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    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 2nd Jan 17, 10:55 PM
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    Sashybo - Back Again
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    • 2nd Jan 17, 10:55 PM
    Sashybo - Back Again 2nd Jan 17 at 10:55 PM
    Hi all, has been a good long while this time since I've had a diary, think this is number 4 overall. My last diary can be found HERE.

    Current debt now under 10K. This is mostly made up of loans we had to take out to cover the negative equity of the flat we sold a couple of years ago.

    I must admit we have slipped occasionally and had to do a couple of BT's etc as got into a bit more debt when we bought a new house & wanted shiny new things to go in it.

    Overall, things are headed in the right direction but now we have a new challenge as DH & I are expecting a baby in May.

    I only get 3 months full pay then 3 months half pay on maternity leave in my job & won't be able to go back full time as we both do shift work and there's no way to work childcare around the shifts we do (7 days in a row & many unsociable hours to boot). So we'll have to reduce the spending & batter the debt as will have a smaller income.

    So I've come crawling back - I find having a diary here does help to keep me focused and stop so much silly spending.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

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    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 12th May 17, 10:54 PM
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    Thanks guys, had a busy day today as went out with DH & got loads of food in so we're all stocked up. We're going to do the cooking for the freezer over the weekend & hopefully get organised.

    We got a couple of washings done & DH also planted our next lot of potatoes.

    Went to the chiropractor & my back feels a bit better but it was quite sore when she was working on it. Hoping it feels a bit better again tomorrow. Won't see her again until I'm feeling up to it after the baby is born.

    Planning on getting some garden supplies & maybe a few plants tomorrow but other than that hoping to relax with DH.

    We really need to sort out putting the car seat bases into the cars though as have been meaning to do it for the last 2 weeks.

    Also need to practice using the pram & putting it up and down and have a few things to tidy up & put away in the nursery.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 13th May 17, 12:52 AM
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    Hi Sashy

    I shouldn't laugh but the bit about your OH and the shirts was very funny

    Hope you get some rest this weekend.

    Bob
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    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 14th May 17, 11:58 AM
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    Thanks Bob. Re the shirts I felt a bit daft afterwards but was properly raging at the time. Luckily DH does just laugh at me as he knows I'll usually snap out of it quite quickly.

    Yesterday I was pretty sore with sciatic pain most of the day. We went out to the garden centre & got a few plants but had heavy rain most of the day so didn't get them potted/in hanging baskets or in the front border.

    Had a nap & a hot bath in the late afternoon & then DH & I watched Eurovision.

    Today have had a long lie & we are going to try and get some tidying done in the house as well as sorting out the plants we got yesterday. DH going to make a lasagne for the freezer as well, time permitting.

    Bed stripped & sheets in the washing so far. DH has cleaned out the cat litter trays & is going to do the hoovering. If he moves some things in the kitchen for me I can steam clean the floor & maybe wash the patio doors. Can't stretch or bend too much right now though and get tired quite quickly.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

    PAD started 27/01/09 - £8314 extra paid off debt. Total Debt paid off £42,676.99
    Loans 1 & 2 £5597.93, Car loans £25,514.25
    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 15th May 17, 5:02 PM
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    We were very busy yesterday - I managed to steam clean the kitchen, utility room, downstairs bathroom & hall floors and then clean the inside of the windows in the living room & kitchen and the patio doors. DH did the outsides for me after he hoovered the full house & hung the sheets out to dry.

    We also managed to tidy & dust the living room, still a few things to be put away but much better than it was. We then headed out to the garden and I made up another few hanging baskets plus transplanted some plug plants I bought into pots. DH re-potted some of his chilli plants as well before we ran out of time and energy.

    DH also made a full lasagne and then portioned it up and froze it, so that's something towards dinners once the baby has arrived. Today we're making slow cooker chilli to freeze and tomorrow we're doing a fish pie. I'll try and do something easy like corned beef hash as well.

    We have a climbing rose & a Hebe to plant in the front garden as we have a bit of a bare corner behind our hydrangea which the local foxes keep pooing in. Also have some upright lobelia for the front border there as well. We were hoping to get these in today but the weather has been far too wet

    DH sorted out some blu-rays he didn't want and took them to one of the exchange places along with my old ipad mini today - we got over £100 for the lot which was pretty good considering they have just been sitting in a cupboard. £50 has been put into our house savings (things we need to buy for the house and/or repairs etc) and £50 has been paid off loan no1.

