been in my freezer for ever, last two now gone. Not the best meal, LM sausages were as dry & tasty as the cardboard box they were in, but made a bit of freezer space

    Dinner is really undecided, whilst on freeezer rummage I found an Asda YS cheese & brocc flan which I had actually, for once, dated when I froze it, November 2016, so fresh as a daisy really

    That may make the meal along with oven chips and maybe fresh toms in oven at same time. I like the all in oven together type of cooking, and if I can get it all on one oven tray even better

    Have to decide soon so as to get theovenm on and food from freezer
    • Willowx
    • By Willowx 18th Mar 17, 4:07 PM
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    Had four slices of toast this morning, two with butter and thick cut marmalade and two just with butter really not sure where this bread thing is coming from! Been to the greengrocers this afternoon got some fruit including some grapes, not bought any in probably a year maybe more the talk on here tempted me and they had some nice looking green ones. When I got home realised I don't tend to get them as they're one of those things that if they're there I'll eat them over half the bag has gone already.

    Got a lump of lamb out of the freezer for tomorrow and planning to make both bread and soup this evening. Carrot and parsnip for the soup, not masses just a parsnip and two carrots worth. Saw a recipe that included honey, the recipe was over the top but I'm tempted by the general idea.
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    • caronc
    • By caronc 18th Mar 17, 4:17 PM
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    I'm in the "shouldn't have stuck with the married one for so long" camp too- having been single, married no children, married with children, single parent to two teens and now a single empty-nester, I have to say from a feeling "isolated" point of view being a single parent was the hardest not helped by the never ending media of the impact of "broken families" on children especially boys I'm now very comfortable in my own skin with two grown sons who both completed Masters degrees so to the critics

    Food-wise had brunch of a lovely stottie cake with bacon and coleslaw was delicious. Not CFO tonight and looking forward to a steak

    Re leftovers - I count it as a leftover if I cooked it with view to eating it either once or multi portions and I either don't eat it all or when portioned up there is a bit spare - not a full portion but too much to bin. Similiarly odd part bits of veg I count as LOs too where I've used most of say an onion or pepper and don't have any immediate plans for the use of the remainder
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    • mcculloch29
    • By mcculloch29 18th Mar 17, 4:27 PM
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    Thanks for reading & sharing.
    I have a meal out with friends this evening so just had a plain brunch of porridge and toast.
    Last night we had a buffet on a music club night out which was lovely but made me want something other than my usual Saturday treat breakfast (pancakes with bacon, luxury muesli with yogurt).

    I made the porridge in my pound shop Sistema microwave bowl lookey-likey, great buy. There were no unexpected eruptions necessitating having to watch an in-bowl porridge volcano like a hawk. A couple of spoonfuls of choccy drink powder made the porridge a bit less boring.
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    • caronc
    • By caronc 18th Mar 17, 4:40 PM
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    I made the porridge in my pound shop Sistema microwave bowl lookey-likey, great buy.
    Originally posted by mcculloch29
    They're great aren't they Hope you enjoy your night out
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    • PasturesNew
    • By PasturesNew 18th Mar 17, 4:43 PM
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    ....microwave bowl lookey-likey, great buy. ...
    Originally posted by mcculloch29
    I thought that when I bought the first one .... which is why I'm now the proud owner of four + two of the mug-style too

    With a 3.5 litre slow cooker, I often find that having served my first large portion one of those contains the rest of the pot neatly .... lots of uses for them. I defrost in them, cook in them, store in them ....
    • katkin
    • By katkin 18th Mar 17, 4:56 PM
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    I married my first love, far too young but I did get 2 sons from that. The marriage turned into a nightmare, he was abusive and left me with massive trust issues. After that I was well focused on being independent and doing things my way, men didn't star highly while rearing my kids on my own. Pushed myself into a new career, making money and enjoying life with my lads. It worked out well! There was the odd date but no relationships for over 10 years. I said I'd never get married again, never went looking for it. It kind of found me.

    Now onto husband number 2haha. Meeting him was the surprise of my life, our partnership is so easy, natural and I feel fortunate to have had another chance at trust. It took me a while and he was a patient man, but it's been worth it for both of us. He was a bachelor, needed a bit of training up lol but it was worth the risk. We laugh a lot, enjoy similar things and are at complete ease with each other.

    I don't think there's such a thing as the perfect partner or the one.

    As for leftovers, l love leftovers! I make extra of most things to have lo such as Xmas food etc. Deliberelty got a bigger freezer so I can keep a good stash of lo's in there...It does help to keep on top of stock control, menu plan and be careful with shopping. I guess I'm lucky that I enjoy nearly all foods, cook and probably the most important thing, am financially able to afford what I want, fancy and eat out etc when I like. I'm lucky.

    I was a bit like that went CFO too, actually I think it was easier as I chose for me. He's not anywhere as foody or a glutton but will eat anything given to him, but I'm happy to go with his choices too as long as I can add my own twist on it.

    We set up home and agreed on the domestic tasks, who does this and that. I got the cooking, food shopping etc and he got the dishes and bins haha. We're quite happy about the task split.

    I enjoyed being single though agree being a single parent was no easy task. Like caronc I've also managed to raise 2 well adjusted young men.

    Fajitas for tonight here, my choice!
    • Ames
    • By Ames 18th Mar 17, 5:01 PM
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    AMES..I would never stir fry veg without oil (I always use Olive oil as it's all I have in: about a tablespoon depending on quantity of veg).

    You need to heat the oil first then when hot, add the veg then you add the splash of soy sauce at the end just before it's ready....Just try this method I think you'll find it works better
    Originally posted by karcher
    Ok I'll try it with oil, I'll let you know how I get on!

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    I agree about the prejudices against single people. I'm sick of the assumption that I must have kids and a partner. A few years ago I stayed in a hostel in Berlin and there was a guy who kept going on and on that he couldn't believe I was in my thirties and still single without kids, even asking 'don't you like men?' He was actually quite offensive. And there's all the little things - like women with kids giving me that 'what are they like, eh?' look in the supermarket.

    I just wish people would stop and think before saying something that could cause offense, or hurt, depending on circumstances.

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    Food has been good today. Breakfast was yoghurt, a banana and some tinned 'breakfast apricots'. Lunch I had out - one of the hospital departments I'm under had an open day which was really interesting and provided food. Some dry chicken gougons, a nice fritata, flat bread pizza, sandwiches and a big fruit platter. Yum.

    It was held in a medical museum, and we had free entry so I had a look around. I don't think I'm particularly squeamish but some of the displays had me wincing!
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    • moneyistooshorttomention
    • By moneyistooshorttomention 18th Mar 17, 5:16 PM
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    It just struck me that I dont think I've ever had "What are they like?" expecting sympathy type looks from mothers. Thankfully - not many people have given me the "You'll change your mind" type comments either. Maybe I've got "not a mother" tattooed right across my forehead invisibly?

    .....and yet....I've quite likely saved one childs life and several other children have been trusted to my "tender care" over the years and I'm told words to the effect of having "made a good job of (temporary) mothering" when I got put in those positions.

    Must admit I never had any "don't you like men?" comments ever - but until I hit menopause I was probably so obviously checking out every man in sight to see if I fancied them and batting my eyelashes at them if I did that that particular comment was probably deemed a bit "surplus to requirements". Ahem........

    You know you're getting older when a good-looking man walking past barely registers a glance from you - it's more like "Man - was there a good-looking man nearby? Oh - I didnt notice".

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    ....and food-wise - oh dear....dinner to make soon and I havent the foggiest idea what to do for it......think it might have to be some of that packet of muesli I bought earlier today.....
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    • Willowx
    • By Willowx 18th Mar 17, 6:52 PM
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    Bread is on about an hour later than planned, think the soup will be consigned to tomorrow. Contemplating some tuna and onion on crackers, must also remember to buy more crackers.
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    • PasturesNew
    • By PasturesNew 18th Mar 17, 6:55 PM
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    Somebody went out for a shuffle around random late opening shops ... and has arrived home carrying a packet of chocolate biscuits..... still unopened though.

    I had a shuffle round A1d1 but didn't see anything that I fancied for tea (no discounted stickers so they couldn't make my mind up for me) ...oh well. I won't starve. Something will turn up.
    • caronc
    • By caronc 18th Mar 17, 7:17 PM
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    I've been bumped out of my own kitchen LOL while son makes shortbread for his work's Children In Need fundraiser - his mammy's recipe of course, so a good excuse for me to sit back and have a glass of wine Well seen he's living on his own now as he is clearing up as he goes

    PN - knowing your love of biscuits etc. did you know you can make shortbread in the microwave? Ideal if you want a quick buttery/sugary fix and just 3 ingredients 1 oz sugar, 2 oz butter/marge, 3 oz plain flour. Rub butter into flour/sugar until like breadcrumbs and then knead lightly until it comes together. Flatten until around 1 cm thick, score into sections of a size you want but leave as one piece IFYSWIM. Pop dough on piece of baking paper and pop on turntable, pri@k top with a fork. Nuke for 3 mins ish - the top should feel dry. Sprinkle with a little sugar Break into pieces when coolish
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    • Willowx
    • By Willowx 18th Mar 17, 7:34 PM
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    ...3 oz plain flour...
    Originally posted by caronc
    Now i have three types of flour but no bog standard plain and i do like shortbread, any idea of whether self raising or strong (white or wholemeal) would work or would I end up with something odd?
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    • Ames
    • By Ames 18th Mar 17, 7:46 PM
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    Somebody went out for a shuffle around random late opening shops ... and has arrived home carrying a packet of chocolate biscuits..... still unopened though.