    Had my appointment with the midwife this morning as well and all is fine. Baby is still head down and engaged but they can't really tell how much as the wee monkey has its hand right next to its head and wouldn't move it. There was a student midwife in the appointment and she was so gentle trying to work out the baby's position - think she was scared to press too hard. My usual midwife was much firmer when pressing in the pelvis area to try and work out how engaged the baby was, which was quite eye watering.

    I've to go back in 2 weeks for a sweep if the baby hasn't arrived. She did say I don't have to have it done if I don't want to but might then need to be induced. So hoping that baby gets a move on and isn't getting too comfy in there as don't particularly want a sweep or end up having to be induced. I would have to go to the labour ward if the first pessary to induce didn't work rather than the midwfe unit so don't really want that. Have been drinking raspberry leaf tea and bouncing on my exercise ball - I feel a bit demented doing it but if it helps the baby get into position and come a bit sooner then it's ok.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

    PAD started 27/01/09 - £8314 extra paid off debt. Total Debt paid off £42,676.99
    Loans 1 & 2 £5597.93, Car loans £25,514.25
    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 15th May 17, 8:13 PM
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    Bless you sciatic pain is horrid. When I had sciatica I remember my physio teaching me that sitting right on the edge of a birthing ball and just gently tilting your pelvis back and forth was helpful.

    I really hope you have a nice easy run down to the birth now.

    Bob
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    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 16th May 17, 4:49 PM
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    Thanks Bob, luckily the sciatic pain isn't constant, it's bad enough when it does appear.

    We've managed to get the plants into the front garden & DH cut the grass as well before the rain started again. We're both knackered so just having a rest this afternoon. I think I'll make the fish pie tomorrow when DH is at work.

    My back is quite sore today but no sign of contractions so far. DH is panicking about next week at work as they want to start his paternity leave on the Monday but the baby might not arrive for 2 weeks after that and his work will probably be awkward about postponing it. He's also worrying about my going into labour whilst he's at work as he can't have his phone on when he's driving a train. So we're basically hoping the baby comes in the next few days.

    Think I'll have a bath soon & see if it helps my back pain at all.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

    PAD started 27/01/09 - £8314 extra paid off debt. Total Debt paid off £42,676.99
    Loans 1 & 2 £5597.93, Car loans £25,514.25
    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 17th May 17, 10:30 AM
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    It's my first official day on maternity leave today so feeling a bit odd as would usually be going back for 7 late shifts. DH is on early shifts this week, still crossing our fingers for baby to come on time or a bit early.

    DH speaking to his work today as we can't really give a definite date & he doesn't want to waste his paternity leave when the baby hasn't arrived.

    So far today I've hung out a washing & opened the greenhouse up to air as it's quite sunny. Looks like our chantenay carrots will be ready soon & our new potato plants are getting flower buds. The courgette plants are almost all ready to go into a grow bag outside & my tomato plants are coming on well too.

    Just having a rest & then will make a fish pie to freeze. We have enough fish to make 2 pies but will probably just freeze half to use another time rather than make 2 at once. Will have to play freezer Tetris later to get everything in.

    DH & I finally put the isofix bases into our cars & had a practice getting the car seat in & out. We left the car seat sitting in the living room so of course our big cat thought he could sit in it. He soon got bored with it & wandered off though.

    Was looking through our outgoings again & gave myself a shock when I added up how much we pay out to our loans every month now that the car loans are being repaid. Has made me more determined to stop spending on silly things & try to make a bit extra to overpay on loan no1, which is now under £1500. Roughly 10 months until it's paid off now but I'd like to aim for 6 months as it would give us £150 extra a month.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

    PAD started 27/01/09 - £8314 extra paid off debt. Total Debt paid off £42,676.99
    Loans 1 & 2 £5597.93, Car loans £25,514.25
    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 17th May 17, 10:44 AM
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    Hey
    I cant believe any company would be funny about when paternity leave starts. Babies have been coming in their own sweet time like, er forever!
    I know my OH had already used a week of time off when our son came. I'd ended up taking 5 weeks leave myself. As I went off from 37 weeks, used up holiday before my official mat leave began and then he didnt appear till 18 days post due date!

    Bob
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    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 17th May 17, 11:39 AM
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    I know Bob, it's a bit of a weird attitude, they want paternity leave to start on a Monday! Basically it's just to make life easier for them rather than us!

    DH has agreed with them that he will start his paternity leave in 2 weeks when I'm booked in for a sweep if baby hasn't arrived by then. Otherwise he's just to let them know when baby is on the way - what else can we/they do? Can't schedule the arrival time.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

    PAD started 27/01/09 - £8314 extra paid off debt. Total Debt paid off £42,676.99
    Loans 1 & 2 £5597.93, Car loans £25,514.25
    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 17th May 17, 11:37 PM
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    No you can't! So much for the modern workplace.
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    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 18th May 17, 9:17 AM
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    I know Bob, so many of the policies they have are just paying lip service to things they've been told to do & you often have a fight on your hands to actually get them to implement it. My employer seems to favour the head in the sand, la-la I can't hear you approach & won't give information until you question them.

    Just about to get up, will try & get another washing on & hung out as another sunny day. Got the fish pie made yesterday & stuck some potatoes in the oven at the same time for baked potatoes for dinner last night. Once the fish pie cooled DH portioned it out & we played a bit of freezer tetris. Got everything in.

    Hoping to get the bathrooms cleaned today & maybe a bit of tidying. Promised DH I would make him some sort of cake as found chocolate buttercream I'd stuck in the freezer when I made too much a few months ago. So will probably go with a plain loaf type sponge/something easy - maybe a coconut loaf cake would be nice with the chocolate buttercream.

    My mum is having her other cataract removed today so DH is picking her up from the hospital on his way home from work. He's a good soul really, as he knows the drive would stress me out.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

    PAD started 27/01/09 - £8314 extra paid off debt. Total Debt paid off £42,676.99
    Loans 1 & 2 £5597.93, Car loans £25,514.25
    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 18th May 17, 1:00 PM
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    Washing done & hung out, towels now in the machine. Have cleaned the bathrooms & made a coconut loaf cake as well.

    DH not long home, all went well with my mum's op, hopefully she's not too sore tomorrow.

    Going to try and relax for a bit now.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

    PAD started 27/01/09 - £8314 extra paid off debt. Total Debt paid off £42,676.99
    Loans 1 & 2 £5597.93, Car loans £25,514.25
    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 19th May 17, 12:41 PM
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    Feeling very tired today and didn't sleep well, postman also woke me up early with a parcel and couldn't get back to sleep.

    Due date today but no sign of baby, just hoping the wee monkey won't keep us waiting too long. DH's parents are back from their holiday and are glad the baby didn't arrive when they were away. Have had yet another of DH's aunts asking us to make sure and let them know when the baby arrives. Why do they think we're going to keep it a secret?

    DH has banked a survey cheque I got through so another £50 paid off loan no1, taking the loan balance to approx £1430. Just trying to do a few more surveys and hoping to cash out on a couple of sites.

    The coconut loaf cake went well with the defrosted chocolate buttercream yesterday although DH ate too much and then felt a bit sick. I warned him but he didn't listen....

    Have finally joined the Mr M loyalty card scheme as we do go there fairly regularly and also usually get fuel for the cars as well there. Have a small pile of receipts to take to customer service to get them to add the points onto my new card.

    Might try and have a nap before DH gets home from work.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

    PAD started 27/01/09 - £8314 extra paid off debt. Total Debt paid off £42,676.99
    Loans 1 & 2 £5597.93, Car loans £25,514.25
    • kirtsypoos
    • By kirtsypoos 19th May 17, 12:45 PM
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    Happy due date Sashy, hope the little one makes an appearance before DHs paternity leave begins
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    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 20th May 17, 1:38 PM
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    Thanks Kirsty. Still no sign of the stubborn little monkey.

    Headed out to Morrisons and got my points added to my new loyalty card. Also bought some things for dinner, making chicken fajitas tonight. Was hoping a stroll around the supermarket might get the baby moving but nothing as yet.

    Have done a few surveys again today, got to payout on a lower value one and should be able to cash out on another shortly. Also have enough points on a couple of sites to request vouchers which can go towards baby or house things.

    Still didn't sleep that well last night, didn't help that DH kept snoring. I kept pushing his head over which would stop the snoring for about a minute before he moved it back and would start again. Couldn't wake him up and shout at him as he was getting up early for work. Took me about an hour to drop off, then was up 3 hours later to pee. Got back to sleep for a few more hours after that thankfully. DH was up for work around 04:30/5am but I only stirred a bit before falling asleep again.

    Have potted some plants today as well and should really get on with a bit of ironing but can't really be bothered.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

    PAD started 27/01/09 - £8314 extra paid off debt. Total Debt paid off £42,676.99
    Loans 1 & 2 £5597.93, Car loans £25,514.25
    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 20th May 17, 11:07 PM
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    Finally did the ironing that I've let pile up for the last few weeks but think I should have done half tonight & half tomorrow as feeling a bit sore now. Got DH to put it away for me, have his work shirts to iron tomorrow but at least there'll only be 4 of those so won't take long.