    I had a shuffle round A1d1 but didn't see anything that I fancied for tea (no discounted stickers so they couldn't make my mind up for me) ...oh well. I won't starve. Something will turn up.
    Originally posted by PasturesNew
    I thought they self combusted if left unopened more than ten minutes after getting home? Something to do with a chemical reaction between the chocolate and biscuits with the higher ambient temperature of the home acting as a catalyst.

    I've been bumped out of my own kitchen LOL while son makes shortbread for his work's Children In Need fundraiser - his mammy's recipe of course, so a good excuse for me to sit back and have a glass of wine Well seen he's living on his own now as he is clearing up as he goes

    PN - knowing your love of biscuits etc. did you know you can make shortbread in the microwave? Ideal if you want a quick buttery/sugary fix and just 3 ingredients 1 oz sugar, 2 oz butter/marge, 3 oz plain flour. Rub butter into flour/sugar until like breadcrumbs and then knead lightly until it comes together. Flatten until around 1 cm thick, score into sections of a size you want but leave as one piece IFYSWIM. Pop dough on piece of baking paper and pop on turntable, pri@k top with a fork. Nuke for 3 mins ish - the top should feel dry. Sprinkle with a little sugar Break into pieces when coolish
    Originally posted by caronc
    Oooh that sounds good. Can you keep the dough in the fridge or freezer for a while?

    I bought a donut/cake pop maker months ago from Amazon thinking it would be good to just make a few small cakes now and then, so I didn't go out and buy a load and eat them all in one go. But the first time I tried it the recipe was for dozens of them, and I ended up chucking most of it away. I think even divided down to the smallest possible ratio there'd be a silly amount. Nuked shortbread sounds like it'd fit the bill perfectly.

    Now i have three types of flour but no bog standard plain and i do like shortbread, any idea of whether self raising or strong (white or wholemeal) would work or would I end up with something odd?
    Originally posted by Willowx
    I have a large kilner style jar full of flour. But I haven't a clue what type it is. I've been thinking about trying to make something to find out. Sadly, I've just made a big bowl of jelly so shortbread will have to wait.
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    • caronc
    • By caronc 18th Mar 17, 7:53 PM
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    Now i have three types of flour but no bog standard plain and i do like shortbread, any idea of whether self raising or strong (white or wholemeal) would work or would I end up with something odd?
    Originally posted by Willowx
    No unfortunately it has to be bog standard plain flour - you can of course oven cook it . Around 15 mins at 160 fan or 180 - check after 10 mins it shouldn't be brown


    Oooh that sounds good. Can you keep the dough in the fridge or freezer for a while?


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    Yes will keep in the fridge for 5 days anyway and freezes brilliantly
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    • PasturesNew
    • By PasturesNew 18th Mar 17, 8:02 PM
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    PN - knowing your love of biscuits etc. did you know you can make shortbread in the microwave? Ideal if you want a quick buttery/sugary fix and just 3 ingredients 1 oz sugar, 2 oz butter/marge, 3 oz plain flour. Rub butter into flour/sugar until like breadcrumbs and then knead lightly until it comes together. Flatten until around 1 cm thick, score into sections of a size you want but leave as one piece IFYSWIM. Pop dough on piece of baking paper and pop on turntable, pri@k top with a fork. Nuke for 3 mins ish - the top should feel dry. Sprinkle with a little sugar Break into pieces when coolish
    Originally posted by caronc
    I'm not really a biscuit lover, to be honest.... I buy/eat them as "it's easier than actually cooking" - and they're always seconds/cheapo and I'm usually disappointed

    I've never been much a fan of shortbread. At school it used to be a dessert, with crushed pineapple on it ... that's almost the only time I've ever eaten any. I've certainly never bought a packet... they used to be the sort of biscuits old ladies would give to your mum for Xmas.

    I like the IDEA of biscuits, but few are good when it comes to the eating bit.

    As you've kindly typed that up .... I'll add it to my list of things to get round to

    I don't like touching pastry, so I'll change the word "rub" to be "fork" and change the word "knead" to be "back of a big spoon"
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    • PasturesNew
    • By PasturesNew 18th Mar 17, 8:05 PM
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    For those wondering about the flour ... for the tiny quantities involved... why not just give it a go.
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