    Managed to cash out £25 on one of my survey sites & also £35 worth of vouchers from 3 other sites. Got £10 for Debenh@ms as DH needs some new stuff & it will help a bit & the rest in am@zon vouchers.

    Made chicken fajitas for dinner which kept DH happy & we just had a chilled evening. Still patiently waiting for baby to start thinking about making a move.

    Might do slow cooker gammon again for tomorrow night's dinner. DH harvested our chantenay carrots & they look quite good apart from not being straight at all. At least we got them to grow! We can have them with the gammon tomorrow & will maybe make hasselback potatoes.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

    PAD started 27/01/09 - £8314 extra paid off debt. Total Debt paid off £42,676.99
    Loans 1 & 2 £5597.93, Car loans £25,514.25
    • swimminginaseaofdebt
    • By swimminginaseaofdebt 20th May 17, 11:25 PM
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    Sashybo hope your little one arrives soon, they're probably too nice and cosy in there to want to come out!

    I've heard eating a hot curry can bring on labour though I can't vouch on how accurate that rumour is.

    My little one was 10 days late, strolling around didn't seem to help. I walked loads in the month prior to having him but he stubbornly refused to come out. In the end I had a sweep, an induction and an emergency C section all within 3 days forcing his appearance into the world lol.
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    • sashybo
    • By sashybo 21st May 17, 2:24 PM
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    Hi swimming, thanks for the advice - may well try a curry, might as well! Drinking raspberry leaf tea and still bouncing on my exercise ball as well. Hoping that baby gets a move on & isn't as stubborn as I can be or I'm in trouble - would rather avoid the sweep and induction if I can.

    Have had a productive morning so far, got up and put a loaf on in the breadmaker and stuck the gammon in the slow cooker. DH going to bring in some new potatoes on his way home from work and I'll do mini hasselback potatoes with them. Baby being a bit late is good in that DH managed to do an overtime shift today, all extra money is welcome.

    Have ironed and hung up DH's shirts and got the next washing ready to go in. Will stick it on overnight and hope it's dry outside tomorrow so I can hang it out. Also had a shower and washed my hair, which I've been too lazy to do for several days. Feeling like a beach ball on legs and have to squeeze into the shower sideways as the doors don't open wide enough anymore.

    Doing a couple more surveys and need to order more cat food so we're stocked up.
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

    PAD started 27/01/09 - £8314 extra paid off debt. Total Debt paid off £42,676.99
    Loans 1 & 2 £5597.93, Car loans £25,514.25
    • kirtsypoos
    • By kirtsypoos 21st May 17, 8:19 PM
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    Sashy, just a warning - during my midwifery time I hated the curry tale - there's nothing to suggest it brings on labour but has been known to bring on other more 'unpleasant' side effects which aren't the nicest for the labour staff
    Nothing wrong with having a curry - just try not to go beyond your normal heat level in hopes of bringing on labour

    There are only 3 things that have scientific reasoning behind bringing on labour -
    1. Eating pineapple core (the bromelain encourages uterine contractions)
    2. Sex (prostaglandins in semen encourage cervical ripening)
    3. Nipple stimulation (encourages uterine contractions)

    but the truth is even scientific reasoning means nothing when it comes to babies - they have a mind of their own unfortunately
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    • Bobarella
    • By Bobarella 21st May 17, 8:32 PM
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    Hi Sashy

    The whole birth thing is so tricky as it's different for everyone despite the universality of the situation! I always draw back from rehashing the details especially to new Mums as who knows whether our experiences will be remotely similar?
    I'm one who found none of the usual things helped to bring on birth. My DS was very late at 18 days over. Was in hospital for the last 4 preceding his birth.
    When I went into labour with DD on my due date I was in denial. Having had the first experience I couldn't imagine anything different.
    Neither arrived naturally, and I felt a sense of disappointment in that the first time around but had accepted it the second. Although I experienced much more active labour with DD and actually thought she'd be born naturally.

    Despite my experiences if I did it again I'd recommend hypnobirthing courses/material for use in the birth, because it puts the control with the woman and encourages empowerment and belief in your body.

    Is any of that helpful? I don't know. I do remember feeling like there was this mystical divide between the people who'd experienced it and me about to when I was in those final stages. Those in my NCT group that had their babies first seemed so amazing and wise!

    Bob
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